FabSwingers.com forum: Personal safety

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As all the invitations I receive seem to require me to turn up at a random location, walk thru a closed door to service an unknown individual.

I decline - does anyone take up these offers ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of men do. And then they complain about being stood up.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’ve been here a very long time and this has never happened to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy (who I actually believe had no bad intent) tried to convince me to drive an hour at 11pm to his home (that he shared with other guys) as our first in person meet

No thank you.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've had plenty of offers like this.

I don't reply. They sound like something out of chapter one of a thriller. Better wear matching knickers for the detective who finds you, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a lot of messages from men wanting to turn up at my door. No thanks. I always insist on meeting in a public place first. For safety reasons, and the fact that I don’t know that I definitely want to do anything with a person until I’ve met them.

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By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"As all the invitations I receive seem to require me to turn up at a random location, walk thru a closed door to service an unknown individual. "

Thankfully we’ve never had such a creepy offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had plenty of offers like this.

I don't reply. They sound like something out of chapter one of a thriller. Better wear matching knickers for the detective who finds you, etc."

This!! The worst I’ve had is an invite to climb into someone’s truck at the services. I don’t fancy being the subject of a crime documentary.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've had plenty of offers like this.

I don't reply. They sound like something out of chapter one of a thriller. Better wear matching knickers for the detective who finds you, etc.

This!! The worst I’ve had is an invite to climb into someone’s truck at the services. I don’t fancy being the subject of a crime documentary. "

I've even had "deserted location, 3am, tell no one" (not an exact message)

I'll pass on that, on the grounds of being aware of the entire genre of crime fiction

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"As all the invitations I receive seem to require me to turn up at a random location, walk thru a closed door to service an unknown individual.

I decline - does anyone take up these offers ?"

Whether you service them (or not), is up to you and them but the rest is usually the point of a meet, you wouldn't be turning up if you didn't like what you'd seen or discussed. That is unless a blank profile just randomly invites you around?

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Absolutely not. Even if it was fine I wouldn't want to hook up with someone that reckless.

If they're doing those kinds of meets I'm going to assume they're also not using protection. No thanks.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've had a few messages like this over the years. All from well verified couples so it must work for them.

Apparently it was my loss when I sent my three word reply. "Off you fuck"

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By *rincess1988Woman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

I get loads of these messages.

Tempted to teach them a lesson about stranger danger and rob them

…it’s a joke. Before anyone gets their knickers in a twist.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"As all the invitations I receive seem to require me to turn up at a random location, walk thru a closed door to service an unknown individual.

I decline - does anyone take up these offers ?"

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No. Absolutely not. Certainly not in the same vein as you described it.

I've had a few offers to meet a couple in a cocktail bar because they happen to notice the proximity of my location in Soho.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have chatted to someone for a few weeks and then just met them in their car to give them a blowjob and leave. Afterwards he gave me a bit of a lecture about my personal safety.

It’s not something I would do regularly, however I trust my gut instinct, and I was going through a particularly slutty bitch phase.

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

How do you walk through a closed door? Sounds difficult.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"How do you walk through a closed door? Sounds difficult."

Something something rich man camel needle.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I've still not understood this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As all the invitations I receive seem to require me to turn up at a random location, walk thru a closed door to service an unknown individual.

I decline - does anyone take up these offers ?

I take your point but the invitations always come from individuals, mainly male but not exclusively, that havent taken the time to build a rapport or provide any insight into themselves. I accept some keep these parts of their lives entirely seperate, which I respect but I for one only wish to engage with known entities. Maybe that makes my chance of finding a “playmate” more limited but that is a risk I will take and stick with a conventional social introduction.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"As all the invitations I receive seem to require me to turn up at a random location, walk thru a closed door to service an unknown individual.

I decline - does anyone take up these offers ?"
yes those who feel secure in any situation

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"As all the invitations I receive seem to require me to turn up at a random location, walk thru a closed door to service an unknown individual.

I decline - does anyone take up these offers ?

I see what you mean .. the way I read your post it sounded like hesitancy to meet due to nerves - as all meets need you to knock on and walk through a closed door. I understand where you're coming from, not had one of them in a long time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had plenty of offers like this.

I don't reply. They sound like something out of chapter one of a thriller. Better wear matching knickers for the detective who finds you, etc."

How do you know what knickers the detective is wearing?..

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Fairly often there are worst meets threads. (Best too, of course)

This type of meet appears in both.

Men have arrived at the supposed address, walked in and met other people. It can be quite embarrassing

for them. And it's obviously a nervousness and excitement provoking prospect and unfair for them to be setup, potentially with the investment or the police, etc. It's an atrocious thing to do to anyone. Sometimes it's done so that the perpetrators watch.

We should all meet and take safety as a top priority.

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

"As all the invitations I receive seem to require me to turn up at a random location, walk thru a closed door to service an unknown individual.

I decline - does anyone take up these offers ?"

Lots do thankfully

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"As all the invitations I receive seem to require me to turn up at a random location, walk thru a closed door to service an unknown individual.

I decline - does anyone take up these offers ?"

My suspicion is that very few actual women would make this suggestion (safety etc) and that it's therefore much more likely to be a dude sending the message. Obviously if that's your thing, then marvellous, but I'm inclined to believe these things are more likely to be fake than not. If they ARE genuine, I'd be absolutely petrified of what might be waiting for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had plenty of offers like this.

I don't reply. They sound like something out of chapter one of a thriller. Better wear matching knickers for the detective who finds you, etc.

This!! The worst I’ve had is an invite to climb into someone’s truck at the services. I don’t fancy being the subject of a crime documentary. "

We did this very very naively and my god my heart was racing more before the sex started!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I personally think any human being (gender irrelevant) who goes alone to a house, car, van, lorry or otherwise secluded location for sex, without any information about the person they're meeting, never having met them etc. is either incredibly brave, or daft. Even the strongest person might find themselves being attacked by a group or held against their will. No sex is worth the risk in my book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of guys on here who think it's totally acceptable to message a single lady and ask them to call over, or meet in the car park is astounding.

I was away visiting a friend last week and a guy with a blank profile couldn't understand why at nearly 1am I wouldn't leave my friends house, drive half hour to his house to "get to know him".

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"As all the invitations I receive seem to require me to turn up at a random location, walk thru a closed door to service an unknown individual.

I decline - does anyone take up these offers ?"

This pretty much sums up my very first Fab encounter many many moons ago. It was shite, but to be fair, that was down to me.

Frank

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