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Things I grew up with being the norm

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By *cottish guy 555 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

A recent thread on consent and a comment brought back a memory of something I grew up with seeing as the norm.

A guy and a girl are arguing, he grabs her and starts to kiss her, she resists, tries to fight him off before succumbing to his irresistible charm. Seems crazy these days but as a kid you could see how this could be perceived as just the way it works, taking that dangerous view into adulthood.

So what other outrageous things seen as the norm did you grow up seeing?

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By *yourselfMan
over a year ago

Heworth


"A recent thread on consent and a comment brought back a memory of something I grew up with seeing as the norm.

A guy and a girl are arguing, he grabs her and starts to kiss her, she resists, tries to fight him off before succumbing to his irresistible charm. Seems crazy these days but as a kid you could see how this could be perceived as just the way it works, taking that dangerous view into adulthood.

So what other outrageous things seen as the norm did you grow up seeing? "

Seen that just the other night on 'Gangs of New York'. And a kiss always leads to sex on films.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A recent thread on consent and a comment brought back a memory of something I grew up with seeing as the norm.

A guy and a girl are arguing, he grabs her and starts to kiss her, she resists, tries to fight him off before succumbing to his irresistible charm. Seems crazy these days but as a kid you could see how this could be perceived as just the way it works, taking that dangerous view into adulthood.

So what other outrageous things seen as the norm did you grow up seeing? "

Not being able to use the Internet if mum was on the phone!

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By *cottish guy 555 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Ah dial-up, don't forget the noise as it connected

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By *cottish guy 555 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Oh yeah, the way to treat a hysterical woman in a highly stressful situation is to slap her across the face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realising that it is ok for men, including supervisors, to address my tits in every conversation

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

If a man was angry when he got home from work, he would throw away his dinner and go to the pub.

Gbat

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Realising that it is ok for men, including supervisors, to address my tits in every conversation "
but do they answer them back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Realising that it is ok for men, including supervisors, to address my tits in every conversation but do they answer them back? "

I’m guessing that they started the conversation in the first place….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Telling a women she was beautiful and not spending the next year defending myself

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By *cottish guy 555 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

People's boss inviting themselves round for dinner. Which their wife, who never went to work, would lavishly prepare

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Getting a smack from your parents

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Realising that it is ok for men, including supervisors, to address my tits in every conversation "

That never happens to me as they’re normally talking to the top of my head

#midgetproblems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the street lights came on it was time to go home

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

Smoking, coming from and Irish family everyone smoked, in the house, in the car even on aircraft. Hated it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Realising that it is ok for men, including supervisors, to address my tits in every conversation

That never happens to me as they’re normally talking to the top of my head

#midgetproblems"

As a twenty-something i used to stand in front of an engineer who salivated, licking his disgusting lips as he literally undressed me in the office, as I stood in front of him with my arms crossed at an unnatural height in front my boobs to try to stop him... A few times i was brave enough to gesture and say, my face is up here

It was really horrible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Casual homophobia. Saying something like "that's gay as fuck" to a mate was a normal thing but would be pretty horrified if I heard anyone say it now and it's definitely for the better.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Realising that it is ok for men, including supervisors, to address my tits in every conversation

That never happens to me as they’re normally talking to the top of my head

#midgetproblems

As a twenty-something i used to stand in front of an engineer who salivated, licking his disgusting lips as he literally undressed me in the office, as I stood in front of him with my arms crossed at an unnatural height in front my boobs to try to stop him... A few times i was brave enough to gesture and say, my face is up here

It was really horrible "

It really is a disgusting thing to do but then I’m afraid some people can never be told that their actions are absolutely vile. I tend to find those people have a harder time in life than us good people. Which always makes me smile xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It was supposedly friendly 'fun' , akin to physical banter, to have your arse or other area, punched, slapped or otherwise groped. And you'd be decried as miserable, if you didn't welcome it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only having three TV channels to chose from.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Corporal punishment. Horsewhip.

Nor proportionate or warranted on a 12 year old.

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By *cottish guy 555 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Realising that it is ok for men, including supervisors, to address my tits in every conversation

That never happens to me as they’re normally talking to the top of my head

#midgetproblems

As a twenty-something i used to stand in front of an engineer who salivated, licking his disgusting lips as he literally undressed me in the office, as I stood in front of him with my arms crossed at an unnatural height in front my boobs to try to stop him... A few times i was brave enough to gesture and say, my face is up here

It was really horrible "

That's fucking terrible

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Carpets in bathrooms. Made quite the impression on certain forumites!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loading up a game onto my 48K ZX Spectrum+ with a cassette player

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Along similar lines getting cat called most days pretty much as soon as I started high school. Never knew how to handle that it was totally normal then (early 80’s)

When I started work uniforms were always skirts/dresses for women even if the job involved up and down step ladders and lifting stuff about. Office jobs even, not allowed to wear trousers and even having to wear heels - one place a min height of 3” this was late 80’s and early 90’s utterly ridiculous!

Don’t even get me started on horrible interview questions that were illegal I was still being asked well into this century.

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By *entleman of FortuneMan
over a year ago

Hull


"Realising that it is ok for men, including supervisors, to address my tits in every conversation

That never happens to me as they’re normally talking to the top of my head

#midgetproblems

As a twenty-something i used to stand in front of an engineer who salivated, licking his disgusting lips as he literally undressed me in the office, as I stood in front of him with my arms crossed at an unnatural height in front my boobs to try to stop him... A few times i was brave enough to gesture and say, my face is up here

It was really horrible "

Your kind of experiences have shaped me into the person I am today, when I was a child my mum was a model and the lecherous behaviour she got from every man we bumped into was terrible. It's not ok, but some of the messages my lady fab friends receive says things aren't that different, they're just less likely to do it face to face.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

People actually having a genuine fist fight to settle disputes.

These days many men are scared to get punched in their face & prefer to hide behind a gang/weapons, or wage wars from their computer screen. Men are brought up to be soft cowards now.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Drug dealing.

You had a choice where I grew up you worked a shitty minimum wage job, you sold drugs or you left.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids playing out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting 50p in the television in a panic because you was half way through your favourite programme

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Realising that it is ok for men, including supervisors, to address my tits in every conversation but do they answer them back?

I’m guessing that they started the conversation in the first place…. "
ahhhh yes i see or they see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Corporal punishment. Horsewhip.

Nor proportionate or warranted on a 12 year old.

"

never horse whipped but do remrmber in P2 or P3 a child getting spanked by a teacher

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"Casual homophobia. Saying something like "that's gay as fuck" to a mate was a normal thing but would be pretty horrified if I heard anyone say it now and it's definitely for the better."

I looked at your age before posting

I am quite a bit older than you having left school in the 1970’s and attending many demonstrations and rallies to decriminalise homosexuality. I and many of my friends were NOT ALLOWED to be gay. A good friend who sadly took his own life had gender surgery and was punished through the ‘justice’ system and spent time in a male prison. So please embrace those terms, phrases and quotes. You are allowed to be gay as whatever.

Not having a go at you. Just wanted to share

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Having to walk through one of the most heavily fortified checkpoints in Europe going to and from school.

Allowing 45 minutes to travel the 3 miles to work because of the above.

Scr*ping the ice off the inside of the bedroom window every morning.

Taking the cream off the top of the milk bottle before pouring.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"Casual homophobia. Saying something like "that's gay as fuck" to a mate was a normal thing but would be pretty horrified if I heard anyone say it now and it's definitely for the better.

I looked at your age before posting

I am quite a bit older than you having left school in the 1970’s and attending many demonstrations and rallies to decriminalise homosexuality. I and many of my friends were NOT ALLOWED to be gay. A good friend who sadly took his own life had gender surgery and was punished through the ‘justice’ system and spent time in a male prison. So please embrace those terms, phrases and quotes. You are allowed to be gay as whatever.

Not having a go at you. Just wanted to share "

I think you misunderstand.

The poster isn't talking about people celebrating being gay.

He's talking about the homophobic situations where someone sees something they don't like or disagree on and openly, outwardly declare it 'gay as fuck' as a negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People actually having a genuine fist fight to settle disputes.

These days many men are scared to get punched in their face & prefer to hide behind a gang/weapons, or wage wars from their computer screen. Men are brought up to be soft cowards now. "

What a pile of shite

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence


"People actually having a genuine fist fight to settle disputes.

These days many men are scared to get punched in their face & prefer to hide behind a gang/weapons, or wage wars from their computer screen. Men are brought up to be soft cowards now.

What a pile of shite"

Do you want me to box you in your face?

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

People not being shocked about winters being cold and summers being hot!

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By *avid 50Man
over a year ago

kendal

Smoking in public

Chicken in a basket

4 pints for a pound

School dentist

Standing in line at primary school in just underpants or knickers to see the nurse

Getting the cane for running down the corridor

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By *obajxMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

paedophiles presenting the most popular kids TV shows

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings


"A recent thread on consent and a comment brought back a memory of something I grew up with seeing as the norm.

A guy and a girl are arguing, he grabs her and starts to kiss her, she resists, tries to fight him off before succumbing to his irresistible charm. Seems crazy these days but as a kid you could see how this could be perceived as just the way it works, taking that dangerous view into adulthood.

So what other outrageous things seen as the norm did you grow up seeing? "

Only happens in films

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings

Ice on the inside of of the windows.

Milk delivered to the house.

Milk at school 1/4 pint bottle.

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By *cottish guy 555 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Putting 50p in the television in a panic because you was half way through your favourite programme "

Our neighbours told us that you could jam a spoon in the slot to avoid putting the 50p in.

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