FabSwingers.com forum: Lacking Sexual Skills

By *unandgamegeek OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

When it comes to pleasuring who you're with (fingering, oral etc), do you ever feel like your sexual skills maybe lacking in those areas?

I do sometimes. In fact, I sometimes feel like I don't know what I'm doing and I'm afraid of being crap at it. I haven't done oral in years. When it comes to the fingering, my hands seize up too easily.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Time for a different hobby, perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I lack the skills, but I definitely don’t have as much confidence as I used to

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Honestly no. It’s the one area of my life where I am super confident

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think I’m okay at it, people tell me it’s really great, but never though of it as skills it’s more creativity and passion. I kind of just make it up.

Techniques rarely work the same across partners , everyone is different and you have to figure them out.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Nope. Not complacent or arrogant as there's always room for honing your technique but generally I think I know what I'm doing

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

All of them. But I am enthusiastic

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Each woman is different and likes different things. Talk to the woman and ask her what she likes and see how her body reacts to different things

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Some people do not have the moves.

It's a fact.

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By *ornyHumpyMan95Man
over a year ago

Prestatyn

"When it comes to pleasuring who you're with (fingering, oral etc), do you ever feel like your sexual skills maybe lacking in those areas?

Always...but research can improve your skills...so there we go

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"When it comes to pleasuring who you're with (fingering, oral etc), do you ever feel like your sexual skills maybe lacking in those areas?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends who your with. I’m going to be a lot more into it (excuse that pun

) if they’re a lot more into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think I lack the skills, but I definitely don’t have as much confidence as I used to "

Not just sex wise! I really feel people now. Dont have the confidence to even meet for a face to face coffee off of here??

Hells going on¡

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly no. It’s the one area of my life where I am super confident

A lady out of my own very heart! Bless you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people do not have the moves.

It's a fact.

Eye contact,speach. Connections of the minds is really missing! How will the body ever follow,

I really sense this is a major point for all thats going on here!!

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By *outhwesthornMan
over a year ago

villamartin

I'm with a new girl now. She wouldn't ever say but she was In a long marriage with a stubborn bloke that trapped her sex was non existent. She isn't very confident with me and really doesn't know what to do with a cock. Hopefully she will one day very soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm with a new girl now. She wouldn't ever say but she was In a long marriage with a stubborn bloke that trapped her sex was non existent. She isn't very confident with me and really doesn't know what to do with a cock. Hopefully she will one day very soon "

Here's hoping she doesn't try BBQ it first.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I don't think it's more about your own skills but rather more about the communication between people. Those you connect with tends to lead to better sex because you're in tune with one another, knowing what the other person likes and dislikes..

Exploration is also key

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By *outhwesthornMan
over a year ago

villamartin

Here's hoping she doesn't try BBQ it first. "

He he

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Isn’t it more about sensing what your partner is enjoying (or not) in the moment and going with that? Being adaptable and responsive? Rather than just knowing a few “tricks”?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry, those that talk a big talk are usually pretty shit at actually doing it.

It's alright those saying they know what they're doing, but surprisingly there isn't a one stop technique that works on everyone.

If you're with someone that likes you for you, you won't have to do a lot to make it good for them.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Just lie there and let them do all the work. That way if its shit they only have themselves to blame!

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I’m a great believer in the Indianajones technique.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I'm definitely lacking in the being able to fuck all night ability, but it's not one of my interests and I like rests in-between sessions, so it's doubtful I'll ever try to learn tbh

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

"Just lie there and let them do all the work. That way if its shit they only have themselves to blame!

I tried that once, the only problem was they were trying the same thing. We ended watching the whole of avatar then going to sleep

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I always assumed that lack of experience would go against me but what I found in the last 8 years is that I am very instinctual and what I do works so I tend not to overthink it.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"I’m a great believer in the Indianajones technique.

Go on, what’s the Indiana jones technique?

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I always go by the mantra that giving someone pleasure is like eating a plate of ribs. If it’s not all over your fingers and face at the end then you’re doing it wrong….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm immediately wary of those who claim great skills, it usually means they assume the same things work for everyone so just bang through their repertoire and ignore any cues or feedback.

I do what feels right and natural in a given situation. I know my other half is very happy with my skills such as they may be, that's good enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practice makes perfect

That's why I will never be perfect

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I am never lacking. I am sooooo good at everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm immediately wary of those who claim great skills, it usually means they assume the same things work for everyone so just bang through their repertoire and ignore any cues or feedback.

I do what feels right and natural in a given situation. I know my other half is very happy with my skills such as they may be, that's good enough for me."

Exactly. Different people different strokes. Awareness and communication are so important

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By *imontemplerMan
over a year ago

Padbury

"I'm definitely lacking in the being able to fuck all night ability, but it's not one of my interests and I like rests in-between sessions, so it's doubtful I'll ever try to learn tbh"

You got to have the rest times, everyone needs a cuppa and a kit kat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly no. It’s the one area of my life where I am super confident

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Ditto

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"I'm definitely lacking in the being able to fuck all night ability, but it's not one of my interests and I like rests in-between sessions, so it's doubtful I'll ever try to learn tbh

You got to have the rest times, everyone needs a cuppa and a kit kat! "

How many fingers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always room for improvement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the key thing is to communicate with who you're with and get them to show you or tell you what they like.

Nothing wrong with asking and working out what works for them. Generally you should know when you've hit something that feels good by the way they breathe, make sounds, their body language or they've lost the ability to speak

You're never going to be great unless you learn your partner.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

Yes, my skills are abit rusty, as it was a while ago I did it, but with practise. I will be an expert in no time

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By *REEPALESTINEMan
over a year ago

derby

Lolllll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a great believer in the Indianajones technique.

Go on, what’s the Indiana jones technique?"

I’m Also intrigued.

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

"I always go by the mantra that giving someone pleasure is like eating a plate of ribs. If it’s not all over your fingers and face at the end then you’re doing it wrong…."

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"I’m a great believer in the Indianajones technique.

Go on, what’s the Indiana jones technique?

I’m Also intrigued.

Refer to it as 'The Temple of Doom'?

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By *ensual mMan
over a year ago

conwy

My skills are ok but being tongue tied is so annoying for me because i cant get it in where i want it to go properly and always end up needing a towel afterwards and having to stop to breathe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blowjobs. Best get practising, anyone willing to help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a great believer in the Indianajones technique.

Go on, what’s the Indiana jones technique?

I’m Also intrigued.

Refer to it as 'The Temple of Doom'?"

I still don’t get it.

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