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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Can you really love more than one person in a romantic type way (rather than parents etc)?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, of course. It just had the potential to become very messy, very quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot. Emotional monogamist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a green personality type I feel myself gravitating toward reds and blues. In short yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you can I believe

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Yes its possible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes or no I'm not sure I will come back later when I decide

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Yes, of course you can but in my experience they all want you to love only them!

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By *onzoDog74Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

Yeah, it's a thing. I once dated a girl who was polygamous, it sounded interesting but I never git that far into it.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes definitely. I felt for a long time there was something wrong with me for even entertaining ideas that I might be poly.

Now I'm very happy and secure in the knowledge that I can love more than one person at a time. Or at least have strong feelings for another, I wouldn't say it's quite love yet.

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

For those that do or have loved more than one at once, how did it go?

For those that don't think they could, why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely! Although like everything, it won't be for everyone.

Pxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For those that don't think they could, why not? "

I want someone to feel a priority. Not one of "many". For me that distinction, a little loving pedestal to rank them above others, I might feel affectionate about, is the precious jewel in the crown. And I need the same in return.

Enough emotionally - I see it that way, not desiring to seek my needs of that kind fulfilled elsewhere, but working together on finding better version of ourselves through that focus on each other. Simply Him and me trying to enrich our lives, care and grow. More than enough.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Absolutely.

We both love another person deeply and always will.

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By *iren!Woman
over a year ago

leeds

I believe yes there are different types of love, love for family, love for pets and when it comes to lovers you can love each person for different characteristics etc but ultimately you will always love one person more than another

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Yes definitely. I felt for a long time there was something wrong with me for even entertaining ideas that I might be poly.

Now I'm very happy and secure in the knowledge that I can love more than one person at a time. Or at least have strong feelings for another, I wouldn't say it's quite love yet.

You’re just a love machine

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

For those that don't think they could, why not?

I love your answer. X

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I don't fall easily so it would be unlikely to happen to me.

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"Absolutely.

We both love another person deeply and always will.

Both the same person?

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Absolutely.

We both love another person deeply and always will.

Both the same person? "

Yes.

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"I believe yes there are different types of love, love for family, love for pets and when it comes to lovers you can love each person for different characteristics etc but ultimately you will always love one person more than another "

Do you love one parent or child more?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Yes definitely. I felt for a long time there was something wrong with me for even entertaining ideas that I might be poly.

Now I'm very happy and secure in the knowledge that I can love more than one person at a time. Or at least have strong feelings for another, I wouldn't say it's quite love yet.

You’re just a love machine

Well isn't that the nicest thing you've ever said to me?

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"Yes definitely. I felt for a long time there was something wrong with me for even entertaining ideas that I might be poly.

Now I'm very happy and secure in the knowledge that I can love more than one person at a time. Or at least have strong feelings for another, I wouldn't say it's quite love yet.

It sounds beautiful. I am happy for you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For those that don't think they could, why not?

I love your answer. X"

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes of course but this brings the potential for things to become messy too.

Best avoided.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Yes absolutely OP it works for me

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"Yes of course but this brings the potential for things to become messy too.

Best avoided. "

Avoiding feelings sounds tricky.

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"Yes absolutely OP it works for me

Glad to hear. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's not something I want so I wouldn't try it

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

No disrespect to anyone else who has answered.

But if you love more than one person then I would say your not really in love with either.

I can't imagine being able to love anyone else as much as I do jools and wouldn't want to.

And definitely wouldn't want to be shared with another.

Sex is just sex.

Love is love and something far deeper than just a shag.

But that's just us.

If others are able to fair enough.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"For those that do or have loved more than one at once, how did it go?

How is it going? Or how has it gone?

Well. Look, relationships aren't easy at the best of times. Humans are complicated, nuanced creatures. We all possess in varying degrees less than desirable traits; whether that be jealousy, insecurity, uncertainty of who we are and there's always that potential for those to rear their head in whatever dynamic we may find ourselves in.

Do I believe that monogamy is the best for everyone? No, definitely not. Far from it. How could there be one identikit relationship model for us all to follow?

Equally, I genuinely believe that for some, for a myriad of reasons, emotional monogamy is a core identifier of who they are. Neither is better or worse, it's more what's best suited to a person. It might even be for a moment in time. The wonderful thing about us as humans is that we have such a wealth of range, such diversity in our feelings. How we experience life. The values we hold. How others touch our souls, our hearts.

I know I couldn't give my heart to many, when I love I love fiercely. Brightly. Deeply. I feel too much and have no desire to share that amongst many, I want to nurture and protect the bonds I have with those I care about. Prioritise those who feel like home to me.

I'm afraid I may be frowned upon in some poly circles because I value and want to feel like a priority to those two people. I do feel like that. Know I am.

Our adventure may not be quite the Hollywood idealised version of love, the last time I saw one he described our relationship as strange. It is. It's non-conformist, stormy and passionate. He lights up my soul, encourages me to want to be the woman I could be. In turn, I like to think I bring him joy. My eternal curiosity encourages his. My utter nerdiness allows him to embrace things he may not have before. When we're together it's so... intense. Almost too.

My love for my fiancé is unwavering. An immovable object that even Sisyphus would struggle to push in any direction. They are two very different men but regardless of what the future holds, I have faith they'll be a constant in my life in some capacity for years to come.

So... I'd saying being poly is going well for me. Very well.

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

I think some people can and all the best to them.

I couldn’t. It would just overwhelm me.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Most definitely, I am poly

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By *ittlemissmistressKCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I believe you can... X

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think it's possible people can.

But I do think there's always going to be one love that's prioritised due to logistical practicalities in terms of splitting time between partners

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
over a year ago

Durham

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love every single one of you

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Can you really love more than one person in a romantic type way (rather than parents etc)? "

Of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I can, I choose not to, not romantically.

Love takes different forms. I love my children. I loved my dog. There have been friends that I felt strongly for, not sure I could call that love or not?

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"For those that do or have loved more than one at once, how did it go?

How is it going? Or how has it gone?

Do I believe that monogamy is the best for everyone? No, definitely not. Far from it. How could there be one identikit relationship model for us all to follow?

I'm afraid I may be frowned upon in some poly circles because I value and want to feel like a priority to those two people. I do feel like that. Know I am.

So... I'd saying being poly is going well for me. Very well.

How beautifully and eloquently expressed Meli. You clearly have lots of love to share! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes or no I'm not sure I will come back later when I decide

Just looking at your profile i think I'm in love lol

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Thank you all for your thoughts and comments.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I honestly think love is a spectrum and not just a few neat boxes. So not only do I think it's possible to love more that one person romanticly at the same time, I think you can love people at different levels of romance ranging between love of your life and close friendship.

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"I honestly think love is a spectrum and not just a few neat boxes. So not only do I think it's possible to love more that one person romanticly at the same time, I think you can love people at different levels of romance ranging between love of your life and close friendship. "

Thank you. I think maybe in different ways as well?

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

It's worth looking at the different types of love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the old song used to go…

A groovy kind of love xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's very easy to love more than one person

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"It's worth looking at the different types of love. "

What do you mean?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes I can and have x

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By *red333Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Can you really love more than one person in a romantic type way (rather than parents etc)? "
some people on here have proved you can and many people on here have proved you can't super jealous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes or no I'm not sure I will come back later when I decide

Just looking at your profile i think I'm in love lol"

Isn't that a song lol

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"It's worth looking at the different types of love.

What do you mean? "

Philia, agape, storge, platonic, romance, infatuation, obsessive, playful, enduring etc...

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"It's worth looking at the different types of love.

What do you mean?

Philia, agape, storge, platonic, romance, infatuation, obsessive, playful, enduring etc... "

I am going to look that up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not even one person loves me, let alone more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably.

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington

"Yes, of course. It just had the potential to become very messy, very quickly."
YES as long as your wife doesnt catch you,,

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"Not even one person loves me, let alone more

Surely a temporary situation!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"It's worth looking at the different types of love.

What do you mean?

Philia, agape, storge, platonic, romance, infatuation, obsessive, playful, enduring etc...

I am going to look that up! "

It's quite enlightening... Along with paternal, maternal, fraternal etc..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not even one person loves me, let alone more

Surely a temporary situation! "

Even Bridget Jones had two men fighting over her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's worth looking at the different types of love.

What do you mean?

Philia, agape, storge, platonic, romance, infatuation, obsessive, playful, enduring etc...

I am going to look that up!

It's quite enlightening... Along with paternal, maternal, fraternal etc.. "

Not to mention internal

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

Yes, it's possible!

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

"Not even one person loves me, let alone more

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same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even Bridget Jones had two men fighting over her "

Bridget Jones was cute but you’re a bit of alright

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you really love more than one person in a romantic type way (rather than parents etc)? "

Of course you can. It's living with just one person that's bloody difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A famous person once said .." you love me and l love you ..that's bland ..but l love you and you love him ..well that's interesting "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not even one person loves me, let alone more

same"

Yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no doubt others are able to, but I can’t see it ever happening for me.

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"I have no doubt others are able to, but I can’t see it ever happening for me."

Can't see two loving you or can't imagine loving two?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I can really, really like more than one person, bordering on a form of love. But the love where I would want to share a life with, I would only be able to do that with one person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not even one person loves me, let alone more

same

Yup"

Snap

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By *uby StarCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I personally couldn't. There is only one person I'll ever be truly in love with. There is a difference between loving someone and being 'in love ' too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant once is enough for me

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

No, i don't think i ever could in a romantic way...i would feel so very sad if my partner loved somebody else in the same way he loved me...(i don't have one currently btw). I think i would almost feel a sense of betrayal..

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

We’re all different and some people have a lot of love to give and need to share it around. Too much love can overwhelm some people. Having more love in your life can be a wonderful thing.

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"We’re all different and some people have a lot of love to give and need to share it around. Too much love can overwhelm some people. Having more love in your life can be a wonderful thing.

Kx"

Love is wonderful indeed. X

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

It certainly seems that polyamory is more common than I thought even if it's a long way from being accepted as mainstream. Thanks for the insight everyone. X

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

I have been asked my views.

I believe that we have lots of love to give as humans. I don't think there is only one person on the planet for each of us.

I don't for one second think it is easy but I do think you can love or have deep, intense feelings for more than one person at once.

I hope it becomes more accepted in society too.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

For me personally, I've never loved more than one woman at the same time.

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