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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Years and years ago, I was a nanny. I was in a well established relationship with my partner, very happy. As part of my job, I went abroad with the family and one day took the children to a zoo.

I observed a single man walking around some of the enclosures, and as I stood chatting about the animals with the children, the man came closer to us and started talking to us, joining in our chat.

It was the weirdest thing, I was hit with this sudden wave of attraction to him. It felt like something was in the air, a magnetism. Minutes passed, some chat, some silence, still with *something* between us. We smiled at each other, in that way, eyes locked. And then suddenly the woman whose children I was caring for called me, I walked away. Never saw him again.

Have you ever felt that strong instantaneous attraction to a complete stranger? What happened?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Years and years ago, I was a nanny. I was in a well established relationship with my partner, very happy. As part of my job, I went abroad with the family and one day took the children to a zoo.

I observed a single man walking around some of the enclosures, and as I stood chatting about the animals with the children, the man came closer to us and started talking to us, joining in our chat.

Have you ever felt that strong instantaneous attraction to a complete stranger? What happened?"

I knew I recognised you!

Hello again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't say a random guy has ever just started talking to me, so, no.

Now I'm sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't say a random guy has ever just started talking to me, so, no.

Now I'm sad.

Reading your bio, had me in stitches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it did happen to me years ago. Bumped into her several times through work. But after awhile it has stopped and I have Never seen that woman again

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes with the Mr, it's those take me to bed eyes

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes it did happen to me years ago. Bumped into her several times through work. But after awhile it has stopped and I have Never seen that woman again"

I actually had myself braced for some kind of Ford Fiesta exhaust pipe fable, when I saw you’d contributed, F&B, so I’m pleasantly surprised

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Years and years ago, I was a nanny. I was in a well established relationship with my partner, very happy. As part of my job, I went abroad with the family and one day took the children to a zoo.

I observed a single man walking around some of the enclosures, and as I stood chatting about the animals with the children, the man came closer to us and started talking to us, joining in our chat.

Have you ever felt that strong instantaneous attraction to a complete stranger? What happened?"
It was just lust

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Years and years ago, I was a nanny. I was in a well established relationship with my partner, very happy. As part of my job, I went abroad with the family and one day took the children to a zoo.

I observed a single man walking around some of the enclosures, and as I stood chatting about the animals with the children, the man came closer to us and started talking to us, joining in our chat.

Have you ever felt that strong instantaneous attraction to a complete stranger? What happened?It was just lust

It wasn’t ‘just’ that, for me.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Years and years ago, I was a nanny. I was in a well established relationship with my partner, very happy. As part of my job, I went abroad with the family and one day took the children to a zoo.

I observed a single man walking around some of the enclosures, and as I stood chatting about the animals with the children, the man came closer to us and started talking to us, joining in our chat.

Have you ever felt that strong instantaneous attraction to a complete stranger? What happened?It was just lust

It wasn’t ‘just’ that, for me."
What emotion for you then?

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I had a similar experience in the chimpanzee enclosure

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

At a house party in my twenties. Some older guy that I just couldn't help wanting to be near and who seemed to gravitate towards me too. I don't think we spoke directly even once that night, but did the morning after lying on the grass and staring at the sky. I remember the electric shock feeling as our skin touched when he handed me a glass of fruit juice to help the hangover.

We've spent time together many times since. Often in the most comfortable silence known to man. We've never fucked, never gone beyond a simple peck. But his soul has always sung to me and still does whenever our paths cross.

There are others that have been absolute lust, I enjoy thise ones. But this one was always different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It was just lust

It wasn’t ‘just’ that, for me.What emotion for you then?

Why do I have to pin an emotion to it, for it to be a worthy experience, in your eyes, Macky?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

No, I don’t romanticise chance encouters or fleeting moments from my past

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"It was just lust

It wasn’t ‘just’ that, for me.What emotion for you then?

Why do I have to pin an emotion to it, for it to be a worthy experience, in your eyes, Macky?"
No reason just asking for an emotion, you were attracted to his look and his voice, you didn't know him other than those two things and you remember it to this day, so he made an impact on you by virtue of this.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Yes I've had those moments but for me if I'm in a happy relationship they don't really happen.

I have a crush on one of the girls at my local shop, I really want to ask her if she's single or tell her she's really pretty but I also don't want to creep her out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I've had those moments but for me if I'm in a happy relationship they don't really happen.

I have a crush on one of the girls at my local shop, I really want to ask her if she's single or tell her she's really pretty but I also don't want to creep her out

If you can sense that she may have an attraction towards you also (and believe me you'd sense it!) Go ahead and make the first move.

You only live once

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At a house party in my twenties. Some older guy that I just couldn't help wanting to be near and who seemed to gravitate towards me too. I don't think we spoke directly even once that night, but did the morning after lying on the grass and staring at the sky. I remember the electric shock feeling as our skin touched when he handed me a glass of fruit juice to help the hangover.

There are others that have been absolute lust, I enjoy thise ones. But this one was always different."

Perhaps not everyone has the chance to encounter this feeling, because I agree, it was more than lust, otherwise I wouldn’t remember it in the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes .. the first time I clapped eyes on my best friends brother ... he's now my Mr B x

Mrs B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I feel attracted to women everyday. Then they walk off and just like that they're out of my life.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Yes I've had those moments but for me if I'm in a happy relationship they don't really happen.

I have a crush on one of the girls at my local shop, I really want to ask her if she's single or tell her she's really pretty but I also don't want to creep her out

If you can sense that she may have an attraction towards you also (and believe me you'd sense it!) Go ahead and make the first move.

You only live once "

She seems shy when serving me, I'd definitely make her more so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this a couple of times but I have consoled myself with the knowledge that the attraction would have probably started to wane the more we got to know each other.

This is much better than thinking that you've missed out on THE ONE*

*spoiler - the one doesn't exist.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Yes I've had this happen to me once we stated dating for awhile but then he moved away with work

Broke my heart and took me a long time to get over him

We recently reconnected and met up, thst instant pull was still there after all these year.

Yes we spent the night together and weirdly the pull is no longer there for me towards him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes we spent the night together and weirdly the pull is no longer there for me towards him

And you really have no idea why that pull has disappeared for you, towards him?

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

Near You

It doesn't happen often but yes, I've had that "electric" before. Once with a girl when I was in my late teens, with another girl when I was in my early 30s and with a guy when I was in my mid-20s. Strangely none of them went further than a passing "hello" or a fleeting mutual acknowledgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I've had this happen to me once we stated dating for awhile but then he moved away with work

Broke my heart and took me a long time to get over him

We recently reconnected and met up, thst instant pull was still there after all these year.

Yes we spent the night together and weirdly the pull is no longer there for me towards him

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This happened to me also!

Met him, had that instant ooomph. I was in bits over this person for a couple of years - reconnected, slept together, but I was meh. Totally surprised me. The feelings were now purely platonic. He's now chasing me, I think it's all a game somewhat

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I've had this twice in my life.

The first was when I was much younger and I fancied this woman for years - it was literally love at first sight. We were together most days and kinda chatted as mates. She then started going out with my best mate! Argh!! She tried to set me up with her best mate but it would never have worked (even though bestie hottie yum yum). We had a snog and fumble at a party once but that was it and then she moved away (no, not because I snogged her haha!).

I then bumped into her on holiday and we agreed to meet the following night. She obviously went somewhere else because we missed each other and this is before mobile phones were everywhere. Never saw her again but still think about her.

The second was later in life and it hit me like a bombshell, taking over my thoughts so completely I was useless for a couple of days!

I won't go into details but I totally get the unexplainable magnetic attraction towards one person. It's bizarre isn't it.

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

I’ve never seen someone and though, wow, love me a piece of that, nevermind anything more. Always thought I must be weird but I accept it now. I need some communication, understanding to make a connection, then I seem to notice the physicalities.

I can look and appreciate the aesthetics, but it doesn’t “stir” me

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

Near You

"I’ve never seen someone and though, wow, love me a piece of that, nevermind anything more. Always thought I must be weird but I accept it now. I need some communication, understanding to make a connection, then I seem to notice the physicalities.

I can look and appreciate the aesthetics, but it doesn’t “stir” me "

It's not a "wow, you're fit" or a pure lust thing. More just a weird feeling of being pulled towards them. It's not even necessarily sexual. I've met plenty of people where there's been a strong mutual lust and it's not that.

I'm not really a spiritual person and I'm usually the one to look for logical explanations but I can't explain it. I can't even really describe it properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to meet people don’t you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in Manchester last August after a night out and took some food back to my hotel at around 1am and ate it in the lobby area and there were a group of about 15 people there dressed quite smartly and looked like they were out on a company event.

A couple of women from the group were walking past and one of them (seemed a bit tipsy) just asked if I was ok, to which I said yes and I asked the same and offered her to sit if she wanted to to and she did. We then just chatted for about an hour about everything. What we were doing there, what we did in life, coming out of lockdown etc. And it was utterly fascinating because I knew we'd never see each other again so I was a complete open book. She went back to her group and I said goodnight and we hugged and we went our separate ways. She was very attractive (and married so nothing would've happened) but the idea of talking to a complete stranger for a while and being open with each other just felt really amazing and added to the attraction.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

A couple of times. Never acted on it though (I'm a slow burn!). Once was on a residential work training course. I was in my 20s and there was a very pretty woman about my age too. I knew we fancied each other, and drinks in the bar that night could easily have gone further, but we didn't. Kept in touch for a bit afterwards but not for long.

Another time, also at work - probably the person I've been most drawn to (other than my ex-wife when I first met her). One of those 10/10s you come across rarely and we got on brilliantly too. We both had partners so nothing happened, but we became really good friends, and still are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can look and appreciate the aesthetics, but it doesn’t “stir” me

I'm not really a spiritual person and I'm usually the one to look for logical explanations but I can't explain it. I can't even really describe it properly."

This. It's a very spiritual, out of control feeling that cannot be explained logically. It feels beautiful too, as confusing as it is, while it lasts. I reckon moments like these are sent to remind us of the wonder of life and that we're not in total control -

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

No never happened! But would b amazing like in the old romantic films! X

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Not for a while... When I was younger, and maybe more open to it, I would instantly know the minute I laid eyes on someone if anything was going to happen, can think of 2 guys that happened with.

I think I miss that feeling.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have to meet people don’t you? "

What do you mean, Woody?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have to meet people don’t you?

What do you mean, Woody?"

I spend very little time with anyone lately. (The odd social, which is another story)

But relating to what you said. I met a woman to quote her for some jobs, I knew she was attractive from the moment she opened the door and in her bedroom she was flirting with me, and I typically responded. You could feel it in the air that it was both ways. I will never forget that. If she wasn’t a customer, I would have jumped on her. But that interaction was within 15 mins… my record for being invited to a girls bedroom after saying hello.

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
over a year ago

IPSWICH

"Years and years ago, I was a nanny. I was in a well established relationship with my partner, very happy. As part of my job, I went abroad with the family and one day took the children to a zoo.

I observed a single man walking around some of the enclosures, and as I stood chatting about the animals with the children, the man came closer to us and started talking to us, joining in our chat.

Have you ever felt that strong instantaneous attraction to a complete stranger? What happened?"

Yes I have. What happened? I've kicked myself often.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

You will get this across the spectrum, if at first sight you don’t find another attractive if you spend some time within the comfort zone or personal space your bodies talk to each other and sparks fly … red is really for danger

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

It does not happen often, but when it does it’s an overwhelming feeling.

Once I went out with a couple of friends, I was still married. All of the sudden the boyfriend of one of them arrived and I was taken to that trance, I felt that time stopped, I could feel my cheeks getting really hot, and we stood in a gaze for what must have been seconds but felt like hours. The attraction was more than physical. I can’t remember his face anymore, but can’t forget how I felt that day

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Before I'd even laid eyes on Mr N I saw his name written down and knew there was going to be some sort of connection between us. Here we are 42 years later and he's still trying to shake me off.

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"Before I'd even laid eyes on Mr N I saw his name written down and knew there was going to be some sort of connection between us. Here we are 42 years later and he's still trying to shake me off.

This is beautiful! I want this x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Before I'd even laid eyes on Mr N I saw his name written down and knew there was going to be some sort of connection between us. Here we are 42 years later and he's still trying to shake me off.

This is beautiful! I want this x"

it's funny how something clicks in your brain about things.

When I was about 10 a friend and I used to walk past a big old house, surrounded by high hedges. One day she said "I'd hate to live there"

I replied that I would be living there one day.

A year later my parents bought it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes thirty odd years ago walked into an office at work and saw the new employee

She was stunning, I fell for here there n then

She came to work at the same office and I was smitten as was another guy

I saw how she took the piss having him run about after her doing most of her work

It became apparent that she was highly skilled in manipulating guys and I took a good step back

I did some paid work for her at her home and I was so sure she was hitting on me but I chick out thank goodness

She ended up breaking up two marriages whilst at the same company

Fortunately I realised that she would have run rings around me lol

I have to admit to still fancying her even now and regretting not having the balls to take the opportunity all those years ago

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