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"They change their minds " But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person | |||
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"PNC is real haha PNC ??? " Post Nut Clarity 
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person " Pretty sure they don't owe you anything | |||
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person Pretty sure they don't owe you anything" Of course not I guess I would be more polite. | |||
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person Pretty sure they don't owe you anything" He didn't say they owed him anything. He said wouldn't it be more polite  | |||
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person Pretty sure they don't owe you anything" this ... look up what ghosting really mean cause it not what you said op | |||
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person Pretty sure they don't owe you anything He didn't say they owed him anything. He said wouldn't it be more polite "Thank you that’s what I was trying to say | |||
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"Why is it some people start a really good progressive conversation only to ghost you " Dunno.. That's spooky! | |||
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person Pretty sure they don't owe you anything" Common.courtesy? | |||
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person Pretty sure they don't owe you anything" But by the looks of your answer it's probably something you do on a regular basis. | |||
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person Pretty sure they don't owe you anything But by the looks of your answer it's probably something you do on a regular basis. " I just block people. They can't come creeping back then | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? " Whatever you call it I think it’s a pretty mean thing to do to someone on here without a polite no thank you. But that’s just me and how I treat people. | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? " It is. | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? It is." I mean that's the definition not that it is the same thing! | |||
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"Online throwaway conversations are very common in any social media, and closure is rarely found. It sucks to be on the receiving end, which is why I try hard never to do it. I will cut them off completely once they have ghosted me though, no do-overs." Yeah I think I might have to do that tbh | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? " It's not the same treatment, I agree. Even if you've had a social meet, and you don't feel that spark with them......it's still ok to not contact that person anymore afterwards if you don't want it to go any further. We owe each other nothing on this site. If you're not someone's type, or you're not theirs then so be it | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? It's not the same treatment, I agree. Even if you've had a social meet, and you don't feel that spark with them......it's still ok to not contact that person anymore afterwards if you don't want it to go any further. We owe each other nothing on this site. If you're not someone's type, or you're not theirs then so be it" Sorry, but this is utter bullshit, and rude. If you can be bothered to meet up for a coffee / drink then you should be quite capable of sending a one liner to say “thanks, not for me, good luck”. FFS!  | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? It's not the same treatment, I agree. Even if you've had a social meet, and you don't feel that spark with them......it's still ok to not contact that person anymore afterwards if you don't want it to go any further. We owe each other nothing on this site. If you're not someone's type, or you're not theirs then so be it" Even if you’ve fucked and that’s all it was, you still don’t owe each other anything. | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? It's not the same treatment, I agree. Even if you've had a social meet, and you don't feel that spark with them......it's still ok to not contact that person anymore afterwards if you don't want it to go any further. We owe each other nothing on this site. If you're not someone's type, or you're not theirs then so be it Sorry, but this is utter bullshit, and rude. If you can be bothered to meet up for a coffee / drink then you should be quite capable of sending a one liner to say “thanks, not for me, good luck”. FFS! "Yeah… try doing that and then receiving 40+ messages a day. Some people who comment on issues on fab have clearly never been on the other side. FFS. | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? It's not the same treatment, I agree. Even if you've had a social meet, and you don't feel that spark with them......it's still ok to not contact that person anymore afterwards if you don't want it to go any further. We owe each other nothing on this site. If you're not someone's type, or you're not theirs then so be it Sorry, but this is utter bullshit, and rude. If you can be bothered to meet up for a coffee / drink then you should be quite capable of sending a one liner to say “thanks, not for me, good luck”. FFS!
Yeah… try doing that and then receiving 40+ messages a day.
Some people who comment on issues on fab have clearly never been on the other side. FFS. "I don't do that and I get about 3 messages a day | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? It's not the same treatment, I agree. Even if you've had a social meet, and you don't feel that spark with them......it's still ok to not contact that person anymore afterwards if you don't want it to go any further. We owe each other nothing on this site. If you're not someone's type, or you're not theirs then so be it Sorry, but this is utter bullshit, and rude. If you can be bothered to meet up for a coffee / drink then you should be quite capable of sending a one liner to say “thanks, not for me, good luck”. FFS!
Yeah… try doing that and then receiving 40+ messages a day.
Some people who comment on issues on fab have clearly never been on the other side. FFS.
I don't do that and I get about 3 messages a day "From the same person asking why you don’t want to see them any more? It seems no matter how you run your inbox on fab, someone thinks it’s “rude”. You do you | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? It's not the same treatment, I agree. Even if you've had a social meet, and you don't feel that spark with them......it's still ok to not contact that person anymore afterwards if you don't want it to go any further. We owe each other nothing on this site. If you're not someone's type, or you're not theirs then so be it" Ok so if you've actually met and they aren't for you, then you should tell them straight and not just ignore them afterwards. | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? It's not the same treatment, I agree. Even if you've had a social meet, and you don't feel that spark with them......it's still ok to not contact that person anymore afterwards if you don't want it to go any further. We owe each other nothing on this site. If you're not someone's type, or you're not theirs then so be it Sorry, but this is utter bullshit, and rude. If you can be bothered to meet up for a coffee / drink then you should be quite capable of sending a one liner to say “thanks, not for me, good luck”. FFS!
Yeah… try doing that and then receiving 40+ messages a day.
Some people who comment on issues on fab have clearly never been on the other side. FFS.
I don't do that and I get about 3 messages a day
From the same person asking why you don’t want to see them any more?
It seems no matter how you run your inbox on fab, someone thinks it’s “rude”. You do you"Oh if I meet someone and I don't want to take it further I'd tell them so. I was just referring to your 40+ messages a day bit, I don't get that | |||
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"I don't do that and I get about 3 messages a day "That's because they've actually read your profile. | |||
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"I don't do that and I get about 3 messages a day
That's because they've actually read your profile. "Men read?!? | |||
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person Pretty sure they don't owe you anything Of course not I guess I would be more polite. " Welcome to the real world people give zero fucks about politeness. Lol! I have some fucks to be polite but I have a neurodivergent brain that gives zero fucks. so I'm a 4 out of 10 for politeness. Most people let their emotions override their politeness so I'd say most people are a 5 or 6 out of 10. If you are a 8,9 10 out of 10 for politeness you are in for huge disappointment on Fab. | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? It's not the same treatment, I agree. Even if you've had a social meet, and you don't feel that spark with them......it's still ok to not contact that person anymore afterwards if you don't want it to go any further. We owe each other nothing on this site. If you're not someone's type, or you're not theirs then so be it Ok so if you've actually met and they aren't for you, then you should tell them straight and not just ignore them afterwards. " I've done it both ways, and I got more abuse for being a timewaster when I messaged saying "Sorry, but you're not for me, I just didn't feel that spark I'm looking for" So the next time, I said nothing....and no abuse. It doesn't matter what you do/say, or how you do/say it, someone is going to take it the wrong way at some point | |||
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"I don't do that and I get about 3 messages a day
That's because they've actually read your profile.
Men read?!? "Cackle. Still at it I see. I went to Covent garden had dinner and come back and It's still occuring. Lol! | |||
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person Pretty sure they don't owe you anything Common.courtesy? " Common courtesy is like common sense. It aint' so common. Lol!  | |||
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"It's strangers on an internet site at the end of the day. Don't get so hung up on it. " Facts. I make a mental note not to bond with a screen. I also make a mental note not to bond in general so...there's that. At least I'm honest about my emotional unavailability. I'm not ghosting you sir. I just mentally can't tolerate you and I'd like my peace of mind back. | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? Whatever you call it I think it’s a pretty mean thing to do to someone on here without a polite no thank you. But that’s just me and how I treat people. " What if the conversation just peters out? I can't control the other person's reaction or expectations? | |||
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"Why is it some people start a really good progressive conversation only to ghost you Dunno.. That's spooky!" creasing and tears. | |||
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"PNC is real haha PNC ??? Post Nut Clarity" Has it got the same name when a woman has that moment of clarity after? | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? " Lol! nope ghosting does not require a relationship. You can connect with someone and have one fabulous conversation and never hear from them again. | |||
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person Pretty sure they don't owe you anything But by the looks of your answer it's probably something you do on a regular basis. I just block people. They can't come creeping back then "Lol! No time to waste at all. Lol! Straight to the point block. | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? Lol! nope ghosting does not require a relationship. You can connect with someone and have one fabulous conversation and never hear from them again. "By that's just life.. Not ghosting?! Two lives collide and then continue | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? Lol! nope ghosting does not require a relationship. You can connect with someone and have one fabulous conversation and never hear from them again.
By that's just life.. Not ghosting?! Two lives collide and then continue "As I’ve said, whatever you call it, it’s still a mean thing to do to someone. It’s called being an adult and decent to people, but maybe that’s just me. Obviously if someone is keeping going on then that’s what the block option is there. But an initial polite no thanks / changed my mind (whether it’s a long message back and forth, social or a meet) is not too difficult. | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? Lol! nope ghosting does not require a relationship. You can connect with someone and have one fabulous conversation and never hear from them again.
By that's just life.. Not ghosting?! Two lives collide and then continue
As I’ve said, whatever you call it, it’s still a mean thing to do to someone. It’s called being an adult and decent to people, but maybe that’s just me. Obviously if someone is keeping going on then that’s what the block option is there. But an initial polite no thanks / changed my mind (whether it’s a long message back and forth, social or a meet) is not too difficult. "Really... So for every conversation you engage with, you know whether you will keep the convo going (and you hope the other person feels the same) or you say thanks but no thanks.. Every conversation? I mean how many messages are exchanged before you slip into this unwritten contract? | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? Lol! nope ghosting does not require a relationship. You can connect with someone and have one fabulous conversation and never hear from them again.
By that's just life.. Not ghosting?! Two lives collide and then continue
As I’ve said, whatever you call it, it’s still a mean thing to do to someone. It’s called being an adult and decent to people, but maybe that’s just me. Obviously if someone is keeping going on then that’s what the block option is there. But an initial polite no thanks / changed my mind (whether it’s a long message back and forth, social or a meet) is not too difficult.
Really... So for every conversation you engage with, you know whether you will keep the convo going (and you hope the other person feels the same) or you say thanks but no thanks.. Every conversation?
I mean how many messages are exchanged before you slip into this unwritten contract?
"Long back and forth conversations (and I’m not going to quantify that with a number), socials, meets - it really really doesn’t matter. I think people on here should treat others with a little kindness and how they would like to be treated themselves. It’s really not too much to ask. | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? Lol! nope ghosting does not require a relationship. You can connect with someone and have one fabulous conversation and never hear from them again.
By that's just life.. Not ghosting?! Two lives collide and then continue
As I’ve said, whatever you call it, it’s still a mean thing to do to someone. It’s called being an adult and decent to people, but maybe that’s just me. Obviously if someone is keeping going on then that’s what the block option is there. But an initial polite no thanks / changed my mind (whether it’s a long message back and forth, social or a meet) is not too difficult.
Really... So for every conversation you engage with, you know whether you will keep the convo going (and you hope the other person feels the same) or you say thanks but no thanks.. Every conversation?
I mean how many messages are exchanged before you slip into this unwritten contract?
Long back and forth conversations (and I’m not going to quantify that with a number), socials, meets - it really really doesn’t matter. I think people on here should treat others with a little kindness and how they would like to be treated themselves. It’s really not too much to ask. "I'm with Full English on this one. He's talking about people you have built a connection with not just the odd message. Just because you are potentially planning on - or having - casual sex with people on here doesn't mean that you don't have to treat them with honesty, openness and respect. If they don't reciprocate then fine... Ignore them or block them. But that maxim about treating people like you would want to be treated yourself is a good starting point for me | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? Lol! nope ghosting does not require a relationship. You can connect with someone and have one fabulous conversation and never hear from them again.
By that's just life.. Not ghosting?! Two lives collide and then continue
As I’ve said, whatever you call it, it’s still a mean thing to do to someone. It’s called being an adult and decent to people, but maybe that’s just me. Obviously if someone is keeping going on then that’s what the block option is there. But an initial polite no thanks / changed my mind (whether it’s a long message back and forth, social or a meet) is not too difficult.
Really... So for every conversation you engage with, you know whether you will keep the convo going (and you hope the other person feels the same) or you say thanks but no thanks.. Every conversation?
I mean how many messages are exchanged before you slip into this unwritten contract?
Long back and forth conversations (and I’m not going to quantify that with a number), socials, meets - it really really doesn’t matter. I think people on here should treat others with a little kindness and how they would like to be treated themselves. It’s really not too much to ask.
I'm with Full English on this one. He's talking about people you have built a connection with not just the odd message. Just because you are potentially planning on - or having - casual sex with people on here doesn't mean that you don't have to treat them with honesty, openness and respect. If they don't reciprocate then fine... Ignore them or block them. But that maxim about treating people like you would want to be treated yourself is a good starting point for me"I think this is the key bit: people you have built a connection with not just the odd message. I think I've been very lucky, I've only had good interactions 
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"Sometimes conversations go dry for a little bit, but with a nudge start up again. Lives are busy. Fab is busy. But if people don’t tell people they’re not interested, conversations that could be re-ignited won’t be, because people assume they’re unwanted. Which isn’t a nice feeling. That was the clumsiest sentence I’ve written "That’s exactly how someone makes me feel | |||
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"Sometimes conversations go dry for a little bit, but with a nudge start up again. Lives are busy. Fab is busy. But if people don’t tell people they’re not interested, conversations that could be re-ignited won’t be, because people assume they’re unwanted. Which isn’t a nice feeling. That was the clumsiest sentence I’ve written
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"Sometimes conversations go dry for a little bit, but with a nudge start up again. Lives are busy. Fab is busy. But if people don’t tell people they’re not interested, conversations that could be re-ignited won’t be, because people assume they’re unwanted. Which isn’t a nice feeling. That was the clumsiest sentence I’ve written
That’s exactly how someone makes me feel
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"Sometimes conversations go dry for a little bit, but with a nudge start up again. Lives are busy. Fab is busy. But if people don’t tell people they’re not interested, conversations that could be re-ignited won’t be, because people assume they’re unwanted. Which isn’t a nice feeling. That was the clumsiest sentence I’ve written
That’s exactly how someone makes me feel
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? Whatever you call it I think it’s a pretty mean thing to do to someone on here without a polite no thank you. But that’s just me and how I treat people. " I agree, it's courtesy isn't it, especially if you have met for a coffee. Nothing worse than being left wondering | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? Whatever you call it I think it’s a pretty mean thing to do to someone on here without a polite no thank you. But that’s just me and how I treat people. " that's because you are a full english break....I mean full English Gentleman. Some people do not care to be perceived as a gentleman or a lady. | |||
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"Online throwaway conversations are very common in any social media, and closure is rarely found. It sucks to be on the receiving end, which is why I try hard never to do it. I will cut them off completely once they have ghosted me though, no do-overs. Yeah I think I might have to do that tbh " If it gives you more peace of mind block them. | |||
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"Well if 2 people talk and get on well initially to then one of them ghost the other person without a reason then of of courtesy there should be a reason why they ghosting?? But guess some people are too self centred and selfish" Ding ding or most likely are completely unaware that they are being a dick by not responding or giving closure. It's called effective communication and not burning bridges... Although some people ( me) like burning some bridges. I actually told one guy who pissed me off that if he saw me at a swingers event never approach me. Lol! | |||
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"I don't mind being ghosted by men from here, it's when they pop up months or years later and think I'm going to dripping for them." Cackle this happens a lot. Lol! They are like " you forgot me!?" I'm like bro you forgot to message me back so I forgot you. You put yourself in that part of my brain filing cabinet that is marked irrelevant folder by not paying me any kind of attention. | |||
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"I thought the definition of ghosting was that you were in some sort of relationship and one party leaves with no explanation /contact ? I don't see casual chatting on fab as the same treatment? Lol! nope ghosting does not require a relationship. You can connect with someone and have one fabulous conversation and never hear from them again.
By that's just life.. Not ghosting?! Two lives collide and then continue
As I’ve said, whatever you call it, it’s still a mean thing to do to someone. It’s called being an adult and decent to people, but maybe that’s just me. Obviously if someone is keeping going on then that’s what the block option is there. But an initial polite no thanks / changed my mind (whether it’s a long message back and forth, social or a meet) is not too difficult.
Really... So for every conversation you engage with, you know whether you will keep the convo going (and you hope the other person feels the same) or you say thanks but no thanks.. Every conversation?
I mean how many messages are exchanged before you slip into this unwritten contract?
Long back and forth conversations (and I’m not going to quantify that with a number), socials, meets - it really really doesn’t matter. I think people on here should treat others with a little kindness and how they would like to be treated themselves. It’s really not too much to ask.
I'm with Full English on this one. He's talking about people you have built a connection with not just the odd message. Just because you are potentially planning on - or having - casual sex with people on here doesn't mean that you don't have to treat them with honesty, openness and respect. If they don't reciprocate then fine... Ignore them or block them. But that maxim about treating people like you would want to be treated yourself is a good starting point for me
I think this is the key bit: people you have built a connection with not just the odd message.
I think I've been very lucky, I've only had good interactions
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"I don’t think it’s ghosting when the conversation just dries up. It happens. It also happens face to face. It’s just a fact of life. Sometimes it’s not down to anything else but one party is bored of the conversation. Don’t worry about it " | |||
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person " What seems the right thing to do is based on yr own moral compass. U can't project yr behaviour onto others and u certainly can't control how people respond or even think yr entitled to a response. Just because u would do it a particular way doesn't mean u will receive the same courtesy.....it's just way life goes unfortunately. | |||
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"Why is it some people start a really good progressive conversation only to ghost you " Could be many reasons....good and progressive u thought? Maybe they have a different interpretation and think otherwise. I've been in similar situations on both sides, initially thinking I've made a connection only to be ignored at a later date. On the other hand also been in conversations that on surface appear good. Further down the line getting deeper into the conversation realising this doesn't work for me. | |||
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"Why is it some people start a really good progressive conversation only to ghost you " You wented ...... and ghosted .... before I could reply-ed ..... | |||
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"Why is it some people start a really good progressive conversation only to ghost you " Are you an actual ghost? | |||
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"I don't think the OP was in a great place so hopefully they will be ok." Who was it ? | |||
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"They change their minds But isn’t it better to and more polite to tell the person What seems the right thing to do is based on yr own moral compass. U can't project yr behaviour onto others and u certainly can't control how people respond or even think yr entitled to a response. Just because u would do it a particular way doesn't mean u will receive the same courtesy.....it's just way life goes unfortunately." look into my eyes look into my eyes, you think like i do you think like i do, you're like minded and he's gone | |||
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"PNC is real haha PNC ??? Post Nut Clarity
That moment of absolute clarity that a man gets as soon as he's cum "Hahaha.... And the shame floods back in? Lol | |||
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"It’s not great, but I’ve had it done to me and I have done it to others… people on here or who I have not met yet. I don’t owe anyone anything on here, even a reply… even if conversation has been great, if I change my mind then that’s my prerogative. I wouldn’t do it to someone I had met though. " Why not? Isn't it you prerogative aswell?  | |||
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"Why is it some people start a really good progressive conversation only to ghost you " Found out something about you that they didn't like or found someone more suitable? | |||
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"Maybe they are actually a ghost. " Just your average middle class ghost working 9-5 trying to make a buck or two to feed the kids. | |||
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"Maybe they are actually a ghost. Just your average middle class ghost working 9-5 trying to make a buck or two to feed the kids. " That's not what Dolly said | |||
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"She likes to cackle . . . . . . ^ She's Nerodivergent (sic)." Cackle again. | |||
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"Why is it people start a really good thread and go unlos shortly after? " | |||
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