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"Having worked for the same business for 9 yrs, happily for the most part I was gutted when they relocated. Thursday was my first day at the new location and it became very apparent that it wasn't going to be practical making this journey by public transport. I knew it was the beginning of the end. I had the day off Friday and browsed the job sites, feeling a mix of emotions, mainly sadness and shit what am I going to do now. Lo and behold, I went to meet a fab friend Friday and at the hotel I asked ....are there any vacancies. To my utter amazement you are now looking at the new receptionist! I cannot believe it! I start Monday. I was going to pull a sickie for the week and see how the new job feels. But my problem is on a personal level I really like my manager and I am biting at the bit to tell her the truth. In my position would you come clean to your manager (who knows how difficult the new location will be) or take the week as sick leave and commit fully come the end of the week? " m Tell the truth and work your notice | |||
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"Having worked for the same business for 9 yrs, happily for the most part I was gutted when they relocated. Thursday was my first day at the new location and it became very apparent that it wasn't going to be practical making this journey by public transport. I knew it was the beginning of the end. I had the day off Friday and browsed the job sites, feeling a mix of emotions, mainly sadness and shit what am I going to do now. Lo and behold, I went to meet a fab friend Friday and at the hotel I asked ....are there any vacancies. To my utter amazement you are now looking at the new receptionist! I cannot believe it! I start Monday. I was going to pull a sickie for the week and see how the new job feels. But my problem is on a personal level I really like my manager and I am biting at the bit to tell her the truth. In my position would you come clean to your manager (who knows how difficult the new location will be) or take the week as sick leave and commit fully come the end of the week? " Be truthful. You and your conscience will be wrestling if you don't. | |||
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"Having worked for the same business for 9 yrs, happily for the most part I was gutted when they relocated. Thursday was my first day at the new location and it became very apparent that it wasn't going to be practical making this journey by public transport. I knew it was the beginning of the end. I had the day off Friday and browsed the job sites, feeling a mix of emotions, mainly sadness and shit what am I going to do now. Lo and behold, I went to meet a fab friend Friday and at the hotel I asked ....are there any vacancies. To my utter amazement you are now looking at the new receptionist! I cannot believe it! I start Monday. I was going to pull a sickie for the week and see how the new job feels. But my problem is on a personal level I really like my manager and I am biting at the bit to tell her the truth. In my position would you come clean to your manager (who knows how difficult the new location will be) or take the week as sick leave and commit fully come the end of the week? m Tell the truth and work your notice " if she’s a friend she is going to be more hurt your couldn’t face her and pulled a sickie. | |||
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"Take the week as sick. I wouldn't normally say that but in this situation I think you have to keep your options open " oh yes in case she doesn't like being a receptionist | |||
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"Take the week as sick. I wouldn't normally say that but in this situation I think you have to keep your options open " I wouldn't normally do it but I have to pit myself first. | |||
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"Take the week as sick. I wouldn't normally say that but in this situation I think you have to keep your options open I wouldn't normally do it but I have to pit myself first. " Yes and never forget that when it comes to it a business owner or manager will always out their business before their employee. | |||
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"Nope location location location its about time and money, if shes a friend she will understand "I'd like to think she would understand but I've seen her reaction when another colleague handed in her notice. My managers reaction wasn't great tbh. | |||
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"Take the week as sick. I wouldn't normally say that but in this situation I think you have to keep your options open oh yes in case she doesn't like being a receptionist "It is a receptionist position but also mucking in when needed, like behind the bar. I am very happy to do so.  | |||
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I’d come clean and get it over with.
It’s obvious you’re not going to make the new location work and it’ll only get more difficult to do.
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It's dependent on whether you need her for a future reference tbh. Saying No on the "would you employ again box" can be pretty damaging.
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"Nope location location location its about time and money, if shes a friend she will understand
I'd like to think she would understand but I've seen her reaction when another colleague handed in her notice. My managers reaction wasn't great tbh."Worry about yourself and your well being, rather than theirs. | |||
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"Having worked for the same business for 9 yrs, happily for the most part I was gutted when they relocated. Thursday was my first day at the new location and it became very apparent that it wasn't going to be practical making this journey by public transport. I knew it was the beginning of the end. I had the day off Friday and browsed the job sites, feeling a mix of emotions, mainly sadness and shit what am I going to do now. Lo and behold, I went to meet a fab friend Friday and at the hotel I asked ....are there any vacancies. To my utter amazement you are now looking at the new receptionist! I cannot believe it! I start Monday. I was going to pull a sickie for the week and see how the new job feels. But my problem is on a personal level I really like my manager and I am biting at the bit to tell her the truth. In my position would you come clean to your manager (who knows how difficult the new location will be) or take the week as sick leave and commit fully come the end of the week? " Taking a weeks holiday keeps you on the right side of a disciplinary of your current employer ever found out - probably too late to do now though as they could refuse the time off I get the thinking but sounds like this new position was just waiting for you to turn up | |||
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"Take the week as sick. I wouldn't normally say that but in this situation I think you have to keep your options open I wouldn't normally do it but I have to pit myself first. Yes and never forget that when it comes to it a business owner or manager will always out their business before their employee. " So true....I have seen how they have treated others, those who have had 20yrs service, they didn't think twice about getting rid of them and there have been a others too. You always know that really you are just a number but watching that made it really clear. They themselves have no loyalty to their staff. | |||
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"Take the week as sick. I wouldn't normally say that but in this situation I think you have to keep your options open I wouldn't normally do it but I have to pit myself first. Yes and never forget that when it comes to it a business owner or manager will always out their business before their employee. So true....I have seen how they have treated others, those who have had 20yrs service, they didn't think twice about getting rid of them and there have been a others too. You always know that really you are just a number but watching that made it really clear. They themselves have no loyalty to their staff. " I wasn't sure... but after reading this... pull the sickie. Brilliant news, hope the job is good. This has seriously made my day. Good luck OP.  | |||
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"Take the week as sick. I wouldn't normally say that but in this situation I think you have to keep your options open oh yes in case she doesn't like being a receptionist
It is a receptionist position but also mucking in when needed, like behind the bar. I am very happy to do so. "Well yes it can be a very social job but it can also be a very stressful job especially when a coach load is checking in and you're the only one there but good luck with new job hope you love it. My mate had a job in Fleet St in London he loved it they moved to Leeds he moved with them and still loves it. | |||
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"Having worked for the same business for 9 yrs, happily for the most part I was gutted when they relocated. Thursday was my first day at the new location and it became very apparent that it wasn't going to be practical making this journey by public transport. I knew it was the beginning of the end. I had the day off Friday and browsed the job sites, feeling a mix of emotions, mainly sadness and shit what am I going to do now. Lo and behold, I went to meet a fab friend Friday and at the hotel I asked ....are there any vacancies. To my utter amazement you are now looking at the new receptionist! I cannot believe it! I start Monday. I was going to pull a sickie for the week and see how the new job feels. But my problem is on a personal level I really like my manager and I am biting at the bit to tell her the truth. In my position would you come clean to your manager (who knows how difficult the new location will be) or take the week as sick leave and commit fully come the end of the week? " Pull a sickie I’m looking for new employment at the moment When I find one pull a sickie  | |||
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"Take the week as sick. I wouldn't normally say that but in this situation I think you have to keep your options open I wouldn't normally do it but I have to pit myself first. " Put you self first. But at the same time dont burn briges. Say you pull the sickness she finds out people do she will never have you back. But good luck for the future. P.S. You could ask her as a boss you have found something closer to home and want to try it. | |||
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"Take the week as sick. I wouldn't normally say that but in this situation I think you have to keep your options open oh yes in case she doesn't like being a receptionist
It is a receptionist position but also mucking in when needed, like behind the bar. I am very happy to do so. "So what are you doing at the moment I have worked in Hotels as an electrician and resuscitation is hard work and mucking can be just that do they do functions. | |||
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"Take the week as sick. I wouldn't normally say that but in this situation I think you have to keep your options open I wouldn't normally do it but I have to pit myself first. Yes and never forget that when it comes to it a business owner or manager will always out their business before their employee. So true....I have seen how they have treated others, those who have had 20yrs service, they didn't think twice about getting rid of them and there have been a others too. You always know that really you are just a number but watching that made it really clear. They themselves have no loyalty to their staff. I wasn't sure... but after reading this... pull the sickie. Brilliant news, hope the job is good. This has seriously made my day. Good luck OP. "Aww thank you so much ..I really appreciate it | |||
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"Do you have any holiday owing that you could take in lieu of the weeks notice. " No, not any. My year starts mid February. | |||
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"Take the week as sick. I wouldn't normally say that but in this situation I think you have to keep your options open oh yes in case she doesn't like being a receptionist
It is a receptionist position but also mucking in when needed, like behind the bar. I am very happy to do so.
So what are you doing at the moment I have worked in Hotels as an electrician and resuscitation is hard work and mucking can be just that do they do functions."I currently have an office job. I am not afraid of a bit if hard work. I looking forward to getting out from behind a keyboard. | |||
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"HR here, I’d read your old and current contracts carefully as you may be in breach if you’re working two jobs without declaring Mrs " Possibly yes, I would be. Sometimes though you got to do what you've got to do. And honestly I don't feel like I have a choice. I have confided in a work colleague. They have advised me to take 3 weeks sick....use 2 weeks to see if I want the job and the other week as notice. I have previously never been off sick for longer than 3 days. We don't get sick pay and I've never claimed it. | |||
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"Take the week as sick. I wouldn't normally say that but in this situation I think you have to keep your options open I wouldn't normally do it but I have to pit myself first. Put you self first. But at the same time dont burn briges. Say you pull the sickness she finds out people do she will never have you back. But good luck for the future. P.S. You could ask her as a boss you have found something closer to home and want to try it." I would rather not burn bridges but I think it's too late for that. | |||
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"I would work my notice period of time if a week or month. I think the above as a manager tells us something about the person. You never know when you may need someone either your current manager or business. I'd be open and honest about the reason's for leaving. After 9 year's I feel this is the best way. The location isn't going to change and unfortunately it doesn't work for you. Leave as you should holding your head up high. Knowing you did this for yourself the right way. Sx" Work are already aware of the impact that the change in location will have on me. Whilst they are sympathetic, as they put it there was bound to be some losers... unfortunately, I am one if them. If I tell her off the record them that puts her in an awkward position. And I know her, her loyalty to the business is strong and she can be ruthless. I wish now that I had said I could start the week after,...It's too late for that now. | |||
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"Having worked for the same business for 9 yrs, happily for the most part I was gutted when they relocated. Thursday was my first day at the new location and it became very apparent that it wasn't going to be practical making this journey by public transport. I knew it was the beginning of the end. I had the day off Friday and browsed the job sites, feeling a mix of emotions, mainly sadness and shit what am I going to do now. Lo and behold, I went to meet a fab friend Friday and at the hotel I asked ....are there any vacancies. To my utter amazement you are now looking at the new receptionist! I cannot believe it! I start Monday. I was going to pull a sickie for the week and see how the new job feels. But my problem is on a personal level I really like my manager and I am biting at the bit to tell her the truth. In my position would you come clean to your manager (who knows how difficult the new location will be) or take the week as sick leave and commit fully come the end of the week? m Tell the truth and work your notice if she’s a friend she is going to be more hurt your couldn’t face her and pulled a sickie. " I know she will...tbh this is my main concern. Her knowing will put her in a awkward situation. She has been there a long time and I'm unsure as to what she would do if she knew. | |||
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"Hey congrats on the new job! I wouldn’t throw a sickie, you’re better than that. Like you say you were happy & relocations happen. Tell them the truth & that you’re taking the week off and ask that they pay you and part on good terms. Always end well "I would much rather leave on good terms. There is zero chance of them giving me the week off ....and with pay, hell would freeze over first! And thanks. I am quite excited about it | |||
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"At the end of the day all they can do is sack you and for one week i wouldn't stress.. I think it is fine to leave on good terms by saying that you loved your job, but the new location is not tenable x" I am part of a really great team and I will miss them so much. I'd definitely rather leave on good terms. Even the one work colleague that I have confided in had advised to pull the sickie x | |||
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"I would work my notice period of time if a week or month. I think the above as a manager tells us something about the person. You never know when you may need someone either your current manager or business. I'd be open and honest about the reason's for leaving. After 9 year's I feel this is the best way. The location isn't going to change and unfortunately it doesn't work for you. Leave as you should holding your head up high. Knowing you did this for yourself the right way. Sx Work are already aware of the impact that the change in location will have on me. Whilst they are sympathetic, as they put it there was bound to be some losers... unfortunately, I am one if them. If I tell her off the record them that puts her in an awkward position. And I know her, her loyalty to the business is strong and she can be ruthless. I wish now that I had said I could start the week after,...It's too late for that now." It's only a week to make the trip. You have put yourself in a difficult position by saying you will start on Monday. I'd contact the new employer saying you didn't realise you had to give a weeks notice. Any good employer would expect you to work a notice period especially after 9 years. I'd tell my manager as a manager not a friend that you hand in your notice of 7 days due to the seasons you have stated above. You never know when you may need your ex-manager or that business. Do it the right way. Congratulations on your new job  | |||
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"I would work my notice period of time if a week or month. I think the above as a manager tells us something about the person. You never know when you may need someone either your current manager or business. I'd be open and honest about the reason's for leaving. After 9 year's I feel this is the best way. The location isn't going to change and unfortunately it doesn't work for you. Leave as you should holding your head up high. Knowing you did this for yourself the right way. Sx Work are already aware of the impact that the change in location will have on me. Whilst they are sympathetic, as they put it there was bound to be some losers... unfortunately, I am one if them. If I tell her off the record them that puts her in an awkward position. And I know her, her loyalty to the business is strong and she can be ruthless. I wish now that I had said I could start the week after,...It's too late for that now. It's only a week to make the trip. You have put yourself in a difficult position by saying you will start on Monday. I'd contact the new employer saying you didn't realise you had to give a weeks notice. Any good employer would expect you to work a notice period especially after 9 years. I'd tell my manager as a manager not a friend that you hand in your notice of 7 days due to the seasons you have stated above. You never know when you may need your ex-manager or that business. Do it the right way. Congratulations on your new job " pressed wrong one | |||
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"I would work my notice period of time if a week or month. I think the above as a manager tells us something about the person. You never know when you may need someone either your current manager or business. I'd be open and honest about the reason's for leaving. After 9 year's I feel this is the best way. The location isn't going to change and unfortunately it doesn't work for you. Leave as you should holding your head up high. Knowing you did this for yourself the right way. Sx Work are already aware of the impact that the change in location will have on me. Whilst they are sympathetic, as they put it there was bound to be some losers... unfortunately, I am one if them. If I tell her off the record them that puts her in an awkward position. And I know her, her loyalty to the business is strong and she can be ruthless. I wish now that I had said I could start the week after,...It's too late for that now. It's only a week to make the trip. You have put yourself in a difficult position by saying you will start on Monday. I'd contact the new employer saying you didn't realise you had to give a weeks notice. Any good employer would expect you to work a notice period especially after 9 years. I'd tell my manager as a manager not a friend that you hand in your notice of 7 days due to the seasons you have stated above. You never know when you may need your ex-manager or that business. Do it the right way. Congratulations on your new job
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I've talked it through with a work colleague and I've decided to start the new job on Monday.
I wish I'd played it better but I haven't so I am going to roll with it.
I honestly don't want to go back. The new job came at just the right time ...it was perfect as come this week I just can't do it. Public transport isn't the best at the best of times but I will have 4 hours added to my day.
1 bus, 2 trains and a 20 mins walk either way. x
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"HR here, I’d read your old and current contracts carefully as you may be in breach if you’re working two jobs without declaring Mrs Possibly yes, I would be. Sometimes though you got to do what you've got to do. And honestly I don't feel like I have a choice. I have confided in a work colleague. They have advised me to take 3 weeks sick....use 2 weeks to see if I want the job and the other week as notice. I have previously never been off sick for longer than 3 days. We don't get sick pay and I've never claimed it." If your going to do this pull the mental health card hard to prove. And easy just to say it's the move that has caused it so you blaming the company from the off. | |||
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"I would work my notice period of time if a week or month. I think the above as a manager tells us something about the person. You never know when you may need someone either your current manager or business. I'd be open and honest about the reason's for leaving. After 9 year's I feel this is the best way. The location isn't going to change and unfortunately it doesn't work for you. Leave as you should holding your head up high. Knowing you did this for yourself the right way. Sx Work are already aware of the impact that the change in location will have on me. Whilst they are sympathetic, as they put it there was bound to be some losers... unfortunately, I am one if them. If I tell her off the record them that puts her in an awkward position. And I know her, her loyalty to the business is strong and she can be ruthless. I wish now that I had said I could start the week after,...It's too late for that now. It's only a week to make the trip. You have put yourself in a difficult position by saying you will start on Monday. I'd contact the new employer saying you didn't realise you had to give a weeks notice. Any good employer would expect you to work a notice period especially after 9 years. I'd tell my manager as a manager not a friend that you hand in your notice of 7 days due to the seasons you have stated above. You never know when you may need your ex-manager or that business. Do it the right way. Congratulations on your new job
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I've talked it through with a work colleague and I've decided to start the new job on Monday.
I wish I'd played it better but I haven't so I am going to roll with it.
I honestly don't want to go back. The new job came at just the right time ...it was perfect as come this week I just can't do it. Public transport isn't the best at the best of times but I will have 4 hours added to my day.
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"I feel that the business relocating gives you the moral right to change job immediately you wish. I assume that they hadn't given you any pay rise or lump sum or anything to compensate you for the extra travel to get there? In which case they had effectively given you a pay cut and/or increased the hours you are away from home. Looking at it that way, they have broken the spirit of your contract of work, even if not broken the letter of the contract. If you weren't getting sick pay then taking sick time is not cheating them out of any money. They are the ones that have inconvenienced you, not the other way around. Also on the point of any future reference, a company can get into very sticky ground if they give a bad reference or refuse to give a reference, when you can show that your performance was perfectly fine and that you were effectively forced to leave through the company's action. Wishing you luck and enjoyment in your new job! Hugs, Polly xxx" All very good points. | |||
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"At the end of the day all they can do is sack you and for one week i wouldn't stress.. I think it is fine to leave on good terms by saying that you loved your job, but the new location is not tenable x" No you don't need being sacked on a CV | |||
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"Having worked for the same business for 9 yrs, happily for the most part I was gutted when they relocated. Thursday was my first day at the new location and it became very apparent that it wasn't going to be practical making this journey by public transport. I knew it was the beginning of the end. I had the day off Friday and browsed the job sites, feeling a mix of emotions, mainly sadness and shit what am I going to do now. Lo and behold, I went to meet a fab friend Friday and at the hotel I asked ....are there any vacancies. To my utter amazement you are now looking at the new receptionist! I cannot believe it! I start Monday. I was going to pull a sickie for the week and see how the new job feels. But my problem is on a personal level I really like my manager and I am biting at the bit to tell her the truth. In my position would you come clean to your manager (who knows how difficult the new location will be) or take the week as sick leave and commit fully come the end of the week? " Tell your Manager , she will understand .best wishes in your new position , you have to put yourself first , believe me . | |||
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"I feel that the business relocating gives you the moral right to change job immediately you wish. I assume that they hadn't given you any pay rise or lump sum or anything to compensate you for the extra travel to get there? In which case they had effectively given you a pay cut and/or increased the hours you are away from home. Looking at it that way, they have broken the spirit of your contract of work, even if not broken the letter of the contract. If you weren't getting sick pay then taking sick time is not cheating them out of any money. They are the ones that have inconvenienced you, not the other way around. Also on the point of any future reference, a company can get into very sticky ground if they give a bad reference or refuse to give a reference, when you can show that your performance was perfectly fine and that you were effectively forced to leave through the company's action. Wishing you luck and enjoyment in your new job! Hugs, Polly xxx" I have just seen this Polly....you make some really good points. Thanks for hug and best wishes that's really lovely xxx | |||
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"Always come clean, the 9 years should count for something surely" As far as the business are concerned 9 yrs counts for nothing. My colleagues are a different story and I am really going to miss them. Onwards and upwards, eh! | |||
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"I'm a little lost. You are going to hand your notice in and also tell them you are sick ? Do you have any holiday due ?" I am going to go sick and hand my notice in whilst on sick leave...that's my plan. I hate the deception but needs must. That is my plan but I'd really like to tell my manager the truth. I can't risk it. It's also unfair to put her in the position of knowing my intentions and expecting her not to say anything. | |||
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"I would work my notice period of time if a week or month. I think the above as a manager tells us something about the person. You never know when you may need someone either your current manager or business. I'd be open and honest about the reason's for leaving. After 9 year's I feel this is the best way. The location isn't going to change and unfortunately it doesn't work for you. Leave as you should holding your head up high. Knowing you did this for yourself the right way. Sx Work are already aware of the impact that the change in location will have on me. Whilst they are sympathetic, as they put it there was bound to be some losers... unfortunately, I am one if them. If I tell her off the record them that puts her in an awkward position. And I know her, her loyalty to the business is strong and she can be ruthless. I wish now that I had said I could start the week after,...It's too late for that now. It's only a week to make the trip. You have put yourself in a difficult position by saying you will start on Monday. I'd contact the new employer saying you didn't realise you had to give a weeks notice. Any good employer would expect you to work a notice period especially after 9 years. I'd tell my manager as a manager not a friend that you hand in your notice of 7 days due to the seasons you have stated above. You never know when you may need your ex-manager or that business. Do it the right way. Congratulations on your new job
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I've talked it through with a work colleague and I've decided to start the new job on Monday.
I wish I'd played it better but I haven't so I am going to roll with it.
I honestly don't want to go back. The new job came at just the right time ...it was perfect as come this week I just can't do it. Public transport isn't the best at the best of times but I will have 4 hours added to my day.
1 bus, 2 trains and a 20 mins walk either way. x
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"HR here, I’d read your old and current contracts carefully as you may be in breach if you’re working two jobs without declaring Mrs Possibly yes, I would be. Sometimes though you got to do what you've got to do. And honestly I don't feel like I have a choice. I have confided in a work colleague. They have advised me to take 3 weeks sick....use 2 weeks to see if I want the job and the other week as notice. I have previously never been off sick for longer than 3 days. We don't get sick pay and I've never claimed it. If your going to do this pull the mental health card hard to prove. And easy just to say it's the move that has caused it so you blaming the company from the off. " I haven't decided what exactly I'm going to say as for my sick leave. | |||
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"I'm a little lost. You are going to hand your notice in and also tell them you are sick ? Do you have any holiday due ? I am going to go sick and hand my notice in whilst on sick leave...that's my plan. I hate the deception but needs must. That is my plan but I'd really like to tell my manager the truth. I can't risk it. It's also unfair to put her in the position of knowing my intentions and expecting her not to say anything." Yep 9 years is just a number to lots of companies look after you And good luck. | |||
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"Please don't cite MH unkess it's genuine. It's already got the stigma of being abused ... And so wmana real victims are believed. If you're gonna pull a sickie at least use covid or something. " I hear what you are saying. | |||
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"Just to mention here, with sick leave - you will still have to call in each day to say you are ill/not fit for work for xyz reason. It's self certification for the first 7 days, for anything longer you need a Dr's note. You will still need to got back to your original place of work to sign the self certification off that you are now fit to return - enabling ssp for the days off. " I am not interested in the SSP but thanks. | |||
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"Rather than going sick you could just hand in your notice with immediate effect, state the reason behind it being the travel just being too much for you between the travelling and the added hours to your day and that it is no longer viable for you to financially and physically do so. Tinder x" This is very true. | |||
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"24 little hours. The whole world can change in a day." It kind of did didn't it. I remember it well! | |||
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Biggest knife in the back when I handed my notice in was the CEOs response "oh dear, does that mean xxxxxxx is also leaving" like he was totally not bothered that my life has been ruined and I was out of a job. Better still they witheld my bonus because I was in notice and shared it out among the other employees including the two people that devastated my life.
Youve got a week's notice, it won't inconvenience you that much and you keep the moral high ground.
Ask yourself this, if they terminated your employment and didn't pay you the week would you be rightly disgruntled? | |||
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"I had to work a three month notice period at a company with my now ex wife and the guy that shagged her. Not slamming his face into the meeting room desk is probably my life's greatest moment of restraint
Biggest knife in the back when I handed my notice in was the CEOs response "oh dear, does that mean xxxxxxx is also leaving" like he was totally not bothered that my life has been ruined and I was out of a job. Better still they witheld my bonus because I was in notice and shared it out among the other employees including the two people that devastated my life.
Youve got a week's notice, it won't inconvenience you that much and you keep the moral high ground.
Ask yourself this, if they terminated your employment and didn't pay you the week would you be rightly disgruntled?"I would but then I never changed the goal posts! If they terminated my contract due to me not being able to fulfil the 'business needs& then I'd take it on the chin. | |||
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"Only just see this thread. Congrats on the new job, Annabel! A week sick leave is the answer. Xx" Thanks Red xx | |||
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"I'm a little lost. You are going to hand your notice in and also tell them you are sick ? Do you have any holiday due ? I am going to go sick and hand my notice in whilst on sick leave...that's my plan. I hate the deception but needs must. That is my plan but I'd really like to tell my manager the truth. I can't risk it. It's also unfair to put her in the position of knowing my intentions and expecting her not to say anything." Don’t do it! You’re breaking your contract and lying to people you see as friends. I’m disappointed in you. I hope you change your mind by the morning | |||
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"I'm a little lost. You are going to hand your notice in and also tell them you are sick ? Do you have any holiday due ? I am going to go sick and hand my notice in whilst on sick leave...that's my plan. I hate the deception but needs must. That is my plan but I'd really like to tell my manager the truth. I can't risk it. It's also unfair to put her in the position of knowing my intentions and expecting her not to say anything. Don’t do it! You’re breaking your contract and lying to people you see as friends. I’m disappointed in you. I hope you change your mind by the morning " I know it's not great! I am really wrestling with my conscience with respect to my manager. The business not so much, as I have seen their ruthlessness first hand. | |||
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"I'm a little lost. You are going to hand your notice in and also tell them you are sick ? Do you have any holiday due ? I am going to go sick and hand my notice in whilst on sick leave...that's my plan. I hate the deception but needs must. That is my plan but I'd really like to tell my manager the truth. I can't risk it. It's also unfair to put her in the position of knowing my intentions and expecting her not to say anything. Don’t do it! You’re breaking your contract and lying to people you see as friends. I’m disappointed in you. I hope you change your mind by the morning " Your disappointment also makes me sad | |||
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"I'm a little lost. You are going to hand your notice in and also tell them you are sick ? Do you have any holiday due ? I am going to go sick and hand my notice in whilst on sick leave...that's my plan. I hate the deception but needs must. That is my plan but I'd really like to tell my manager the truth. I can't risk it. It's also unfair to put her in the position of knowing my intentions and expecting her not to say anything. Don’t do it! You’re breaking your contract and lying to people you see as friends. I’m disappointed in you. I hope you change your mind by the morning I know it's not great! I am really wrestling with my conscience with respect to my manager. The business not so much, as I have seen their ruthlessness first hand." Doing the right thing is nearly always harder than the easy option, but do it enough it builds strong character. You left it really late but if it was me I’d just call my boss tonight or at 8:45am and simply say, sorry but I’m done, the travel is killing me I can’t do it, I’m not coming back, I’ve been a Jess all weekend with anxiety and made my decision . You don’t need to say anything about having another job. | |||
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"I'm a little lost. You are going to hand your notice in and also tell them you are sick ? Do you have any holiday due ? I am going to go sick and hand my notice in whilst on sick leave...that's my plan. I hate the deception but needs must. That is my plan but I'd really like to tell my manager the truth. I can't risk it. It's also unfair to put her in the position of knowing my intentions and expecting her not to say anything. Don’t do it! You’re breaking your contract and lying to people you see as friends. I’m disappointed in you. I hope you change your mind by the morning I know it's not great! I am really wrestling with my conscience with respect to my manager. The business not so much, as I have seen their ruthlessness first hand. Doing the right thing is nearly always harder than the easy option, but do it enough it builds strong character. You left it really late but if it was me I’d just call my boss tonight or at 8:45am and simply say, sorry but I’m done, the travel is killing me I can’t do it, I’m not coming back, I’ve been a Jess all weekend with anxiety and made my decision . You don’t need to say anything about having another job. " This is what I'd do Tinder | |||
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"Hey guys ....well, I started the new job and it went well and I am to stay. I took a weeks sick which is something I have never done. Tonight I will phone my manager and give her the heads up before I go to HR. This has been massive for me as I've been there 9 years. It was actually the advice from a team mate that in the end seated my decision. A reality check if you like. Our business is quite ruthless and tbh I feel no loyalty to them as I know they don't to me and other employees. My manager though is a different story...I feel bad about not being upfront but I know that she would have gone to HR. " she would have gone to HR not very loyal to you if that would be the case, so as you've done the deed well done you just enjoy the new job, your friend if shes a friend will understand | |||
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"Hey guys ....well, I started the new job and it went well and I am to stay. I took a weeks sick which is something I have never done. Tonight I will phone my manager and give her the heads up before I go to HR. This has been massive for me as I've been there 9 years. It was actually the advice from a team mate that in the end seated my decision. A reality check if you like. Our business is quite ruthless and tbh I feel no loyalty to them as I know they don't to me and other employees. My manager though is a different story...I feel bad about not being upfront but I know that she would have gone to HR. she would have gone to HR not very loyal to you if that would be the case, so as you've done the deed well done you just enjoy the new job, your friend if shes a friend will understand " | |||
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"Hey guys ....well, I started the new job and it went well and I am to stay. I took a weeks sick which is something I have never done. Tonight I will phone my manager and give her the heads up before I go to HR. This has been massive for me as I've been there 9 years. It was actually the advice from a team mate that in the end seated my decision. A reality check if you like. Our business is quite ruthless and tbh I feel no loyalty to them as I know they don't to me and other employees. My manager though is a different story...I feel bad about not being upfront but I know that she would have gone to HR. " so are you also calling in sick next week too ? Or working your notice ? | |||
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"Having worked for the same business for 9 yrs, happily for the most part I was gutted when they relocated. Thursday was my first day at the new location and it became very apparent that it wasn't going to be practical making this journey by public transport. I knew it was the beginning of the end. I had the day off Friday and browsed the job sites, feeling a mix of emotions, mainly sadness and shit what am I going to do now. Lo and behold, I went to meet a fab friend Friday and at the hotel I asked ....are there any vacancies. To my utter amazement you are now looking at the new receptionist! I cannot believe it! I start Monday. I was going to pull a sickie for the week and see how the new job feels. But my problem is on a personal level I really like my manager and I am biting at the bit to tell her the truth. In my position would you come clean to your manager (who knows how difficult the new location will be) or take the week as sick leave and commit fully come the end of the week? " In my experience, never burn your bridges when departing a job, one day you might need a reference. They may be understanding and let you get on with it, but if not, best part on good terms. | |||
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"Having worked for the same business for 9 yrs, happily for the most part I was gutted when they relocated. Thursday was my first day at the new location and it became very apparent that it wasn't going to be practical making this journey by public transport. I knew it was the beginning of the end. I had the day off Friday and browsed the job sites, feeling a mix of emotions, mainly sadness and shit what am I going to do now. Lo and behold, I went to meet a fab friend Friday and at the hotel I asked ....are there any vacancies. To my utter amazement you are now looking at the new receptionist! I cannot believe it! I start Monday. I was going to pull a sickie for the week and see how the new job feels. But my problem is on a personal level I really like my manager and I am biting at the bit to tell her the truth. In my position would you come clean to your manager (who knows how difficult the new location will be) or take the week as sick leave and commit fully come the end of the week? In my experience, never burn your bridges when departing a job, one day you might need a reference. They may be understanding and let you get on with it, but if not, best part on good terms." My company actually have a no reference policy ....can you believe that! Their employee retention rate was previously so bad ....worse than other sector's of the same industry by far. | |||
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