FabSwingers.com forum: Assume you fake

By *burns7 OP Man
over a year ago

walsall

Why do people assume you fake because you not verified

literally have every social media to back it up and offer to write name down in picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't assume unverified people are fake but I do question whether they are genuinely interested in the swinging lifestyle.

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By *burns7 OP Man
over a year ago

walsall

"I don't assume unverified people are fake but I do question whether they are genuinely interested in the swinging lifestyle."

Well if they haven’t met someone to verify them then they can’t

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By *almprintsWoman
over a year ago

deepest, darkest West

Your profile indicates you've been on the site for over a year...but no veri. Not even a social. Red flag in my book. Perhaps change that. Happy fabbing.

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By *burns7 OP Man
over a year ago

walsall

I’ve only just started coming on here regularly and paid for gold, it’s like can’t win

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Being verified from a meet is important in my opinion! Not saying anything about you personally or that you are fake. I've had messages from a few not verified from a meet after over a year, It does make people cautious though.

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By *burns7 OP Man
over a year ago

walsall

Doesn’t help my age tbf I swear I rarely see one or two people same age of me whe ain’t that fair if I enjoy it

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over a year ago

"I don't assume unverified people are fake but I do question whether they are genuinely interested in the swinging lifestyle.

Well if they haven’t met someone to verify them then they can’t

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It's simple to get a verification if you're genuine about swinging.

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By *burns7 OP Man
over a year ago

walsall

"I don't assume unverified people are fake but I do question whether they are genuinely interested in the swinging lifestyle.

Well if they haven’t met someone to verify them then they can’t

It's simple to get a verification if you're genuine about swinging."

Read what I’ve said it ain’t as easy for me

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By *burns7 OP Man
over a year ago

walsall

I’d say 70% of people on here have 30 year’s minimum meet preference

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over a year ago

"I don't assume unverified people are fake but I do question whether they are genuinely interested in the swinging lifestyle.

Well if they haven’t met someone to verify them then they can’t

It's simple to get a verification if you're genuine about swinging.

Read what I’ve said it ain’t as easy for me "

I have read what you've said but I don't understand why it isn't easy for you

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By *burns7 OP Man
over a year ago

walsall

Most profiles on here is looking for least 30 minimum, so I couldn’t even attempt to ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most profiles on here is looking for least 30 minimum, so I couldn’t even attempt to ask"

Apologies if I'm being thick but I'm not following what you mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most profiles on here is looking for least 30 minimum, so I couldn’t even attempt to ask

Apologies if I'm being thick but I'm not following what you mean."

He's under 30 and people want to meet people 30 or above I think.

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By *burns7 OP Man
over a year ago

walsall

I’m 26 right, people have age preference on here, if that age preference is over your age then 9/10 you can’t message them all together

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

"Why do people assume you fake because you not verified

literally have every social media to back it up and offer to write name down in picture

I’ve no idea why you’re struggling

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By *burns7 OP Man
over a year ago

walsall

"Most profiles on here is looking for least 30 minimum, so I couldn’t even attempt to ask

Apologies if I'm being thick but I'm not following what you mean.

He's under 30 and people want to meet people 30 or above I think. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most profiles on here is looking for least 30 minimum, so I couldn’t even attempt to ask

Apologies if I'm being thick but I'm not following what you mean.

He's under 30 and people want to meet people 30 or above I think.

Exactly "

OK, but I don't understand what that has to do with not being able to get a verification.

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By *burns7 OP Man
over a year ago

walsall

"Why do people assume you fake because you not verified

literally have every social media to back it up and offer to write name down in picture

I’ve no idea why you’re struggling "

Literally met one couple off here and they wasn’t verified themself

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By *burns7 OP Man
over a year ago

walsall

Because if I ask for verification it tells me I need someone else too who is verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because if I ask for verification it tells me I need someone else too who is verified "

So go and do that then. If you're genuinely interested in swinging there are loads of social events and swinging clubs you could attend. You could get 10 verifications in one night. It's simple.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Most profiles on here is looking for least 30 minimum, so I couldn’t even attempt to ask

Apologies if I'm being thick but I'm not following what you mean.

He's under 30 and people want to meet people 30 or above I think.

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It's an 18+ site! You are an grown adult. Everyone has preferences that's an individual thing though.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Even with verifications I was accused of being fake!

Ignore them. Do what’s right for you when you want to. There’s no time limits on what or when you do anything.

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By *amieLDN22Man
over a year ago

London

You have to be very objective about this. No point feeling sorry for yourself.

First of all, loads of under 30s on here. I get denied all the time bc the person I'm trying to message has their age preference set to below my age. I wish I was your age right now bc I would smash this whole site. Haha

Few tips:

1) take down the cock picture. From my experience a lot of women don't want to see that. Unless they request it of course. Leave something to the imagination;

2) write up your profile properly. Check out successful profiles around the site and see how they present themselves. The pictures, videos and wording. Basic grammar and punctuation is important.

3) Stop moaning, no one likes a downer mate. Think objectively and approach methodically. Do your homework.

4) watch how you approach women via PM. Don't be thirsty and try to strike a relationship rather than just see them as meat to nail to the floor. Approach carefully and with respect.

5) Don't send winks. Actually sit down and write a message bearing in mind what that person mentioned in the profile.

Which brings me to...

6) Read profiles. Pay attention to interests and requests.

7) make use of advanced searches and see who's online in your area. Message people around your age. Imho age is not a huge factor on this site.

8) Go to swinger events. You will meet people who can show you the ropes and get loads of veris as pointed out by others;

9) Its not easy for single males here. Its a shit sandwich half the time but your attitude does make a difference. You have to come across as fun and cheerful.

10) Play the numbers game. Message as many people as you can and watch closely who's online. Many women here get loads of messages so the quality of your message and timing does make a difference.

You are 26 years old so not a young pup. You have a lot of things going for you re looks and youth. You are a grown man. Act like it and attack this site with gusto. Good luck.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West

"You have to be very objective about this. No point feeling sorry for yourself.

Few tips:

1) take down the cock picture. From my experience a lot of women don't want to see that. Unless they request it of course. Leave something to the imagination;

2) write up your profile properly. Check out successful profiles around the site and see how they present themselves. The pictures, videos and wording. Basic grammar and punctuation is important.

3) Stop moaning, no one likes a downer mate. Think objectively and approach methodically. Do your homework.

4) watch how you approach women via PM. Don't be thirsty and try to strike a relationship rather than just see them as meat to nail to the floor. Approach carefully and with respect.

5) Don't send winks. Actually sit down and write a message bearing in mind what that person mentioned in the profile.

Which brings me to...

6) Read profiles. Pay attention to interests and requests.

7) make use of advanced searches and see who's online in your area. Message people around your age. Imho age is not a huge factor on this site.

8) Go to swinger events. You will meet people who can show you the ropes and get loads of veris as pointed out by others;

9) Its not easy for single males here. Its a shit sandwich half the time but your attitude does make a difference. You have to come across as fun and cheerful.

10) Play the numbers game. Message as many people as you can and watch closely who's online. Many women here get loads of messages so the quality of your message and timing does make a difference.

You are 26 years old so not a young pup. You have a lot of things going for you re looks and youth. You are a grown man. Act like it and attack this site with gusto. Good luck. "

Could you write this to everyone who moans about their 'luck' on fab.

Nicely put.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I don't assume unverified people are fake but I do question whether they are genuinely interested in the swinging lifestyle.

Well if they haven’t met someone to verify them then they can’t

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you guys are hung up on veris go to a club you'll be in the swinging lifestyle then

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By *jc65Man
over a year ago

gillingham

I’m in the same boat mate, difficult to get a meet as so many blokes on here

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I’m in the same boat mate, difficult to get a meet as so many blokes on here"
Go to a club its only way, the forumites are the dyed in the wool types who get so much interest they are fed up with it now and can be very choosey as a result, clubs can be expensive but you get immediate results

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people assume you fake because you not verified

literally have every social media to back it up and offer to write name down in picture

That’s what they all say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people assume you fake because you not verified

literally have every social media to back it up and offer to write name down in picture

OP. You have one of the most well known clubs practically on your doorstep. Get your name down for one of their programmed events, go, chat respectfully with people, be realistic about your expectations (clubs are not brothels) and I’m sure you will come away with a nice number of verifications. Best of luck.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It sounds as though you are putting more effort into trying to convince people you aren't fake and in doing so are trying too hard.

If someone was prepared to give me their social media details straight off the bat or put their real name on pics I would move on quickly because they obviously don't care much for privacy or personal safety.

Being a gold supporter means nothing either. It doesn't upgrade your access to people or entitle you to replies.

Focus on being real rather than tell everyone that you are.

How you do that will depend entirely on you because no one here knows your personality and any advice will be generic.

Age will only be an issue if you make it one. I'm more than twice your age and didn't join here until I was 52 and it has never been an issue at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just curious how personal safety comes into it?

Honest question

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Most profiles on here is looking for least 30 minimum, so I couldn’t even attempt to ask"

It is really easy to get verified. Just go to a club, any of the staff will be able to verify you. Alternatively, you could attend an organised social... again there will be many who will be happy to verify.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people assume you fake because you not verified

literally have every social media to back it up and offer to write name down in picture

Ok dude welcome to the pool of single men on here, where there are 50 men to 1 lady, so have some respect don’t force anything, have some fun in the forums and it will come or go to a club

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Just curious how personal safety comes into it?

Honest question"

Handing out your personal details to random strangers on the internet where they then have access to all your family and friends? Is it not obvious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just curious how personal safety comes into it?

Honest question

Handing out your personal details to random strangers on the internet where they then have access to all your family and friends? Is it not obvious? "

I more meant the photo with a name isn't sensitive or unsafe.

Social media a bit I guess.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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Lots of great advice above OP to take on board....one question you might ask yourself if 'would I meet myself if I was a girl/couple based on my profile?' Especially compared to other male profiles that you can tell have put a lot of effort in. One forumite that you might check out who's also under 30 would be JoeBeans.

If you think that veris are that important and will magically change your luck on here, then you could go on the cam rooms and get a cam veri. Then once you have that you will be able to meet veri the couple you met.

Good luck OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your photo verified which proves your real

Regardless of meet verified or time on site we all know it’s not easy isn’t it!

What is a red flag a couple or single female being brand new and being cam verified within a few days.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Just curious how personal safety comes into it?

Honest question

Handing out your personal details to random strangers on the internet where they then have access to all your family and friends? Is it not obvious?

I more meant the photo with a name isn't sensitive or unsafe.

Social media a bit I guess. "

If you are happy to have your real name shared with others beyond those you send the pics to that's fine.

Which in turn can then be reverse image searched and linked to social media within minutes.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I've got over 160 veris and some people still assume I'm fake because I don't sex chat. Ignore them and move on OP and find someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all fake without a verification you know, verifications are the whole reason people meet on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're all fake …

You should have stopped there.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"We're all fake without a verification you know, verifications are the whole reason people meet on here.

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don't mess this one around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're all fake …

You should have stopped there.

Probably.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I’ll come clean. I’m fake. I’m really a 18 year old boy who lives in his nans loft. I just happen to find my parents porn stash while playing Minecraft and masturbating furiously over madagascan lemur porn.

The mr

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"I’ll come clean. I’m fake. I’m really a 18 year old boy who lives in his nans loft. I just happen to find my parents porn stash while playing Minecraft and masturbating furiously over madagascan lemur porn.

The mr "

Knew it.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

The mr "

I’ve been trying to find some of that for years!

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

"I don't assume unverified people are fake but I do question whether they are genuinely interested in the swinging lifestyle.

Well if they haven’t met someone to verify them then they can’t

Can you get verified by someone on camera?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"I don't assume unverified people are fake but I do question whether they are genuinely interested in the swinging lifestyle.

Well if they haven’t met someone to verify them then they can’t

It's simple to get a verification if you're genuine about swinging.

Read what I’ve said it ain’t as easy for me "

It's pretty easy for everyone if they are willing to put the effort in. There are social events being held through out the UK on a regular basis, attend one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people assume you fake because you not verified

literally have every social media to back it up and offer to write name down in picture

I’ve no idea why you’re struggling

Literally met one couple off here and they wasn’t verified themself "

If you've met a couple and they're still on the site.

Why not pop into the chat rooms here, spend a little time in there, on your camera, chatting with people, then see if someone would be happy to verify you.

Then you can verify said couple and they verify you back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is tough but exactly like everyone says, try getting out to clubs and social events. If we hadn’t booked a social event, we wouldn’t have got chatting to the people we’ve met and who verified us recently.

We’ve noticed we get a lot more interest now we’ve met people and got some veris to show we’re genuine. No other way but to take the plunge and get yourself to a social event or club!

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By *abulousTwo!Couple
over a year ago

Lowestoft

As everyone says, go to a social to get verified. It's how we did it. We get clubs can be daunting for a single guy. But if you're going to a social, be actually social at it, don't just sit there playing on your phone!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

If someone has been here a long time and have no veries we do tend to assume they aren't serious about meeting.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

You try so hard to be wanted

False emotions tells you fronted

I think being a person relies on one thing

Be yourself, let you come through

You're too afraid to really be

Someone who isn't false and doesn't care to be

You're too afraid to really be

Someone who isn't false and doesn't care to be (be yourself, let you come through)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we have been contacted by a profile that has been on here over a year and has no meet veris it's automatically a no. To us (might not always be the case) but still, it shows us they are not that interested in meeting, it's not hard to get veris like people have said go to socials , clubs etc.

P.s people in there 20s are on here

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I always get any woman I speak to to send me a picture of a spatula inside her. Cause she hasn't done that for anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I always get any woman I speak to to send me a picture of a spatula inside her. Cause she hasn't done that for anyone else

I always ask for birth certificate, mother's maiden name, name of first pet, email address, and current driving licence - I now have a nice little pad in St Marie (only trouble is that every Friday there seems to be a tragic death.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's not standard to assume someone is fake, just because they haven't been verified. If someone is having problems meeting others, especially a single man, then it's worth looking at what you can do to improve your results. It may include getting verified but doesn't have to. Read some of the many posts from similar men and pick up the guidance given. Some of it should be helpful.

Look for friendly supportive people like me, who will meet unverified people, to help them too.

But have realistic expectations, as it's very tough for single men here.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"It's not standard to assume someone is fake, just because they haven't been verified. If someone is having problems meeting others, especially a single man, then it's worth looking at what you can do to improve your results. It may include getting verified but doesn't have to. Read some of the many posts from similar men and pick up the guidance given. Some of it should be helpful.

Look for friendly supportive people like me, who will meet unverified people, to help them too.

But have realistic expectations, as it's very tough for single men here. "

Oh we'll meet un verified people but only at organised socials.

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