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Women, make the move first will you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I already do. It's the only way I'm going to get what I want

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

On roundabouts you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve made the first move quite often

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I often message first, find it easier to find people who match me. But then again, still a similar outcome that most conversations fall flat as it's still very one sided.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I already do. It's the only way I'm going to get what I want "
.

Wow honestly. Truly. A lady out of me own very heart!

I like that positive forwardness.

A breathe of gust if much needed Air, aaaaaah iam breathing.

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk


"Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time.

"

As Kylie once sang “I should be so lucky”

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford


"I already do. It's the only way I'm going to get what I want "

using the force?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On roundabouts you mean? "
..now now. We have them ladys being mellow. Dont knock it fella.

Crowd control here lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve made the first move quite often"

.very welcome. Iqm likeing the style.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

I just work through the messages I get... Out of those I ignore 90% and the 10% I do reply to, a high proportion get to the next stage.

So it's kinda redundant for me to seek out and make first moves?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I already do. It's the only way I'm going to get what I want

using the force?"

And lingerie

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I often message first, find it easier to find people who match me. But then again, still a similar outcome that most conversations fall flat as it's still very one sided."

Pls send some of thise skills down to the london sisters of your's.

They sure could do with change of behaviour lol

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle


"I already do. It's the only way I'm going to get what I want

using force?"

Fixed your post

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've made 100% of first moves for nearly three years now

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

It has been known for me to do so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time.

As Kylie once sang “I should be so lucky” "

Bless kylie nice voice.

Luck,sheer hard work, persistance,what elese??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they want to find a guy, they will find us.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I have done, many times, only to discover I read it all wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully nowadays it's absolutely normal for women to make the first move and lots of the lovely ladies on here obviously do

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

When I see a bit of what I fancy I am more than happy to make the first move

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When they want to find a guy, they will find us. "

They do say, if not the excuse is the weakest used to get away from any accountabilty!!

We all oe most could be moaning out loud in pleasure's.

But the keyboards are being worn well out and stroked!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thankfully nowadays it's absolutely normal for women to make the first move and lots of the lovely ladies on here obviously do "

Where are all the go-getter forward ladies ,women,mums,business women etc.

Iam london based. Ready to go for a coffee face to face and let things flow!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I see a bit of what I fancy I am more than happy to make the first move "
good for you younglady. Keep it up and at it

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

In my experience women do indeed make the f¹rst move. Most of my meets have been on the back of a woman initiating the conversation.

I haven't sent a "first message" in over two years, other than to existing friends, acquainted forumites or in response to a forum 'game' or 'challenge'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In my experience women do indeed make the f¹rst move. Most of my meets have been on the back of a woman initiating the conversation.

I haven't sent a "first message" in over two years, other than to existing friends, acquainted forumites or in response to a forum 'game' or 'challenge'."

May have to apply.

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women do seem to make the first move on here quite a lot. Either with a wink or message, the lovely ladies of fab don’t seem to mind making the first move at all

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"I just work through the messages I get... Out of those I ignore 90% and the 10% I do reply to, a high proportion get to the next stage.

So it's kinda redundant for me to seek out and make first moves?"

You are good. I don't have time to go through 90% of messages from random single men who don't even come to my area.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat


"When I see a bit of what I fancy I am more than happy to make the first move good for you younglady. Keep it up and at it "

Young lady?! Well you can come again!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Women do often make the first move in my experience.

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Normally running away from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do but they run away.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Thankfully nowadays it's absolutely normal for women to make the first move and lots of the lovely ladies on here obviously do

Where are all the go-getter forward ladies ,women,mums,business women etc.

Iam london based. Ready to go for a coffee face to face and let things flow!

"

I'm doing laundry. Lol! Ok I meet at socials and clubs everyone who doesn't live in South West London. There are parts of London that are two hours away from where I live doesn't matter if it's Uber, driving or train. I'm not big on big commutes and I don't want to put people through that unless they like driving or have lots of free time.

MM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've often had single ladies make the first move by winking mainly

Nothing wrong with making the first move, what you got to lose?

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've often had single ladies make the first move by winking mainly

Nothing wrong with making the first move, what you got to lose?

Miss S x"

Exactly this x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do but they run away. "

Dont believe you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thankfully nowadays it's absolutely normal for women to make the first move and lots of the lovely ladies on here obviously do

Where are all the go-getter forward ladies ,women,mums,business women etc.

Iam london based. Ready to go for a coffee face to face and let things flow!

I'm doing laundry. Lol! Ok I meet at socials and clubs everyone who doesn't live in South West London. There are parts of London that are two hours away from where I live doesn't matter if it's Uber, driving or train. I'm not big on big commutes and I don't want to put people through that unless they like driving or have lots of free time.

MM"
.only half hour away lol

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By *rjamesMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I do but they run away. "

Probably because they're after a hug

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

"

This

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I do!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I tend to send winks...

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Would love for women to make the first move with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time.

As Kylie once sang “I should be so lucky” "

Some of us have faces only one mothers could love

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By *interflingMan
over a year ago

london

The last time a woman did that to me, it ended up being a wonderful 5 month affair of fun and really good sex. Love a woman who knows what she wants

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

If I like a profile I'll happily make the 1st move, I mean why would you wait for them?

Mrs

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

on our couples profile we alway contact those that interest us first as already said its the only way to get what you want

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

They often do. Especially when it's someone they really fancy.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

"

That too

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

That too "

I was going to say that I never understand this attitude: surely men wouldn't assume in real life that a woman having a non-sexual conversation with them must want them sexually?

And then I remembered real life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

"

A coffee would do facw to face.

Naked! Nevwr thought about that! Who have you been meeting! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

This"

Girls please.

Coffe meet will do. Us gents will leave the rest for you both to decide where your head and heart is!!

Fair heh??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do!!! "
.i do,do do ,do,do do ,do do do do lol

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Never been approached on here! Clubs and parties yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

That too

I was going to say that I never understand this attitude: surely men wouldn't assume in real life that a woman having a non-sexual conversation with them must want them sexually?

And then I remembered real life. "

A gentlemans reply. Well stated sir. A man out of me very own heart!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

A coffee would do facw to face.

Naked! Nevwr thought about that! Who have you been meeting! Lol "

I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

"

It’s fab swingers not fab friends!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do already

F

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

A coffee would do facw to face.

Naked! Nevwr thought about that! Who have you been meeting! Lol

I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

"

Thats a meet up, killer tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i want to, i do! Px

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

Cup of tea anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

It’s fab swingers not fab friends! "

Yeah, getting complicated by the day on here!'

Matchfab.com.

Datefab.com

Lol

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

It’s fab swingers not fab friends! "

I don't want a friend. I want sex with people I am attracted to by more than just some photos and possibly a few words on a profile.

If I just wanted something inside me I'd use toys. Some of us need mental stimulation with the physical.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

A coffee would do facw to face.

Naked! Nevwr thought about that! Who have you been meeting! Lol

I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

"
.

So when you meassage? What are you up for??

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

Nice to know some women do make the first move! Can't remember the last time that happened

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

It’s fab swingers not fab friends!

Yeah, getting complicated by the day on here!'

Matchfab.com.

Datefab.com

Lol"

What's complicated about needing more than a penis to be attractive to someone?

If people want easy there's other options.

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree


"I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

It’s fab swingers not fab friends! "

It’s fab swingers not fab hire a fuck. Choices.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

A coffee would do facw to face.

Naked! Nevwr thought about that! Who have you been meeting! Lol

I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

"

Even if we never mention sex.... Sometimes even once we have said we aren't interested but are still happy to chat and be friends

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

A coffee would do facw to face.

Naked! Nevwr thought about that! Who have you been meeting! Lol

I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

.

So when you meassage? What are you up for?? "

I'm up for conversation, to see if it leads to anything more.

If I were going to have sex for the sake of it I'd only message the hottest men I could find, and hope they don't have high standards.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

That was always my preferred way of doing Fab when I was looking to meet...I only met one person who I didn't initiate contact with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to make the first move as 99% of those who message me have taken zero notice of my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"on our couples profile we alway contact those that interest us first as already said its the only way to get what you want "

Yep! I ticked off everything on our sex bucket list by messaging people first. 100% success rate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

A coffee would do facw to face.

Naked! Nevwr thought about that! Who have you been meeting! Lol

I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

Even if we never mention sex.... Sometimes even once we have said we aren't interested but are still happy to chat and be friends "

I get that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

A coffee would do facw to face.

Naked! Nevwr thought about that! Who have you been meeting! Lol

I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

.

So when you meassage? What are you up for??

I'm up for conversation, to see if it leads to anything more.

If I were going to have sex for the sake of it I'd only message the hottest men I could find, and hope they don't have high standards.

"

If it was not for the male/female dynamic.

Would there be a look in?? Lol

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time.

"

What I'm hearing is that you're not prepared to put the effort in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

A coffee would do facw to face.

Naked! Nevwr thought about that! Who have you been meeting! Lol

I'm saying that men automatically assume we are going to have sex with them because we have messaged them *not all men.

If we show interest we must be up for sex.

.

So when you meassage? What are you up for??

I'm up for conversation, to see if it leads to anything more.

If I were going to have sex for the sake of it I'd only message the hottest men I could find, and hope they don't have high standards.

"

Men have high standards aswell,not just women!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I prefer to make the first move as 99% of those who message me have taken zero notice of my profile."
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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

That too

I was going to say that I never understand this attitude: surely men wouldn't assume in real life that a woman having a non-sexual conversation with them must want them sexually?

And then I remembered real life. "

There's a super secret contract on Fab - we must drop knickers when we exchange words with a holy penis holder.

or something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time. ..where and whom did you hear this hearsay from??¿

What I'm hearing is that you're not prepared to put the effort in."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

That too

I was going to say that I never understand this attitude: surely men wouldn't assume in real life that a woman having a non-sexual conversation with them must want them sexually?

And then I remembered real life.

There's a super secret contract on Fab - we must drop knickers when we exchange words with a holy penis holder.

or something."

You must have some connections very high upto be sent these messages lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the better meets I’ve had from here have been when the female has made the first move. I find it turn on when they know what they want.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"if i want to, i do! Px "

You do? …

..

Oh wait

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Some of the better meets I’ve had from here have been when the female has made the first move. I find it turn on when they know what they want. "

Are they all older burds?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time.

What I'm hearing is that you're not prepared to put the effort in."
whom are these people i am meant to have contacted and put no effort in!! For easy cheap gains!

Lol

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I usually wink when I see a profile I like. This then bypasses my message filters, so they are free to wink or message back.

This only means that I might be interested in meeting for a social. Once I have had a social, I can decide whether I want to share my sexual energy with that person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I usually wink when I see a profile I like. This then bypasses my message filters, so they are free to wink or message back.

This only means that I might be interested in meeting for a social. Once I have had a social, I can decide whether I want to share my sexual energy with that person."
thats how i see it. Simple wink ,show of interest,chat , meet and it is what it is.

Apparently the "winky " aint all that prudent a feature!

Many dont even read messsges nor profiles.

Heh ho.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time.

What I'm hearing is that you're not prepared to put the effort in.whom are these people i am meant to have contacted and put no effort in!! For easy cheap gains!

Lol"

You said messaging people takes time, so you want women to do it instead. Like we don't have enough to do ing through the trash.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

That too

I was going to say that I never understand this attitude: surely men wouldn't assume in real life that a woman having a non-sexual conversation with them must want them sexually?

And then I remembered real life.

There's a super secret contract on Fab - we must drop knickers when we exchange words with a holy penis holder.

or something.

You must have some connections very high upto be sent these messages lol. "

I'm joking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time.

What I'm hearing is that you're not prepared to put the effort in.whom are these people i am meant to have contacted and put no effort in!! For easy cheap gains!

Lol

You said messaging people takes time, so you want women to do it instead. Like we don't have enough to do ing through the trash."

That was to get the post moveing lol. Silly billy!

I always make 1st contact. No matter the reply!

It is what it is.

No free loader here trust you me.

Happy fabbing.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time.

What I'm hearing is that you're not prepared to put the effort in.whom are these people i am meant to have contacted and put no effort in!! For easy cheap gains!

Lol

You said messaging people takes time, so you want women to do it instead. Like we don't have enough to do ing through the trash.

That was to get the post moveing lol. Silly billy!

I always make 1st contact. No matter the reply!

It is what it is.

No free loader here trust you me.

Happy fabbing. "

Why are you talking to me like I'm a child? Odd behaviour

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"on our couples profile we alway contact those that interest us first as already said its the only way to get what you want

Yep! I ticked off everything on our sex bucket list by messaging people first. 100% success rate. "

So you've completed Sex?

How do you beat the final boss level?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time.

What I'm hearing is that you're not prepared to put the effort in.whom are these people i am meant to have contacted and put no effort in!! For easy cheap gains!

Lol

You said messaging people takes time, so you want women to do it instead. Like we don't have enough to do ing through the trash.

That was to get the post moveing lol. Silly billy!

I always make 1st contact. No matter the reply!

It is what it is.

No free loader here trust you me.

Happy fabbing.

Why are you talking to me like I'm a child? Odd behaviour "

Child no way. I was replying and stateing my point thats all.

No hard feelings.

Maybe the typings comeing across like that.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

That too

I was going to say that I never understand this attitude: surely men wouldn't assume in real life that a woman having a non-sexual conversation with them must want them sexually?

And then I remembered real life.

There's a super secret contract on Fab - we must drop knickers when we exchange words with a holy penis holder.

or something."

Is it phallogocentric if I write FAF on my cock?

In very small letters, obviously. I'm not made of penis.

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By *errocaWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

The majority of the time, it's me that instigates the first move.. If I want something.. I ain't afraid to go out and get it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

That too

I was going to say that I never understand this attitude: surely men wouldn't assume in real life that a woman having a non-sexual conversation with them must want them sexually?

And then I remembered real life.

There's a super secret contract on Fab - we must drop knickers when we exchange words with a holy penis holder.

or something.

You must have some connections very high upto be sent these messages lol.

I'm joking."
.

Action,reaction!!

We all are jokeing,and jokers here, right?

Lol .

I see why now. Typing reading,etc can be misunderstood.

Its the new form here to stay i guess. ..face to face will be so long gone intime.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The majority of the time, it's me that instigates the first move.. If I want something.. I ain't afraid to go out and get it. "

wow so there are many women with this empowered mindset, keep applying it ladies to full affect!

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

That is also why I think it is better to wait until they make the first move, with a message or a wink

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

That too

I was going to say that I never understand this attitude: surely men wouldn't assume in real life that a woman having a non-sexual conversation with them must want them sexually?

And then I remembered real life.

There's a super secret contract on Fab - we must drop knickers when we exchange words with a holy penis holder.

or something.

Is it phallogocentric if I write FAF on my cock?

In very small letters, obviously. I'm not made of penis."

Not gentleman like to say FAF. FAD? more like?? Lol

FAD= fancey a date or two,or three.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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I have done the first message a few times.....just depends as its mainly folk I've seen interacting on the forum and with interesting profiles

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Thankfully nowadays it's absolutely normal for women to make the first move and lots of the lovely ladies on here obviously do

Where are all the go-getter forward ladies ,women,mums,business women etc.

Iam london based. Ready to go for a coffee face to face and let things flow!

I'm doing laundry. Lol! Ok I meet at socials and clubs everyone who doesn't live in South West London. There are parts of London that are two hours away from where I live doesn't matter if it's Uber, driving or train. I'm not big on big commutes and I don't want to put people through that unless they like driving or have lots of free time.

MM.only half hour away lol"

Bless your heart... you've never been on the A3 or south circular in Putney or Putney bridge in traffic have you? A so-called half hour drive can take 2 hours depending on whether they closed the district line during a Craven Cottage Match at rush hour or not. ( true bloody story...twice!)

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time.

"

I do, I will and I like it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make the move and itl help the process heh! So we know you want to know!

Otherwise the fella contacting you and winkng,takea time.

I do, I will and I like it "

See a breathe of fresh air! Positive mental attitude. I like it, many fabby returns to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have done the first message a few times.....just depends as its mainly folk I've seen interacting on the forum and with interesting profiles "

Likewise.

Many respond not my type,type,type,hype hype, i mean not my type lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That is also why I think it is better to wait until they make the first move, with a message or a wink "

Thats a way of approaching. It could well work well,tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thankfully nowadays it's absolutely normal for women to make the first move and lots of the lovely ladies on here obviously do

Where are all the go-getter forward ladies ,women,mums,business women etc.

Iam london based. Ready to go for a coffee face to face and let things flow!

I'm doing laundry. Lol! Ok I meet at socials and clubs everyone who doesn't live in South West London. There are parts of London that are two hours away from where I live doesn't matter if it's Uber, driving or train. I'm not big on big commutes and I don't want to put people through that unless they like driving or have lots of free time.

MM.only half hour away lol

Bless your heart... you've never been on the A3 or south circular in Putney or Putney bridge in traffic have you? A so-called half hour drive can take 2 hours depending on whether they closed the district line during a Craven Cottage Match at rush hour or not. ( true bloody story...twice!)"

Ive been down that way, many atime.

If there is a will. There will always be a way! If not we make excuses. Lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Making the first move doesn't automatically mean I want to get naked with someone.

That too

I was going to say that I never understand this attitude: surely men wouldn't assume in real life that a woman having a non-sexual conversation with them must want them sexually?

And then I remembered real life.

There's a super secret contract on Fab - we must drop knickers when we exchange words with a holy penis holder.

or something.

Is it phallogocentric if I write FAF on my cock?

In very small letters, obviously. I'm not made of penis."

I'm now amusing myself trying to parse "phallogocentric". For some reason it's coming across like Pokemon.

Penis, I choose you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women have made the first move far more often than I have, but that's in the real World..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women have made the first move far more often than I have, but that's in the real World.."
.

Good good. Ive always done things in the true real world,so to speak.

Joining fab since 2021 april. Its a way different way of connecting and reaching out. Iam still adapting til even today.

See what pans out intime.

Iam from a old skool mindset. Make things happen. Dont leave the key in others hands of your very own door.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

The thing is, I'm not looking for an easy lay.

I want someone who doesn't drop his pants at the first whiff of pussy.

I want someone who wants me, for who I am, not just what my mouth can do for him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The thing is, I'm not looking for an easy lay.

I want someone who doesn't drop his pants at the first whiff of pussy.

I want someone who wants me, for who I am, not just what my mouth can do for him "

I think very deep deep down we most are craveing, respect,comfort, to be understood. Valued for whom we are.

But i see,everybody is waiting for the other to make a move and show thier cards first.

I be who i am, in the best version of that day poss!

You cannot do that typing on the frigging keyboard n internet.

I like to hear a tone of voice , laughter,giggles,eÿe contact,back n forth of flirting etc etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The thing is, I'm not looking for an easy lay.

I want someone who doesn't drop his pants at the first whiff of pussy.

I want someone who wants me, for who I am, not just what my mouth can do for him "

How do you see,things have changed over your time? In the wider world, and on fabb? The trends forms ways, etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But then might I actually have to go on a date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually do. Not scared.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, but I don't always get the response I would like though. But no one can say that I don't try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But then might I actually have to go on a date "

It's not a date, just a social, chat, tea/coffee, maybe even cake. No pressure..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do, but I don't always get the response I would like though. But no one can say that I don't try."

Makes sense. 60/40, 70/30. 90/10.

Very rarely a 50/50.

Life heh. Keeps us grinding going and chaseing. Or we all would get rusty and rot away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Usually do. Not scared. "

Good lord,nothing to be scared of. If on doubt ,take a mate for man power! Lol.

If you can run fast enough,use your legs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anybody had a not so nice meetup? Ie Information was out,looks not as described?

Or a Nitemare date from hell??

Lol etc etc

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