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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Only having sex with your partner twice a month would you stay with them or not, why?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes I would because a 42 year relationship is worth more to me than sex and we love each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only having sex with your partner twice a month would you stay with them or not, why? "

Silly

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, and have done. Why make sex the defining characteristic of a successful relationship?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes I would stay with them. Its still once a fortnight

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

In a strictly monogamous relationship I would feel unfulfilled at that rate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m single but I’m a ltr I would hope there is far more to it than sex. It’s important but not to the detriment of the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think the relationship is over of your down to twice a month, depends if your allowed to have sex with others or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes I would stay with them. Its still once a fortnight"

But would you be happy?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yep that's what's toys are for if I need it more. If he denied all physical contact with me then I'd be having "the" chat with him

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If we were in an otherwise happy relationship twice a month would be fine with me.

It would be what happened in bed that might be the problem.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Sometimes T doesn’t even get it twice a month. It all depends on my hormones & what’s going on real life. There is far more to our relationship than sex.

J x

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Yes, but on that I'd put a caveat in that my partner was a willing and engaged lover not having sex out of some misguided idea of obligation. Being engaged with it also tends to mean that general other levels of intimacy (cuddles, kisses general touching) are also happening. In my experience if not engaged in sex then these other lower (but equally important) levels of intimacy don't happen.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

It possibly depends on why we weren't having sex as often

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

It’d be more than I’m getting at the moment, plus I’d get my dinners cooked and the house would be clean.

So yes.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes because the sex is amazing and there is far more to a good relationship than sex, if it's not enough you chat about exploring other options.

Communication is key.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes because the sex is amazing and there is far more to a good relationship than sex, if it's not enough you chat about exploring other options.

Communication is key.

Mrs "

This

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'll be honest and say I'd be worried if I was with someone and they were only having sex with me a couple of times a month

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely yes as the love we shared was far more than sex,and I wish with all my heart she was still here to share our lives together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twice a month? I'd be knackered lol

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I think it would depend on how long you've been together and if you were both happy with that level of intimacy.

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

If you're looking for the Lounge to help you decide whether or not sex twice a month is acceptable and reasonable to you in your relationship, OP, I doubt you'll get the answer you're hoping for.

If you're not having sex with your partner as much as you'd like to, you're probably best off talking to them about it.

Good luck.

Posh

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

As long as the twice a month was mind-blowing then that would be fine. Though I'd need to talk to them and find out why if it used to be more often than that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As long as the twice a month was mind-blowing then that would be fine. Though I'd need to talk to them and find out why if it used to be more often than that."

And if it wasn't mind blowing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proberbly sex aint everything

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

Twice a month you lucky man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only having sex with your partner twice a month would you stay with them or not, why? "

There’s more into relationship than sex..

mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Ok if you're unhappy and you can't change that, do what you think will make you happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes most definitely !

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By *eregrinosCouple
over a year ago

chorley

I'd stay, both R and I have been in that situation in previous relationships and we've been known to be less regular than that between ourselves, though we do flirt and tease a lot but sex is just part of a much deeper relationship.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

It be like that sometimes when life gets in the way, so obviously yes.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’d snatch your hand off for twice a month

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If everything else was good in the marriage then yes. There could be a reason for it not being very often. Maybe she finds it boring. I know with my ex hubby it was very vanilla and he was against trying anything to spice things up so eventually I didn’t want it. But it wasn’t just that that caused the marriage to break down, there were other issues too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay a realship transcends sex

Sex is easy to get I can have mindless sex when ever I want

What I can’t get when ever I want

Is someone who understands me

Someone to cuddle with and laugh with and be my self without needing to put up the fake face that I am happy

Someone to share problems with

Someone to just lazy around with and pig out on munches some days

When I split with the ex 10 years ago I thought it would be the sex I miss young and stupid

As I have gotten older I have totally relied that it’s other things I miss the most

As now mindless sex is easy to get

Hence the reason that I am looking for a mix off fully open / semi open realship

As if the sex fizzy out a bit we can still transcend that while needs are being forfilled other places

And by a mix off open / semi open

Open to me means you can have sex with who ever you like when ever you like

Semi open to me means that you can have sex with people as long as your partner oks it

My mix off semi open

Would be you can have sex with who ever you like when ever you like as long as you tell the other hafe afterwards and always come home to or bed no staying over otherwise it’s all fair game

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Only having sex with your partner twice a month would you stay with them or not, why? "

Like most women, I can go long periods without sex and with a low libido and not even wanking so... Yeah I can stay with them.

Maybe this is more a question for people who have a high libido or who use sex for emotional regulation and as a psychological coping technique. For those people lack of sex, starts to make them unbalanced.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Only having sex with your partner twice a month would you stay with them or not, why? "

What does your wife think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only having sex with your partner twice a month would you stay with them or not, why?

What does your wife think?"

I find it strange that you are asking people of fab if you should leave your wife or not. Strange post

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Only having sex with your partner twice a month would you stay with them or not, why?

What does your wife think?

I find it strange that you are asking people of fab if you should leave your wife or not. Strange post"

Sometimes the opinions of strangers can focus your mind. We have no context or background but a chance comment from a stranger can give you a different perspective.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Of course I stay with him, I love him. A relationship is not based on sex alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only having sex with your partner twice a month would you stay with them or not, why? "

Why am I only having sex with them twice a month? Because I need the exact details and backstory before I give a specific answer.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Only having sex with your partner twice a month would you stay with them or not, why? "

I suppose it depends on why you are in the relationship, if it’s for sex then why would you? If sex is only a part of the relationship then I suppose you would need to consider how well the other areas are going.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Only having sex with your partner twice a month would you stay with them or not, why? "

I'd settle for twice a mth lol

Can't remember the last time we had sex due Maya's. Health .

But wouldn't think of leaveing her

But she happy for me to find someone to have sex with does effect our quality time together and vanilla fun .

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I had sex 4 times in the last ten years of my marriage. I think I was pretty patient, but it got too much in the end.

Once a fortnight? I'd have felt like Hugh Hefner.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"Yes I would because a 42 year relationship is worth more to me than sex and we love each other. "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly would as mentioned previously ,why throw away years of relationship , for richer or poorer & sickness & health

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

It all depends whether your still in love with your partner.

I was with someone for 20 yrs the sex became non existence and then so did the love I had for him. The lack of sex was not the reason I fell out of love with though.

I do think intimacy in a relationship is hugely important and that can be expressed in a sexual or non way.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

If I loved them yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Yes!! Have previously stayed with a partner when the sex was even less frequent than that sex isn't the be all and end all.

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