FabSwingers.com forum: Positivity and all that good stuff

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OK. I'm about to step outside the front door. I haven't been out for seven weeks. The anxiety is firmly set in. The shakes the sweats the fear the blurred vision But I have to do it.

Wish me luck that I don't step in dog shit and could you send some positivity my way so i dont get twenty steps and turn back

Please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK. I'm about to step outside the front door. I haven't been out for seven weeks. The anxiety is firmly set in. The shakes the sweats the fear the blurred vision But I have to do it.

Wish me luck that I don't step in dog shit and could you send some positivity my way so i dont get twenty steps and turn back

Please

*Arnold Schwarzenegger voice* you can do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here for ya!! Hope it goes ok.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Even if you only manage 20 steps, it’s better than nothing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whatever happens, you've taken the first step OP. you're amazing

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I believe you can do this, you are amazing and amazing people can do anything

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"OK. I'm about to step outside the front door. I haven't been out for seven weeks. The anxiety is firmly set in. The shakes the sweats the fear the blurred vision But I have to do it.

Wish me luck that I don't step in dog shit and could you send some

positivity my way so i dont get

twenty steps and turn back

Please

Don't worry I've got your back and your front given the opportunity and

You pass my shyness course agrophobi is cover also in the course also dog shit avoidence .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if you only manage 20 steps, it’s better than nothing!

Well said , baby steps . All the best OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I did it 1561 steps. Having a melt down sweat and can't see properly but i did it

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How stupid I'm crying

Thanks for the great messages x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Well done OP, that's fantastic.

Hope those steps keep increasing for you. x

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Well done feel free to message me

My thread may have been in fun but

I know a number of women who have suffered like you have and I've manage to empower them .

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

So pleased for you, massive achievement.

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm

You smashed that. 1561 steps. Thats a significant adventure and you should be very proud of yourself.

I know the feeling where the world beyond the door creates so much mental trauma.

You can do it, you did it. You survived. You will survive again too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did it 1561 steps. Having a melt down sweat and can't see properly but i did it

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How stupid I'm crying

Thanks for the great messages x"

That's not stupid, it's brilliant!!! Woohoooo!!

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"I did it 1561 steps. Having a melt down sweat and can't see properly but i did it

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How stupid I'm crying

Thanks for the great messages x"

1561 victories right there.

Very well done OP.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"I did it 1561 steps. Having a melt down sweat and can't see properly but i did it

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How stupid I'm crying

Thanks for the great messages x"

You absolute star! Sending high fives and fist bumps.

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By *izredCouple
over a year ago

mid cornwall

"I did it 1561 steps. Having a melt down sweat and can't see properly but i did it

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How stupid I'm crying

Thanks for the great messages x"

Future you loves what you have already achieved today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That first step is always the hardest OP,I've been where you are

Well done,so what if your crying ,you did it,be proud of you because wr all are x

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"I did it 1561 steps. Having a melt down sweat and can't see properly but i did it

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How stupid I'm crying

Thanks for the great messages x"

Bossed it, well done

Sorry it's so fucking cold, I gave up at 500, called a taxi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending all that positivity and love that we can!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks peeps, I've been struggling with it way way way before Covid was announced but still pushed myself to go to the local shop for electric and gas and then it all happened so i stopped. And just opening the door for online food shop or parcels i have had to count out loud as something to focus on and not the door being open.

But I can't do that anymore, can't feel like use walls are closing in.

So thank you again

This place/forums can have it's ups and downs, it makes me laugh out loud though, all completely batty! but sometimes the kindness of strangers overwhelms me ??

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Just seen this. How did it go, OP? Hopefully you did manage to get out a bit? Sending best wishes that you are able to move forward

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks peeps, I've been struggling with it way way way before Covid was announced but still pushed myself to go to the local shop for electric and gas and then it all happened so i stopped. And just opening the door for online food shop or parcels i have had to count out loud as something to focus on and not the door being open.

But I can't do that anymore, can't feel like use walls are closing in.

So thank you again

This place/forums can have it's ups and downs, it makes me laugh out loud though, all completely batty! but sometimes the kindness of strangers overwhelms me ??"

*not bloody question marks*

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I hope the weather is as beautiful as it is here in Reading. The sun always makes things better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just seen this. How did it go, OP? Hopefully you did manage to get out a bit? Sending best wishes that you are able to move forward

I did. 6am noone's about. Got my energy voucher last night so was determined this morning to make the walk. Head down, counted the steps, in the shop, gals behind the counter know I'm like this so let me sit on the kick stool while I breathe out my 'panic' then count the steps back home. Door bolted. Cry. Breathe it out. Then the good feeling comes. Haha not that you wanted to know alllll that. But thanks for asking x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Just seen this. How did it go, OP? Hopefully you did manage to get out a bit? Sending best wishes that you are able to move forward

That sounds like a positive trip out, even if it involved a bit of crying. Keep on keeping on

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

"I did it 1561 steps. Having a melt down sweat and can't see properly but i did it

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How stupid I'm crying

Thanks for the great messages x"

Not stupid at all, its an achievement and well done for doing it.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Lovely sunshine and not too cold for a while op, hopefully we might skip winter this year.

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By *rolicUsCouple
over a year ago

Alluringly mysterious

"Just seen this. How did it go, OP? Hopefully you did manage to get out a bit? Sending best wishes that you are able to move forward

I hope you really let the pride in your courage sink in.

This is a big news day. Doesn’t matter how you felt or how it went but you did it.

I don’t know you but that takes massive lady balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't underestimate your achievement! Definitely celebrate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So just to bump my own thread. I just did another step outside. I'm exhausted, in sheer panic, sweating like a ballsack, but I'm home, door locked, crying like a sop but

I did it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whoop!!!

You are a rockstar

Proud fab family right here

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Never be ashamed of your emotions - you are doing amazing and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!! One day at a time, one step at a time

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By *rolicUsCouple
over a year ago

Alluringly mysterious

"So just to bump my own thread. I just did another step outside. I'm exhausted, in sheer panic, sweating like a ballsack, but I'm home, door locked, crying like a sop but

I did it

BOOYAA MOFO YEEHHAAA!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks peeps

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Well done. Anxiety can be crippling.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Well done you OP

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By *immyg88Man
over a year ago

Wrexham

Go you!!!!!!

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By *ilkstressWoman
over a year ago

Drasnia

You are amazing! Well done OP!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

First walk of March. Hopefully won't be the last. 1600 something steps i lost the count when bus went past but

I did it

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"First walk of March. Hopefully won't be the last. 1600 something steps i lost the count when bus went past but

I did it

Your doing great well done .

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"First walk of March. Hopefully won't be the last. 1600 something steps i lost the count when bus went past but

I did it

This is a good Monday update, yess

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"First walk of March. Hopefully won't be the last. 1600 something steps i lost the count when bus went past but

I did it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I am bumping my own thread, no its not to get attention as I am lacking, I don't want it lol.

It's September. Months from when I took that shaky first step out the door and I am proud of getting walks in each month. I was going early morning and have done a few late as its dark and there's no one around. I've done a couple of walks at this time to get out of my comfort zone as its light out but have been scared back in from kids being, well, kids.

I won't put headphones in as I need to be aware of what is going on around me but

I need some positivity please, something to tell myself, maybe a mantra? Or something that will help because I haven't been out because of the heat but now its cooler tonight

I want to go for a walk now and there's kids outside

Any advice please

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"Yes I am bumping my own thread, no its not to get attention as I am lacking, I don't want it lol.

I won't put headphones in as I need to be aware of what is going on around me but

I need some positivity please, something to tell myself, maybe a mantra? Or something that will help because I haven't been out because of the heat but now its cooler tonight

I want to go for a walk now and there's kids outside

Any advice please

What age are the kids x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes I am bumping my own thread, no its not to get attention as I am lacking, I don't want it lol.

I won't put headphones in as I need to be aware of what is going on around me but

I need some positivity please, something to tell myself, maybe a mantra? Or something that will help because I haven't been out because of the heat but now its cooler tonight

I want to go for a walk now and there's kids outside

Any advice please

What age are the kids x"

Maybe 8 upto 13

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"Yes I am bumping my own thread, no its not to get attention as I am lacking, I don't want it lol.

I won't put headphones in as I need to be aware of what is going on around me but

I need some positivity please, something to tell myself, maybe a mantra? Or something that will help because I haven't been out because of the heat but now its cooler tonight

I want to go for a walk now and there's kids outside

Any advice please

What age are the kids x

Maybe 8 upto 13"

Wrap a hair band round your arm for distraction twanging and walk straight past them, ignoring them, fake chatting on your phone can help focus your attention away from them, kids seek reactions, be boring and they soon bugger off, older kids are a different Kettle of fish though. Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes I am bumping my own thread, no its not to get attention as I am lacking, I don't want it lol.

I won't put headphones in as I need to be aware of what is going on around me but

I need some positivity please, something to tell myself, maybe a mantra? Or something that will help because I haven't been out because of the heat but now its cooler tonight

I want to go for a walk now and there's kids outside

Any advice please

What age are the kids x

Maybe 8 upto 13

I will try the hairband thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Omg it works

I played with the band while I walked past them and didn't focus on them and the mucking about they did. On the way back they were still loud and mucking but I focused again on the band

And now home and emotional as always

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"Omg it works

I played with the band while I walked past them and didn't focus on them and the mucking about they did. On the way back they were still loud and mucking but I focused again on the band

And now home and emotional as always

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Omg it works

I played with the band while I walked past them and didn't focus on them and the mucking about they did. On the way back they were still loud and mucking but I focused again on the band

And now home and emotional as always

Great to read you had a positive walk out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Omg it works

I played with the band while I walked past them and didn't focus on them and the mucking about they did. On the way back they were still loud and mucking but I focused again on the band

And now home and emotional as always

This is brilliant!!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Omg it works

I played with the band while I walked past them and didn't focus on them and the mucking about they did. On the way back they were still loud and mucking but I focused again on the band

And now home and emotional as always

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Bumping this for the congratulations and praise.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Omg it works

I played with the band while I walked past them and didn't focus on them and the mucking about they did. On the way back they were still loud and mucking but I focused again on the band

And now home and emotional as always

You did so well!

Well done

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Omg it works

I played with the band while I walked past them and didn't focus on them and the mucking about they did. On the way back they were still loud and mucking but I focused again on the band

And now home and emotional as always

This is epic, I have similar issues. You can get rings that have beads on them to play with when your feeling anxious. Hair bands are good and do use them, but I found the rings a bit more discrete.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks peeps xx

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By *immyg88Man
36 weeks ago

Wrexham

Keep this going

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