FabSwingers.com forum: What a bloody let down

By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

Can you not try and get one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a shame but surley true friends wouldn't leave you out and do that? Especially if they knew full well you didn't have one.

Or can't you grab one?

Miss S x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

That is so rude. Your friend should of mentioned it to you and asked if you wanted her to try and get you a pass or whatever it is.

Could you go with them anyway and see if they'll let you in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off

Who is driving you all there?

I'd tell them to fuck off. That's an utterly shit thing to do.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

That’s very unfair of your friend you originally made plans with, why can’t you all go to the place you had originally intended to go to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s inc_edibly rude

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Can you not try and get one?"

You can't- if that was an option, I would have done just that

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

Who is driving you all there?

I'd tell them to fuck off. That's an utterly shit thing to do.

I really feel like doing exactly that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate it when people just randomly invite others and change the plan- makes you feel superfluous!

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"That’s very unfair of your friend you originally made plans with, why can’t you all go to the place you had originally intended to go to"

I know- it wouldn't have bloody killed them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who is driving you all there?

I'd tell them to fuck off. That's an utterly shit thing to do.

I really feel like doing exactly that

If I was closer I would have asked you out somewhere. I'm pissed off on your behalf.

I wouldn't let them do it again. Hope you can do something else. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate it when people just randomly invite others and change the plan- makes you feel superfluous!"

It's beyond rude. Fair enough invite others and stick to the original plan.

But not this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's bloody rude, cut them all loose and go alone. They'll need you before you need them

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Ooo hurtful

What are you going to do?

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By *bw44DDWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

This makes me really sad. Real friends would absolutely not do that to you x

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By *ithintemptationsCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Life is life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bloody love going Butlins, we are going in may.

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Ooo hurtful

What are you going to do?"

Stay in, I guess. I'm happy to do lots of things on my own, but rocking up to pubs & clubs just aren't something I'd do alone

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"That’s very unfair of your friend you originally made plans with, why can’t you all go to the place you had originally intended to go to

I know- it wouldn't have bloody killed them

Have you got another friend that you could go out with instead?

Or maybe just brave it out on your own. They can be great adventures

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"That’s very unfair of your friend you originally made plans with, why can’t you all go to the place you had originally intended to go to

I know- it wouldn't have bloody killed them

Have you got another friend that you could go out with instead?

Or maybe just brave it out on your own. They can be great adventures

Nope...I'm not going out drinking alone

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Ooo hurtful

What are you going to do?

Stay in, I guess. I'm happy to do lots of things on my own, but rocking up to pubs & clubs just aren't something I'd do alone"

No I wouldn't either.

I'm sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I'd not go. I'd not enjoy a minute in their company knowing their shitty attitude.

They're no kind of friend if they'd happily pull a hijacking job on your plans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who is driving you all there?

I'd tell them to fuck off. That's an utterly shit thing to do.

I really feel like doing exactly that

I’d do that.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

"Can you not try and get one?

You can't- if that was an option, I would have done just that

In that case fuck them off, really out of order. Stick up a meet request and find someone to have some fun with instead.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’d be tamping. I wouldn’t be able to go for the drinks beforehand because I’d have a glass of wine and get all Mardy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs that’s very not nice off them to do that

You deserve better

If it was me I would go and let them disappear

Stay at the place yous we’re last at and see what was on offer to pull for a wicked night

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Personally, I'd not go. I'd not enjoy a minute in their company knowing their shitty attitude.

They're no kind of friend if they'd happily pull a hijacking job on your plans."

Totally agree with this as it was bang out of order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oof out of order! I wouldn't bother going out with them, is there anything else you could do though? How about a social?

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Oof out of order! I wouldn't bother going out with them, is there anything else you could do though? How about a social? "

Even if I could, I wouldn't be in the best frame of mind now

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Where did they get the passes? Why didn’t they get you one? Or mention it sooner so you could get one?

Lousy of the friend you originally made plans with. I’m very much a one for all and all for one when it comes to friends arrangements so if one didn’t have a pass we would just go elsewhere. Really annoys me. Just thoughtless!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

You need real friends.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

What an utterly shitty thing to do to you ... I wouldn't waste my time with them

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington

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just a thought but it is not a birthday night out for you or something and they have got you a pass as a brithday suprise,,??

if not drive them there then leave them to get their own way home,,,

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Where did they get the passes? Why didn’t they get you one? Or mention it sooner so you could get one?

They have annual passes that you can't buy any more.

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Aww thats shit, if i were closer i'd come clubbing with you, i love it & most of my friends are "too old" or dont like the nightclub vibe anymore

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By *XXDREAMMan
over a year ago

sudbury

Reason #26 why I don’t have friends

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

just a thought but it is not a birthday night out for you or something and they have got you a pass as a brithday suprise,,??

if not drive them there then leave them to get their own way home,,,

Nope. We're local to Bognor Butlins & they already have passes, which you can't buy any more

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Aww thats shit, if i were closer i'd come clubbing with you, i love it & most of my friends are "too old" or dont like the nightclub vibe anymore

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know a really hot guy they don't know that could come and pick up up for a night out at 9.30pm!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Where did they get the passes? Why didn’t they get you one? Or mention it sooner so you could get one?

They have annual passes that you can't buy any more. "

So they’d know you’d not have one.

We’ll have yourself a nice pamper sesh, slap on some tunes and have a party for one.

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

Bit of a shit move by yours friends like.....I'd fuck em off and do something else ha

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm

I was going to say this is shocking behaviour, but sadly these days it isn't.

I am livid and its not even directly affecting me.

Such a crappy thing to do to a "friend".

I hope some good comes in to your night.

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"I was going to say this is shocking behaviour, but sadly these days it isn't.

I am livid and its not even directly affecting me.

Such a crappy thing to do to a "friend".

I hope some good comes in to your night."

Thanks

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

Lanson

Gosh what a rubbish thing to do - so sorry for you, especially as you were obviously looking forward to it,

I'm on a few Butlins groups on FB & i see it's an adult 80s Weekender this weekend, if you're lucky there is often weekend wristbands being offe_ed ...x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

That's awful op,so inconsiderate

Have a pamper night and be good to yourself ,I'd be fuming too x

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Some people are cunts, they just hide it well.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

OP I’m so sorry to hear your ‘friends’ have screwed you over in favour of their own happiness. That’s the definition of selfish behaviour.

Just a thought because I don’t remember reading this, are they definitely going into butlins? You say they have passes but is it their plan to actually go there?

Do you have any fab friends you could hook up with for a properly steamy night in, instead?

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Had you arranged to meet in a particular place initially?

What was your friends explanation for changing this plan to somewhere you cant get into?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

That's actually really cruel, I'd be really hurt by that. How inconsiderate!

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"OP I’m so sorry to hear your ‘friends’ have screwed you over in favour of their own happiness. That’s the definition of selfish behaviour.

Just a thought because I don’t remember reading this, are they definitely going into butlins? You say they have passes but is it their plan to actually go there?

Do you have any fab friends you could hook up with for a properly steamy night in, instead? "

Yes, they're going in to Butlins- they all have passes & I don't.

Finding alternative entertainment isn't really the point

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"That's actually really cruel, I'd be really hurt by that. How inconsiderate!"

I am rather hurt

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

Had you arranged to meet in a particular place initially?

What was your friends explanation for changing this plan to somewhere you cant get into? "

I invited her for a night out. There was no explanation

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Had you arranged to meet in a particular place initially?

What was your friends explanation for changing this plan to somewhere you cant get into?

I invited her for a night out. There was no explanation "

But had you arranged to meet somewhere initially though? Did she actually change pre-arranged plans or were the arrangements loose and then she came with the butlins thing?

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW

"Can you not try and get one?

You can't- if that was an option, I would have done just that

In that case fuck them off, really out of order. Stick up a meet request and find someone to have some fun with instead."

Do this. Your friends have let you down do find your own fun xx

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

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bugger me i agree

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

As others have said op. That's pretty scabby thing for so called friends to do. Even the 2 additions would have asked why they didn't have tickets for you surely?

I'd tell her how you feel and leave it at that. Chin up. Oh and just be careful what you plan with her in future.

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

Had you arranged to meet in a particular place initially?

What was your friends explanation for changing this plan to somewhere you cant get into?

I invited her for a night out. There was no explanation

But had you arranged to meet somewhere initially though? Did she actually change pre-arranged plans or were the arrangements loose and then she came with the butlins thing? "

We're local to each other. I spoke to her yesterday to arrange times to head out, etc & she landed this on me. She then said I could meet them for drinks before they go into Butlins. There was a mention of a borrowed pass, so I could get in but I didn't hear another word about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had you arranged to meet in a particular place initially?

What was your friends explanation for changing this plan to somewhere you cant get into?

I invited her for a night out. There was no explanation

But had you arranged to meet somewhere initially though? Did she actually change pre-arranged plans or were the arrangements loose and then she came with the butlins thing?

Has she apologised?

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"OP I’m so sorry to hear your ‘friends’ have screwed you over in favour of their own happiness. That’s the definition of selfish behaviour.

Just a thought because I don’t remember reading this, are they definitely going into butlins? You say they have passes but is it their plan to actually go there?

Do you have any fab friends you could hook up with for a properly steamy night in, instead?

Yes, they're going in to Butlins- they all have passes & I don't.

Finding alternative entertainment isn't really the point

Hi OP, yes I completely agree and sorry - I did mean to suggest that. I suppose I was just trying to help you salvage some enjoyment from a night off and give two fingers to your friend.

As the very wise Outsider has asked, I hope she apologised and understands what she’s done wrong. Not fair on you at all.

I also hope you’re not feeling too down. Big hugs x

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

Had you arranged to meet in a particular place initially?

What was your friends explanation for changing this plan to somewhere you cant get into?

I invited her for a night out. There was no explanation

But had you arranged to meet somewhere initially though? Did she actually change pre-arranged plans or were the arrangements loose and then she came with the butlins thing?

Has she apologised?"

Nope! I sent her a pic of my feet in slippers & holding a cup of tea- seen but no reply. I won't be bothering with her again

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"OP I’m so sorry to hear your ‘friends’ have screwed you over in favour of their own happiness. That’s the definition of selfish behaviour.

Just a thought because I don’t remember reading this, are they definitely going into butlins? You say they have passes but is it their plan to actually go there?

Do you have any fab friends you could hook up with for a properly steamy night in, instead?

Yes, they're going in to Butlins- they all have passes & I don't.

Finding alternative entertainment isn't really the point

Hi OP, yes I completely agree and sorry - I did mean to suggest that. I suppose I was just trying to help you salvage some enjoyment from a night off and give two fingers to your friend.

As the very wise Outsider has asked, I hope she apologised and understands what she’s done wrong. Not fair on you at all.

I also hope you’re not feeling too down. Big hugs x"

Thanks for that. I feel like shit but at least I know not to bother ever again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know, OP, something similar happened to me the other week.

One friend, who I was once very close to - had asked in October, to arrange a Christmas meal with me. She’s notorious for ‘forgetting’ plans, but like a mug, I went with it. A couple of times we talked about our meal. Two days before, I asked her a q about it - she comes back with, ‘oh, I’ve double booked myself, I can’t come now’. I sent her the screenshot of the cancelled booking.

That dumping people for a better offer mentality doesn’t occur to me, and I think it’s a shite way to treat people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't quite understand all this. However, they are not 'friends' when one lets you down. Dump the friend and you'll be stronger for it. I'm getting on now and realise true friends are very few and far between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That absolutely sucks, if they did that then can you really call them friends. I actually have no close friends because I find people so unreliable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange kind of friend….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These aren’t your friends OP. Friends don’t do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Bugger! Was gonna message you to ask how you were today, and posted on her, so deleted! Then managed to message myself(what a numpty!), but I cant message you cos I am too old!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

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Bugger! Was gonna message you to ask how you were today, and posted on her, so deleted! Then managed to message myself(what a numpty!), but I cant message you cos I am too old!

What a let down

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By *ood time Chris BMan
over a year ago

TAUNTON AREA

Some friends they are

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By *r Cheeky cheekyMan
over a year ago

essex

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they are not friends

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By *r Cheeky cheekyMan
over a year ago

essex

"I hate it when people just randomly invite others and change the plan- makes you feel superfluous!"
definitely

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Do you know, OP, something similar happened to me the other week.

That dumping people for a better offer mentality doesn’t occur to me, and I think it’s a shite way to treat people."

Yeah our only friend remaining in this area will make arrangements to meet up but then nearly every time, something comes up or she's made a mistake etc. I've stopped being bothe_ed about meeting up. It means no friends in this area to meet up with, but that's life, I suppose.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

That is a shitty thing to do. The fact there's 3 of them and it didn't occur to any of them that that's a shitty thing to do, ugh people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't quite understand all this. However, they are not 'friends' when one lets you down. Dump the friend and you'll be stronger for it. I'm getting on now and realise true friends are very few and far between. "
Yep

Hasn't it always been said we're lucky to have 3 true friends across our entire lifetimes

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

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Bugger! Was gonna message you to ask how you were today, and posted on her, so deleted! Then managed to message myself(what a numpty!), but I cant message you cos I am too old!

Lol!! Thanks for thinking about me

I can't lie, I didn't sleep last night. I don't normally let stuff get to me, but this has. People, eh? x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

A friend of mine was always cancelling and rearranging our dates. Eventually I gave a very non committal response to yet another cancellation, she then accused me quite aggressively of not wanting to see her any more.

I pointed out the number of times she'd cancelled in me and left it at that. Cue an apology and flowers next time we met. She now sends photographic evidence if she has to cancel for any reason

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"[Removed by poster at 22/01/23 10:50:25]

Bugger! Was gonna message you to ask how you were today, and posted on her, so deleted! Then managed to message myself(what a numpty!), but I cant message you cos I am too old!

Lol!! Thanks for thinking about me

I can't lie, I didn't sleep last night. I don't normally let stuff get to me, but this has. People, eh? x"

It's horrible when friends hurt your feelings isn't it. People tell you not to care but if you didn't care about them you wouldn't have been their friend in the first place

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"A friend of mine was always cancelling and rearranging our dates. Eventually I gave a very non committal response to yet another cancellation, she then accused me quite aggressively of not wanting to see her any more.

I pointed out the number of times she'd cancelled in me and left it at that. Cue an apology and flowers next time we met. She now sends photographic evidence if she has to cancel for any reason

It never ceases to amaze me how people don't recognise their own behaviour!

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

Assertiveness is key.

People often think only of themselves, and sometimes they need to be told, gently but directly how they made you feel.

No need for arguments or drama

Tell them and leave them to decide what their response is.

That response will tell you what you need to know

Good luck

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Who is driving you all there?

I'd tell them to fuck off. That's an utterly shit thing to do.

I completely agree! That’s tight as fuck!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Do you know, OP, something similar happened to me the other week.

That dumping people for a better offer mentality doesn’t occur to me, and I think it’s a shite way to treat people."
Its a common thing here..... I actually allow for it.

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Do you know, OP, something similar happened to me the other week.

That dumping people for a better offer mentality doesn’t occur to me, and I think it’s a shite way to treat people.Its a common thing here..... I actually allow for it.

I'm sure it does, but what I expect from randoms on Fab & my expectations of friends are two different things

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby

I totally understand your frustration, OP. It's things like this that remind me of my insecurities brought on by being excluded from events, situations and experiences for whatever reason. It's just a horrible feeling and it can make you start doubting your decisions, tbh. I just hope it doesn't affect you, because you seem like a mentally strong person unlike me, unfortunately

Hopefully, once your anger subsides, you'll be able to analyse the situation and do things differently next time.

I hope things work out for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd of told them to fuck off and then grabbed the nearest fuckable person!!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Do you know, OP, something similar happened to me the other week.

That dumping people for a better offer mentality doesn’t occur to me, and I think it’s a shite way to treat people.Its a common thing here..... I actually allow for it.

I'm sure it does, but what I expect from randoms on Fab & my expectations of friends are two different things"
well yes from friends you expect them to honour their plans, i used to get this organising squash meets two guys in particular friends for years let me down all the time, i stopped playing them in the end

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I pointed out the number of times she'd cancelled in me and left it at that. Cue an apology and flowers next time we met. She now sends photographic evidence if she has to cancel for any reason

It never ceases to amaze me how people don't recognise their own behaviour!"

I think they recognise it but justify it to themselves so they don't have to face their own failings.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'd of told them to fuck off and then grabbed the nearest fuckable person!!"

She didn't want sex she wanted her friend to stick to her arrangements

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hasn't it always been said we're lucky to have 3 true friends across our entire lifetimes

Well two of mine are dead, leaving the last one worried....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear a _ed coat and a cheesy smile and just walk through the gates

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I'd of told them to fuck off and then grabbed the nearest fuckable person!!

She didn't want sex she wanted her friend to stick to her arrangements "

That doesnt matter...its all thr brain thinks about so it gets spewed out into a comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hasn't it always been said we're lucky to have 3 true friends across our entire lifetimes

Well two of mine are dead, leaving the last one worried....

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By *hGlobbitsMan
over a year ago

Leeds

What a shit stunt! I hope you manage to arrange something better with someone less awful.

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"What a shit stunt! I hope you manage to arrange something better with someone less awful."

Thanks

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Do you know, OP, something similar happened to me the other week.

That dumping people for a better offer mentality doesn’t occur to me, and I think it’s a shite way to treat people.

I've had a similar experience trying to make female friends on here, which is one of the main reasons I don't bother any more, sick of sitting in random places waiting for someone to admit they've no intention of showing up!

OP, I can't add much to what's already been said: those aren't the actions of a friend.

It's hurtful, but I hope you take some consolation in the reactions on here - it's a crappy thing to do to someone they purport to care about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope you managed to process that and let them know how you feel. Not nice to be excluded when you were the one who made the original plans. You aren't category B friend. They could have arranged another eve at Butlins without rubbing it in your face.

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"I hope you managed to process that and let them know how you feel. Not nice to be excluded when you were the one who made the original plans. You aren't category B friend. They could have arranged another eve at Butlins without rubbing it in your face. "

Thank you so much x

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

I would have said hello but I'm outside your age range... Hope you find alternative plans, not worth letting selfish people win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's a wind up!

Maybe they secretly have a pass for you as a birthday surprise

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"I would have said hello but I'm outside your age range... Hope you find alternative plans, not worth letting selfish people win."

It's about time I reviewed that! Thanks for the kind words

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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Maybe it's a wind up!

Maybe they secretly have a pass for you as a birthday surprise "

Errr, no. I got ready to go out, sat waiting for her to message me the time to meet & nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it's a wind up!

Maybe they secretly have a pass for you as a birthday surprise

Errr, no. I got ready to go out, sat waiting for her to message me the time to meet & nothing. "

Omg I'm sorry to hear that

I didn't think the date had passed

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