FabSwingers.com forum: Become a supervisor

By *jh87 OP Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Just asking for advice.

Where I work a supervisor job has become available. I've been in my role for 5 years and seems this might be the next step but im not the most confident of people.

Any words of advise if possible please?

Thank you in advance

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By *angtidy42Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

Dont ask anyone to do something you would not do yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t try and be everyone’s friend. I learned this the hard way in my first managerial role. But also, don’t be a cunt for the sake of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apply for tbe position, its always a good thing to progress

If you are successful NEVER forget that you was once in their shoes

Treat them as you yourself have liked to be treated by your supervisor

Always remember it's a team effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have confidence in your abilities, don't listen to the voice of self doubt. And go for it as if you don't you'll never know if your up to the job, if you go for it you may just surprise yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're looking to climb the ladder and think you are up to it then give it a go. It will probably change your relationship with your co workers if thats important to you.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Don't big yourself up.

Don't lie.

Find out the aims of the company and say how you being in the post would help that

Make sure you talk about getting the most out of people and how you can make work a place where people want to work, that you are approachable, have a good sense of humour ( which means you can shoulder problems or understand when things go wrong and how to fix them. NOT that you tell jokes all day ) and minimise conflict.

Talk about where you see yourself next year and then three years later and then five years later. etc...

Talk about problems being experience for solutions for the future.

Talk about how enterprising you are and that means siezing opportunity when you see it.

If you are not successful..... just see that you've had an interview which is FREE experience.

Just do it man ...... the best way to fail is to not do it ....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S. begin to develop your confidence .... it's a supervisory role ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it, you don't buy a ticket you don't win a raffle. It's better to try and fail than to wonder what could've been. Or to not apply and see someone far less experienced get the position

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd say go for it but be prepared your not one of the team anymore, work friends etc may change.

I'm a terrible manager/supervisor I'm too friendly and way too soft, it's just not for me, learned for myself but now I know id never go for that kind of position again. Worth a try.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What holds you back? Just confidence? In what? Your skills? Or in general? Analyse that and where it stems from. Be objective, maybe ask for sklome constructive feedback from management and use that as a start point.

What is the relationship like with your colleagues? How would they cope with 'one of them' becoming their supervisor? Discord Will come with transition regardless of whether it's you or someone off the street

It's not easy, you are the link between management and staff, you have to balance both sides. Can you be an advocate for both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say go for it but be prepared your not one of the team anymore, work friends etc may change.

I'm a terrible manager/supervisor I'm too friendly and way too soft, it's just not for me, learned for myself but now I know id never go for that kind of position again. Worth a try.

Mrs "

Not part of the team anymore?

I was the general manager of a London Hotel employing over 300 staff. I had worked my way up over tbe years.

I was ALWAYS a part of tbe team

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Mantra "Embrace the Suck ". Always kept me focused and confident in my supervisory positions.

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Treat others the way you would like to be treated yourself.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Apply and if you get to interview stage ask for training in managing people. There's no shame in saying you'd like to develop your people management skills further and it will give you confidence that you're doing things correctly.

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By *jh87 OP Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Well im the 2nd most senior person there bar the manager and one person who been there longer than me.

They are asking for 2 supervisors. Im confident in what I already do in my job. I also know others who are going for it who (with respect for them) aren't that great what what they already do so I can't really imagine having to take orders from them lol.

I suppose its more im not the best at confrontation

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Well im the 2nd most senior person there bar the manager and one person who been there longer than me.

I suppose its more im not the best at confrontation"

That's why I say ask for training. Supervisory skills aren't always natural and training will give you strategies to deal with difficult situations.

I've been on both sides of the fence. In my last job we suffered (and I mean suffered) with three untrained supervisors in a row. They were out of their depth and we knew it. We had no respect for them and it was clear they had none for us.

If someone is promoted from within they need to be confident in what they're doing and their previous workmates need to know that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well im the 2nd most senior person there bar the manager and one person who been there longer than me.

I suppose its more im not the best at confrontation"

Go for it....You don't know until you try.

So conflict resolution? You can say that this is something you'd like further support and training in if you get to interview. Best thing to remember is to be objective and listen. I feel a lot of conflict happens because people don't feel like they are listened too....It's easy to hear someone but it's harder to listen....Take advice from your own manager, that is what they're there for. Understand your flaws and recognise you will make mistakes, but also have understanding of how you resolve it.

I have been in leadership and management roles for years and it really isn't easy.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Are you friends with the people you work with,do you socialise with them out of work?

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"Well im the 2nd most senior person there bar the manager and one person who been there longer than me.

I suppose its more im not the best at confrontation"

Ask yourself if you really want the job. Don't just go for it because it's available. But if you do, go for it - nothing to lose, and sounds like you have a good chance.

I wouldn't assume confrontation is inevitable just because it's a management role, but if you know it is likely because of the job or the people I guess you've got to decide if it's worth the hassle. But if the company is good you'll get lots of support as a new manager. Good luck!

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Ask your self why you want the role and what you bring that is different or builds on the previous incumbent.

Like others have said work on developing your confidence because management roles require that. You’ll need to make your own decisions and stand by them/defend them on occasion

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Having spent many years as a supervisor & manager, I (Dave) always made sure I could do the jobs of my staff at least as well as they could, so when they asked, "how does..." I knew the answer.

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By *jh87 OP Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Dont socialise outside of work but friendly inside yes

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

It's hard to give advice without knowing the job.

And which kind of confidence you lack. Then what is your team like?

Some supervisor jobs are quite solo oriented with minimal actual supervision needed. Others are full on foot up the arse work master.

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By *jh87 OP Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Well I can do everything that everyone else can do bar what the 2 people before me can do if that makes sense lol.

It's only about maybe 1000 more a year than what I get.

The main reason for me thinking about it is mostly for my partner so she can cut down her working hours

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By *jh87 OP Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Thank you all for the advise so far though

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By *vd1987Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Depends on how much money you would get and if it would be that much more stressful

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Have faith in yourself and if you know your job well no reason you cannot do it. So apply

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Over night you’ll become a 24/7 social worker for adults. When I’m asked this question from up and coming engineers I always say the same thing. ‘Give a supervisors job a wide berth’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd want a lot more than a grand for going into a higher role that would probablg involve more stress, workload and hours.

A grand doesn't work out as that much extra. It's up to you. Do you want the valuable experience? Are you looking to climb in the career you're in? Will stepping into this role benefit you enough to make it worth it?

Best of luck whatever you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd want a lot more than a grand for going into a higher role that would probablg involve more stress, workload and hours.

Best of luck whatever you do."

Agreed! £19 a week isn't worth the hassle and responsibility

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"I'd want a lot more than a grand for going into a higher role that would probablg involve more stress, workload and hours.

Best of luck whatever you do."

It is not actually all that common these days for supervisors to be on a much higher rate of pay than the rest of their team/teams. Certainly is not worth the actual pay itself (for most jobs) it would be harder to find a promotion in most roles that see such a substantial increase that matches the increase of workload and responsibilities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have a great team it is brilliant...

Respect your colleagues, trust them, stretch them, reward +recognise them. Ask them their view. Deal with bad apples immediately.

Share the shit jobs out - do not have favourites. Listen impartially ... But turn EVERYTHING into a positive or moaning Steve will make you want to slit your wrists. Be clear on holidays +cover.. Plan ahead for xmas

It will drain the fuck out of you, so make sure you are recharging and using your boss as your personal support

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh ask them what jobs they would stop or change.. There are often nuggets to be mined that make improvements for all

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"If you have a great team it is brilliant...

Respect your colleagues, trust them, stretch them, reward +recognise them. Ask them their view. Deal with bad apples immediately.

It will drain the fuck out of you, so make sure you are recharging and using your boss as your personal support "

This right here. But poor fucking Steve getting picked on. Clearly somebody has a grudge with Steve...

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By *jh87 OP Man
over a year ago

cardiff

"I'd want a lot more than a grand for going into a higher role that would probablg involve more stress, workload and hours.

Best of luck whatever you do."

Well it's starts off as a grand then after a year or two I. The job it goes up to 2 grand I think. Maybe a tiny but more.

It's with healt services so it's not like the pay is amazing lol

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

£1000. Stick it up their arse

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District

"Just asking for advice.

Where I work a supervisor job has become available. I've been in my role for 5 years and seems this might be the next step but im not the most confident of people.

Any words of advise if possible please?

Thank you in advance"

Just go for it.

Mrs has a learning disability, so she was unsure if she was capable of being a manager when her company offered her the position (without her applying!) Now she has one of the best performing teams in the country within her company

Don’t sell yourself short

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

I've worked closely and directly with numerous senior managers, right up to CEO's of multi million pound international household name organisations.

I worked out years ago that many of them don't know any more than the rest of us- often way less, they just have the balls to make a decision, stick to it and either find a reason why it didn't work out (x changed and caused a shift in parameters) or find some other bugger to blame for it. They're also very good at making sure they right people know they're in charge when it does go well.

Do it because you want to, not because its there- don't be intimidated as if you can do the job you're supervising well, you should be able to step up a level once you learn the extra skills....and don't try to bullshit the people you look after, i've always had way more respect for bosses that don't hide that certain tasks are shit, but have to be done- if someone helps you out when you need it, try and return the favour when they do...rest should be relatively simple

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

"Just asking for advice.

Where I work a supervisor job has become available. I've been in my role for 5 years and seems this might be the next step but im not the most confident of people.

Any words of advise if possible please?

Thank you in advance"

If you do apply and do not get the position would you be able to deal with that? . Also they may offer you a managerial course lasting a few years just to keep you looking at the carrot you might never get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supervisors roles are quite tricky to fill usually they are a lot of extra responsibility for not much monetary gain, no-one ever goes for them where I am for that exact reason. If ìt would be a good thing for your cv to say you had done it then go for it, it may be a step up to a better job eleswhere.

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By *ustafasinghMan
over a year ago

leicester

Jump both feet in get stuck in! That’s best advise I can give. A lot of people are worried and lack the confidence but once in the role they grow and a few month later you’d be like what was I not confident about.

All I can say treat the people how you’d want to be treated and looked after. But ensure they’re aware of you’re expectations and they’ll usually love it!

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By *jh87 OP Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Just wanted to say thank you to everyone who has posted in this thread. It does help getting others opinions

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

Do the job how you thought it should be done by your supervisor and treat people how you’d like to be treated. Value their opinions by listening to them, even if you don’t agree with them.

Good luck with your new role!

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By *amela1987Woman
over a year ago

Enfield

What has worked for me is to demonstrate how I am already doing the role that I am applying for and or showing the behaviour/attributes required. Good luck.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We grow into our roles, so ned them before we expand and fill out. Having realistic expectations for yourself is helpful. You are not expected to be today as if you've been doing the new job for a while

Apply if you'd like the job, the challenge etc. You will learn more about yourself if you do it, what you like and more. You do not have to be perfect at the job, just yourself is perfect.

Life's a journey, you can direct some of yours.

You should get some training and guidance from your employer. You'll learn as as you go.

If you don't get this 1, you gave yourself the chance to grow. There will be more opportunities.

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By *untime40Man
over a year ago

Dont let the power go to your head but also you need to remember if you take the job you take the responsibility of being in charge

When i moved up many moons ago the hardest part was trying to get my pals to follow instructions but if you stick at it be fair but firm and learn where the line is you will be fine i got more confident as i grasped what the role entailed you will be fine go for it

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By *jay38Man
over a year ago

melton

Lead by example , muck in where others won’t and show guidance rather than dominance . People like to follow a leader not a dictator

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I'd want a lot more than a grand for going into a higher role that would probablg involve more stress, workload and hours.

Best of luck whatever you do.

Agreed! £19 a week isn't worth the hassle and responsibility"

£4 per day

and that's before tax

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I forgot....... Tell the panel that you asked for advice on a Swingers Site... that should clinch it.

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