FabSwingers.com forum: What is the thrill with taking someone else's partner from them?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Or trying to?

Do people do this when it's been done to them?

Or is it just a kink?

Or an ego boost?

I'm genuinely trying to work this one out.

Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I know some people set out deliberately to do that but I think the other person must willingly go rather than be taken. Nobody who's completely satisfied with their relationship leaves it, do they? I honestly don't know.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Frost and seeping damp can be lethal elements in microscopic cracks, in otherwise strong walls and rocks.

Some people like any chase, especially tough ones too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None what so ever, in fact I wish all the cheating men or women didn't see me at all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I know some women like to fuck partnered men because it makes them feel as if they're better than their wife of girlfriend. One woman I knew used to phone the guys partner afterwards.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Or trying to?

Do people do this when it's been done to them?

Or is it just a kink?

Or an ego boost?

I'm genuinely trying to work this one out.

Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it?

Who is trying to cadge C off you?! The cheek!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hateful.

Many on here seem to see the sex as cheap currency and lay waste to others without a thought.

Just a dick a day.

Veris tossed off like confetti and the next sucker lined up before the sheets are cold.

If they put no value on the sex or the person they are fucking then it doesn't matter, doesn't count, it's just a fuck, no harm done. No one is allowed to be bothered if they aren't.

It's devastating for others on the other side of connections though.

The seedier side of fab for sure.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont know about guys but I've known women that have tri3d to entice a guy away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be a myriad reasons, be it ego, financial, anger, self-esteem, lack of love, low commitment, need for variety, neglect, lust, etc.

Please, I'm not judging anyone here, it's just my opinion in believing it's not ok with you saying "In the name of God, I, xxxxx, take you, xxxxx, to be my (husband/wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death.", it's not then ok to cheat

Trust being the foundation of any meaningful relationship.

Maybe I'm just old fashioned...!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Or trying to?

Do people do this when it's been done to them?

Or is it just a kink?

Or an ego boost?

I'm genuinely trying to work this one out.

Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it?

I assume you don’t mean in a swinging sense and instead that someone is trying to break up the relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or trying to?

Do people do this when it's been done to them?

Or is it just a kink?

Or an ego boost?

I'm genuinely trying to work this one out.

Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it?

Bulls? Cuckolds?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frost and seeping damp can be lethal elements in microscopic cracks, in otherwise strong walls and rocks.

Some people like any chase, especially tough ones too. "

Food for though!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Competitive sports are very popular, the endorphins rush of winning is very strong. And many people go out of their way to feel that rush again. Look at the smugness when England win for example. No well done to the other team. Its all yeah we buried them.

For our world being "naughty" and "getting one over another" is very popular and many many people do it. There are some popular kinks made from it. And sometimes the grass being greener, feelings take over and the cracks appear. I've know of couples, that used 3rds as sticking plasters on their relationships and we weren't surprised when they ran off together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know some people set out deliberately to do that but I think the other person must willingly go rather than be taken. Nobody who's completely satisfied with their relationship leaves it, do they? I honestly don't know."

Boredom. Its been saìd for women some relationdhops are long dead. Its just that the man has not clued on. The woman moved on long ago emotionly!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know some women like to fuck partnered men because it makes them feel as if they're better than their wife of girlfriend. One woman I knew used to phone the guys partner afterwards. "

What the fuck! Now thats dark cruel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's hateful.

Many on here seem to see the sex as cheap currency and lay waste to others without a thought.

Just a dick a day.

Veris tossed off like confetti and the next sucker lined up before the sheets are cold.

If they put no value on the sex or the person they are fucking then it doesn't matter, doesn't count, it's just a fuck, no harm done. No one is allowed to be bothered if they aren't.

It's devastating for others on the other side of connections though.

The seedier side of fab for sure.

Well stated.

It all goes back in the box!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont know about guys but I've known women that have tri3d to entice a guy away"

Cheers for the info.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have a friend like this.

She would deliberately go after married men as she liked knowing they were risking everything just to fuck her.

She didn't like it so much when the guy she had a baby with cheated on her though.

To go after someone you know is in a relationship just smacks of low self esteem and generally just being a huge fucking dickhead. There's a few about.

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

"I used to have a friend like this.

She would deliberately go after married men as she liked knowing they were risking everything just to fuck her.

She didn't like it so much when the guy she had a baby with cheated on her though.

To go after someone you know is in a relationship just smacks of low self esteem and generally just being a huge fucking dickhead. There's a few about.

What goes around comes around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Low self esteem, lack of self respect and fragile ego are things that makes someone want to do that.

Or just generally being twisted.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Wow, I must be a bit green as didn’t even realise this was a thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Borrowing is so much better than taking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've known a few women like this and I think they believe it somehow makes them superior. But the reality is you're an easy option, a bit on the side and you could never compare to what he has.

I'm a bit of a hypocrite as I wouldn't be put off by a married man but I wouldn't ever befriend someone who seeks out married men and gets off on cheating. It's a selfish and nasty trait to have and says a lot about someone.

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By *ontVellaCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I used to have a friend like this.

She would deliberately go after married men as she liked knowing they were risking everything just to fuck her.

She didn't like it so much when the guy she had a baby with cheated on her though.

To go after someone you know is in a relationship just smacks of low self esteem and generally just being a huge fucking dickhead. There's a few about.

We would never kink shame anyone but this is one I just can’t get with. To actively go looking for attached people says a lot about a person and as your friend experienced - they don’t/ won’t feel the same way when it happens to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never done it but I’ve had people attempt to do it to me. One of the standout ones, I texted from his phone and arranged to meet her at a shopping centre for a date… where I turned up and it’s probably best that I don’t disclose the rest.

Looking back, she was doing me a favour and I should have just let her have him.

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

"I've known a few women like this and I think they believe it somehow makes them superior. But the reality is you're an easy option, a bit on the side and you could never compare to what he has.

I think your not being out off and seeking one out to specifically split him from his wife are quite different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took my mates partner once xx

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

"I’ve never done it but I’ve had people attempt to do it to me. One of the standout ones, I texted from his phone and arranged to meet her at a shopping centre for a date… where I turned up and it’s probably best that I don’t disclose the rest.

Looking back, she was doing me a favour and I should have just let her have him. "

Hindsight is 20/20 vision

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Seemingly it happens either with men or women thats why most of us have run away from the ideas of relationships and one reason why am here too! But typically am looking couples or group fun...

Though I am very sure a few I've met weren't single at all and it shows really! But yeh happens in real life too and its shocking...

But men get interest off another women and like the idea of playing away and getting caught and same for women...I've experienced both in my life time in relationships and with friendships (fwbs) its all to do with an ego trip I reckon...but am hoping to stay clear of both situations from now on!

Cause I know what it's like to be betrayed and cheated on! I certainly wouldn't like to do that to another person...

Xx cj

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking back, she was doing me a favour and I should have just let her have him.

Hindsight is 20/20 vision"

If I knew then what I know now

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Finders keepers!

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

"Wow, I must be a bit green as didn’t even realise this was a thing! "

I'm with you on this one. I don't knowingly know anyone like this.

Personally when I've been cheated on in the past, I've never blamed the other person. If they were single. It was my relationship and partner that were the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't think a person can be taken who isn't ready to be plucked out of their situation.

So yeah, fault on both sides.

A cheater will cheat.

A keeper will brush off anyone outside of their relationship and give them no 'in' to work on.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I personally don't think a person can be taken who isn't ready to be plucked out of their situation.

So yeah, fault on both sides.

A cheater will cheat.

A keeper will brush off anyone outside of their relationship and give them no 'in' to work on."

Agreed. As I said earlier if you're happy with your relationship you're not going to be open to advances.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

"I know some women like to fuck partnered men because it makes them feel as if they're better than their wife of girlfriend. One woman I knew used to phone the guys partner afterwards. "

Having worked in various offices, I agree with this. I've even been there at social/office gatherings when women have propositioned! They must get bored easy.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Or trying to?

Do people do this when it's been done to them?

Or is it just a kink?

Or an ego boost?

I'm genuinely trying to work this one out.

Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it?

Not sure there is a thrill in breaking up others relationships. Or have I misunderstood the op?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Or trying to?

Do people do this when it's been done to them?

Or is it just a kink?

Or an ego boost?

I'm genuinely trying to work this one out.

Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it?

Not sure there is a thrill in breaking up others relationships. Or have I misunderstood the op? "

Sometimes... Misery loves company!

Thrill of the chase and keeping secrets, makes it more exciting.

Wanting and getting something you shouldn't really have.

Revenge could be a part of it.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I personally don't think a person can be taken who isn't ready to be plucked out of their situation.

So yeah, fault on both sides.

A cheater will cheat.

A keeper will brush off anyone outside of their relationship and give them no 'in' to work on.

Agreed. As I said earlier if you're happy with your relationship you're not going to be open to advances. "

This

. And if they are then it wasn’t meant to be. Not worth fighting to keep someone who doesn’t want to be kept.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You do see people who blame the other man/woman for their partner's infidelity, as if their partner is a poor, hapless fool unable to resist the charms of a vile seducer.

People cheat for two reasons either they're unhappy for one of a million reasons or they're the type of opportunist who does it just because they can.

I often see people say things like "I just couldn't help it" or "the inevitable happened"

It wasn't inevitable and you could help it, you're a grown adult with a functioning brain, take responsibility for your actions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You do see people who blame the other man/woman for their partner's infidelity, as if their partner is a poor, hapless fool unable to resist the charms of a vile seducer.

People cheat for two reasons either they're unhappy for one of a million reasons or they're the type of opportunist who does it just because they can.

I often see people say things like "I just couldn't help it" or "the inevitable happened"

It wasn't inevitable and you could help it, you're a grown adult with a functioning brain, take responsibility for your actions."

Agree 110% we all are aware of what we are doing,knowingly and unknowingly!

Unless a Psycopath with no Empathy coldblooded lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally don't think a person can be taken who isn't ready to be plucked out of their situation.

So yeah, fault on both sides.

A cheater will cheat.

A keeper will brush off anyone outside of their relationship and give them no 'in' to work on.

Agreed. As I said earlier if you're happy with your relationship you're not going to be open to advances.

This

. And if they are then it wasn’t meant to be. Not worth fighting to keep someone who doesn’t want to be kept. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You do see people who blame the other man/woman for their partner's infidelity, as if their partner is a poor, hapless fool unable to resist the charms of a vile seducer.

People cheat for two reasons either they're unhappy for one of a million reasons or they're the type of opportunist who does it just because they can.

I often see people say things like "I just couldn't help it" or "the inevitable happened"

It wasn't inevitable and you could help it, you're a grown adult with a functioning brain, take responsibility for your actions."

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally don't think a person can be taken who isn't ready to be plucked out of their situation.

So yeah, fault on both sides.

A cheater will cheat.

A keeper will brush off anyone outside of their relationship and give them no 'in' to work on.

Agreed. As I said earlier if you're happy with your relationship you're not going to be open to advances.

This

. And if they are then it wasn’t meant to be. Not worth fighting to keep someone who doesn’t want to be kept. "

Simple but applicable.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"You do see people who blame the other man/woman for their partner's infidelity, as if their partner is a poor, hapless fool unable to resist the charms of a vile seducer.

People cheat for two reasons either they're unhappy for one of a million reasons or they're the type of opportunist who does it just because they can.

I often see people say things like "I just couldn't help it" or "the inevitable happened"

It wasn't inevitable and you could help it, you're a grown adult with a functioning brain, take responsibility for your actions.

Also don't spin that was faced

'it was a d*unken, one off mistake' line. If you're so inebriated you have sex by mistake, you need help

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

*sad faced

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women.

He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's basically trophy hunting behaviour, done by people who think they have huge egos and the balls/tits to back it up when in reality they're actually deeply insecure inside and can't feel happiness unless it's built on other people's misfortunes.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women.

He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.

That would be funny if it wasn't so sad.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

I've often heard it said that many women find a man with wedding ring attractive ! Some kind of challenge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ego boost/low self esteem/because they can/the challenge

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women.

He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.

That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. "

It was awful. Seeing my friend in that much pain was horrendous and he was a total dipshit about it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women.

He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.

That would be funny if it wasn't so sad.

It was awful. Seeing my friend in that much pain was horrendous and he was a total dipshit about it. "

What is wrong with these people!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

There basically just cunts with zero consideration for anyone's feelings but their own.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The shock and horror from cheater #1 when cheater #2 inevitably then cheats on them too is always fairly karmic

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women.

He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.

That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. "
my ex got away with something similar. I felt awful. As he had invited me to a family wedding reception... claimed he had managed to get the keys to the honeymoon suite as the bride and groom had decided to jet off straight to their honeymoon instead. He looked so good in his suit.. we had a good hour or two in their.. he said he had to to see the bride and groom off and would see me soon..

Stopped replying to my texts....I got worried and asked a mutual friend.. who said he's on his honeymoon.. I felt sick and so guilty . As the realisation that I'd slept with him in his honeymoon suite on the night of his wedding.

As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I've often heard it said that many women find a man with wedding ring attractive ! Some kind of challenge?"

Think it's more they know a married man can keep a secret...

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I may be wrong, but I'm reading this as more of a Fab specific question, rather than a general life question. With the couple being two singles that have formed a relationship, and the others being people that one or the other have had previous dalliances with in a Fab sense.

I see that as a combination of jealousy and bruised ego. Perhaps they wanted more from that person after meeting and those deeper feelings weren't reciprocated. I'm positive that at least in some cases there's a sense of 'why are they good enough when I wasn't?' Some people are spiteful enough to disrespect the relationship and try to tempt that person to still meet them, rather than just having happy memories of the fun times they had together and moving on.

That's my best guess, but we never really know what motivates others to do anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The shock and horror from cheater #1 when cheater #2 inevitably then cheats on them too is always fairly karmic "

Yes and funny to see!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a fab sense I see people get used and dropped like party favors all the time.

You see the updates and veris flying about.

Flavour of the week, sex bombed then ghosted.

It's hard to watch.

Devastating to get the short end.

Getting with a 'popular' fabber to see what the fuss is about them or to become popular yourself or to try and network your way through fab by fucking your way up the popularity tree is grim and a massive turn off to me.

If a sleazy gig with ones they actually don't like on a personal level trumps a more intimate and genuine arrangement, or if a group sex event is worth more to them to keep in with the 'IT group' of the day to guarantee future invitations... then that kills any attraction for me and blows up the connection.

Doesn't make it not hurt though.

A loss is a loss is a loss.

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

Near You

It totally depends on exactly what you mean?

If you're talking about being with a hot wife while her cuck husband watches (or sometimes partakes in a submissive role), then I don't see it as taking the wife away. I'm just there to enjoy myself and give pleasure to others. It's not a power-play thing. There's always the understanding that the love is between the couple and I'm there just for playtime.

If you're talking about actively trying to "steal" someone's partner, it's not something I've ever done. For me, it's a pretty abhorrent thing to do.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women.

He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.

That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. my ex got away with something similar. I felt awful. As he had invited me to a family wedding reception... claimed he had managed to get the keys to the honeymoon suite as the bride and groom had decided to jet off straight to their honeymoon instead. He looked so good in his suit.. we had a good hour or two in their.. he said he had to to see the bride and groom off and would see me soon..

As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x "

How in God's name did he pull that one off

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Borrowing is so much better than taking

I like to think I'm giving the woman a break from the relentless sleep pokes in the back. Lol!

I'm taking them off the woman's hands for a bit so she can do her own thing. ( sleep, look after kids, go to work, fuck other men)

Not sure about bi-men. I've been a wife and I distinctly remember wanting to sleep and feeling pressure to have sex with my husband as some sort of wifely duty.

In the grand scheme of things, my sleep was probably more important than his need for sex but I just went along with it because I wanted him to be happy.

Now I'm not a wife.....I've been single for 9 years and I definitely don't want to take someone's man. I like looking after me only and not someone else's man-child. Lol!

You ladies can keep them.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women.

He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.

As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x "

Jesus Christ, Mary and Joseph and all the saints above.

Wow that you didn't know he was the groom...

That's probably the reason I've been single for 9 years too. I can't put up with this kind of fuckery.

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women.

He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.

As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x "

I'm sorry you were lied to and treated in such an abhorrent way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women.

He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.

As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x

How in God's name did he pull that one off

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people only do unto you,what you allow them to do! I understand some of it though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You do see people who blame the other man/woman for their partner's infidelity, as if their partner is a poor, hapless fool unable to resist the charms of a vile seducer.

People cheat for two reasons either they're unhappy for one of a million reasons or they're the type of opportunist who does it just because they can.

I often see people say things like "I just couldn't help it" or "the inevitable happened"

It wasn't inevitable and you could help it, you're a grown adult with a functioning brain, take responsibility for your actions."

I've agreed with your posts so far completely.

One thing that really gets me is when a partner is viewed as too weak to resist the advances of someone else. To me that's insult to the intelligence of that person and their strength and says they aren't in the relationship for the right reasons. And if they are viewed as unable to resist doesn't that mean that they were to weak to resist the advances of their partner in the first place. The partner thinks they are only there because they managed to crack them easily? An insult given with a back at you attached!

I think this happens quite often towards women, men can be possessive and want other guys to get lost in fear of them making advances (knowing how men think) on the woman and her being to weak or stupid to deal with them.

I know this applies the other way round too though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or trying to?

Do people do this when it's been done to them?

Or is it just a kink?

Or an ego boost?

I'm genuinely trying to work this one out.

Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it?

Who is trying to cadge C off you?! The cheek!"

Haha! Love the assumption. It could be me someone is tryung to take of C.

It's neither though. And not fab specifically. This is just a general question based on conversations I'd had with friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if it is not fab related, I think everything has been already said.

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By *igDave8Man
over a year ago

Tonbridge

"Or trying to?

Do people do this when it's been done to them?

Or is it just a kink?

Or an ego boost?

I'm genuinely trying to work this one out.

Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it?

Sexually I only get a buzz if the mr wants me to fuck his mrs. That’s an ego thing I think.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Or trying to?

Do people do this when it's been done to them?

Or is it just a kink?

Or an ego boost?

I'm genuinely trying to work this one out.

Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it?

Who is trying to cadge C off you?! The cheek!

Haha! Love the assumption. It could be me someone is tryung to take of C.

It's neither though. And not fab specifically. This is just a general question based on conversations I'd had with friends.

Soz, I didn't mean to ASSuME, more to make a joke

I agree with those Nicecouple types, but then again, they're very often right!

Much love to you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say for their own ego.

The only thing it would make you more of is a twat

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By *REEPALESTINEMan
over a year ago

derby

Lots of different dynamics involved in this. One is obviously the power on the bulls side

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes, and some women in unhappy relationships are desperate to be taken away and I imagine that gives some men an ego boost , but for me it’s a big red flag, it’s the worst type of woman to get involved with

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By *ive-DeliciouslyCouple
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Kat replying, had a female on here offer a 3sum but we are looking for Couples, Dan replied declining the 3sum & she offered to meet him solo!

There's a million single men on here to approach

I wasn't the least bit impressed & blocked

Some utter narcissistic morons in every walk of life sadly

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If someone waits to be taken away from an unhappy relationship they probably are the worst type of person to get involved with. If you're willing to put up with a bad relationship until a better offer comes along you're probably very passive I'd reckon

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women.

He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.

As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x

How in God's name did he pull that one off

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the new wife was very d*unk and didn't notice him missing and his best man knew he had invited me.. neither told me he was the groom... I felt awful and dumb...

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Kat replying, had a female on here offer a 3sum but we are looking for Couples, Dan replied declining the 3sum & she offered to meet him solo!

There's a million single men on here to approach

I wasn't the least bit impressed & blocked

Some utter narcissistic morons in every walk of life sadly

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the single women approaching the male to meet behind partners back happens a lot. I had a lady wait till I went to the toilet to ask my fella once.. he couldn't see why I was furious when he told me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women.

He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.

As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x

How in God's name did he pull that one off

the new wife was very d*unk and didn't notice him missing and his best man knew he had invited me.. neither told me he was the groom... I felt awful and dumb... "

You were the innocent party in this

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women.

He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.

As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x

How in God's name did he pull that one off

the new wife was very d*unk and didn't notice him missing and his best man knew he had invited me.. neither told me he was the groom... I felt awful and dumb...

You were the innocent party in this

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I was but in hindsight knowing him how I did.. I should have realised x

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over a year ago

"Kat replying, had a female on here offer a 3sum but we are looking for Couples, Dan replied declining the 3sum & she offered to meet him solo!

There's a million single men on here to approach

I wasn't the least bit impressed & blocked

Some utter narcissistic morons in every walk of life sadly

Yes this happened to me whilst in a couple on here. Also had *gay* men asking to meet him alone

was quite funny, I did all the profile admin & would just send a laughing emoji so they blocked us

it's all power games

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Several male halves in couples I’ve met have asked me to meet alone once we’ve met in person. I suppose without their other half knowing. Sometimes I have, sometimes I haven’t met them again. But I have zero interest in interfering with their relationship. I have enough complications with my own!

one of them I think the lady put as a condition they blocked me so she would get back together with him, lol…. (He did and they did!) We are all adults and I’m not going to be policing relationship status or health of the people I see.

Same with some people I classify as friends now and I care a lot about them. My mind wanders sometimes and I think what would it be like to be in a relationship with them but it’s a couple of minutes thing and then feet are back firmly on the ground. I have enough problems as it is to add any more haha

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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago

taunton

Many years ago my girlfriend now wife went off and had a fling with the local casanova for two weeks we then got back together but looking back more than forty years later I realise I never could feel the same about her after, she has always denied that anything sexual ever happened between them lol. Strange thing is I would love to see her fucked by another guy now.

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By *anes HubbyCouple
over a year ago

Babbacombe Torquay

I have absolutely no problem as a cuck with Jane meeting guys alone, but any guy who confuses me being a cuck with someone who would even begin to accept another guy taking her away from me.....god help him.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Change is as good as a rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have absolutely no problem as a cuck with Jane meeting guys alone, but any guy who confuses me being a cuck with someone who would even begin to accept another guy taking her away from me.....god help him."

God help him you pathing the way smoothly to date and bed your wife,so she comes back to you with smiles like a chesire cat,and get sent back by you for 2nds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many years ago my girlfriend now wife went off and had a fling with the local casanova for two weeks we then got back together but looking back more than forty years later I realise I never could feel the same about her after, she has always denied that anything sexual ever happened between them lol. Strange thing is I would love to see her fucked by another guy now."

Have you not confronted her yet? Derdrie page here.

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

Looking back, she was doing me a favour and I should have just let her have him.

Hindsight is 20/20 vision

If I knew then what I know now

Experience is a great thing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw where's OP gone

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Aw where's OP gone "

That’s a shame. I liked those two

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By *orndog272Man
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

What a sad bitch she was eh

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

"Aw where's OP gone

That’s a shame. I liked those two

Who was it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aw where's OP gone

That’s a shame. I liked those two

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aw where's OP gone

That’s a shame. I liked those two

Who was it "

Their name escapes me now (I'd recognise their pic straight off) but they were quite prolific on here

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Aw where's OP gone

That’s a shame. I liked those two

Who was it "

Vanilla masquerade x

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Hopefully just taking some time for themselves.

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

"I've known a few women like this and I think they believe it somehow makes them superior. But the reality is you're an easy option, a bit on the side and you could never compare to what he has.

Yes, I completely agree...there's a big difference. Similarly, I'm perfectly fine meeting married women, but wouldn't go out of my way to do anything to split up her marriage.

That would be seriously evil...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The need to feel powerful, when your a weak ass slime ball.

*just my opinion.

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

"The need to feel powerful, when your a weak ass slime ball.

*just my opinion. "

Your opinion is accurate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might not answer OP’s question exactly but whenever I’m with a couple or a single member of a couple , it’s not about taking one of them from the other but about the privilege of being invited to share an experience with them. It’s not about the taking but about being given something if that makes sense?

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

"It might not answer OP’s question exactly but whenever I’m with a couple or a single member of a couple , it’s not about taking one of them from the other but about the privilege of being invited to share an experience with them. It’s not about the taking but about being given something if that makes sense? "

What you're describing is perfectly fine. It's a shared experience with one or two more people that's completely consentual, and where no-one is trying to deliberately split up a partnership / relationship.

You're clearly enjoying yourself, as are the other parties...and that's why we're all on here, right? Xx

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Awwwwwww the OPs have gone. That's a shame

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

If they leave - they were never really yours…

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Oh no, where has op gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they leave - they were never really yours… "

The Op was never really ours….

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"If they leave - they were never really yours…

The Op was never really ours…."

Pmsl - Ouch!!!

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

The op never really existed...but was an echo from an alternate timeline that has, sadly, now ceased to exist....

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