FabSwingers.com forum: When you have had or are having

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you are having a shitty day or you have had a shitty day when you are just bleurgh and fucked off, do you have someone who you know no matter what will have their ear for you, that person whos just there?

I have had what I call a bitch of a day and I feel blue.

I have spoken to my confidant and I feel a bit better, bath and an early night for me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not consistently, no. Which isn’t great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

I tend to just mouth off a bit in my head. Generally works.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just refer to my best friend bacardi

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I think I’m more of the listening ear for others OP if I’m honest. Hope you’re ok and enjoy your early night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t say that I do…. But I rely on other methods to re focus….

Always willing to lend an ear though if anyone requires a vent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do and I’m very lucky to have that special someone

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Nope, I’m a bloke and I keep that shit in a sealed jar buried deep deep within. The anger then pops up when some twat cuts me up in their company BMW

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Thankfully I have Mr. He always makes me feel better.

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope, i actually don't have anyone.

although i do have a teddy that i cry into frequently, if that counts.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yep. Quite lucky really. Unfortunate for them but yes. Generally I'm there for others who are having shit days but it's nice knowing that if things are really bad I have a handful of people I can talk to openly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do have the wife who is my rock but sometimes I need to talk to someone else x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Not really. I don't like fake sympathy or burdening people with my woes, and if I told my long term buddy he'd suggest a blow job to make me feel better.

I used to chat to my mum when I was down; but not tell her.

She's gone now so I meet my sister for lunch, but I don't tell her I'm struggling.

I make sure my girls can tell me anything, but my boy rarely chats about how he feels.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

People often say I'm a good listener, and they've told me things they haven’t told anyone before.

Maybe a good listener can't be a good talker.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I just refer to my best friend bacardi"

Not too deep a relationship, I hope x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I find it very hard to open up but I've come to a deal with my professionals and my close friends. I just have to say I'm struggling and they are there for me. Its really hard for me to say those words but I'm getting better

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

No, I don’t, I just bottle it up until it explodes in not always glamorous ways.

Sorry you’ve had a shitty day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, I don’t, I just bottle it up until it explodes in not always glamorous ways.

Sorry you’ve had a shitty day."

thank you ill be ok xx

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

I do when I let people in and tell them the whole situation/story!

Sometimes I just toughen it out by myself and be sad!

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"No, I don’t, I just bottle it up until it explodes in not always glamorous ways. "

You can message me anytime, you know. (Not promising it’ll stop you from exploding anyway though.)

"Sometimes I just toughen it out by myself and be sad! "

Y’know, I always think that sometimes just being sad is FINE. It’s a valid reaction to stuff. Trying to be okay all the damn time isn’t natural.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

"No, I don’t, I just bottle it up until it explodes in not always glamorous ways.

You can message me anytime, you know. (Not promising it’ll stop you from exploding anyway though.)

Sometimes I just toughen it out by myself and be sad!

Y’know, I always think that sometimes just being sad is FINE. It’s a valid reaction to stuff. Trying to be okay all the damn time isn’t natural."

Exactly, it's not healthy to show no emotion!

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By *hris I IsMan
over a year ago

Essex

I have two amazing Friends I have met in here over 5 years ago that we have got each other through so much over the years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I’m a bloke and I keep that shit in a sealed jar buried deep deep within. The anger then pops up when some twat cuts me up in their company BMW

Or Audi

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

I do! My best friend is always there whenever I need to vent or just simply bitch.

her to bits!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are having a shitty day or you have had a shitty day when you are just bleurgh and fucked off, do you have someone who you know no matter what will have their ear for you, that person whos just there?

I have had what I call a bitch of a day and I feel blue.

I have spoken to my confidant and I feel a bit better, bath and an early night for me xx

I have one friend who says I save her a fortune in therapy. Same applies the other way. She's my go to. She has known me the longest out of everyone I speak to. She knows me best. She gets me, she's understands me, and she's never judgemental, yet she's probably the only person who can bollock me too. I may not always be able to speak to her straight away but generally I can. She's awesome. And she really makes giggle too. Her sarcasm and humour will get me out if any bad mood/funk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I had one of those yesterday in the chat rooms. Just so fed up and blurted it out in the chat and left.. Maybe wrong I know, but feels so much better afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Mr, 100%! Or an old colleague, the Mr tends to know when I’ve had a bad day without me saying, but he’s always the voice of reason with me haha

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I'm incredibly lucky... They allow me to vent..... and then they make me laugh and then they totally build me up again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, my partner is always there and is so supportive. But if he's the one who has pissed me off I have nobody.

But luckily for me it's very rare that he will piss me off to the point I need to vent.

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Yes but sometimes I just need to be alone and work things out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had one of these days for a few days now, but I am very thankful for Mr. He just lets me get stuff off my chest, doesn't judge, doesn't criticise and has the patience of a saint. We aren't together this evening because of work etc, but he just listened to me on the phone and I felt so much better after. I never take him for granted

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do sort of yes. We dump bad days on each other and it helps to get a different perspective on a problem.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I'm currently in a 'confidante deficit'. I require one. The best ones are like the rarest of all earth metals.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I have quite a few! Good family, and fantastic friends I’ve known since school.

I even have a forum sweetheart who’s become a very good friend who gets my rambling voice notes almost daily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm currently in a 'confidante deficit'. I require one. The best ones are like the rarest of all earth metals."

They truly are yes. That is a good description

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do and I know that I am very lucky to have him and that he is always there if I need him.

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Nope just myself and my cat. Can get hard at times but what can we do x

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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Not really no….I like being the person someone can come to but I end up feeling bad if I go to someone saying I need their help/ear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got 2 things that keep my head fairly straight ,l like myself and others to be safe and happy, not always easy to achieve l suppose. The rest is gravy ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, is ready to hear all my problems, unless they’d charge me by the hour.

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By *ustincider888Man
over a year ago

Preston Ish

When I've had a shit one I prefer to sink a few alcoholic beverages and enjoy my own company which strangely enough is exactly how I like my good days.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes my bestie of over 40 years! Can tell each other anything and everything! X

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No I never rely on other people. That’s a recipe for disaster and drama.

The mr

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