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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

The female orgasm - so amazing and sadly so elusive!

Would you like to be told if what you’re doing isn’t going to make her cum?

What’s the best way for her to tell you how to make her cum, so it doesn’t hurt your feelings and you are able to learn from what she says? If she squirted and you thought she had cum, would you still want to know if she hadn’t orgasmed or would you rather stay in blissful ignorance ? How important to you is it that she does cum?

This question is mainly to men who sleep with women but is open to anyone who wants to make their partner cum.

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By *cott14Man
over a year ago

Essex & SW Exeter/Taunton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always preferred being told, it’s only awkward if you make it awkward! I think it’s better to say “do this or I’d love it if you did this” rather than just not enjoy our time together as much as you could.

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"I’ve always preferred being told, it’s only awkward if you make it awkward! I think it’s better to say “do this or I’d love it if you did this” rather than just not enjoy our time together as much as you could.

Mr "

Have got always felt that way, or did you have a learning curve where you had to get used to getting directions ?

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

As a woman who wants to explore with another woman I would really appreciate being guided as to what’s good for her. I know that every one is different and what works for one may not necessarily work for another. But instruction is appreciated I still get Beard to advise if something I’m doing needs adjustment as such.

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By *cott14Man
over a year ago

Essex & SW Exeter/Taunton

Absolutely yes. My biggest turn on is finding out what excites the other person.

Moving my hand to where and how they liked to be touched and whispering in my ear ( or screaming out loud !! ) what they do like / want

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I always like to be told if something I am doing is not working - no point being there if it isn’t working for her.

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By *rgasmaddict3Man
over a year ago

stourbridge

I’d definitely like to know. I love seeing a lady cum x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why it's just easy to do it myself. I really can't be arsed giving instructions during sex to achieve something I can do perfectly well on my own.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think instructional sex is soooo horny.

At my age and experience, I generally don't have a problem making a woman cum, but to be told and shown by her is such a turn on.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I would love to know how to make her cum if I wasn’t doing it how she liked it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have got always felt that way, or did you have a learning curve where you had to get used to getting directions ? "

When I was younger an older woman shocked me when she stopped me to give me some direction! But we had an amazing time and she loved it so my view on it changed and I’ve always preferred knowing since then

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By *ilvelicker60Man
over a year ago

kettering

More than happy to be told. Ultimately sex is pleasure and my pleasure comes from making a lady cum.

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By *icktMan
over a year ago

hockley

I’d like to be told but to be fair it’s pretty evident if something isn’t working. Xx

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"As a woman who wants to explore with another woman I would really appreciate being guided as to what’s good for her. I know that every one is different and what works for one may not necessarily work for another. But instruction is appreciated I still get Beard to advise if something I’m doing needs adjustment as such. "

Yeah, sometimes it feels like I just don’t even know how to start explaining to him. “Yeah lower, and then keep doing that but for a lot lot longer. Like, a lot” it feels like I’m going to be required to have a potential argument and then have to offer a lot of ego soothing haha

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"I’d like to be told but to be fair it’s pretty evident if something isn’t working. Xx"

What are the signs you work from? I squirt very easily and copiously but it’s not an orgasm. Men don’t seem to believe me though, they’re so happy that they found a new tap between my legs they get upset when I still want to cum and I feel bad upsetting them haha

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"Absolutely yes. My biggest turn on is finding out what excites the other person.

Moving my hand to where and how they liked to be touched and whispering in my ear ( or screaming out loud !! ) what they do like / want

Oo that’s interesting, are you a bit of a submissive?

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"More than happy to be told. Ultimately sex is pleasure and my pleasure comes from making a lady cum. "

A very healthy attitude !

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"I always like to be told if something I am doing is not working - no point being there if it isn’t working for her."

You wouldn’t find it a bit of an ego bashing?

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"I think instructional sex is soooo horny.

At my age and experience, I generally don't have a problem making a woman cum, but to be told and shown by her is such a turn on. "

Yeah I agree, I find receiving the whole teaching/directing thing very hot. Seems I’m a bit crap at giving it haha

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"I would love to know how to make her cum if I wasn’t doing it how she liked it"

How can she tell you so it doesn’t offend you/hurt your feelings

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

Love to make a woman orgasm, and like to try new things on her a little oh Jesus that's good lets me im on to something.

Also happy to get a direct instruction too

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By *ot_Guy999Man
over a year ago

Close by...

"The female orgasm - so amazing and sadly so elusive!

Would you like to be told if what you’re doing isn’t going to make her cum?

This question is mainly to men who sleep with women but is open to anyone who wants to make their partner cum."

Course you'd want to know. It takes two to tango and unless the current kink being explored is skewed to a one way mentality then there's nothing hotter than a female orgasm.... yum!!!

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By *orthwestbikerxxMan
over a year ago

lancs

Straight to the point answer...

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By *icktMan
over a year ago

hockley

"I’d like to be told but to be fair it’s pretty evident if something isn’t working. Xx

It’s generally the movement and sounds. The rate of the breathing. All signs that let you know. Xx

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"I think instructional sex is soooo horny.

At my age and experience, I generally don't have a problem making a woman cum, but to be told and shown by her is such a turn on.

Yeah I agree, I find receiving the whole teaching/directing thing very hot. Seems I’m a bit crap at giving it haha "

Yes it is very hot!

My porn searches often include instructional sex, with older teaching younger. Mutual masturbation can also be an aid to this. Xx

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I’d like to be told but to be fair it’s pretty evident if something isn’t working. Xx"
you would be amazed how many guys don't notice

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By *icktMan
over a year ago

hockley

"I’d like to be told but to be fair it’s pretty evident if something isn’t working. Xx you would be amazed how many guys don't notice "

Oh I can imagine, but surely it’s simple, when someone is into it the movement, the moans, the breath changes. If they’re not then it’s so easy to tell xx

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'll always say, but just became something won't make me cum doesn't mean I don't enjoy it though, doggy for example I'll never cum that way but I still love that position.

Mrs

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a woman who has been with other women, I usually do something and then just ask … so for instance oral sex… I’ll start softly and then say does that feel good , do you want me to go harder …. Once I’ve gauged basic bits that like I can usually figure my way from there lol

Yes of course someone people don’t want to give step by step instructions during sex but in reality when sleeping with someone new you are not going to know what each other likes so it’s worth finding out and then getting a mind blowing orgasm over not wanting to give instructions and not cumming …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why it's just easy to do it myself. I really can't be arsed giving instructions during sex to achieve something I can do perfectly well on my own. "

Same. If I want an orgasm I do it myself. No need to leave the house.

Sex with other people is about the journey not the destination.

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

My wife gushes but that does not mean she has had an orgasm, she has many different types of orgasm's.

She can have mulitpul orgasm's and body shuddering orgasm's pretty much all clitoral girl.

She proberly would'nt say but if you cant tell then perhaps you should. Thats my starting point a whispered do you like this how do you prefer this? Can often be additional turn on.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have sex with men because I like what they offer visually. A penis, that gets hard the moment they get aroused (with a bit of luck and a fair wind). The way a man feels, smells, their weight on top of me. Not because they make me cum. Some men have never made me cum, but I’ve still gotten wetter than an otters pocket, and wholeheartedly enjoyed the sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, communication is key and can make for better sex for you both so why not?

Miss S x

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Thats why wands were invented!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great question OP..

As a woman who loves women it is important to me that they have a good time. I ask that they take all the time they need, that they don't feel at all pressured and that they guide me when needed, and it is always needed. Each womans body is different and the way they respond to touch is different and I would never presume myself to be such an expert lover that imput from them was unnecessary.

It's all about pressure free communication.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"... How important to you is it that she does cum?

This question is mainly to men who sleep with women but is open to anyone who wants to make their partner cum."

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I like to look at it holistically: if she remarks, with a whiplashed smile, "I would like to meet again", I'm assured that at some point between walking into the bedroom and walking out mågíc had occurred during our coital entwining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a partner I wouldn't have an issue telling them what feels good and what doesn't. When it's just a sexual partner, things can get a little awkward that way so I usually use volume of moans to point them in the right direction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great question OP..

It's all about pressure free communication. "

I think that sums it up perfectly x

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Guidance yes, micro management and step by step no thanks.

Neither will hurt my ego, but the latter is certainly within the realm of being a bit of a mood killer.

If I'm not part of the reason for their enjoyment then what's the point. I don't just mean the orgasm, but sex in general. We both find pleasure in it or neither does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly think straight up tell them is best way. Not DONT DO THAT or anything cause that ruins the mood. But if a woman says I usually cum when x is happening to me, that's the best way to tell someone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been told that I'm a very unselfish lover, ensuring that my partner cums before I get off. I think that I was lucky in that my first girlfriend was far more experienced than I was, and was very good at letting me know exactly what she wanted. I know that a lot of women won't cut from penetration alone, I also know my short comings on that front. I pay lots of attention to foreplay and I've been complimented by all, but one partner on my cunnilingus skills. Of course I also know that sometimes a partner, won't want to hurt one's feelings so will fake an orgasm. It doesn't hurt my feelings if a lady gives me some instruction, especially if we are to meet on a regular basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guidance yes, micro management and step by step no thanks.

Neither will hurt my ego, but the latter is certainly within the realm of being a bit of a mood killer.

If I'm not part of the reason for their enjoyment then what's the point. I don't just mean the orgasm, but sex in general. We both find pleasure in it or neither does."

Exactly, what actually is the point of sex anyway?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guidance yes, micro management and step by step no thanks.

Neither will hurt my ego, but the latter is certainly within the realm of being a bit of a mood killer.

If I'm not part of the reason for their enjoyment then what's the point. I don't just mean the orgasm, but sex in general. We both find pleasure in it or neither does.

Exactly, what actually is the point of sex anyway?!?"

It feels fun Elf, promise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guidance yes, micro management and step by step no thanks.

Neither will hurt my ego, but the latter is certainly within the realm of being a bit of a mood killer.

If I'm not part of the reason for their enjoyment then what's the point. I don't just mean the orgasm, but sex in general. We both find pleasure in it or neither does.

Exactly, what actually is the point of sex anyway?!?

It feels fun Elf, promise!"

Sleeping is fun.

Watching Netflix is fun.

I think I have enough fun in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guidance yes, micro management and step by step no thanks.

Neither will hurt my ego, but the latter is certainly within the realm of being a bit of a mood killer.

If I'm not part of the reason for their enjoyment then what's the point. I don't just mean the orgasm, but sex in general. We both find pleasure in it or neither does.

Exactly, what actually is the point of sex anyway?!?

It feels fun Elf, promise!

Sleeping is fun.

Watching Netflix is fun.

I think I have enough fun in my life. "

Well readers as you can tell, this is going smoothly for me

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Guidance yes, micro management and step by step no thanks.

Neither will hurt my ego, but the latter is certainly within the realm of being a bit of a mood killer.

If I'm not part of the reason for their enjoyment then what's the point. I don't just mean the orgasm, but sex in general. We both find pleasure in it or neither does.

Exactly, what actually is the point of sex anyway?!?

It feels fun Elf, promise!

Sleeping is fun.

Watching Netflix is fun.

I think I have enough fun in my life.

Well readers as you can tell, this is going smoothly for me "

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You're wasting your time with 'these tall ones', Brucey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guidance yes, micro management and step by step no thanks.

Neither will hurt my ego, but the latter is certainly within the realm of being a bit of a mood killer.

If I'm not part of the reason for their enjoyment then what's the point. I don't just mean the orgasm, but sex in general. We both find pleasure in it or neither does.

Exactly, what actually is the point of sex anyway?!?

It feels fun Elf, promise!

Sleeping is fun.

Watching Netflix is fun.

I think I have enough fun in my life.

Well readers as you can tell, this is going smoothly for me

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You're wasting your time with 'these tall ones', Brucey.

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I can't be a waste of time when I have so much fun doing it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guidance yes, micro management and step by step no thanks.

Neither will hurt my ego, but the latter is certainly within the realm of being a bit of a mood killer.

If I'm not part of the reason for their enjoyment then what's the point. I don't just mean the orgasm, but sex in general. We both find pleasure in it or neither does.

Exactly, what actually is the point of sex anyway?!?

It feels fun Elf, promise!

Sleeping is fun.

Watching Netflix is fun.

I think I have enough fun in my life.

Well readers as you can tell, this is going smoothly for me

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You're wasting your time with 'these tall ones', Brucey.

Thanks

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"Guidance yes, micro management and step by step no thanks.

Neither will hurt my ego, but the latter is certainly within the realm of being a bit of a mood killer.

If I'm not part of the reason for their enjoyment then what's the point. I don't just mean the orgasm, but sex in general. We both find pleasure in it or neither does.

Exactly, what actually is the point of sex anyway?!?

It feels fun Elf, promise!

Sleeping is fun.

Watching Netflix is fun.

I think I have enough fun in my life.

Well readers as you can tell, this is going smoothly for me "

Swimmingly...God loves a trier, Bruce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guidance yes, micro management and step by step no thanks.

Neither will hurt my ego, but the latter is certainly within the realm of being a bit of a mood killer.

If I'm not part of the reason for their enjoyment then what's the point. I don't just mean the orgasm, but sex in general. We both find pleasure in it or neither does.

Exactly, what actually is the point of sex anyway?!?

It feels fun Elf, promise!

Sleeping is fun.

Watching Netflix is fun.

I think I have enough fun in my life.

Well readers as you can tell, this is going smoothly for me

Swimmingly...God loves a trier, Bruce.

Well I'm not blocked yet which is rare these days!

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By *ldFashionedGentMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"The female orgasm - so amazing and sadly so elusive!

Would you like to be told if what you’re doing isn’t going to make her cum?

This question is mainly to men who sleep with women but is open to anyone who wants to make their partner cum."

I’d encourage anyone to say out loud what’s working, what’s not and where you (as the receiver) want the focus to be. If the person you’re with cares they’ll be looking for signs and reactions but anyone who cares about your pleasure won’t mind that you’ve helped guide them, they’ll thank you for it (or at least I would)

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By *ldFashionedGentMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Great question OP..

It's all about pressure free communication. "

This answer - much better than mine and makes complete sense

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By *he MinionMan
over a year ago

Always grateful for help. The way I look at it is this. I want the lady to enjoy every second I am with her so if what I am doing isnt doing it for her then yes I would want to be told. I actually find it quite a turn on being told to do this or do that, by a woman. I dont see it as an attack on my abilities in anyway. All women are different.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I’d like to be told but to be fair it’s pretty evident if something isn’t working. Xx you would be amazed how many guys don't notice

Oh I can imagine, but surely it’s simple, when someone is into it the movement, the moans, the breath changes. If they’re not then it’s so easy to tell xx"
I don't make a sound when I orgasm properly lol x

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"Guidance yes, micro management and step by step no thanks.

Neither will hurt my ego, but the latter is certainly within the realm of being a bit of a mood killer.

If I'm not part of the reason for their enjoyment then what's the point. I don't just mean the orgasm, but sex in general. We both find pleasure in it or neither does.

Exactly, what actually is the point of sex anyway?!?

It feels fun Elf, promise!

Sleeping is fun.

Watching Netflix is fun.

I think I have enough fun in my life.

Well readers as you can tell, this is going smoothly for me

Swimmingly...God loves a trier, Bruce.

Well I'm not blocked yet which is rare these days!"

That's my measure of success too...

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By *icktMan
over a year ago

hockley

"I’d like to be told but to be fair it’s pretty evident if something isn’t working. Xx you would be amazed how many guys don't notice

Oh I can imagine, but surely it’s simple, when someone is into it the movement, the moans, the breath changes. If they’re not then it’s so easy to tell xx I don't make a sound when I orgasm properly lol x"

But that in itself is still a sign, you would tell that you’re into it I’m sure. Do you hold your breath? Xx

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I’d like to be told but to be fair it’s pretty evident if something isn’t working. Xx you would be amazed how many guys don't notice

But that in itself is still a sign, you would tell that you’re into it I’m sure. Do you hold your breath? Xx"
thing is. As I get quiet.. guys assume that they are doing something wrong. So change what they are doing... I have told them. Although it's not an issue for fab meets

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By *icktMan
over a year ago

hockley

"I’d like to be told but to be fair it’s pretty evident if something isn’t working. Xx you would be amazed how many guys don't notice

But that in itself is still a sign, you would tell that you’re into it I’m sure. Do you hold your breath? Xx thing is. As I get quiet.. guys assume that they are doing something wrong. So change what they are doing... I have told them. Although it's not an issue for fab meets"

Oh I definitely wouldn’t stop. I’m sure from your pics and how you come across i would know if you was enjoying it. My mind is wandering now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I don't much have sex with women but see you play sub...

I usually find me/him/her asking (begging) a rather fun part of that kind of play. "Please, (please, please...) do X" is a much hotter message to hear than "Please don't bother with Y it's not effectual", no?

We're all basically like children (and your preferred age range even more so). If you take away one toy instantly replace it with another to distract

If you ever wanna laugh about how awful these conversations can be my inbox is open - I am the all about misdirected efforts

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