FabSwingers.com forum: Real women v real men

By *ackformore100 OP Man
over a year ago

Tin town

This one is a bit about language, meaning and use.

We quite often see "real woman" used, either as in "I'm a real woman" or "I like real women"... Rarely do we see...

"I'm a real man" or "I'd like a real man".

So.. Does the "real" part of the phrase have different meaning for men or women and if people do use that expression.. What does it actually mean?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I see a lot more references to real men than real women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women."

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women."

Yeah I do as well

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I'd love a real man or woman, I keep having socials with blow up dolls, I don't even know how it keeps happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women."

I real life, I do. But on Fab I've surprisingly seen more references to a woman with curves being a real woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just checked and yes I'm a real man

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women.

I real life, I do. But on Fab I've surprisingly seen more references to a woman with curves being a real woman."

Yep. And it's oft used by men to say that's what they want compared to *insert some derogatory term for slimmer women*.

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By *ackformore100 OP Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women."

Fell at the first!

Interesting... I guess I'm looking at different profiles... What do you think real men means though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women.

I real life, I do. But on Fab I've surprisingly seen more references to a woman with curves being a real woman.

Yep. And it's oft used by men to say that's what they want compared to *insert some derogatory term for slimmer women*. "

Exactly, using skin and bones and the like thinking it'll give them a chance with other women

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By *ackformore100 OP Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women.

I real life, I do. But on Fab I've surprisingly seen more references to a woman with curves being a real woman.

Yep. And it's oft used by men to say that's what they want compared to *insert some derogatory term for slimmer women*. "

Yes I've seen it used in that context. But I wonder if "real man" then means men with curves or larger men as opposed to *slimmer*?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women.

I real life, I do. But on Fab I've surprisingly seen more references to a woman with curves being a real woman.

Yep. And it's oft used by men to say that's what they want compared to *insert some derogatory term for slimmer women*.

Yes I've seen it used in that context. But I wonder if "real man" then means men with curves or larger men as opposed to *slimmer*? "

No. It's actually a very interesting point. "Real" men are seen as those displaying very traditional, stereotypical behavioural traits. "Real" women is a comment on the aesthetics.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women.

I real life, I do. But on Fab I've surprisingly seen more references to a woman with curves being a real woman.

Yep. And it's oft used by men to say that's what they want compared to *insert some derogatory term for slimmer women*.

Yes I've seen it used in that context. But I wonder if "real man" then means men with curves or larger men as opposed to *slimmer*?

No. It's actually a very interesting point. "Real" men are seen as those displaying very traditional, stereotypical behavioural traits. "Real" women is a comment on the aesthetics. "

Same with everything though. We should value how men behave (grrrrr - caveman) and we should value how women look. That's how life works

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women.

I real life, I do. But on Fab I've surprisingly seen more references to a woman with curves being a real woman.

Yep. And it's oft used by men to say that's what they want compared to *insert some derogatory term for slimmer women*.

Yes I've seen it used in that context. But I wonder if "real man" then means men with curves or larger men as opposed to *slimmer*?

No. It's actually a very interesting point. "Real" men are seen as those displaying very traditional, stereotypical behavioural traits. "Real" women is a comment on the aesthetics.

Same with everything though. We should value how men behave (grrrrr - caveman) and we should value how women look. That's how life works

I don't think I'll see a truer word written today.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women.

I real life, I do. But on Fab I've surprisingly seen more references to a woman with curves being a real woman.

Yep. And it's oft used by men to say that's what they want compared to *insert some derogatory term for slimmer women*.

Yes I've seen it used in that context. But I wonder if "real man" then means men with curves or larger men as opposed to *slimmer*?

No. It's actually a very interesting point. "Real" men are seen as those displaying very traditional, stereotypical behavioural traits. "Real" women is a comment on the aesthetics.

Same with everything though. We should value how men behave (grrrrr - caveman) and we should value how women look. That's how life works

Yep. Utter bugbear of mine and I'm so glad someone picked up on what I was trying to articulate. You see it frequently on here. In real life (as opposed to fora based) even more sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women.

I real life, I do. But on Fab I've surprisingly seen more references to a woman with curves being a real woman.

Yep. And it's oft used by men to say that's what they want compared to *insert some derogatory term for slimmer women*.

Yes I've seen it used in that context. But I wonder if "real man" then means men with curves or larger men as opposed to *slimmer*?

No. It's actually a very interesting point. "Real" men are seen as those displaying very traditional, stereotypical behavioural traits. "Real" women is a comment on the aesthetics.

Same with everything though. We should value how men behave (grrrrr - caveman) and we should value how women look. That's how life works

Yep, and fab is no different in that respect, except perhaps that the cuntish behavior of certain women will be excused even more on here because of their looks

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women.

I real life, I do. But on Fab I've surprisingly seen more references to a woman with curves being a real woman.

Yep. And it's oft used by men to say that's what they want compared to *insert some derogatory term for slimmer women*.

Yes I've seen it used in that context. But I wonder if "real man" then means men with curves or larger men as opposed to *slimmer*?

No. It's actually a very interesting point. "Real" men are seen as those displaying very traditional, stereotypical behavioural traits. "Real" women is a comment on the aesthetics.

Same with everything though. We should value how men behave (grrrrr - caveman) and we should value how women look. That's how life works

Yep. Utter bugbear of mine and I'm so glad someone picked up on what I was trying to articulate. You see it frequently on here. In real life (as opposed to fora based) even more sadly. "

Yep. One example is people asking for interview advice. Female requesters get lots of advice about what to wear. Male requesters get more advice about how to behave during the interview e.g. use STAR method.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've seen a few "real woman" comments in the forums usually in response to a woman claiming to be unhappy about how she looks or how she isn't body confident. It's often offered as reassurance that men prefer a "real woman" but doesn't always read well.

I've seen many more "real man" comments on profiles either by women seeking one or men claiming to be one so it's usually seen as a behavioural trait.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

I’d like a real woman.

I keep puncturing my artificial one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am all the way for the fake ppl. I get turn on by disappointment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely womens looks are appraised and mens behaviour, especially in trashy media...

Ie, look what this famous woman looks like now compared to 20 years ago sort of crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely womens looks are appraised and mens behaviour, especially in trashy media...

Ie, look what this famous woman looks like now compared to 20 years ago sort of crap "

Social media has made this even worse IMO, no matter what you look like, you need filters/fillers/"work" to improve things

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

I can only read the phrase ‘real man’ in the voice of Pinocchio from Shrek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can only read the phrase ‘real man’ in the voice of Pinocchio from Shrek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a fake man

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I see a lot more references to real men than real women.

Fell at the first!

Interesting... I guess I'm looking at different profiles... What do you think real men means though? "

That doesn't throw his toys out of the pram. Knows how to treat a woman with upmost respect and dignity

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I like the women to be professional and real rather than amateur and fake.

Much better that way

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Definitely womens looks are appraised and mens behaviour, especially in trashy media...

Ie, look what this famous woman looks like now compared to 20 years ago sort of crap

Social media has made this even worse IMO, no matter what you look like, you need filters/fillers/"work" to improve things "

I duno i seen some amazing transformation using makeup alone on 50 plus women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lose respect instantly for anyone using the term "real man" or "real woman" truth be told.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely womens looks are appraised and mens behaviour, especially in trashy media...

Ie, look what this famous woman looks like now compared to 20 years ago sort of crap

Social media has made this even worse IMO, no matter what you look like, you need filters/fillers/"work" to improve things

I duno i seen some amazing transformation using makeup alone on 50 plus women "

Ah yes, make-up, seen by many as a basic necessity for women to appear presentable

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

A ‘real woman’ looks like Marilyn Monroe, a ‘real man’ would die defending Andrew Tate.

Or something.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I think the male version would be alpha male I see that a lot and it makes me

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

Could replace it with “actual” as opposed to “virtual” or “fake”? Of course I don’t think that is the point of this thread!

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

AHH, that point in irobot when a robot realises it's self aware - that's what's been going wrong I'm an AI

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest OP

I really don't know what folks mean by real men or real woman ,or am I totally missing the point?

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

A real woman is one that doesn’t require a foot pump and you can bite their bum without them going bang!!

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By *ackformore100 OP Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"To be honest OP

I really don't know what folks mean by real men or real woman ,or am I totally missing the point?"

No I think that is the point, simply the use of language. Notwithstanding that "real man" seems as widely used as "real woman" (equal opportunities and all that). That someone talked to it above.. For women it generally seems to be about the physical and for men less physical and more behavioural. Whether that be alpha or caveman or gentleman (or others).

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"I lose respect instantly for anyone using the term "real man" or "real woman" truth be told. "

I agree I've never seen it used in a positive way.I have always seen it used as a toxic phrase used to put other people down.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

No idea… you’d have to ask them that use that phrase what they mean.

All women are real to me….although come to think of, it’s impossible, to distinguish reality from a vividly imagined experience…..maybe we’re all in the matrix and none of us are real ?

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

The term used in either context, man or woman has always been something that irks me.

You do quite often hear a certain kind of person use the tag for themselves and it’s almost always to portray themselves in a manner which they’d like to be seen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a sign of how lost people are these days.

It's tough to find an identity and lane in life.

I see a real man as one who has matured to adulthood and can competently hold their own.

I'd appreciate a sidekick/ partner in life not a person who is over-dependant by choice.

Weaponised incompetence is dire.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Whenever I see the term ‘real man’ I just read as code for ‘misogynistic asshole’

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"Whenever I see the term ‘real man’ I just read as code for ‘misogynistic asshole’"

Well its women who use that term mostly, so you think they mean misogynistic asshole?

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Whenever I see the term ‘real man’ I just read as code for ‘misogynistic asshole’"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't beat the real deal unless of course they happen to have a beard or moustache and talk like Frank Bruno.

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By *ackformore100 OP Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Can't beat the real deal unless of course they happen to have a beard or moustache and talk like Frank Bruno.

He's behiiiind you. Oh no he isn't.

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