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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For those of you looking for men...

Out of curiosity, how often do you make first contact with them, or do you wait to be contacted and go from there?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If I am looking for more than one then I go looking, but most of my meets have been from men contacting me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have made first contact a few times.... We don't mind sending the first message and actually asking for the meet!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I look for what I want rather than wait to see what Im offered...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For those of you looking for men...

Out of curiosity, how often do you make first contact with them, or do you wait to be contacted and go from there? "

Have both a single girls acc and a couples acc.

From single girls acc I wait for messages.

From couples account we browse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

honestly 1/30

I am trying to be more proactive in my search for men but life isnt simple & I spend most my 'fab time' on the forums.

In clubs its 50/50 but then sometimes I might just smile at someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never make first contact

I have my setting set to not show if i have looked at someones profile, but if i look at a profile i like i will take the setting off go and have another look then put it back on so it shows up that ive looked at them, that way im getting their attention as most will view the profile of whos looked at them and if they like me they will mail, if not i did the right thing by not mailing them

i never do that to forum regualrs tho, or the popular guys who get lots of meets anyway, no matter how much im attracted to them and i dont really see these people as being interested in me in that way

im not confidant enough to mail someone first or wink etc im scared they will look at my profile and think...in your dreams

infact i sometimes wonder how i get any meets at all cause im pretty shit at it all really lol

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

wait for guys to contact us as well .. have tried once or twice to initiate the first move without sucess so dont bother any more

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"i never make first contact

I have my setting set to not show if i have looked at someones profile, but if i look at a profile i like i will take the setting off go and have another look then put it back on so it shows up that ive looked at them, that way im getting their attention as most will view the profile of whos looked at them and if they like me they will mail, if not i did the right thing by not mailing them

i never do that to forum regualrs tho, or the popular guys who get lots of meets anyway, no matter how much im attracted to them and i dont really see these people as being interested in me in that way

im not confidant enough to mail someone first or wink etc im scared they will look at my profile and think...in your dreams

infact i sometimes wonder how i get any meets at all cause im pretty shit at it all really lol"

You realise that as soon as you turn it back on again you will disappear from his looked at me list and will never know lol

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By *aster of a mindCouple
over a year ago

York

My wife/slave, generally makes first contact with those she finds attractive. Thing is for the poor (genuine) single guys, loads of profiles threaten blocking if they so much as glimpse at a couples profile. I would hate to be on here as a single guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My wife/slave, generally makes first contact with those she finds attractive. Thing is for the poor (genuine) single guys, loads of profiles threaten blocking if they so much as glimpse at a couples profile. I would hate to be on here as a single guy "

Yeah, to be fair it is rather an arduous task. Hence my question. I do try my best to grab some people's attention, sometimes to no avail. It's just the nature of the beast.

Roll with the punches and keep trying I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far I've not had to go looking to contact cos I've been lucky enough to have a few messages like all the ladies lol. If a guy winks at me and I like the look of him and his profile then ill message him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always go looking. I'm not on searches because I think it's pointless getting mail from unsuitable people. I don't like to waste people's time.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Both. We're probably more reactive than proactive over all, but we do initiate contact at times

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

There is usually a 1 in 50 (or so) chance we will get a message from someone we're BOTH attracted to, so truth be told it's much easier for us to go looking...

At least then there's a chance we will get what we ACTUALLY want.

- VincentandAmy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like other women I get my fair share of messages, but I'm just as happy to make the first move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have yet to send the first message.

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By *usky1Woman
over a year ago

Greater London

Have winked a couple of times, but have been lucky in that I have been contacted by single men. However I do ignore a lot of messages as people don't seem to read my profile properly.

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I am passive on the site and dont message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As my OHs business comes first, we find it difficult arranging meets in advance. Our spare time is usually last minute so we either go to a club if its a weekend, or if we can midweek then we look and message guys, either from our friends list or we look at profiles

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

I make first contact less than I am contacted, however when I do and the guy is interested it tends to be a more successful outcome, in that we meet...

If a guy catches my attention with a well written profile and decent photo's I use all the tools available! Mixture of winks, fabbing pics, messages if they are on the forums. Regularly check the local updates on the homepage.

Some I contact because they are recommended by friends. Often I see a hottie on cam in the chat rooms and flirt with them there...Works for me, and I feel more in control.

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