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Is it hard to let go of the one you love?

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

It is not about me, but I saw a very emotional episode of eastenders the 25th of december. I shed a tear, did you also see it?

It was about mick carter (dany dyer, great actor) and his ex wife linda carter, that he still love.

Here is how it went. they met in the hall way at the back of the pub, as mick had got married to janine the day before, mick and linda talked about memories they had, as they had liked each other from the childhood, both was crying a bit and after they did that, linda said that it is ok mick. I want you to be happy, mick said that he regretted that he married janine and that he have always loved her (linda), it was a heart breaking moment.

To sum it up, mick didnt want to marry janine, but always wanted to be with linda.

My question is, what is your thoughts about it? Have you gone through with something similar and could you relate to it?

My thoughts about it is that yes, it must be a very heart breaking moment, especially as there are so much history between 2 people

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

I am an eastenders fan too

Poor old mick

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Omg you watch eastenders shag and you get embroiled in the storyline lol well in answer to your question yes still love my ex but shes just a friend now, i help her with advice etc

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By *lymanMan
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

Sorry you lost me at eastenders and dany being a great actor ...

But in Real life yes its difficult to let loved ones go for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, my experience has been that I stop loving them before they let me go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bin recently msging with my married ex, after 9yr apart, its fucked my head up lol, and all I can think about is her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry you lost me at eastenders and dany being a great actor ...

… "

Hahaha.

I’d have answered if it wasn’t for this also.

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

Don't watch EastEnders, so I cannot comment on the storyline.

On the more philosophical point, I believe love is like a butterfly. It is at its most beautiful when it flies free. It dances and turns and lifts the soul. If you hold it too tight you crush it and are left with a pale fading imprint of what it used to be.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

No. I've been broken up with twice, the last time almost twenty years ago. The first one hurt for a week or so, the second for a couple of days. But that may be because I held back so as not to be too hurt. Not consciously, but I wonder.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"I am an eastenders fan too

Poor old mick"
That is good you are and yes it is, one sometimes dont realise what they have, until its gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do people in real life ever let go of the one they love in that way?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"

On the more philosophical point, I believe love is like a butterfly. It is at its most beautiful when it flies free. It dances and turns and lifts the soul. If you hold it too tight you crush it and are left with a pale fading imprint of what it used to be. "

I’m not sure I’ve ever read such a beautiful analogy of love and love lost. Thank you Sir. And this is very much how I feel about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i still love most of my exs to some extent - otherwise why was i ever in a relationship with them in the first place? Thankfully never been with any nasty witches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never happened to me until recently but, unfortunately, yes. It doesn’t always happen after having a lot of history together, sometimes it ends before it could even begin. I think that is even more heartbreaking as it would leave you wondering if all the things that could’ve been but won’t. You don’t have time to fall out of love or feel that things are ending, so, yes, it is hard.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I'm divorcee through not my choice....

Is it hard to move on, hell yes .

Is it possible to move on, with time, yes.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Separated fir eight years. Never got around to divorce. Very hard at first but does get easier. Never been in a serious relationship since

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it must be hard to be separated from someone you love. Letting them go is something that must be done for your own peace of mind I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I shed a tear at that to

And yes it can be hard to let go of love even when you have no choice

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Omg you watch eastenders shag and you get embroiled in the storyline lol well in answer to your question yes still love my ex but shes just a friend now, i help her with advice etc "
Yes. I do, it is a good story line too, that is good, that you are both friends now and help her with that

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By *orset.JMan
over a year ago

Weymouth

I think the last verse of Pearl Jams epic ‘Black’ sums it up well- Eddie Vedders voice is so hauntingly painful and amazing.

I know someday you'll have a beautiful life

I know you'll be a star

In somebody else's sky

But why

Why

Why can't it be

Oh can't it be mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully I've never had to do it. I can't imagine the heartache I would feel if I had to let the one I deeply love go. Life would be unbearable.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"I think the last verse of Pearl Jams epic ‘Black’ sums it up well- Eddie Vedders voice is so hauntingly painful and amazing.

I know someday you'll have a beautiful life

I know you'll be a star

In somebody else's sky

But why

Why

Why can't it be

Oh can't it be mine"

That is an awesome song!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm sorry, but I just have to do it, the urge is far too great not too, I'm a weak man and can not stop...

What is love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry you lost me at eastenders and dany being a great actor ...

But in Real life yes its difficult to let loved ones go for sure "

The comment regarding Eastenders & Danny Dyer made me laugh

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I have only ever truly loved 2 women.

The first was my wife, who was my soul mate and best friend, when she passed it took years to get over her.

The second was my last long term partner, and she destroyed me when she cheated on me. It took months to get over that, even though I ended it

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Yes I shed a tear at that to

And yes it can be hard to let go of love even when you have no choice"
Yes, it was a good episode wasnt it, yes it is hard, when one dont have a choice

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"It is not about me, but I saw a very emotional episode of eastenders the 25th of december. I shed a tear, did you also see it?

It was about mick carter (dany dyer, great actor) and his ex wife linda carter, that he still love.

Here is how it went. they met in the hall way at the back of the pub, as mick had got married to janine the day before, mick and linda talked about memories they had, as they had liked each other from the childhood, both was crying a bit and after they did that, linda said that it is ok mick. I want you to be happy, mick said that he regretted that he married janine and that he have always loved her (linda), it was a heart breaking moment.

To sum it up, mick didnt want to marry janine, but always wanted to be with linda.

My question is, what is your thoughts about it? Have you gone through with something similar and could you relate to it?

My thoughts about it is that yes, it must be a very heart breaking moment, especially as there are so much history between 2 people "
didn't watch it but have a very similar thing with my ex.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"I think it must be hard to be separated from someone you love. Letting them go is something that must be done for your own peace of mind I guess.

"
Yes. I also think the same, it must a hard thing to do

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I let someone go, I don't love him but he still loves me and regularly tells me so. I'm never sure what to say when I can't tell him what he wants to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have the abandon switch to let folks go its who il always be

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

Imagine the regret mick feels by marrying the wrong one, just out of curiosity, in general, can one get a divorse the same day in the uk?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Imagine the regret mick feels by marrying the wrong one, just out of curiosity, in general, can one get a divorse the same day in the uk? "
probably if its not consumated

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Imagine the regret mick feels by marrying the wrong one, just out of curiosity, in general, can one get a divorse the same day in the uk? probably if its not consumated "
Yes, it might be cos of that too. I googled and few suggestions came up, 1 day, 43 days, even 1 year, long time isn't it?

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

Yes it’s been very hard for me after a 25 year marriage and 4 kids I still love him deeply but he was the one to leave I think it would make it sting less if I didn’t have to see him regularly because he comes to pick our daughter up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes. Px

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"Imagine the regret mick feels by marrying the wrong one, just out of curiosity, in general, can one get a divorse the same day in the uk? probably if its not consumated "

and probably not if it is the 25th of December!

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Never happened to me until recently but, unfortunately, yes. It doesn’t always happen after having a lot of history together, sometimes it ends before it could even begin. I think that is even more heartbreaking as it would leave you wondering if all the things that could’ve been but won’t. You don’t have time to fall out of love or feel that things are ending, so, yes, it is hard."
Yes, it is even harder when there are a lot of history better a couple

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Sometimes there is no choice than to let them go. Doesn't mean you stop loving them any less

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

If they are no longer part of your life leave it and wall away.

Danny Dyer a good actor? Ever no, soaps with few exceptions are 9 to 5 jobs where you coast along getting paid to put food on the table. Apart from Sarah Lancaster who is brilliant in Happy Velly and other productions very few ever have a career outside of the soap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the words of Abba.

Where are those happy days? They seem so hard to find

I try to reach for you, but you have closed your mind

Whatever happened to our love? I wish I understood

It used to be so nice, it used to be so good

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Sometimes there is no choice than to let them go. Doesn't mean you stop loving them any less"
Yes, you are right there as well

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