FabSwingers.com forum: Public fab etiquette

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This morning whilst on my commute into work I recognised someone from fab, there are a lot of us on here so it's not surprising that it's actually happened, what is the general consensus on approaching and chatting to them?

To be clear I didn't approach them at all but just curious to understand how most people feel

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"This morning whilst on my commute into work I recognised someone from fab, there are a lot of us on here so it's not surprising that it's actually happened, what is the general consensus on approaching and chatting to them?

To be clear I didn't approach them at all but just curious to understand how most people feel"

Don't.

Fab is part of someone's private life. Encroaching on their normal life is just rude.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be clear I didn't approach them at all but just curious to understand how most people feel"

Don't even acknowledge them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what is the general consensus on approaching and chatting to them?"

I think I speak for everyone when I say you should shout "hey - it's [redacted] from Fab! I've seen her tits!"

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

Deffo would not approach them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not.

And please don't do the creepy message thing where you message telling them you saw them out.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Just send a hello message on fab. Which does not contain the words "I am near you"

. If they want to, they will reply

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I would be mortified if someone approached me out of the blue in public regarding Fab.

Absolutely mortified. Please don’t do that.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Just send a hello message on fab. Which does not contain the words "I am near you"

. If they want to, they will reply"

Omg those are the worst. "I'm in (shop) and you're showing up as (distance). Are you (description of some woman)?"

The response to that is always a block.

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Aye, best not to say anything at all so good on you mate.

Even if you met them in the future, I'd probably keep shtoom about seeing them as well because that might come across as unintentionally creepy.

C x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We've recognised loads of people we never approach them or let them know we've seen them.

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Think the general consensus is a sly fist bump or a “wots happenin blud ?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah don't mention it. I find the messages after creepy too! When I was here last someone worked out who I was and messaged me on social media too which freaked me out a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what is the general consensus on approaching and chatting to them?

I think I speak for everyone when I say you should shout "hey - it's [redacted] from Fab! I've seen her tits!""

Ha ha ha...genuine laugh and chuckle upon reading this!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Just send a hello message on fab. Which does not contain the words "I am near you"

. If they want to, they will reply

Omg those are the worst. "I'm in (shop) and you're showing up as (distance). Are you (description of some woman)?"

The response to that is always a block."

Yes it's very creepy/stalkerish

I mainly send a "hello" to a "who's near" whilst on the train to a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's happened a few times.

anything has to be better than coming up behind them and 'quacking' at them.. or taking a sly photo from X feet away, and messaging with 'this you?'

but no, as above, i wouldn't!

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Was it me?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Just send a hello message on fab. Which does not contain the words "I am near you"

. If they want to, they will reply

Omg those are the worst. "I'm in (shop) and you're showing up as (distance). Are you (description of some woman)?"

The response to that is always a block.

Yes it's very creepy/stalkerish

I mainly send a "hello" to a "who's near" whilst on the train to a social

Yeah, a message from someone who happens to be near is very different to a message from someone because they happen to be near.

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By *ttentiveRabbitMan
over a year ago

Lymington

If they of wanted to be connected, they would do here.

Only after conversation has been established the drop of a ‘seen you around’ conversation would be acceptable.

But stalker behaviour or intimidation of being exposed is not

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By *remiumbondMan
over a year ago

Morpeth

Absolutely not. I’ve been recognised and the person didn’t say a thing which was a relief

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I am fine with people approaching me, as long as I am not with my granddaughters but be careful, people have "seen" me in places I have never been

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While it's not something we are ashamed of, we would still feel uncomfortable if someone from Fab randomly approached us in public...

It's part of our private life and we prefer to keep it that way. Having said that, if the person/people were interested in getting to knownus, we'd be happy for them to message

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few times someone has approached me as they recognised me on here. Actually I didn’t really mind too much, they were polite and not weird about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had enough meets to experience this in the swing world but have done in the kink world. Depends on how well we know each other but mostly just ignore or let them make the first move.

Have heard horror stories of people being approached at work and it being loudly announced where they knew them from. It's not on.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

To be clear I didn't approach them at all but just curious to understand how most people feel"

Was it a man or woman?

A man would likely be happy and offer to nosh you off.

A woman is more likely to film you for tiktok and out you as a perv!

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

To be clear I didn't approach them at all but just curious to understand how most people feel

Don't.

Fab is part of someone's private life. Encroaching on their normal life is just rude.

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what is the general consensus on approaching and chatting to them?

I think I speak for everyone when I say you should shout "hey - it's [redacted] from Fab! I've seen her tits!""

"He sucks like a Dyson and she's a right goer!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does anyone recognise anyone on here??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How does anyone recognise anyone on here??

I'd know that squirty cream anywhere!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How does anyone recognise anyone on here??

I'd know that squirty cream anywhere!! "

You look familiar….. can you just slip your skirt higher so I can see your stoc….. oh! It is you!!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"How does anyone recognise anyone on here??

I'd know that squirty cream anywhere!!

You look familiar….. can you just slip your skirt higher so I can see your stoc….. oh! It is you!!

You’ve seen his dick as well then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How does anyone recognise anyone on here??

I'd know that squirty cream anywhere!!

You look familiar….. can you just slip your skirt higher so I can see your stoc….. oh! It is you!!

You’ve seen his dick as well then?

I thought it was there thumb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not having a dig at you OP but just saying imagine how you would feel if some randomer approached you out of the blue to say hey I recognise you from Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How does anyone recognise anyone on here??

I'd know that squirty cream anywhere!!

You look familiar….. can you just slip your skirt higher so I can see your stoc….. oh! It is you!!

You’ve seen his dick as well then?

I thought it was there thumb

No it was my dick.

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

Nope, what happens on fab/meets/clubs stays there.

I see someone regularly I know from work at clubs, we politely ignore each other and it works just fine lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How does anyone recognise anyone on here??

I'd know that squirty cream anywhere!!

You look familiar….. can you just slip your skirt higher so I can see your stoc….. oh! It is you!!

You’ve seen his dick as well then?

I thought it was there thumb

No it was my dick.

Haha.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"How does anyone recognise anyone on here??

Sometimes they lie.

Years ago - I had my first initial as my name - I'd get messages with the right initial and wrong name, asking what "our" boss or colleagues might think.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"How does anyone recognise anyone on here??

I'd know that squirty cream anywhere!!

You look familiar….. can you just slip your skirt higher so I can see your stoc….. oh! It is you!!

You’ve seen his dick as well then?

I thought it was there thumb

No it was my dick.

Hence his nickname - The little Teapot !

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"How does anyone recognise anyone on here??

Sometimes they lie.

Years ago - I had my first initial as my name - I'd get messages with the right initial and wrong name, asking what "our" boss or colleagues might think."

What would your boss or colleagues think?

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I had a guy in my local say to me at the bar he had seen me in the local club

I wasn't impressed as the pub was busy

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

To be clear I didn't approach them at all but just curious to understand how most people feel"
Hey i don't see the problem, those that have said no don't approach them have been here years, if you are friendly and respectful and would just make friendly every day conversation ive bumped into a few people over the years and especially as i go to clubs, just be a gentleman at all times, if you can't be a gent because you are not one then don't approach ever

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

It turns out that seeing someone in Costa is not a good enough reason for plopping the old chap on her shoulder and giving a loud “hey fabber, wagwan?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It turns out that seeing someone in Costa is not a good enough reason for plopping the old chap on her shoulder and giving a loud “hey fabber, wagwan?”"

Why do you use plop in every post you make??

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"It turns out that seeing someone in Costa is not a good enough reason for plopping the old chap on her shoulder and giving a loud “hey fabber, wagwan?”

Why do you use plop in every post you make??

What’s worrying is that was supposed to say popping. I’ve obviously said plop too many times recently…. I shall try to rein it in (the mentions, not the, well, you know)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely not.

And please don't do the creepy message thing where you message telling them you saw them out.

I genuinely wouldn't dream of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not having a dig at you OP but just saying imagine how you would feel if some randomer approached you out of the blue to say hey I recognise you from Fab

Personally I'm not sure I would mind, would of course depend who I'm with bit I didn't speak to this person today or even acknowledge them as I accept I'm likely the minority, however it was interesting to understand other peoplrs views

Thanks to everyone who pitched in, hope you have a lovely evening

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"How does anyone recognise anyone on here??

Sometimes they lie.

Years ago - I had my first initial as my name - I'd get messages with the right initial and wrong name, asking what "our" boss or colleagues might think.

What would your boss or colleagues think?"

I'm self employed and generally work alone.

I know and I don't care.

But those messages generally sit badly with me.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"How does anyone recognise anyone on here??

I usually have my face out... Or tattoos

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

As someone who had a weirdo from here follow me round Tesco, then message me when I got back to my car to tell me what I'd bought and what I was wearing, just don't fucking do it, it's creepy as fuck, and actually pretty scary. I didn't take a direct route anywhere for months afterwards, just in case he was trying to follow me. And it brought back awful memories of having to get the police involved due to someone stalking me years ago.

If you like the look of someone on here, just message them like a normal person, no mention of seeing them, keep it as your little secret - if they're interested they'll respond to your message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one would be brave enough to admit to seeing me

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"Just send a hello message on fab. Which does not contain the words "I am near you"

. If they want to, they will reply

Omg those are the worst. "I'm in (shop) and you're showing up as (distance). Are you (description of some woman)?"

The response to that is always a block."

Could be even worse and they message and say thanks for helping me with so and so in your work today, loved the fact I got you serving me like I had once

Tinder

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Follow them for a bit, then when the opportunity arises buy and hand them a Fab ice lolly then walk away.

They love that. Trust me.

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