FabSwingers.com forum: 3 things we want as parents from our kids

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A visit, A Hug, and a Phone call . Happy with that are you . ?

morning everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works both ways though, you as parents know where we live too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A visit, A Hug, and a Phone call . Happy with that are you . ?

morning everyone

Morning yes ,but add i love you Mam and.im very happy

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Swanage

Money

Silence

Money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It works both ways though, you as parents know where we live too!"

I don't know where you live.The judge said not to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuddles

Happy tail wags

Excitement of chasing a ball

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A visit, A Hug, and a Phone call . Happy with that are you . ?

morning everyone

I see my dad for dinner each week, call throughout the week. Hug a kiss and tell him I love him whenever we meet/leave.

Mum's in Athens. I call and message couple times a week and surprised her there in August 2021.

Am I a good son (apart from all my other shortcomings)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cuddles

Happy tail wags

Excitement of chasing a ball

You have baby werewolves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That she doesn’t use me as a role model so much as she does better then I managed to

Otherwise a smile and hug would be great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It works both ways though, you as parents know where we live too!"

That's very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To come home on time.

Not have to be collected from a police station 60 miles away.

Pick me a decent care home.

I wait with baited breath on the 3rd one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A visit, A Hug, and a Phone call . Happy with that are you . ?

morning everyone

I see my dad for dinner each week, call throughout the week. Hug a kiss and tell him I love him whenever we meet/leave.

Mum's in Athens. I call and message couple times a week and surprised her there in August 2021.

Am I a good son (apart from all my other shortcomings) "

From a mother with three sons,your a really good son

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A visit, A Hug, and a Phone call . Happy with that are you . ?

morning everyone

I see my dad for dinner each week, call throughout the week. Hug a kiss and tell him I love him whenever we meet/leave.

Mum's in Athens. I call and message couple times a week and surprised her there in August 2021.

Am I a good son (apart from all my other shortcomings)

From a mother with three sons,your a really good son

Ha don't know why I suddenly needed confirmation of that. But thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Mam is 87,I try and spend every weekend staying at hers,we always say I love you before going to bed,and I call her everyday ending the call with I love you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A visit, A Hug, and a Phone call . Happy with that are you . ?

morning everyone

I see my dad for dinner each week, call throughout the week. Hug a kiss and tell him I love him whenever we meet/leave.

Mum's in Athens. I call and message couple times a week and surprised her there in August 2021.

Am I a good son (apart from all my other shortcomings)

From a mother with three sons,your a really good son

Ha don't know why I suddenly needed confirmation of that. But thank you "

It is nice to hear it off others though your welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My Mam is 87,I try and spend every weekend staying at hers,we always say I love you before going to bed,and I call her everyday ending the call with I love you"

You only get one mum i like having a catch up with them too!. I got lucky and step dad's a bonus dad.

Actual dad has operation tomorrow to remove his cancerous prostate.

Probably something to do with it.

That isn't why I mentioned having a spare dad!

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

To sleep through the night

Greater self reliance

To remember to flush the toilet every time

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"To sleep through the night

Greater self reliance

To remember to flush the toilet every time"

Oh, and if I may have a fourth choice. To stop catching every sodding bug going through that disease ridden school and passing it on to me

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Love

Love x

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

"To sleep through the night

Greater self reliance

To remember to flush the toilet every time

Oh, and if I may have a fourth choice. To stop catching every sodding bug going through that disease ridden school and passing it on to me"

I see we have similar aged children

Stop bringing home the plague

Go to sleep at a reasonable time

Pick your stuff up off the floor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A visit, A Hug, and a Phone call . Happy with that are you . ?

morning everyone

Mine's not moved out yet. He hasn't hugged me for years, doubt him moving out will change that! Visit and phone call, maybe

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By *eastXMan
over a year ago

London

It is the connection that really matters. To be able to communicate and bridge gaps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about Mother in Law…….My friend said to be his mother in law was an Angel ……..I told him he was lucky….mine is still alive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about Mother in Law…….My friend said to be his mother in law was an Angel ……..I told him he was lucky….mine is still alive

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By *oublethefunMan
over a year ago

royston

Honesty, respect and communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently lost my parents. One passed a while ago, the other a few weeks.

Reading these replies moved me to tears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye one Mam,my Dad's passed so I make everyday count with Mam

I hope that your Dsds operation goes well

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"A visit, A Hug, and a Phone call . Happy with that are you . ?

morning everyone

A hug?! What are we animals? That's what handshakes and fist pumps were invented for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aye one Mam,my Dad's passed so I make everyday count with Mam

I hope that your Dsds operation goes well"

Thank you. Should be OK. He's 70 so is a bit worried. I'm seeing him.later then sometime.after tomorrow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A visit, A Hug, and a Phone call . Happy with that are you . ?

morning everyone

A hug?! What are we animals? That's what handshakes and fist pumps were invented for?"

I tried chest bumping my mum and knocked her behind the sofa.

Hugs safer.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Recently lost my parents. One passed a while ago, the other a few weeks.

Reading these replies moved me to tears."

Been there my friend. Time does make it a bit easier. Write feelings down. It's amazing to be able to go back to it and relearn how deep some feelings can be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Recently lost my parents. One passed a while ago, the other a few weeks.

Reading these replies moved me to tears."

Sorry to hear that mate!!

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

"Recently lost my parents. One passed a while ago, the other a few weeks.

Reading these replies moved me to tears."

I'm sorry for your terrible loss x

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"A visit, A Hug, and a Phone call . Happy with that are you . ?

morning everyone

Seriously though. Any or all the above would all be nice. I'm seeing mine tonight which I'm really looking forward to. Simple things.

I'd add...

To be appreciated, respected and valued by them...and the occasional contact that I've not been completely forgotten about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Recently lost my parents. One passed a while ago, the other a few weeks.

Reading these replies moved me to tears.

Been there my friend. Time does make it a bit easier. Write feelings down. It's amazing to be able to go back to it and relearn how deep some feelings can be. "

Thanks

Im thnking of doing a similar thing, speaking into my phone and getting my thoughts down that way.

This recent loss hit hard as neither are around now.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Malmesbury

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Malmesbury

"A visit, A Hug, and a Phone call . Happy with that are you . ?

morning everyone

If I was being cynical; I'd say the hug is purely for them to reach around you to take your wallet from your back pocket,

The phone call to ask for yet another favour.

And the visit is to get their washing done

Three things I'd like:

For the floor not to be turned into a floor-drobe.

My savings account not to become their spending account.

And my fridge and pantry to be turned into famin areas.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Nice thread. Makes us realise how lucky we are to have had or still have that closeness. Some people don't. Regret nothing.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Recently lost my parents. One passed a while ago, the other a few weeks.

Reading these replies moved me to tears.

Been there my friend. Time does make it a bit easier. Write feelings down. It's amazing to be able to go back to it and relearn how deep some feelings can be.

Thanks

Im thnking of doing a similar thing, speaking into my phone and getting my thoughts down that way.

This recent loss hit hard as neither are around now."

It's amazing how much we leaned on them isn't it? Even if it was only leaning on their presence. Its different for everyone I appreciate that. Best of luck with the next part of your journey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was being cynical; I'd say the hug is purely for them to reach around you to take your wallet from your back pocket,

The phone call to ask for yet another favour.

And the visit is to get their washing done

So much this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Recently lost my parents. One passed a while ago, the other a few weeks.

Reading these replies moved me to tears.

Been there my friend. Time does make it a bit easier. Write feelings down. It's amazing to be able to go back to it and relearn how deep some feelings can be.

Thanks

Im thnking of doing a similar thing, speaking into my phone and getting my thoughts down that way.

This recent loss hit hard as neither are around now.

It's amazing how much we leaned on them isn't it? Even if it was only leaning on their presence. Its different for everyone I appreciate that. Best of luck with the next part of your journey. "

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

3 things I want from my mother:

1) Nothing

2) Her to stay away

3) To never see her again

From my Dad

1, 2 & 3) Nothing because he has dementia and he needs us to help him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things I want from my parents when they visit me

Bring food

Knock because I might be busy

Bring food

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Things I want from my parents when they visit me

Bring food

Knock because I might be busy

Bring food "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect.

To always try their best at whatever they do.

To be able to talk about any issues they may encounter.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

There was a great book with the title along the lines "children are only guests who are asking for the way"

I thought that encapsulated the role model aspect and the temporary window of opportunity we have as parents to set a decent example of human behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect, honesty and hugs.

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