FabSwingers.com forum: It is just words... isn't it?

By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Following on from a thread about how people refer to themselves and their preferences, which words people use bring out the worst and the best in you?

I know this or similar has been done before but..... I am asking why you find it off putting or attractive because I am more interested in the association with the word (s)

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Words are both powerful and weak.

Words alone are nothing, they should not hurt us nor uplift it.

Context and intent are what give words their power.

So I'm generally unphased by such things unless their context and intent are enforcing the words.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Words are both powerful and weak.

Words alone are nothing, they should not hurt us nor uplift it.

Context and intent are what give words their power.

So I'm generally unphased by such things unless their context and intent are enforcing the words. "

What about words whose widely known meaning is largely negative?

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Words are both powerful and weak.

Words alone are nothing, they should not hurt us nor uplift it.

Context and intent are what give words their power.

So I'm generally unphased by such things unless their context and intent are enforcing the words. "

I agree by and large that words should not upset without their context and intent ...but they do for many.

I believe that it goes a bit deeper and often relates to specific experiences we have had that make us like/ dislike a word. So for me as a trivial example words like "cum slut" or "spunk bucket" are such an example, to a point that if they were on somebody's profile or in a message from them, it would stop me from wanting to meet a person.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Words are both powerful and weak.

Words alone are nothing, they should not hurt us nor uplift it.

Context and intent are what give words their power.

So I'm generally unphased by such things unless their context and intent are enforcing the words.

What about words whose widely known meaning is largely negative? "

George Carlin "they are only words" take a look/listen

I can't quote him as it contains words that are banned and certainly not abroved of, and I don't want to cause offense to those that will take issue with those words. I may not find the words offensive in and of themselves (context and intent depending) but I know others do and that is fine.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Words are both powerful and weak.

Words alone are nothing, they should not hurt us nor uplift it.

Context and intent are what give words their power.

So I'm generally unphased by such things unless their context and intent are enforcing the words.

What about words whose widely known meaning is largely negative? "

I would probably distinguish between factually negative (somebody suffers a terrible illness) or words designed to offend (which is where intent comes in?)

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I get a bit twitchy in a negative way about 'snowflake' and 'woke'.

I generally feel positive about words individuals use to describe themselves in a good way

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I get a bit twitchy in a negative way about 'snowflake' and 'woke'.

I generally feel positive about words individuals use to describe themselves in a good way "

Do you mean if somebody uses the terms about a third person or if they are accusing you of being a "snowflake" or "woke"?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I get a bit twitchy in a negative way about 'snowflake' and 'woke'.

I generally feel positive about words individuals use to describe themselves in a good way

Do you mean if somebody uses the terms about a third person or if they are accusing you of being a "snowflake" or "woke"? "

In the third person. I'm not really bothered how people describe me, I know how I see myself and if others see me differently I can't help that.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Not a great fan of derogatory words or phrases, I get that some folks seem to get off on that but I just don't get it. To me it seems misogynistic and I'm not comfortable referring to or about women like that

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I get a bit twitchy in a negative way about 'snowflake' and 'woke'.

I generally feel positive about words individuals use to describe themselves in a good way

Do you mean if somebody uses the terms about a third person or if they are accusing you of being a "snowflake" or "woke"?

In the third person. I'm not really bothered how people describe me, I know how I see myself and if others see me differently I can't help that. "

I am the same actually, I don't care if I am described as woke but it makes me uneasy to hear it being used to describe other ways of thinking.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Not a great fan of derogatory words or phrases, I get that some folks seem to get off on that but I just don't get it. To me it seems misogynistic and I'm not comfortable referring to or about women like that"
And also about guys... I don't like certain terms used to talk about guys. It is unpleasant and for me reminiscent of a time when I was working in a very female dominated world, surprisingly.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I get a bit twitchy in a negative way about 'snowflake' and 'woke'.

I generally feel positive about words individuals use to describe themselves in a good way

Do you mean if somebody uses the terms about a third person or if they are accusing you of being a "snowflake" or "woke"?

In the third person. I'm not really bothered how people describe me, I know how I see myself and if others see me differently I can't help that.

I am the same actually, I don't care if I am described as woke but it makes me uneasy to hear it being used to describe other ways of thinking.

In fact being called woke or a snowflake by some people I take as the highest of compliments. It means they've recognised that our opinions are poles apart and that to me can only be a good thing

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Following on from a thread about how people refer to themselves and their preferences, which words people use bring out the worst and the best in you?

I know this or similar has been done before but..... I am asking why you find it off putting or attractive because I am more interested in the association with the word (s)"
People who insist on using the phrase 'like minded' on this site really you are like minded to me, i very much doubt it

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I get a bit twitchy in a negative way about 'snowflake' and 'woke'.

I generally feel positive about words individuals use to describe themselves in a good way

Do you mean if somebody uses the terms about a third person or if they are accusing you of being a "snowflake" or "woke"?

In the third person. I'm not really bothered how people describe me, I know how I see myself and if others see me differently I can't help that.

I am the same actually, I don't care if I am described as woke but it makes me uneasy to hear it being used to describe other ways of thinking.

In fact being called woke or a snowflake by some people I take as the highest of compliments. It means they've recognised that our opinions are poles apart and that to me can only be a good thing

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Spot on!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I get a bit twitchy in a negative way about 'snowflake' and 'woke'.

I generally feel positive about words individuals use to describe themselves in a good way "

Me too.

Someone I listen to uses all those kinds of words-including "pandemic" and "Brexshit".

His rants are phenomenal but he needs them.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

On the whole, I think it's a positive thing where people choose to describe themselves in a particular, positive light. The whole self deprecating coy thing can be great, very British but it's nice to see people owning who they are proudly. Stating what they like.

That being said... when there's a rather large disparity between behaviour and the word used to describe oneself, yep. I find it oddly discordant - like these jarring notes of utter minor chord nonsense to put it mildly. I liken it to describing myself as slim. Delusional at best.

But then, I'm also trying to remember I'm not bitch Meli anymore so I tend to not give it too much energy. I can disagree with it, not be a particular fan of a word and the slaphazard application because it's de rigueur for certain folk...

It doesn't really affect me though. So I try and focus more on the positive language.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Following on from a thread about how people refer to themselves and their preferences, which words people use bring out the worst and the best in you?

I know this or similar has been done before but..... I am asking why you find it off putting or attractive because I am more interested in the association with the word (s)People who insist on using the phrase 'like minded' on this site really you are like minded to me, i very much doubt it

Agree - makes you wonder, doesn't it

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Following on from a thread about how people refer to themselves and their preferences, which words people use bring out the worst and the best in you?

Agree - makes you wonder, doesn't it

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It does, i can just tell by some of the threads they start they just don't think as i do

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm not at all easily offended but there's a huge difference between unoffended and "not for me".

I dislike negativity and wouldn't be attracted to someone who is looking for women and referring to us as sluts or similar, as I see it as derogatory.

I do like positivity, so will be drawn to people who have that sort of outlook. Someone who says I'm interested in x,y or z, instead of saying what they don't like appeals to me much more.

It's not just what someone says but how.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I get a bit twitchy in a negative way about 'snowflake' and 'woke'.

I generally feel positive about words individuals use to describe themselves in a good way

Me too.

Someone I listen to uses all those kinds of words-including "pandemic" and "Brexshit".

His rants are phenomenal but he needs them.

That should have been "plandemic"

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