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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I am outing myself here a little but here goes. I really want to be able to try anal "properly" I have/can take toys ect with no little to no pain but as soon as I try my OH it hurts!!

So any tips??? If I can't ask this here then I suppose where can you!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Is he trying to force it before you have relaxed?

You have to tease it bit by bit and come back out a little before trying to enter more.

Use toys first to relax you, hole preparation is sometimes needed

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

If it hurts, don't do it

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Some people can't do it without pain, personally I don't do it because it's uncomfortable and painful. I wouldn't want to push myself into doing it incase I cause permanent damage to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and relax... Easier said than done! I don't always like it, & it doesn't always work for me. I do enjoy it when I'm in the mood though. Just play around with it vs the end goal of it happening or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you! Appreciate the replies!

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Try using toys that are a bit bigger than him, get yourself used to that size.

Then when he has a go you won't be at the limit of what you can take and should be able to accommodate him with much more ease

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll need lots of lubrication. Start with your fanny juice if you're the sort to leak a bath full, if not, get some super slippery lube.

Always start with fingers, toys etc if you're taking a dick up the back door. I wouldn't recommend going in raw. Set that mood for some anal fun and relax. Go slowly, ask your partner to listen to what you are asking. I like my partner to press the tip in veeery gently.

One thing I will say is expect some pain. I don't know if that's the right thing to say, but whenever a cock first goes in my ass it's always so painful. But then once we get a bit of a rhythm going it's pure pleasure. I always have to bite my lip and push through that minute of pain, to get to the good part. But obviously, if it's too painful and you're in agony definitely stop. Your partner could be too thick and big, which is why it isn't working.

No matter what you do, do not let your asshole go dry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of ky jelly always worked for my wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of lube, and anal lube at that, perhaps do daily exercises for a couple of weeks building up the size and length of time you have it in for. You can get different lengths and widths. This should relax you and you will get used to the feeling.

I love anal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could try a butt plug for a little while before starting

That’s what pornstars do

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

for me i have to be totally turned on to have anal but not only that it has to be with the right guys too so many just dont have a clue how to give anal ... i need to be so turned on and relaxed then its awesome ..i normally find its guys who dont talk or brag about anal the ones who get it right

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

Lube lube lube. I cannot stress enough lube!

Have you tried being on top. If you are in control it can help massively. And knowing that you are in control will relax you. And there’s no shame in holding still for a while until you’re ready to continue. In inelegant terms - you don’t have to bash it all in there in one go!!!

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

I can thoroughly recommend liquid silk the stuff is bloody amazing take your time and totally relax and you'll enjoy every minute

Sweet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can thoroughly recommend liquid silk the stuff is bloody amazing take your time and totally relax and you'll enjoy every minute

Sweet xx"

Seconded.

My first wasn't planned but I really enjoyed it. I guess sometimes it feels best in the moment, when you don't put a pressure on yourself to do it that day. Already some excellent advice up there so I won't add much more.

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

I’m the other way around, I can take toys but find them a bit uncomfortable and not that enjoyable but I love taking N’s dick. I think it’s because toys are so rigid and have no give in them. I some times prefer anal to vaginal sex. Make sure you’re super relaxed, use a lot of lube and take it slow.

C x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was 100% prepared to be slated but honestly reading others advice and difficulties ect really has helped!

Wish me luck... now to wait for him to be off nights!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as others have said.. relax, lube, toys, teasing, easing into it, clit stim (if you enjoy that already, it can really heighten anal)

if it's hurting, stop.

because it absolutely shouldn't hurt!

if you decide to foray into trying again, enjoy OP! Px

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I was 100% prepared to be slated but honestly reading others advice and difficulties ect really has helped!

Wish me luck... now to wait for him to be off nights!!! "

We're sometimes helpful here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was 100% prepared to be slated but honestly reading others advice and difficulties ect really has helped!

Wish me luck... now to wait for him to be off nights!!! "

Best of luck and take it easy pun intended

T

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was 100% prepared to be slated but honestly reading others advice and difficulties ect really has helped!

Wish me luck... now to wait for him to be off nights!!!

We're sometimes helpful here "

Apparently so!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"as others have said.. relax, lube, toys, teasing, easing into it, clit stim (if you enjoy that already, it can really heighten anal)

if it's hurting, stop.

because it absolutely shouldn't hurt!

if you decide to foray into trying again, enjoy OP! Px "

Well reading people get past the pain or it shouldn't be unbearable ect really has helped!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your brain wants to try it more than your arsehole does?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe your brain wants to try it more than your arsehole does?"

Is that the same with most things??

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By *lecticmanMan
over a year ago

Brighton

ohbutt forum has tips / advice

www.ohbutt.com

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

I've only ever had anal with people that enjoy it and were used to it. When I've asked that don't do it the most common response has been its too painful. The contributions from ladies on this thread have been really good

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"If it hurts, don't do it"

Not sure why he would what to hurts either...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it hurts, don't do it

Not sure why he would what to hurts either..."

He isn't bothered! But I like the toys so was looking for suggestions.

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

anal sex is also about the position your in as well.

there is other easier ways for it to slip in much easier.

On edge of the bed with feet on the floor face down, been on all 4s but knees under the belly enough.

laid on your back knees above your belly

similar to when you goto the toilet.

these are the positions that it will slide in much easier.

similiar to when your sliding your dildos into yourself.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"If it hurts, don't do it

Not sure why he would what to hurts either...

He isn't bothered! But I like the toys so was looking for suggestions. "

Well we got a small pug hurt so never tried it again.

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Definitely agree with what others have said. First few times we tried I didn't enjoy it at all and wasn't sure I'd try again. Gave it another go recently but spent time slowly working up from fingers to small toys, then the larger ones, all with plenty of lube. Still had a bit of a stretch changing from toy to hubby's cock but got really turned on from the whole thing. Last time I just left a butt plug in for a while beforehand. Still had the initial "oh" moment but enjoyed myself once we got a rhythm going.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's great to hear thank you! There is hope! Ha! Xx

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"So I am outing myself here a little but here goes. I really want to be able to try anal "properly" I have/can take toys ect with no little to no pain but as soon as I try my OH it hurts!!

So any tips??? If I can't ask this

here then I suppose where can you!

"

Pm me and I'll give you advise on proper training so you can get the most out of anal.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"If it hurts, don't do it

Not sure why he would what to hurts either...

He isn't bothered! But I like the toys so was looking for suggestions.

Well we got a small pug hurt so never tried it again."

I thought all pugs were small

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