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By *ussypuss OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo

I've finally plucked up the courage to dump my fella.

When we met (May this year) he was separated from his wife so I had no issues about getting involved with him. She has since moved back into home and all appears to be back on track for them, except he's still told me that there's nothing between them.

Then Crimbo came and he's been playing happy families with her, I've been getting so fed up with having to sneak around recently that I just knew it had to be ended, but it's just sooooo hard when you love someone.

So, I've finally done it, I feel like crap and desperately need a hug and for someone to assure me that I will get through this. What a bloomin' horrible way to start a new year.

I've even wondered about heading off to Chams this afternoon just to get a hug from the staff!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heads over to Chams. The likes of Mark and Carl will definitely give you a hug!

Have a dip in the jacuzzi too and let the jets and bubbles ease your pain.

Hugs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh dear,

hug here if you ever need it.

yes you will get through it and its only time.

we all have a past and missed out on things or wish we did things differently.

if made plenty of mistakes in my life and still do. we are just human beings and although some appear to be tough as old boots you can bet your life behind closed doors they cry just as much as anyone.

you wont be lonely for long, i see a queue forming to take you to a club and for you to start rebuilding.

take some time out if you need to but always here to chat to anytime you need it.

so take care,chin up.not your fault.

this is life, these things happen.

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

huggles xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Heads over to Chams. The likes of Mark and Carl will definitely give you a hug!

Have a dip in the jacuzzi too and let the jets and bubbles ease your pain.

Hugs! "
Fantastic advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've finally plucked up the courage to dump my fella.

When we met (May this year) he was separated from his wife so I had no issues about getting involved with him. She has since moved back into home and all appears to be back on track for them, except he's still told me that there's nothing between them.

Then Crimbo came and he's been playing happy families with her, I've been getting so fed up with having to sneak around recently that I just knew it had to be ended, but it's just sooooo hard when you love someone.

So, I've finally done it, I feel like crap and desperately need a hug and for someone to assure me that I will get through this. What a bloomin' horrible way to start a new year.

I've even wondered about heading off to Chams this afternoon just to get a hug from the staff!!!"

I'm sorry to hear about this, however if it helps...rather than think it a bad start to 2013....._iew it as a ending to 2012 and start 2013 with a clean slate and a deep breath

if nothing else, keep smiling

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By *ussypuss OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo

Thank you guys,you're just what I need right now and I think I will go get those hugs from Mark & Carl, pus the jacuzzi will help hide my tears, I can blame them on the chlorine

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

Well done that must have been tough to do *hugs*

As others have said, 2013 is just beginning and this is a fresh start.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

all the best for 2013, may it be a happy one.

now I will answer the same as I would if you were a single male in the same situation... you have been having fun on a swinging site whilst in a relationship (not sure with him or not, not my business ) but now you have a clean break, just enjoy the time on here as a single female looking for no strings sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you guys,you're just what I need right now and I think I will go get those hugs from Mark & Carl, pus the jacuzzi will help hide my tears, I can blame them on the chlorine"

Big hugs!! I really feel for u been in a very similar situation myself and its heartbreaking at least you've had the good sense to get out with your head held high..you're better than just being the other woman,no doubt he'll be in touch that's if he hasn't already? U need to be strong tell him to do 1,don't show him you're upset..nothing wrong with a cry though can be very therapeutic xxxxxxxxx

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By *ussypuss OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo


"all the best for 2013, may it be a happy one.

now I will answer the same as I would if you were a single male in the same situation... you have been having fun on a swinging site whilst in a relationship (not sure with him or not, not my business ) but now you have a clean break, just enjoy the time on here as a single female looking for no strings sex."

With him but once or twice very recently without to try to ease myself into making this break, but it's not made it any easier, just helped make it happen sooner rather than later

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"all the best for 2013, may it be a happy one.

now I will answer the same as I would if you were a single male in the same situation... you have been having fun on a swinging site whilst in a relationship (not sure with him or not, not my business ) but now you have a clean break, just enjoy the time on here as a single female looking for no strings sex.

With him but once or twice very recently without to try to ease myself into making this break, but it's not made it any easier, just helped make it happen sooner rather than later"

is he still on the site, if so... maybe better not go into any more details about his situation

if not, apologies

either way, all the best

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By *ussypuss OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo


"..nothing wrong with a cry though can be very therapeutic xxxxxxxxx"

Right, I'm getting dressed ready to hit that jacuzzi at Chams and blame it for my tears for the afternoon.

Thank you all for your caring, I'll be back later xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hugs from me to u xxx

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By *ussypuss OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo


"is he still on the site, if so... maybe better not go into any more details about his situation

if not, apologies

either way, all the best"

No, he's not still here, I controlled our couple profile and I deleted it as soon as the dumping was done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big Hugs hun, it couldn't have been easy, but as already been said, 2013 is a new beginning, he wasn't meant to be, fate stepped in, but mr right is out there somewhere, in the mean time, draw a line under it and go live your life, have fun.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Lots of hugs, enjoy yourself at Chams xxx

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

Hugs hunny you know where I am if you want a hug and a coffee on way home.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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Its difficult to make the break. But keep the good times in your heart,and in the words of the song 'pick yourself up, dust yourself down and start all over again' x

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By *ussypuss OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo

Thank you to everyone who posted their hugs and support. I got my hug from Mark at Chams and spent a long time in the jacuzzi just relaxing. Shed a lot of tears yesterday but apart from very sore eyes today, I'm feeling a tiny bit better, so I know it will be an uphill climb but yet another song's lyrics, 'things can only get better'.

Thanks again everyone. Hope you all have a great NYE whether you're celebrating or commiserating, and let's hope that 2013 will be a great year for us all.

Love Sue xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hugs from me,.you will get through this, just gonna take time xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thoughts are with you Hun.. Big hug x

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