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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There seems to have been another recent surge in threads highlighting difference in the 'Fab experience' depending on the sex of the member. This really is not complicated and in my opinion anyone who allows themselves to become frustrated by it is probably already frustrated to some extent by life away from Fab.

We should all know by now that the ratio of men to women creates a false dynamic (or maybe I should say Fab dynamic). The law of supply and demand is a simple fact of life whether we are talking about women, crude oil or sprouts in a drought year, something you can normally take for granted becomes valuable when scarce (anybody offended by the analogy....wake up).

A fair number of women on here clearly have issues with their self esteem, the Fab dynamic can give them a confidence boost which some handle very well but for others mean they lose sight of reality. This in turn adds to the phenomenon which is the Fab dynamic.

A fair number of men see the scene and the women on here as readily available, very easy no strings sex (lets be honest if you surveyed the opinion of anyone not involved in the scene, that would probably be the general consensus). These men are not looking for a girlfriend and so have no inner conflict or issue with lowering their normal standards for a purely physical exchange. The shock for them or as another poster puts it, their bubble bursts if they are rejected.

In the eyes of some the scene is therefore percieved as some type of utopia for single women, especially ones who may struggle out in the big bad world.

I have my own _iew. I believe there is a very active minority and that the majority of single women on here probably actually have very little 'multi partner' sex as a direct result of the site. For many it is simply a vehicle to boost their ego or as one poster put it, a glorified facebook.

My suggestion to any women who doesn't see this as an ego boost or is fed up to the point of being rude due to constantly being approached by the 'wrong' guys, activate your filters and do your own prospecting, it will keep you grounded.

Try never to forget that sadly if a gremlin purporting to be a single bi fem put a profile up saying 'need sex now' it would probably recieve messages!

My advice to any man who approaches a women below his normal standards with the tactic of decieving her into believing she is 'Fabs Finest' in order to empty his sack, is to reassesx your virtues and question your desperation. If you can, go and pull in a pub.

You'll be less frustrated!

See Fab for what it is because the truth is you're unlikely to change it. A fair few people on here have and are having a great time and only meet people they are genuinely attracted to. If you're not, don't put all your eggs in the one basket and then blame the basket!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I have already mentioned in the past, I have a life outside FAB, and am living life to the full.

Sexy fun is just a recreational activity that I enjoy, there are others that keep me occupied.

I certainly do not put all my eggs in the FAB basket!

I intend to have more fun this year.

Last year was a very lean on the meet front for various reasons, and I have set the ball rolling.

Roll on 2013, and there will be no complaint from me!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

the thread of the year

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By *ickiemintMan
over a year ago

Somewhere NW London


"There seems to have been another recent surge in threads highlighting difference in the 'Fab experience' depending on the sex of the member. This really is not complicated and in my opinion anyone who allows themselves to become frustrated by it is probably already frustrated to some extent by life away from Fab.

We should all know by now that the ratio of men to women creates a false dynamic (or maybe I should say Fab dynamic). The law of supply and demand is a simple fact of life whether we are talking about women, crude oil or sprouts in a drought year, something you can normally take for granted becomes valuable when scarce (anybody offended by the analogy....wake up).

A fair number of women on here clearly have issues with their self esteem, the Fab dynamic can give them a confidence boost which some handle very well but for others mean they lose sight of reality. This in turn adds to the phenomenon which is the Fab dynamic.

A fair number of men see the scene and the women on here as readily available, very easy no strings sex (lets be honest if you surveyed the opinion of anyone not involved in the scene, that would probably be the general consensus). These men are not looking for a girlfriend and so have no inner conflict or issue with lowering their normal standards for a purely physical exchange. The shock for them or as another poster puts it, their bubble bursts if they are rejected.

In the eyes of some the scene is therefore percieved as some type of utopia for single women, especially ones who may struggle out in the big bad world.

I have my own _iew. I believe there is a very active minority and that the majority of single women on here probably actually have very little 'multi partner' sex as a direct result of the site. For many it is simply a vehicle to boost their ego or as one poster put it, a glorified facebook.

My suggestion to any women who doesn't see this as an ego boost or is fed up to the point of being rude due to constantly being approached by the 'wrong' guys, activate your filters and do your own prospecting, it will keep you grounded.

Try never to forget that sadly if a gremlin purporting to be a single bi fem put a profile up saying 'need sex now' it would probably recieve messages!

My advice to any man who approaches a women below his normal standards with the tactic of decieving her into believing she is 'Fabs Finest' in order to empty his sack, is to reassesx your virtues and question your desperation. If you can, go and pull in a pub.

You'll be less frustrated!

See Fab for what it is because the truth is you're unlikely to change it. A fair few people on here have and are having a great time and only meet people they are genuinely attracted to. If you're not, don't put all your eggs in the one basket and then blame the basket! "

F*** me thats deep for this time of the year. Wake me up in January. Rich XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love his posts, always!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It is also good to take a moment and re_iew what you want from the this site and the lifestyle. That doesn't mean you have to shout at everyone else and be rude to people.

Know what is acceptable for you and let others get on with what is acceptable for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well written. Some guys make it sound like this is the only avenue for getting laid and rejection on gere is the end of the world. Plenty of other sites and places although fab is one of the more liberal for talking about sex so I can understand the appeal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eggggscellent post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There seems to have been another recent surge in threads highlighting difference in the 'Fab experience' depending on the sex of the member. This really is not complicated and in my opinion anyone who allows themselves to become frustrated by it is probably already frustrated to some extent by life away from Fab.

We should all know by now that the ratio of men to women creates a false dynamic (or maybe I should say Fab dynamic). The law of supply and demand is a simple fact of life whether we are talking about women, crude oil or sprouts in a drought year, something you can normally take for granted becomes valuable when scarce (anybody offended by the analogy....wake up).

A fair number of women on here clearly have issues with their self esteem, the Fab dynamic can give them a confidence boost which some handle very well but for others mean they lose sight of reality. This in turn adds to the phenomenon which is the Fab dynamic.

A fair number of men see the scene and the women on here as readily available, very easy no strings sex (lets be honest if you surveyed the opinion of anyone not involved in the scene, that would probably be the general consensus). These men are not looking for a girlfriend and so have no inner conflict or issue with lowering their normal standards for a purely physical exchange. The shock for them or as another poster puts it, their bubble bursts if they are rejected.

In the eyes of some the scene is therefore percieved as some type of utopia for single women, especially ones who may struggle out in the big bad world.

I have my own _iew. I believe there is a very active minority and that the majority of single women on here probably actually have very little 'multi partner' sex as a direct result of the site. For many it is simply a vehicle to boost their ego or as one poster put it, a glorified facebook.

My suggestion to any women who doesn't see this as an ego boost or is fed up to the point of being rude due to constantly being approached by the 'wrong' guys, activate your filters and do your own prospecting, it will keep you grounded.

Try never to forget that sadly if a gremlin purporting to be a single bi fem put a profile up saying 'need sex now' it would probably recieve messages!

My advice to any man who approaches a women below his normal standards with the tactic of decieving her into believing she is 'Fabs Finest' in order to empty his sack, is to reassesx your virtues and question your desperation. If you can, go and pull in a pub.

You'll be less frustrated!

See Fab for what it is because the truth is you're unlikely to change it. A fair few people on here have and are having a great time and only meet people they are genuinely attracted to. If you're not, don't put all your eggs in the one basket and then blame the basket! "

Well said that man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post x

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By *aris23Woman
over a year ago

France

Very well said that man! All newbies (regardless of gender) should have to read this prior to joining up!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and the second you show your vulnerability for all to see, your real journey commences.... good friends there to help, others out to exploit.

Beware what you share...

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

brilliant post blackspice well said

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

good post mate should get u some meets lol wink wink

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"It is also good to take a moment and re_iew what you want from the this site and the lifestyle."

Thats what I am doing at the mo. As much as I love people on here I don't want to spend as much time on Fab in 2013 as I did in 2012.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and the second you show your vulnerability for all to see, your real journey commences.... good friends there to help, others out to exploit.

Beware what you share..."

.

So true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There seems to have been another recent surge in threads highlighting difference in the 'Fab experience' depending on the sex of the member. This really is not complicated and in my opinion anyone who allows themselves to become frustrated by it is probably already frustrated to some extent by life away from Fab.

We should all know by now that the ratio of men to women creates a false dynamic (or maybe I should say Fab dynamic). The law of supply and demand is a simple fact of life whether we are talking about women, crude oil or sprouts in a drought year, something you can normally take for granted becomes valuable when scarce (anybody offended by the analogy....wake up).

A fair number of women on here clearly have issues with their self esteem, the Fab dynamic can give them a confidence boost which some handle very well but for others mean they lose sight of reality. This in turn adds to the phenomenon which is the Fab dynamic.

A fair number of men see the scene and the women on here as readily available, very easy no strings sex (lets be honest if you surveyed the opinion of anyone not involved in the scene, that would probably be the general consensus). These men are not looking for a girlfriend and so have no inner conflict or issue with lowering their normal standards for a purely physical exchange. The shock for them or as another poster puts it, their bubble bursts if they are rejected.

In the eyes of some the scene is therefore percieved as some type of utopia for single women, especially ones who may struggle out in the big bad world.

I have my own _iew. I believe there is a very active minority and that the majority of single women on here probably actually have very little 'multi partner' sex as a direct result of the site. For many it is simply a vehicle to boost their ego or as one poster put it, a glorified facebook.

My suggestion to any women who doesn't see this as an ego boost or is fed up to the point of being rude due to constantly being approached by the 'wrong' guys, activate your filters and do your own prospecting, it will keep you grounded.

Try never to forget that sadly if a gremlin purporting to be a single bi fem put a profile up saying 'need sex now' it would probably recieve messages!

My advice to any man who approaches a women below his normal standards with the tactic of decieving her into believing she is 'Fabs Finest' in order to empty his sack, is to reassesx your virtues and question your desperation. If you can, go and pull in a pub.

You'll be less frustrated!

See Fab for what it is because the truth is you're unlikely to change it. A fair few people on here have and are having a great time and only meet people they are genuinely attracted to. If you're not, don't put all your eggs in the one basket and then blame the basket! "

are you for hire ? i could do with you going thro my posts before i send them thro,,your very good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thread of the year.

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire

very good post. Sums up many of my own observations exactly.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Well written and sound in theory.

In practice there are four women to every three men in the fifteen to sixtyfive age group in the U.K.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never seen woman as easy.

ive not been able to work them out.

everything is a risk,including being on here.

i do not marvel when i see someone post something about themselves and its bad.

it just reminds me my problems are tiny compared to some.

do women have low esteem and boost it but cock teasing men with no intention to meet?

yes.

do men do the same?

yes

couples?

yes.

everyone plays the game.

its up to you if you take part.

if you fee unable to compete. you retire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well written and sound in theory.

In practice there are four women to every three men in the fifteen to sixtyfive age group in the U.K.

"

I've done practising and moved on to the advanced sex group.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Excellent Gloria ....

Soon you will be flying solo ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Excellent Gloria ....

Soon you will be flying solo .... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... That doesn't mean you have to shout at everyone else and be rude to people.

"

Can we still ignore them though?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"There seems to have been another recent surge in threads highlighting difference in the 'Fab experience' depending on the sex of the member. This really is not complicated and in my opinion anyone who allows themselves to become frustrated by it is probably already frustrated to some extent by life away from Fab.

We should all know by now that the ratio of men to women creates a false dynamic (or maybe I should say Fab dynamic). The law of supply and demand is a simple fact of life whether we are talking about women, crude oil or sprouts in a drought year, something you can normally take for granted becomes valuable when scarce (anybody offended by the analogy....wake up).

A fair number of women on here clearly have issues with their self esteem, the Fab dynamic can give them a confidence boost which some handle very well but for others mean they lose sight of reality. This in turn adds to the phenomenon which is the Fab dynamic.

A fair number of men see the scene and the women on here as readily available, very easy no strings sex (lets be honest if you surveyed the opinion of anyone not involved in the scene, that would probably be the general consensus). These men are not looking for a girlfriend and so have no inner conflict or issue with lowering their normal standards for a purely physical exchange. The shock for them or as another poster puts it, their bubble bursts if they are rejected.

In the eyes of some the scene is therefore percieved as some type of utopia for single women, especially ones who may struggle out in the big bad world.

I have my own _iew. I believe there is a very active minority and that the majority of single women on here probably actually have very little 'multi partner' sex as a direct result of the site. For many it is simply a vehicle to boost their ego or as one poster put it, a glorified facebook.

My suggestion to any women who doesn't see this as an ego boost or is fed up to the point of being rude due to constantly being approached by the 'wrong' guys, activate your filters and do your own prospecting, it will keep you grounded.

Try never to forget that sadly if a gremlin purporting to be a single bi fem put a profile up saying 'need sex now' it would probably recieve messages!

My advice to any man who approaches a women below his normal standards with the tactic of decieving her into believing she is 'Fabs Finest' in order to empty his sack, is to reassesx your virtues and question your desperation. If you can, go and pull in a pub.

You'll be less frustrated!

See Fab for what it is because the truth is you're unlikely to change it. A fair few people on here have and are having a great time and only meet people they are genuinely attracted to. If you're not, don't put all your eggs in the one basket and then blame the basket! "

A great post with a real down to earth sense of realism presented in a non offensive way - just as we have grown to know Mr Blackspice

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Good words. Lets hope your advice is taken on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A true account of how people assume the real world of Fab and swinging actually is.

A very wise and clear _iew on a murky subject most would ignore or take forgranted.

A blissfull breath of fresh air that brings life and hope to those searching for that something extra to add a spark, nay, a flame to their smouldering, smokey _iew.

Bless you OP.

P.S.

Any single chicks that want a quick shag, just drop me a line

In all seriousness, good post

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Blackspice and View should run an induction workshop.

As soon as you see someone has joined they must receive the tutorials from the wise sages.

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon

Interesting post, but are you not basing your thoughts on those who contribute to the forums..which as we know is a small sample of Fab members.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Blackspice and View should run an induction workshop.

As soon as you see someone has joined they must receive the tutorials from the wise sages."

Shouldn't one of them be a wise onion?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

very well put as usual from the OP..

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"There seems to have been another recent surge in threads highlighting difference in the 'Fab experience' depending on the sex of the member. This really is not complicated and in my opinion anyone who allows themselves to become frustrated by it is probably already frustrated to some extent by life away from Fab.

We should all know by now that the ratio of men to women creates a false dynamic (or maybe I should say Fab dynamic). The law of supply and demand is a simple fact of life whether we are talking about women, crude oil or sprouts in a drought year, something you can normally take for granted becomes valuable when scarce (anybody offended by the analogy....wake up).

A fair number of women on here clearly have issues with their self esteem, the Fab dynamic can give them a confidence boost which some handle very well but for others mean they lose sight of reality. This in turn adds to the phenomenon which is the Fab dynamic.

A fair number of men see the scene and the women on here as readily available, very easy no strings sex (lets be honest if you surveyed the opinion of anyone not involved in the scene, that would probably be the general consensus). These men are not looking for a girlfriend and so have no inner conflict or issue with lowering their normal standards for a purely physical exchange. The shock for them or as another poster puts it, their bubble bursts if they are rejected.

In the eyes of some the scene is therefore percieved as some type of utopia for single women, especially ones who may struggle out in the big bad world.

I have my own _iew. I believe there is a very active minority and that the majority of single women on here probably actually have very little 'multi partner' sex as a direct result of the site. For many it is simply a vehicle to boost their ego or as one poster put it, a glorified facebook.

My suggestion to any women who doesn't see this as an ego boost or is fed up to the point of being rude due to constantly being approached by the 'wrong' guys, activate your filters and do your own prospecting, it will keep you grounded.

Try never to forget that sadly if a gremlin purporting to be a single bi fem put a profile up saying 'need sex now' it would probably recieve messages!

My advice to any man who approaches a women below his normal standards with the tactic of decieving her into believing she is 'Fabs Finest' in order to empty his sack, is to reassesx your virtues and question your desperation. If you can, go and pull in a pub.

You'll be less frustrated!

See Fab for what it is because the truth is you're unlikely to change it. A fair few people on here have and are having a great time and only meet people they are genuinely attracted to. If you're not, don't put all your eggs in the one basket and then blame the basket! "

one the most intelligent posts i have read in years.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


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one the most intelligent posts i have read in years. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blackspice and View should run an induction workshop.

As soon as you see someone has joined they must receive the tutorials from the wise sages."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe the Fab effect exists anywhere where there are a small number of women and a large number of men. Well done to the OP for coining the phrase.

I present Exhibit A, The Falkland Islands military base Mount Pleasant. Ladies in need of an ego massage did very well down there indeed, others who either weren't interested or were determined to remain faithful just got hassle on an evening out.

This effect was widely known about and lead to a bit of an urban myth circulating. It goes that there was an RAF troop transport flight pilot who, upon landing back in the UK announced over the plane's PA: "Welcome back to RAF Brize Norton where the local time is 6am, and ladies, how does it feel to be ugly again?"

Urban myth or not, still makes me laugh.

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By *aulatv_ukTV/TS
over a year ago

Rhyl

I have worked in Saudi and its true what you are saying about ratios, the women out there were parading themselves like miss worlds. Girls that you would not have looked twice at had the pick go all the hunky men, natures natural selection at work and it just goes to show that all a girl has to do is crook her little finger and all the males will come running with not only their Tongues hanging out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An excellent well constructed topical post as always by Mr B. I always look forward to reading his posts.. Keep them coming.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Best post i have seen on here, period.

As many have stated, thread of the year!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah Blackspice. Well observed and written as always. Mwah. Ms x

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)


"Blackspice and View should run an induction workshop.

As soon as you see someone has joined they must receive the tutorials from the wise sages.

Shouldn't one of them be a wise onion? "

No no wise onions always leave you in tears

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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

We are frustrated that Blackspice does not live closer to us !

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Very good advice, pity the forums don't have sticky threads that stay at top for everyone to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While some people do find this site frustrating. I hate listening to people complain without taking any action. If something is not working for you try something else. No better time than now to re_iew things.

Great post like the timing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting post, but are you not basing your thoughts on those who contribute to the forums..which as we know is a small sample of Fab members."

Not only that but implying that single males are desperate individuals who meet those who they wouldn't give a second glance to in the street

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm slightly confused to the meaning behind the OP :/

Everyone is here for different things and that's why we have profiles that state what we want. Surely the only advice needed is to respect what's written on a profile and still don't expect to have interest back as people can't write every little details down..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

For me, having sex with different people is not dissimilar to having a hobby. One that for me requires planning. I have lots of other interests and pasttimes as well as being on here. In-between meets, I like the social side of being on here. Everyone is on here for a reason and all slightly different ones. I don't think my post adds much but there you go.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Blackspice always puts a good post up. I wish he'd do one saying "who wants to look at my cock?" as well....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blackspice always puts a good post up. I wish he'd do one saying "who wants to look at my cock?" as well.... "

I wish I understood what he meant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting post, but are you not basing your thoughts on those who contribute to the forums..which as we know is a small sample of Fab members.

Not only that but implying that single males are desperate individuals who meet those who they wouldn't give a second glance to in the street "

Because that never ever happens......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i still dont understand the OP..

but about lowering ur standards.. what i have found on here is that there is alot of guys who have messaged me who admit they would never approach me in a pub as their mates would laugh.. yet they secretly desire a larger lady, thats why i guess bbw is its own porn genre!

so i find this place a good place to come and find what u desire without society judging u.. so being on here has no reflection to "real life" in anyway!

i bet even the good looking couples dont go into a pub going on about their swinging lifestyle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A superb post from blackspice - so concise , and easily understood - he has a way of putting everything into perspective without upsetting anyone - genius !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wow think Im still too ill to really process it all but I've always said I use the interent to enchance my life, not live my life.

I can see what blackspice is saying though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truly brilliant post, should be in contention to replace Sydney University

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A superb post from blackspice - so concise , and easily understood - he has a way of putting everything into perspective without upsetting anyone - genius !!!!

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nope totally disagree!! as i keep saying i dont understand the OP!! and no one is explaining the meaning behind it in layman terms

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon


"A superb post from blackspice - so concise , and easily understood - he has a way of putting everything into perspective without upsetting anyone - genius !!!!

nope totally disagree!! as i keep saying i dont understand the OP!! and no one is explaining the meaning behind it in layman terms "

Have to agree with you Bigbum..as I have already posted OP is extrapolating from threads on the Forums, as if that has any statistical merit..it hasn't. Very few use the forums, and have a perfectly satisfactory experiences without the need to articulate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the people that post on the forum are no different to those that dont. its a good enough representation of the folk that use this site

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

[Removed by poster at 31/12/12 16:43:36]

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"the people that post on the forum are no different to those that dont. its a good enough representation of the folk that use this site"
I dont think I would agree with you there; from my own statistically non representative evaluation there is a certain type of person who enjoys forums, banter, online chit chat and discussion. Those that deliberately stay off the forums are different in my experience in that to them Fabs is a smaller part of their lives and they tend to seek sexual encounters, no more and no less. As I said just in my experience...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A superb post from blackspice - so concise , and easily understood - he has a way of putting everything into perspective without upsetting anyone - genius !!!!

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Not sure why some people can't uderstand it?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not all that use the forums are of the same ideals and opinions. so some use the forums and some dont. i still say its a good representation of the fab society on a whole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive accepted my time on fab is up and im no longer going to meet my ideal lady/ladies, so ive altered my profile to show im not looking anymore, just cant bring myself to delete my account because i have so much fun reading the threads on forums, there our some real funny quick wiited people on here and always makes me smile will leave the swinging to the younger set, but i still enjoy being on here !!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A superb post from blackspice - so concise , and easily understood - he has a way of putting everything into perspective without upsetting anyone - genius !!!!

Not sure why some people can't uderstand it?! "

because i dont understand what he is trying to explain.. maybe i havent experienced it! who knows.. but i dont understand all the explaining and anologys.. what is it in layman terms.. what is it people need to understand?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"what is it in layman terms.. what is it people need to understand?"

In a nutshell? That people shouldn't take this site too seriously.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Very, very good post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what is it in layman terms.. what is it people need to understand?

In a nutshell? That people shouldn't take this site too seriously. "

ahhh now that is the plain and easy way to get a point across..

no reason to go on about men dropping their standards or woman getting to big for their boots.. i havent come across this very often so is hardly a reflection i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A superb post from blackspice - so concise , and easily understood - he has a way of putting everything into perspective without upsetting anyone - genius !!!!

Not sure why some people can't uderstand it?!

because i dont understand what he is trying to explain.. maybe i havent experienced it! who knows.. but i dont understand all the explaining and anologys.. what is it in layman terms.. what is it people need to understand?"

put lipstick and a skirt on a pig and throw into a room full of sexstarved men with no standards and it will come out bandy legged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A superb post from blackspice - so concise , and easily understood - he has a way of putting everything into perspective without upsetting anyone - genius !!!!

Not sure why some people can't uderstand it?!

because i dont understand what he is trying to explain.. maybe i havent experienced it! who knows.. but i dont understand all the explaining and anologys.. what is it in layman terms.. what is it people need to understand?

put lipstick and a skirt on a pig and throw into a room full of sexstarved men with no standards and it will come out bandy legged "

haha ok.. we all know woman are very much outnumbered and can choose to be picky.. so what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A superb post from blackspice - so concise , and easily understood - he has a way of putting everything into perspective without upsetting anyone - genius !!!!

Not sure why some people can't uderstand it?!

because i dont understand what he is trying to explain.. maybe i havent experienced it! who knows.. but i dont understand all the explaining and anologys.. what is it in layman terms.. what is it people need to understand?

put lipstick and a skirt on a pig and throw into a room full of sexstarved men with no standards and it will come out bandy legged

haha ok.. we all know woman are very much outnumbered and can choose to be picky.. so what"

hey iam with you on that ,iam no oil painting if it was the other way around id do the same,,allso by standards i mean the way these guys go about their business,have you ever been in the chat rooms and the cams,the shit the guys come out with is unbelievable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A superb post from blackspice - so concise , and easily understood - he has a way of putting everything into perspective without upsetting anyone - genius !!!!

Not sure why some people can't uderstand it?!

because i dont understand what he is trying to explain.. maybe i havent experienced it! who knows.. but i dont understand all the explaining and anologys.. what is it in layman terms.. what is it people need to understand?

put lipstick and a skirt on a pig and throw into a room full of sexstarved men with no standards and it will come out bandy legged

haha ok.. we all know woman are very much outnumbered and can choose to be picky.. so what

hey iam with you on that ,iam no oil painting if it was the other way around id do the same,,allso by standards i mean the way these guys go about their business,have you ever been in the chat rooms and the cams,the shit the guys come out with is unbelievable"

i dont use the chat rooms.. thats maybe why i havent seen much of this..

im very confused by the op saying that woman have bad ego's (yep a womans thing, show me a woman who doesnt) and then suggest they loose touch with reality cos of the attention they get on here.. to me that is suggesting that they then become over inflated ego's cos they become choosy.. erm i see it as they have the choice and they need to be able to filter down the choice, also why drink cheap plonk when you can have an expensive champange?

doesnt mean all the attention has made there ego any better about themselves!

for me personally my confidence was helped by a few guys i have met on here.. not by the amount of attention i get!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u know exactly what the OP means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"u know exactly what the OP means "

is that aimed at me? cos i have explained what i think the op means.. am i wrong then?

i have said all along i dont get the OP.. excuse me if im being a little thick or nieve here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of reminds me of this (taken from an email that was being passed around a while back)...

Dear hot guy,

Thanks for ruining things for us average-looking guys. You, like all men, will tag pretty much anything female. So you go out to bars and other social venues and you go for the low-hanging fruit. You go for the average-looking girl. Why? Because they are easy and don't give you half the sh*t that hot women give.

So what's the big deal? The big deal is that average girls don't know their place anymore. They suddenly think that they are hot just because they have been banged by a hot guy. They are wrong, and they do not know it. We average guys, however, do know it. We know that the average girl -- in the long term -- is out of your league. We know that she is in our league, the league of the average. But she does not know that.

So the average girl goes on thinking she is hot and holding out for a hot guy to spend the rest of her life with. Yes, it's great for the ego of the average girl. She bangs a hot guy every now and then, and she really thinks she is the sh*t. No one told her, though, that any guy (hot or not) will bang any average girl. Sadly, the average women develop this "I'll never settle" mentality. Average guys are suddenly not an option for them, leaving us average guys out in the cold. The genuine hot girls, of course, are not an option for us, so that leaves us with the fat chicks. Thanks. Thanks a lot, hot guy. Meanwhile, the really hot chicks are sitting around dissing us and waiting for you to come talk to them. (And we can only imagine the torture that the fat guys are going through as we average guys are forced to chirps on their women.)

So do the social scene a favor -- stick with your own kind. Leave the average girls to us, and stop creating delusions of grandeur in their minds. The average chick is our niche. We work hard enough as it is for the average girl. Now you go work hard to bag the hot chick. Don't be afraid of a little work.

;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always somewhat surprised on the importance that some people place on swinging.

Its only sex, I can't understand why people allow themselves to be put down or feel under pressure to do things in orfer to please others.

Its why I can't understand the 'what pics shall I put up', what shall I call myself, what should I put in my profile etc. Why ask or rely on others to give you pointers, surely you must know what you want and expect from this site.

I have always been brutally honest with myself and grounded. When guys message me saying I am the best looking woman they've ever seen, I have never once believed it, its just part of the carousel we're all on. I'm not ugly, but I'm not Angelina Jolie. Men don't need to pander to my every whim and constantly message me telling me how lovely I am, I know what I am, and I won't meet you unless I want to, regardless of what you say.

I don't get bothered by timewasters. If we arrange a meet and people can't make it, so what, we will go to a club etc, if we've decided on a night of swinging that's what we will do.

I don't want to b e voted the best tits, the best arse, the most intelligent, I don't care or put any importance on any of that, I know what I am.

People should just remember its only a hobby, like golf, not to be confused with anything important or deep and meaningful, it isn't.

There is noone on here that I am desperate to meet. There are some great people, some very sexy men, but it doesn't matter if I never meet them because all it is is a bit of fun, which could be replaced with another hobby if and when we so wish.

I agree with View that never show your heart, people will respond kindly but an equal number will exploit. Discretion is your biggest friend on here.

My favourite quote on this site was from View who once said 'its a vagina not the Shroud of Turin'. The most accurate quote ever to be said on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some very good points made by iconic and she sums up her attitude perfectly . However it isn't necessarily the same for all of us .

Of course it's just a hobby for some and it may not be important on the great scheme of things , but it really is an integral part of our life, and something more than a hobby for us .

Rightly or wrongly we feel it's something that allows us to just be us , in a safe and welcoming environment .

We have taken breaks , and always found we missed the lifestyle - and although we met and were together for over a year before finding fab and the lifestyle - we have found it to be something special and we do care what people in the lifestyle think .

There will always be bullshitters wherever and whatever you do in life and fab is no exception - but them aside , we are so happy to have found our niche and love life and the lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post Gloswingers and I agree that the main importance with anything you do is that the experience you are having is right for you.

The main thing that has surprised me about this lifestyle is how friendly and fun people are. The people I've met that I don't like are certainly in the minority.

I have realised that my best times are clubs and parties. Its the whole atmosphere for me, the dressing up, the people, the madness of the clubs, I love all that, the nsa sex is a small part of it for me.

So yes do what you do and ensure that you are fulfilled with whatever is your 'thing'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kind of reminds me of this (taken from an email that was being passed around a while back)...

Dear hot guy,

Thanks for ruining things for us average-looking guys. You, like all men, will tag pretty much anything female. So you go out to bars and other social venues and you go for the low-hanging fruit. You go for the average-looking girl. Why? Because they are easy and don't give you half the sh*t that hot women give.

So what's the big deal? The big deal is that average girls don't know their place anymore. They suddenly think that they are hot just because they have been banged by a hot guy. They are wrong, and they do not know it. We average guys, however, do know it. We know that the average girl -- in the long term -- is out of your league. We know that she is in our league, the league of the average. But she does not know that.

So the average girl goes on thinking she is hot and holding out for a hot guy to spend the rest of her life with. Yes, it's great for the ego of the average girl. She bangs a hot guy every now and then, and she really thinks she is the sh*t. No one told her, though, that any guy (hot or not) will bang any average girl. Sadly, the average women develop this "I'll never settle" mentality. Average guys are suddenly not an option for them, leaving us average guys out in the cold. The genuine hot girls, of course, are not an option for us, so that leaves us with the fat chicks. Thanks. Thanks a lot, hot guy. Meanwhile, the really hot chicks are sitting around dissing us and waiting for you to come talk to them. (And we can only imagine the torture that the fat guys are going through as we average guys are forced to chirps on their women.)

So do the social scene a favor -- stick with your own kind. Leave the average girls to us, and stop creating delusions of grandeur in their minds. The average chick is our niche. We work hard enough as it is for the average girl. Now you go work hard to bag the hot chick. Don't be afraid of a little work.

;)"

wtf :/

ive banged hot guys and i think they must be crazy! hasnt improved my ego really.. i dont understand why they want to do it.. but have learnt to accept not everyone sees me the way i do..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

put lipstick and a skirt on a pig and throw into a room full of sexstarved men with no standards and it will come out bandy legged "

Brilliant!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your wasting your time on here.its a bag of shit

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"your wasting your time on here.its a bag of shit"

In your opinion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us have had successes via FAB.

It is not for everyone, and those with positive and get up and go attitudes usually do better than those who don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"your wasting your time on here.its a bag of shit"

Happy new year

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"your wasting your time on here.its a bag of shit"

Not the post I was expecting.

I almost choked on my glass of cider

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your wasting your time on here.its a bag of shit"

Have another drink...!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

bag of shit.com

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"your wasting your time on here.its a bag of shit

Not the post I was expecting.

I almost choked on my glass of cider "

I'm sure it's just the dog poo picked up from the other thread. It's so that no one steps on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" bag of shit.com"

#gettingbladdered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the thread of the year "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kind of reminds me of this (taken from an email that was being passed around a while back)...

Dear hot guy,

Thanks for ruining things for us average-looking guys. You, like all men, will tag pretty much anything female. So you go out to bars and other social venues and you go for the low-hanging fruit. You go for the average-looking girl. Why? Because they are easy and don't give you half the sh*t that hot women give.

So what's the big deal? The big deal is that average girls don't know their place anymore. They suddenly think that they are hot just because they have been banged by a hot guy. They are wrong, and they do not know it. We average guys, however, do know it. We know that the average girl -- in the long term -- is out of your league. We know that she is in our league, the league of the average. But she does not know that.

So the average girl goes on thinking she is hot and holding out for a hot guy to spend the rest of her life with. Yes, it's great for the ego of the average girl. She bangs a hot guy every now and then, and she really thinks she is the sh*t. No one told her, though, that any guy (hot or not) will bang any average girl. Sadly, the average women develop this "I'll never settle" mentality. Average guys are suddenly not an option for them, leaving us average guys out in the cold. The genuine hot girls, of course, are not an option for us, so that leaves us with the fat chicks. Thanks. Thanks a lot, hot guy. Meanwhile, the really hot chicks are sitting around dissing us and waiting for you to come talk to them. (And we can only imagine the torture that the fat guys are going through as we average guys are forced to chirps on their women.)

So do the social scene a favor -- stick with your own kind. Leave the average girls to us, and stop creating delusions of grandeur in their minds. The average chick is our niche. We work hard enough as it is for the average girl. Now you go work hard to bag the hot chick. Don't be afraid of a little work.

;)"

Except what you or they forget is that some of us see average guys as pretty hot and wonder why they would want to bother with us average plain janes and some of us wouldn't consider a hot guy at all yet oddly enough they would think we were more than average

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you to all the contributors to the thread. I'm happy that my opening post resonated with many of you. For those of you who disagreed with it, I'm happy that it inspired you to post an alternative but equally valid _iew.

I hope your Fab experience in 2013 is one that you'll look back on with a smile.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Truly brilliant post, should be in contention to replace Sydney University "

Says it all.....

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