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"My youngest has dyspraxia and severe learning difficulties; it's very difficult watching him struggle so badly sometimes. But he's the sweetest, most caring kid I've ever met and an absolute joy to be around. He's been going to gymnastics classes on a weekend for a while now and has been terrified of going in the beam in case he falls and either hurts himself, or looks silly in front of his mates. I've gradually been working on his confidence with him and last week he finally did it. I've never seen a smile as big as that when he'd finished. The hard times can be very, very hard. But the good times....... I wouldn't change him for the world " I'm not crying. You're crying. This is just wonderful. I identify so very much with what you say about the fear of embarrassment and shame in front of his friends with my little boy. Thank you for being a brilliant, proud, supportive Dad. | |||
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"My youngest has dyspraxia and severe learning difficulties; it's very difficult watching him struggle so badly sometimes. But he's the sweetest, most caring kid I've ever met and an absolute joy to be around. He's been going to gymnastics classes on a weekend for a while now and has been terrified of going in the beam in case he falls and either hurts himself, or looks silly in front of his mates. I've gradually been working on his confidence with him and last week he finally did it. I've never seen a smile as big as that when he'd finished. The hard times can be very, very hard. But the good times....... I wouldn't change him for the world " I think you just said it perfectly One of my girls has suffered right since GCSE and her life is very different to how everyone expected, we’ve spent many nights in A&E together ,had some very thought provoking conversations about death! but she’s absolutely perfect too ! | |||
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"Because as a parent you want your child to be perfectly healthy in every single way and not have any disability/illness in any form." i would never change her | |||
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"It's a worry how they'll cope when you're not around I think. " Seeing as my husband has ASD (previously described as Asperger's) and is a perfectly autonomous and functional member of society, I'd say he'll cope perfectly fine without me and he barely sees his parents and hasn't since age 18. I think the OP might have been referring to a comment made in the Ch4 programme "The Piano", about an individual who has obviously become a perfectly functional member of society (programme described them attending uni, living away from home etc). | |||
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"Because as a parent you want your child to be perfectly healthy in every single way and not have any disability/illness in any form." Interestingly, few people are devastated when a parent is left disabled due to child bearing. "At least you have a healthy baby" is a phrase I want to tear up and shove forcibly down the gullet of the people who have uttered it to me. But that's a slight digression from the OP. | |||
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"Because as a parent you want your child to be perfectly healthy in every single way and not have any disability/illness in any form. Interestingly, few people are devastated when a parent is left disabled due to child bearing. "At least you have a healthy baby" is a phrase I want to tear up and shove forcibly down the gullet of the people who have uttered it to me. But that's a slight digression from the OP." It's not that far from this kind of attitude to the US Republican one of seeing women as incubators. I'd be tearing with you. | |||
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"You have no idea how any parent can say they are/were devastated. I do. Not everyone is the same. I was. I was in bits. I totally understand why they could feel like that. " And no I wouldn’t change them for the world. I’d change the world for them though. | |||
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"Parents are devastated for their child and the unknown future. They are not devastated for themselves. " Afuckingmen. Never have I agreed more with a post on here. T | |||
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"You have no idea how any parent can say they are/were devastated. I do. Not everyone is the same. I was. I was in bits. I totally understand why they could feel like that. And no I wouldn’t change them for the world. I’d change the world for them though. " This. My son is "high functioning". I wasn't devastated when he was first diagnosed as I assumed that because he's bright, curious, kind, that I'm also autistic, because he has a loving, understanding, supportive family he'd be able to flourish. However, as he became a teenager his social challenges away from the home have caused him to feel crippling anxiety and suicidal thoughts daily. He feels different, isolated and disconnected, and absolutely exhausted from masking. I am devastated for him. I'd never wish that much pain on anyone let alone my own child. Nell | |||
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"You have no idea how any parent can say they are/were devastated. I do. Not everyone is the same. I was. I was in bits. I totally understand why they could feel like that. And no I wouldn’t change them for the world. I’d change the world for them though. " I 100% agree with this, and I'm so sorry the world has deliberately been turned into such a brutal place for anyone with needs slightly beyond the absolute bare minimum. When Hobbes wrote that life was 'nasty, brutish, and short', he was describing, somewhat hyperbolically, the reality of a pre-industrial world without an understanding of germ theory or antiobiotics or pain relief. Too many modern conservatives take that bleak description as a prescription...as if any sort of kindness and generosity is weakness. We have more than enough wealthnand knowledge to allow all people, whatever their needs, to live in dignity and respect. That we refuse to do so is a result of political choices, and I loathe it. I really hope your child finds their people, their support and love and understanding. They'll know it when they find it, because you'll have been showing them all their lives. | |||
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