FabSwingers.com forum: For those with no Valentine

By *rtyIan OP Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

I am enough

When you look in the mirror

The mirror of self doubt

The reflection of you looking at me

You have that feeling of not being enough

Flawed by society the media your peer

You feel not worthy not fitting their design

They tell you that you need this and that to shine

When that reflection looks back at you

Tell it you love it that’s it the best you

Self love we’re told is vanity and ego

Learn to love yourself as you love others

You’re worth it all and so much more

Love your self to the core

If you can not love yourself with no fear

Then how can you love those you hold dear

Forget the bullshit that you don’t fit

Ignore that blemish stray hair or zit

Society tells us how we should be

It’s bullishit and lies that feeds wet eyes

Wipe those tears and say to yourself

I am enough for me and for you

The you is your inner self l

Self love self care make them be

The number one thing top priority

I AM ENOUGH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For those with no valentine...

We actually couldn't give a shit.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

"For those with no valentine...

We actually couldn't give a shit.

She called it! Zero fucks given here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel like I'm not enough.

I feel like I haven't found my person yet and I'm so fucking tired of looking.

I settled before from a sense of, this is what's next... must tick this box, and it was a disaster. So I'm never settling again.

But what's the alternative?

This sucks too.

Life is hard.

Usually I'm one who just puts their shoulder to the hard days and pushes through to the better days on the other side.

But I'm tired.

I've finally hit my brick wall.

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By *rtyIan OP Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

"For those with no valentine...

We actually couldn't give a shit.

I agree and zero fucks are given for the commercial bollox that today is

It's just to say

I AM ENOUGH

As I've just replied to someone

I'm happy in my own skin and headspace right now

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"For those with no valentine...

We actually couldn't give a shit.

Mean!!

OP - I’ve never been into self love , I think I’m a pretty bad & fucked person, stating in a mirror won’t help, but if I can be generous and kind to others it kinda heals me a bit

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By *rtyIan OP Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

"For those with no valentine...

We actually couldn't give a shit.

Mean!!

OP - I’ve never been into self love , I think I’m a pretty bad & fucked person, stating in a mirror won’t help, but if I can be generous and kind to others it kinda heals me a bit

If you can't love yourself you can't love anyone

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"For those with no valentine...

We actually couldn't give a shit.

Mean!!

OP - I’ve never been into self love , I think I’m a pretty bad & fucked person, stating in a mirror won’t help, but if I can be generous and kind to others it kinda heals me a bit

If you can't love yourself you can't love anyone "

I don't agree , I dint need to love myself , I’m alright , I take of my self but not needy for self love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For those with no valentine...

We actually couldn't give a shit.

Yep!

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Thanks OP. Since my ex was abusive towards me, it’s taken a long time to get my head sorted and back on track.

Still don’t quite think I’m good enough or love myself yet but that’ll come in time.

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By *rtyIan OP Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

"Thanks OP. Since my ex was abusive towards me, it’s taken a long time to get my head sorted and back on track.

Still don’t quite think I’m good enough or love myself yet but that’ll come in time. "

It takes time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For those with no valentine...

We actually couldn't give a shit.

She called it! Zero fucks given here"

Hahaha same !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such a way with words Mr Arty

I give zero fucks

Valentines gies in the fuckit bucket

But I do get the sentiment of your post and words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will never be alone on Valentine's Day if you are near a lake and have bread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I be that person who thinks it’s nice that others have a day like today to get all soppy if they want to, and don’t feel anything negative about not being included in that and don’t feel that i want or need to take part?

Every day people on my life do things that I don’t do. Very often I do thins that others don’t.

Live and let live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

literally, today can get fucked. regardless of it being 'love day' or whatever.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I haven’t got a Valentine and it’s not because I don’t think I’m not enough, it’s the fact he passed away nearly 5 years ago and I don’t want anyone else to be my Valentine

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By *avidiotMan
over a year ago

fife

The age old mentality of "if it's meant to be, it will be" deluded peoples into believing that love and romance isn't hard choices and work. You WILL meet the right person, you'll probably meet a lot of them. But one will stick, the nervous awkward graft of developing romance haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find things when we least expect it. Just be happy in yourself. Soon be Easter.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The age old mentality of "if it's meant to be, it will be" deluded peoples into believing that love and romance isn't hard choices and work. You WILL meet the right person, you'll probably meet a lot of them. But one will stick, the nervous awkward graft of developing romance haha"

“If you trust in yourself. . .and believe in your dreams. . .and follow your star. . . you'll still get beaten by people who spent their time working hard and learning things and weren't so lazy.”

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By *rtyIan OP Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

"I haven’t got a Valentine and it’s not because I don’t think I’m not enough, it’s the fact he passed away nearly 5 years ago and I don’t want anyone else to be my Valentine

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I haven’t got a Valentine and it’s not because I don’t think I’m not enough, it’s the fact he passed away nearly 5 years ago and I don’t want anyone else to be my Valentine

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Same here although it's only been four months I don't want anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you happen to be in a relationship then everyday should be a valentine's day. At least that's what I'd like to believe, if ever I did meet that someone special to share life together with.

Doing the little things knowing it'll please without expectations. Unconditional luv.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We find things when we least expect it. Just be happy in yourself. Soon be Easter. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Roses aren't always red, voilets aren't actually blue.

But if you suck my minge.

I will suck you.

A true love poem

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

"If you happen to be in a relationship then everyday should be a valentine's day. At least that's what I'd like to believe, if ever I did meet that someone special to share life together with.

Doing the little things knowing it'll please without expectations. Unconditional luv.

Oh god no that would be horrible. Far too luved up nonsense. Predictable and generic, it would become stale fast.

Everyday should be a potential valentines day. Random and unpredictable gestures of attraction, love, lust, and compassion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you happen to be in a relationship then everyday should be a valentine's day. At least that's what I'd like to believe, if ever I did meet that someone special to share life together with.

Doing the little things knowing it'll please without expectations. Unconditional luv.

Oh god no that would be horrible. Far too luved up nonsense. Predictable and generic, it would become stale fast.

Everyday should be a potential valentines day. Random and unpredictable gestures of attraction, love, lust, and compassion. "

^^^this

If my guy texted an emoji I'd know he was thinking of me at that random moment and smile.

If I got given a sip of his drink to taste because he knew I'd love it.... that's connection and intimacy and familiarity

If he got me a random bar of chocolate because it's not sold everywhere and he knew how much I loved it....

It's the no expense bar the thought and effort and connection that I appreciate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't feel like I'm not enough.

I feel like I haven't found my person yet and I'm so fucking tired of looking.

I settled before from a sense of, this is what's next... must tick this box, and it was a disaster. So I'm never settling again.

But what's the alternative?

This sucks too.

Life is hard.

Usually I'm one who just puts their shoulder to the hard days and pushes through to the better days on the other side.

But I'm tired.

I've finally hit my brick wall."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks OP. Since my ex was abusive towards me, it’s taken a long time to get my head sorted and back on track.

Still don’t quite think I’m good enough or love myself yet but that’ll come in time. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks OP. Since my ex was abusive towards me, it’s taken a long time to get my head sorted and back on track.

Still don’t quite think I’m good enough or love myself yet but that’ll come in time. "

best thing you can do is have time for you

ive been through abuse and times a good healer

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

"I don't feel like I'm not enough.

I feel like I haven't found my person yet and I'm so fucking tired of looking.

I settled before from a sense of, this is what's next... must tick this box, and it was a disaster. So I'm never settling again.

But what's the alternative?

This sucks too.

Life is hard.

Usually I'm one who just puts their shoulder to the hard days and pushes through to the better days on the other side.

But I'm tired.

I've finally hit my brick wall."

I feel you on this. Maybe through different experiences but the resulting feeling is the same.

It is draining and feels like being torn yet being tired has you in a constant yet changing view on what you want or deserve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks OP. Since my ex was abusive towards me, it’s taken a long time to get my head sorted and back on track.

Still don’t quite think I’m good enough or love myself yet but that’ll come in time. "

best thing you can do is have time for you

ive been through abuse and times a good healer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am enough

When you look in the mirror

The mirror of self doubt

The reflection of you looking at me

You have that feeling of not being enough

Flawed by society the media your peer

You feel not worthy not fitting their design

They tell you that you need this and that to shine

When that reflection looks back at you

Tell it you love it that’s it the best you

Self love we’re told is vanity and ego

Learn to love yourself as you love others

You’re worth it all and so much more

Love your self to the core

If you can not love yourself with no fear

Then how can you love those you hold dear

Forget the bullshit that you don’t fit

Ignore that blemish stray hair or zit

Society tells us how we should be

It’s bullishit and lies that feeds wet eyes

Wipe those tears and say to yourself

I am enough for me and for you

The you is your inner self l

Self love self care make them be

The number one thing top priority

I AM ENOUGH"

I realized a long time ago that me as l am is absolutely perfect for me , l don't give two fucks that others may think otherwise, l will not sell myself short again or bend over backwards for others so that they can kick me in the nuts,if...now that's a big IF..l meet someone that has the same scars as me and wants to put each others hearts together again there's absolutely no problem but until then ..as the song says ..." Here l go again on my own "..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am enough

When you look in the mirror

The mirror of self doubt

The reflection of you looking at me

You have that feeling of not being enough

Flawed by society the media your peer

You feel not worthy not fitting their design

They tell you that you need this and that to shine

When that reflection looks back at you

Tell it you love it that’s it the best you

Self love we’re told is vanity and ego

Learn to love yourself as you love others

You’re worth it all and so much more

Love your self to the core

If you can not love yourself with no fear

Then how can you love those you hold dear

Forget the bullshit that you don’t fit

Ignore that blemish stray hair or zit

Society tells us how we should be

It’s bullishit and lies that feeds wet eyes

Wipe those tears and say to yourself

I am enough for me and for you

The you is your inner self l

Self love self care make them be

The number one thing top priority

I AM ENOUGH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you happen to be in a relationship then everyday should be a valentine's day. At least that's what I'd like to believe, if ever I did meet that someone special to share life together with.

Doing the little things knowing it'll please without expectations. Unconditional luv.

Oh god no that would be horrible. Far too luved up nonsense. Predictable and generic, it would become stale fast.

Everyday should be a potential valentines day. Random and unpredictable gestures of attraction, love, lust, and compassion. "

Don't need a day to advertise luv

True luv is simply happiness to luv and be loved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For those with no valentine...

We actually couldn't give a shit.

She called it! Zero fucks given here"

Best write of the year. It all goes back in the box really!

Fcuk that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For those with no valentine...

We actually couldn't give a shit.

Innit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All about the Pal-entines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All about the Pal-entines "

Free Palentine!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I haven’t got a Valentine and it’s not because I don’t think I’m not enough, it’s the fact he passed away nearly 5 years ago and I don’t want anyone else to be my Valentine

Same here although it's only been four months I don't want anyone else"

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"For those with no valentine...

We actually couldn't give a shit.

Tbh yesterday was quite literally just another day - except we all got sweets at work - which I gave to the little boy next door.

I didn’t - and never do - mope around feeling rubbish because I’m not in a relationship with a chap.

I have absolutely loads of very special people in my life. I could just do with more sex and affection - that’s all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For those with no valentine...

We actually couldn't give a shit.

Tbh yesterday was quite literally just another day - except we all got sweets at work - which I gave to the little boy next door.

I didn’t - and never do - mope around feeling rubbish because I’m not in a relationship with a chap.

I have absolutely loads of very special people in my life. I could just do with more sex and affection - that’s all!

Dont we all or most!

Most are waiting for someone else to make a move!!

So backwards i think!

Stepup or step aside!!

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