FabSwingers.com forum: Newbies. Ruthless or polite?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello folks. Hope youre all good etc.

I was wondering - what would you suggest is the best first message approach?

Im generally a fairly quiet and polite kind of guy but I do have a bit of a naughty side. Thats why we are here, right?

I have found polite messages have pretty much been ignored. Switching it to straight filth gets a bit more interest but quickly fades.

As a foot note: there appears to be a lot of fake profiles here.

Any advice on cutting it through the fakes or where manners are bothering with vs naughty cheek?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you mean fake profiles?

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Hello folks. Hope youre all good etc.

I was wondering - what would you suggest is the best first message approach?

Im generally a fairly quiet and polite kind of guy but I do have a bit of a naughty side. Thats why we are here, right?

I have found polite messages have pretty much been ignored. Switching it to straight filth gets a bit more interest but quickly fades.

As a foot note: there appears to be a lot of fake profiles here.

Any advice on cutting it through the fakes or where manners are bothering with vs naughty cheek?"

Your going to get shit for this my friend..

Every first message needs to be different and pertinent to the profile that you are sending it to.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Are you sending the polite messages to the same people you are sending the filthy ones to?

If not how do you decide who gets what? Is there something specific on the profiles you are sending the filthy ones to that hints that they may response more positively to those?

The vast majority of people will look at the senders profile before opening any message so a lot of the time the content is irrelevant if it's not consistent with the profile.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

My advice is to use humour (and ideally related to someone’s specific profile), be that cheeky or not. Polite is dull and filthy chat isn’t appropriate. And send a face / few body shots rather than a close up of your todger. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you mean fake profiles? "

I think maybe he thinks he's the first to discover?? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you mean fake profiles?

I think maybe he thinks he's the first to discover?? Lol "

Fakes always find each other, I would prefer a genuine friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My advice is to use humour (and ideally related to someone’s specific profile), be that cheeky or not. Polite is dull and filthy chat isn’t appropriate. And send a face / few body shots rather than a close up of your todger. Good luck!

This makes a lot of sense. Humour isnt always reciprocated but has seemed to gain a more positive response

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Different people like different types of msg... I would always prefer polite. Dirty usually gets an instant block.

Read the profile and see what you think would be a good idea

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What do you mean fake profiles?

I think maybe he thinks he's the first to discover?? Lol

Fakes always find each other, I would prefer a genuine friend "

Oh. There are no fakes? I must be terribly mistaken

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

The best first message for me is from someone who has clearly read and connected with something I've said.

I hate small talk, I hate one handed wank fodder fantasies from strangers, I hate being bored or repulsed.

But everyone is different. There's no one message that will instantly spread every pair of legs on fab. I'd recommend checking profiles to make sure you're compatible and then going in with something specific to what the person has on their profile, text rather than pictures.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

What do you class as a fake profile?

You have only been on here 2 weeks so you cant have come across that many.

I also notice the comment about manners.

Not sure quite what you are referring to but someone not replying to your messages is not bad manners, they are simply not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Different people like different types of msg... I would always prefer polite. Dirty usually gets an instant block.

Read the profile and see what you think would be a good idea "

Its tricky. What one may seem as a bit of a cheeky, naughty message, the other might seem too up front.

Difficult to judge given the innevitable eventuality we all are looking for.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

There was always a reason I was messaging a particular person and I'd say what that reason was: saw your status update and it made me laugh/think your user name is brill/loved your photo from whatever date, it's a great pose and the lighting is phenomenal/enjoyed your forum post about X, how do you feel about Y? Whatever the reason, it was clear I'd made a conscious choice to message that particular person rather than sending the same message to everyone in a 50 mile radius.

It usually got a response, even if it wasn't the response I hoped for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What do you class as a fake profile?

You have only been on here 2 weeks so you cant have come across that many.

I also notice the comment about manners.

Not sure quite what you are referring to but someone not replying to your messages is not bad manners, they are simply not interested. "

Ive been here before tbf and have no issue with no reply if not inyerested. Im not that precious but do understand where you are coming from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, are you suggesting some people are worth displaying manners while messaging, and some aren’t?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, are you suggesting some people are worth displaying manners while messaging, and some aren’t?

My good lady - manners and filth can be combined with a bit of cheeky talent. Rude = No. Boring = No. Polite but spicey... thats a Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, are you suggesting some people are worth displaying manners while messaging, and some aren’t?

My good lady - manners and filth can be combined with a bit of cheeky talent. Rude = No. Boring = No. Polite but spicey... thats a Yes"

Alright. I approve. As you were

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Hello folks. Hope youre all good etc.

I was wondering - what would you suggest is the best first message approach?

Im generally a fairly quiet and polite kind of guy but I do have a bit of a naughty side. Thats why we are here, right?

I have found polite messages have pretty much been ignored. Switching it to straight filth gets a bit more interest but quickly fades.

As a foot note: there appears to be a lot of fake profiles here.

Any advice on cutting it through the fakes or where manners are bothering with vs naughty cheek?"
Just carry on with the polite messages based on target profiles eventually you'll get through, talking filth to strangers doesn't get you anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello folks. …..

I have found polite messages have pretty much been ignored. Switching it to straight filth gets a bit more interest but quickly fades…

Thanks for the tips!!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Different people like different types of msg... I would always prefer polite. Dirty usually gets an instant block.

Read the profile and see what you think would be a good idea

Its tricky. What one may seem as a bit of a cheeky, naughty message, the other might seem too up front.

Difficult to judge given the innevitable eventuality we all are looking for."

Are we all looking for the same inevitable eventuality?

Some like upfront, others will recoil in horror at it.

So yeah it's difficult but ask yourself what is more respectful considering you don't know the person you're contacting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, are you suggesting some people are worth displaying manners while messaging, and some aren’t?

My good lady - manners and filth can be combined with a bit of cheeky talent. Rude = No. Boring = No. Polite but spicey... thats a Yes"

What would be an example of a "polite but spicey" first message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, are you suggesting some people are worth displaying manners while messaging, and some aren’t?

My good lady - manners and filth can be combined with a bit of cheeky talent. Rude = No. Boring = No. Polite but spicey... thats a Yes

What would be an example of a "polite but spicey" first message? "

Can I bend you over and roger you?…..please?

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

"OP, are you suggesting some people are worth displaying manners while messaging, and some aren’t?

My good lady - manners and filth can be combined with a bit of cheeky talent. Rude = No. Boring = No. Polite but spicey... thats a Yes

What would be an example of a "polite but spicey" first message?

Can I bend you over and roger you?…..please? "

Perfect

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP I doubt that many genuine women will respond positively to anything sex related. Far more likely to be men looking for wank material, hence the short lived exchange.

Reading the profile should give you an idea of the sort of person they are looking for and message content.

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By *weetsmellingtreatsWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Hello folks. Hope youre all good etc.

I was wondering - what would you suggest is the best first message approach?

Im generally a fairly quiet and polite kind of guy but I do have a bit of a naughty side. Thats why we are here, right?

I have found polite messages have pretty much been ignored. Switching it to straight filth gets a bit more interest but quickly fades.

As a foot note: there appears to be a lot of fake profiles here.

Any advice on cutting it through the fakes or where manners are bothering with vs naughty cheek?"

Well this is verbatim what I got today

Hello young lady I’d like to lick and smell your cunt and suck on your tits I’d love to slap your ass hard wiv my cock

So I wouldn’t recommend rhat approach to be fair.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Your first message to someone should be very unique to the person you want to communicate with. At the end of the day you get out of the site what you are willing to invest in time and thought

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hello folks. Hope youre all good etc.

I was wondering - what would you suggest is the best first message approach?

Im generally a fairly quiet and polite kind of guy but I do have a bit of a naughty side. Thats why we are here, right?

I have found polite messages have pretty much been ignored. Switching it to straight filth gets a bit more interest but quickly fades.

As a foot note: there appears to be a lot of fake profiles here.

Any advice on cutting it through the fakes or where manners are bothering with vs naughty cheek?

Well this is verbatim what I got today

Hello young lady I’d like to lick and smell your cunt and suck on your tits I’d love to slap your ass hard wiv my cock

So I wouldn’t recommend rhat approach to be fair.

Ouch. No, I wouldnt go to such extremes in a message despite my intentions...

I would however very much enjoy expoloring your body with everything I have to see what gives you the most pleasure, should you allow me such...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, how about just being yourself??

Just be you.

We cant tell you to be serious, if that's not your personality. Or vice versa.

If you follow the advice we give you, then that's you just putting on an act..

Be you.

A majority of the women/couples on FAB can smell BS a mile off

Use common sense. Use whatever approach you would in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this is verbatim what I got today

Hello young lady I’d like to lick and smell your cunt and suck on your tits I’d love to slap your ass hard wiv my cock

So I wouldn’t recommend rhat approach to be fair.

...and im still waiting for your reply!!!!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

How norty is norty?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well this is verbatim what I got today

Hello young lady I’d like to lick and smell your cunt and suck on your tits I’d love to slap your ass hard wiv my cock

So I wouldn’t recommend rhat approach to be fair.

...and im still waiting for your reply!!!!"

Im good, thank you.

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By *weetsmellingtreatsWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Well this is verbatim what I got today

Hello young lady I’d like to lick and smell your cunt and suck on your tits I’d love to slap your ass hard wiv my cock

So I wouldn’t recommend rhat approach to be fair.

...and im still waiting for your reply!!!!"

Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this is verbatim what I got today

Hello young lady I’d like to lick and smell your cunt and suck on your tits I’d love to slap your ass hard wiv my cock

So I wouldn’t recommend rhat approach to be fair.

...and im still waiting for your reply!!!!

Ha ha

I did say 'please'. Im not that rude.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Polite messages from men I find attractive (when looking) are what get my interest and a reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Polite messages from men I find attractive (when looking) are what get my interest and a reply"

That us nice no hear. I do prefer to message woman politely albeit with a little bit of cheek

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