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Is a ‘dirty’ message abusive?

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By *amantha_Jade OP   Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Interested to hear peoples opinions on this.

I have just received a lengthy, detailed and very descriptive dirty message. It has made me feel physically sick I’m sure the man has just copy/pasted and sent to anyone that he can, but it’s made me feel quite angry that he has sent such an obscene unsolicited message.

Do you class a ‘dirty’ message as abusive and would you therefore report it? Do you just ignore and block? Do you reply and tell them to fuck off? Do you just accept that it’s part and parcel of being on Fab and aren’t bothered? Thanks all.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

As soon as I see its yet another word vomit one handed fantasy copy paste it's a straightforward 'No.' sent and usually a swift block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if its something that's really bothered you / abusive etc, then you're well within your right to report it.

otherwise, i'd just block and delete.

Px

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

It is one of those things that will most definitely come down to personal opinion I think.

Nobody is wrong to feel it is, not wrong they don't.

Personally, I'd not say abusive but very disrespectful for such things to be sent without any kind of consent or indication of willing to receive things like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely if its unsolicited, it counts as harassment? Which would make it abusive, no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me. "

This time

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I just delete it and wouldn't report it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Samantha! It's been too long! Looking good gurl!

Anyway onto this serious topic I think if it's made you feel like that, you should report it. Because it made you feel like reporting it if that makes sense?

For him he would have just as you say copy and pasted hoping 1 woman responds and 1 probably will...but I would definitely not respond and block immediately xx

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I've never got one OP but I don't think it's right that you have. If you knew the sender and was an increase between messages you could excuse it but straight off the bat. No, it's not right.

*by the sounds of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyway onto this serious topic I think if it's made you feel like that, you should report it. Because it made you feel like reporting it if that makes sense? "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont't consider them offensive or abusive in the slightest. They do make me roll my eyes but that's it. I just delete,I would never consider reporting them as they haven't done anything wrong.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

It depends on the level of dirty and who it's from, I've recieved them from people I like and from people I don't.

It's just something that's going to happen time to time on here, just block them.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

As a generic message it's impossible to say but I'd assume that would be down to both the intent of the sender and the reaction of the recipient. What offends one person may be laughed off by another.

If you are genuinely offended then report it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the content for me... I don't mind a bit of filth... Was way less receptive to someone offering to whip & piss on me infront of a 'disabled, blind, old relative'

Not really sure where they were going? But it didn't hit the spot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interested to hear peoples opinions on this.

I have just received a lengthy, detailed and very descriptive dirty message. It has made me feel physically sick I’m sure the man has just copy/pasted and sent to anyone that he can, but it’s made me feel quite angry that he has sent such an obscene unsolicited message.

Do you class a ‘dirty’ message as abusive and would you therefore report it? Do you just ignore and block? Do you reply and tell them to fuck off? Do you just accept that it’s part and parcel of being on Fab and aren’t bothered? Thanks all. "

I know what you mean and feel that these messages of this nature do cross a boundary. They know nothing about you.

Just block, this is what I do x

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Depends on the content for me... I don't mind a bit of filth... Was way less receptive to someone offering to whip & piss on me infront of a 'disabled, blind, old relative'

Not really sure where they were going? But it didn't hit the spot "

Got to give them an A- for creativity though!

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

block who sent and delete .. i dont let them worry me im never going to meet them with messages like that ..

abusive gets reported everytime then deleted n blocked the problem is they delete there profiles and 5 mins later back on as someone else easy to spot mind you i love mt block button best tool on fab by far

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Interested to hear peoples opinions on this.

I have just received a lengthy, detailed and very descriptive dirty message. It has made me feel physically sick I’m sure the man has just copy/pasted and sent to anyone that he can, but it’s made me feel quite angry that he has sent such an obscene unsolicited message.

Do you class a ‘dirty’ message as abusive and would you therefore report it? Do you just ignore and block? Do you reply and tell them to fuck off? Do you just accept that it’s part and parcel of being on Fab and aren’t bothered? Thanks all. "

Probably start by replying to the author and schooling him on how it made you feel. I'm sure the last thing he wanted to do was make you feel angry and sick.

As for is it or isn't it? If you think it is. Then it is to you. And that's all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, I think if what you are describing is a standard dirty messages then it's part of the package that comes with being here. And same with dick pics, you should kind of expect it on a 18+ website where adults are seeking sexual partners.

It's gross, I agree. And you are entitled to feel how you feel. I personally don't think it's worth getting upset over it and nothing really phases me here as I expect it. I wouldn't report it, as I don't think they've done anything wrong unless they've been abusive or said something that is unacceptable. I do think it's unreasonable to expect these things not to happen on here, but I seem to be in the minority with this opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says don’t send dirty messages.

…. I guess it’s uncultivated - I’ve found another word that I find difficult to spell.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

A bit of self awareness is also relevant. The site you're on. The profile. Not suggesting whatever was OK. Just saying I can understand how somebody might think you'd be interested in receiving something sexual in nature. As already said.... Its offensive if you think it's offensive to you. Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly, I think if what you are describing is a standard dirty messages then it's part of the package that comes with being here. And same with dick pics, you should kind of expect it on a 18+ website where adults are seeking sexual partners.

It's gross, I agree. And you are entitled to feel how you feel. I personally don't think it's worth getting upset over it and nothing really phases me here as I expect it. I wouldn't report it, as I don't think they've done anything wrong unless they've been abusive or said something that is unacceptable. I do think it's unreasonable to expect these things not to happen on here, but I seem to be in the minority with this opinion."

I mean I just don't see the point in suggesting anything graphic with a woman if she thinks I look like a toilet lid and have the personality of a psychopath. But then again I am one tip top guy so I'm probably also in the minority with that.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Honestly, I think if what you are describing is a standard dirty messages then it's part of the package that comes with being here. And same with dick pics, you should kind of expect it on a 18+ website where adults are seeking sexual partners.

It's gross, I agree. And you are entitled to feel how you feel. I personally don't think it's worth getting upset over it and nothing really phases me here as I expect it. I wouldn't report it, as I don't think they've done anything wrong unless they've been abusive or said something that is unacceptable. I do think it's unreasonable to expect these things not to happen on here, but I seem to be in the minority with this opinion."

Sorry, won't send you any more photos with my penis in a lemon ring doughnut

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By *over not a fighter69Man
over a year ago

greenock


"Interested to hear peoples opinions on this.

I have just received a lengthy, detailed and very descriptive dirty message. It has made me feel physically sick I’m sure the man has just copy/pasted and sent to anyone that he can, but it’s made me feel quite angry that he has sent such an obscene unsolicited message.

Do you class a ‘dirty’ message as abusive and would you therefore report it? Do you just ignore and block? Do you reply and tell them to fuck off? Do you just accept that it’s part and parcel of being on Fab and aren’t bothered? Thanks all. "

Probably blinded with lust at your stunning beauty

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Honestly, I think if what you are describing is a standard dirty messages then it's part of the package that comes with being here. And same with dick pics, you should kind of expect it on a 18+ website where adults are seeking sexual partners.

It's gross, I agree. And you are entitled to feel how you feel. I personally don't think it's worth getting upset over it and nothing really phases me here as I expect it. I wouldn't report it, as I don't think they've done anything wrong unless they've been abusive or said something that is unacceptable. I do think it's unreasonable to expect these things not to happen on here, but I seem to be in the minority with this opinion.

Sorry, won't send you any more photos with my penis in a lemon ring doughnut "

Lemon ring? What kind of filthy depraved pervert are you man!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Whilst they are abhorrent, crass and unwelcoming, those types of messages are far from incongruous...because it's Fab.

Don't dignify it with a response. Ignore and block.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Honestly, I think if what you are describing is a standard dirty messages then it's part of the package that comes with being here. And same with dick pics, you should kind of expect it on a 18+ website where adults are seeking sexual partners.

It's gross, I agree. And you are entitled to feel how you feel. I personally don't think it's worth getting upset over it and nothing really phases me here as I expect it. I wouldn't report it, as I don't think they've done anything wrong unless they've been abusive or said something that is unacceptable. I do think it's unreasonable to expect these things not to happen on here, but I seem to be in the minority with this opinion.

Sorry, won't send you any more photos with my penis in a lemon ring doughnut

Lemon ring? What kind of filthy depraved pervert are you man! "

The fun kind

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It depends how pissy I'm feeling

Sometimes I'll just delete and block and others I'll send a sarky reply back before I block.

I hate these sort of messages ,they've not seen me and think I'd be interested when they usually have just cock pics or attach them in a message too.Just no need ,speak to me as another person and they'd do much better.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Sex talk is not against rules no. Unless it is something illegal then it is best to ignore and block the person

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