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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve been using fab for a few months now. I’ve messaged a few members and very rarely get a reply. I understand it’s like 500:1 but I must be doing something really wrong. I usually tell them what attracted me to their profile and tell them the basics about me. I send a recent selfie, I don’t think I’m that ugly any tips on what to message would be really helpful…………

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

Maybe take a look at your own profile and ask if you’ve put enough for someone to be able to say what it is about you that would interest them. For me I’m always wary of male profiles that cannot accommodate as it’s usually an indicator of them being attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are you setting up, to get a response to?

Do you ask questions?

What questions do you ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why rely solely on this site, get out into the swinging scene in person, go to clubs and social events.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I would definitely have a look to see if you would respond to your own message OP and most definitely work on your profile. What you’re looking for, what you have to offer etc. Maybe have a look at some of those profiles from forumites for inspiration? Good luck though and remember. Rome wasn’t built in a day

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good point, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would definitely have a look to see if you would respond to your own message OP and most definitely work on your profile. What you’re looking for, what you have to offer etc. Maybe have a look at some of those profiles from forumites for inspiration? Good luck though and remember. Rome wasn’t built in a day "

Like my profile?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"I would definitely have a look to see if you would respond to your own message OP and most definitely work on your profile. What you’re looking for, what you have to offer etc. Maybe have a look at some of those profiles from forumites for inspiration? Good luck though and remember. Rome wasn’t built in a day

Like my profile?"

Obvs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I definitely should asks a question, that will help the conversation thank you

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Good point, thank you"

Ps. If you press reply+quote we will know who you’re replying to in the thread. Welcome to the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we not just make a Wikipedia page for these category of posts ?

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By *burns7Man
over a year ago

walsall


"Good point, thank you

Ps. If you press reply+quote we will know who you’re replying to in the thread. Welcome to the forum "

Watch her she’s dangerous

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Good point, thank you

Ps. If you press reply+quote we will know who you’re replying to in the thread. Welcome to the forum

Watch her she’s dangerous "

Not all the time

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Hey OP, appreciate I’m not your target audience but many women on here will check your profile before reading your message. If they don’t like what they see there, it’s curtains old sausage.

By no means is my profile a benchmark, but check out some others for inspiration (don’t copy - your profile should reflect you).

The bio is very thin so tell people a bit about yourself and what you like and are seeking.

Not really sure why there’s a picture of your foot?! And three pictures are fairly similar. Try to introduce a bit of variety. Maybe lose the slightly ‘woe is me’ status.

Three months is minutes on fab. Settle in and get to know people first. It’s not an instant fuckfest.

Good luck pal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, I wasn’t expecting all this constructive feed back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why rely solely on this site, get out into the swinging scene in person, go to clubs and social events."

i would second that

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek


"Can we not just make a Wikipedia page for these category of posts ?"
That would just be too easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can we not just make a Wikipedia page for these category of posts ?"

Give me a six figure salary and I tell you what you want to hear. No take backies though

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

If you are looking for a more friendly, warm experience rather than wham-bam sex, then it helps to put humour on your profile.

Adding a dose of the self-deprecating variety can go a long way to breaking the ice and deflating pretentions, and endearing yourself to women on the lookout for something more substantial.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like so many, you're ignoring the fact that just because you are attracted to them, doesn't mean they are going to be attracted to you.

Really, ask yourself what your expectations and assumptions about fab were when you joined.

So many seem to be of the assumption that those who are on fab will shag anyone and everyone who asks.

Welcome to the real world.

Now that we've got that out of the way, let's look at what you're doing.

You have to remember that pretty much everyone that you message will check out your prifile before even thinking about looking at what you've sent them. Not that you'll know half the time, as most do so in mode.

If they're not impressed with what they see, why even bother looking at your message?

Remember, try to think of your message, from the recipients point of view, as one of those local takeaway menus that gets shoved through your door.

You didn't ask for it. Might be completely not to your taste.

Do you phone the establishment to thank them for dropping it off but that you're not interested?

Of course you don't. Nobody owes you a reply.

Now, as for your profile, well, there really isn't an awful lot to go on, is there?

Try and ask yourself if you visited a profile like yours, what would you get from the bio?

Would what you read make you interested in meeting them?

You'll notice how many points I've made so far without mentioning what you look like. It's not a question of being ugly or not. Different people find different things attractive. You will likely appeal to somebody, but it might take some time to find those few who you do appeal to.

If you're looking for a quick shag, you're in the wrong place

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Can we not just make a Wikipedia page for these category of posts ?"

lol!

Mate there's loads of information all over the internet on how to pique a woman's interests personality wise and sexually-wise.

Unfortunately porn and video games to do not provide this information.

If you are an introvert, it's even worse because you never get any practice.

If you are a neurodivergent introvert ( like I was) it's the worst because not only do you not get any practice, your brain wiring doesn't let you know that you are putting most people off.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Thanks everyone, I wasn’t expecting all this constructive feed back"

I will admit that there is nothing on your profile that makes you stand out from the thousands of men within a 10-mile radius of where I live.

This is an exercise in finding out what makes women tick.

I've dated all different kinds of men. The one thing that stands out is at least some confidence in their own uniqueness and personality.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Like so many, you're ignoring the fact that just because you are attracted to them, doesn't mean they are going to be attracted to you.

Really, ask yourself what your expectations and assumptions about fab were when you joined.

So many seem to be of the assumption that those who are on fab will shag anyone and everyone who asks.

Welcome to the real world.

Now that we've got that out of the way, let's look at what you're doing.

You have to remember that pretty much everyone that you message will check out your prifile before even thinking about looking at what you've sent them. Not that you'll know half the time, as most do so in mode.

If they're not impressed with what they see, why even bother looking at your message?

Remember, try to think of your message, from the recipients point of view, as one of those local takeaway menus that gets shoved through your door.

You didn't ask for it. Might be completely not to your taste.

Do you phone the establishment to thank them for dropping it off but that you're not interested?

Of course you don't. Nobody owes you a reply.

Now, as for your profile, well, there really isn't an awful lot to go on, is there?

Try and ask yourself if you visited a profile like yours, what would you get from the bio?

Would what you read make you interested in meeting them?

You'll notice how many points I've made so far without mentioning what you look like. It's not a question of being ugly or not. Different people find different things attractive. You will likely appeal to somebody, but it might take some time to find those few who you do appeal to.

If you're looking for a quick shag, you're in the wrong place

"

Bro, did you just compare the dude's profile to a rando takeaway menu?

The men on Fab want a cheeky takeaway and the women on Fab want the Michelin restaurant treatment. Lol! I'm creasing. Mars and Venus and it's a miracle that some people end up in heterosexual partnerships.

I love Fab it brightens my daily drudgery. Lol!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"I would definitely have a look to see if you would respond to your own message OP and most definitely work on your profile. What you’re looking for, what you have to offer etc. Maybe have a look at some of those profiles from forumites for inspiration? Good luck though and remember. Rome wasn’t built in a day

Like my profile?"

At least from your profile pics, I can tell that you are a funny creative guy.

Apparently women love a man who can make them laugh and I personally have a soft spot for creatives.

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