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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork

I mean.. they must, right??

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By *mantofuckMan
over a year ago

durham

They go out to seek like-minded people. So either they show some self awareness or are completely oblivious to what's going on in and around d their life.

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"They go out to seek like-minded people. So either they show some self awareness or are completely oblivious to what's going on in and around d their life."

True true...people in general seek others who share their views, that's life. Many of us do love an echo chamber (hence FB groups, 4chan, 8chan, reddit, etc) but I guess what I'm asking is.. (and I mean this with full judgement lol):

Do the baddies know they're baddies?

[Insert Mitchell and Webb Nazi sketch]

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By *mantofuckMan
over a year ago

durham

Are we the baddies?

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I mean.. they must, right?? "

I'm not sure self awareness and/or critical thinking are high on their list of qualities.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news"

Neither do we - not trying to be rude but feel free to google it. Can easily find the definition xx

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news"

In a nutshell: men who hate women

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By *mantofuckMan
over a year ago

durham

I had to Google it to clarify what I thought.

Bad times is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news"

It’s in(voluntary)cel(ibate)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I don’t think they do know, and it’s that lack of awareness, of themselves, of others, that keeps them in that state.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news"

definition of an incel

a member of an online community of young men who consider themselves unable to attract women sexually, typically associated with views that are hostile towards women and men who are sexually active

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By *mantofuckMan
over a year ago

durham

I didn't know that's what it was shortened for.

It really is an advert for going to The Lakes as a young teenager to build up your confidence before you start to get the urges

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

It’s in(voluntary)cel(ibate)"

Thanks Red

You might spot some of them on Fab if you look not so closely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't know that's what it was shortened for.

It really is an advert for going to The Lakes as a young teenager to build up your confidence before you start to get the urges "

Is that what you did?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

It basically means they are celibate because women won’t fuck them!

OPs I’m sure they must know they are because by definition they’re not getting their leg over.

My thoughts on them are… I have no opinion as they are utterly irrelevant

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By *mantofuckMan
over a year ago

durham

Played a part in my development for sure!

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

It’s in(voluntary)cel(ibate)"

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork

FYI there's a Channel 4 doc called The Secret World of Incels

Thinking of watching it and losing a bit more hope in humanity

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"FYI there's a Channel 4 doc called The Secret World of Incels

Thinking of watching it and losing a bit more hope in humanity "

Watch a serial killer documentary instead. Much more interesting

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By *mantofuckMan
over a year ago

durham

What a way to spend an evening!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FYI there's a Channel 4 doc called The Secret World of Incels

Thinking of watching it and losing a bit more hope in humanity "

Ughhh don’t. I’ve watched a few too many Elliot Rodger docs, complete with his YouTube videos. King of the Incels they call him.

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"FYI there's a Channel 4 doc called The Secret World of Incels

Thinking of watching it and losing a bit more hope in humanity

Watch a serial killer documentary instead. Much more interesting "

Lollll.. Gotta switch it up! Gotta scratch that 'worst of humankind' itch

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"FYI there's a Channel 4 doc called The Secret World of Incels

Thinking of watching it and losing a bit more hope in humanity

Ughhh don’t. I’ve watched a few too many Elliot Rodger docs, complete with his YouTube videos. King of the Incels they call him."

They have a king??

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

It’s in(voluntary)cel(ibate)

Thanks Red

You might spot some of them on Fab if you look not so closely "

You can sometimes spot them posting crap like "Top G" etc.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"FYI there's a Channel 4 doc called The Secret World of Incels

Thinking of watching it and losing a bit more hope in humanity

Watch a serial killer documentary instead. Much more interesting

Lollll.. Gotta switch it up! Gotta scratch that 'worst of humankind' itch "

Ted Bundy. King of the serial killers

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange"

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks "

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean.. they must, right?? "

I dont even know what one is

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

"

Some very salient points. Well said. I'm sure there must be incels who aren't self-victimizing women-haters? Never considered that angle - I might need to do some more research.

Perhaps some threads deserve to suffer an untimely death

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

Some very salient points. Well said. I'm sure there must be incels who aren't self-victimizing women-haters? Never considered that angle - I might need to do some more research.

Perhaps some threads deserve to suffer an untimely death "

It doesn’t excuse the murderous women hating behaviours though.

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

Some very salient points. Well said. I'm sure there must be incels who aren't self-victimizing women-haters? Never considered that angle - I might need to do some more research.

Perhaps some threads deserve to suffer an untimely death

It doesn’t excuse the murderous women hating behaviours though."

True.. it's getting late N.. let's wrap this one up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you just tell me what that means pls lol

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"Can you just tell me what that means pls lol"

An incel (an abbreviation of "involuntary celibate") is a member of an online subculture of people who define themselves as unable to get a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one. Discussions in incel forums are often characterized by resentment and hatred, misogyny, misanthropy, self-pity and self-loathing, racism, a sense of entitlement to sex, and the endorsement of violence against women and sexually active people.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Incels do know that they're incels. They just don't know WHY they're incels, or at least they haven't yet correctly identified the character flaw(s) that cause them to have unsuccessful sexual interactions with others.

The various dating apps, including this one, are rife with these people in some form or another.

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By *ames250122Man
over a year ago

Worcester


"They go out to seek like-minded people. So either they show some self awareness or are completely oblivious to what's going on in and around d their life.

True true...people in general seek others who share their views, that's life. Many of us do love an echo chamber (hence FB groups, 4chan, 8chan, reddit, etc) but I guess what I'm asking is.. (and I mean this with full judgement lol):

Do the baddies know they're baddies?

[Insert Mitchell and Webb Nazi sketch] "

Everyone is the hero in their own story. History use to, though now social media decides if that true. I would say they do because they’re not really looking for a relationship. They’ve relinquished all responsibility of what it takes to meet and charm someone else and instead opted to put all the blame on the specific demographic they are attracted to. Thus they really seek others to share their miss placed anger, rather than a relationship which they would have to share equal responsibility for its success or failure. Incel is a horrible and misguided mental illness. This is a horrible comparison but in a way it seems equivalent to a non human hunter moaning about the pray not walking up to them and placing their neck in their mouth to munch on?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Are all people in the trans community in the community. Are they allowed to leave and not give up being trans?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are all people in the trans community in the community. Are they allowed to leave and not give up being trans? "

Eh?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news"

Don't you like to have some awareness of current affairs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean.. they must, right??

I'm not sure self awareness and/or critical thinking are high on their list of qualities."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

"

Fair points.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"Are all people in the trans community in the community. Are they allowed to leave and not give up being trans?

Eh?"

Yep, and I'd add, what? Plus a comedy raised eyebrow, removes hat, scratches forehead, looks around bemusedly expression.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

In a nutshell: men who hate women "

thats not the definition :the definition is people who seek a sexual partner but can't get one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

"

it's easy to mock, do the people who jeer consider themselves empathic and insightful?

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Hang on, I thought we weren't supposed to hang labels on people? Or can we be selective?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are all people in the trans community in the community. Are they allowed to leave and not give up being trans? "

Aha yes! Good point!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they know they’re incels. They have websites and forums with the term in the title. No they don’t care. They genuinely believe it’s not their fault and women are to blame.

Very dangerous group of men who unfortunately get too much air time and have too much influence on young minds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

"

Andrew tate isn’t hated because of his confidence he’s hated because of his blatant misogyny.

I’ll label a creep a creep if he’s a creep whatever his lifestyle/wealth/attractiveness

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

Andrew tate isn’t hated because of his confidence he’s hated because of his blatant misogyny.

I’ll label a creep a creep if he’s a creep whatever his lifestyle/wealth/attractiveness "

When you were here before

Couldn't look you in the eye

You're just like an angel

Your skin makes me cry

You float like a feather

In a beautiful world

I wish I was special

You're so fuckin' special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

I don't care if it hurts

I wanna have control

I want a perfect body

I want a perfect soul

I want you to notice

When I'm not around

You’re So fuckin' special

I wish I was special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

She's running out the door (run)

She's running out

She run, run, run, run

Run

Whatever makes you happy

Whatever you want

You're so fuckin' special

I wish I was special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

I don't belong here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

Andrew tate isn’t hated because of his confidence he’s hated because of his blatant misogyny.

I’ll label a creep a creep if he’s a creep whatever his lifestyle/wealth/attractiveness

When you were here before

Couldn't look you in the eye

You're just like an angel

Your skin makes me cry

You float like a feather

In a beautiful world

I wish I was special

You're so fuckin' special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

I don't care if it hurts

I wanna have control

I want a perfect body

I want a perfect soul

I want you to notice

When I'm not around

You’re So fuckin' special

I wish I was special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

She's running out the door (run)

She's running out

She run, run, run, run

Run

Whatever makes you happy

Whatever you want

You're so fuckin' special

I wish I was special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

I don't belong here

"

Also the incel community is well known for preying on vulnerable men, there are levels of inceldom that lead them down the rabbit hole. Look up MRAs and PUAs. A great book by Laura Bates called Why Men Hate Women explains the whol Sorry situation really well

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

Andrew tate isn’t hated because of his confidence he’s hated because of his blatant misogyny.

I’ll label a creep a creep if he’s a creep whatever his lifestyle/wealth/attractiveness

When you were here before

Couldn't look you in the eye

You're just like an angel

Your skin makes me cry

You float like a feather

In a beautiful world

I wish I was special

You're so fuckin' special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

I don't care if it hurts

I wanna have control

I want a perfect body

I want a perfect soul

I want you to notice

When I'm not around

You’re So fuckin' special

I wish I was special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

She's running out the door (run)

She's running out

She run, run, run, run

Run

Whatever makes you happy

Whatever you want

You're so fuckin' special

I wish I was special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

I don't belong here

Also the incel community is well known for preying on vulnerable men, there are levels of inceldom that lead them down the rabbit hole. Look up MRAs and PUAs. A great book by Laura Bates called Why Men Hate Women explains the whol Sorry situation really well "

Yes, it’s the vulnerable young men whom I refer. You know the ones constantly called creeps. The ones who are exploited by the likes of Tate and other internet gurus.

The ones who’s mental illness declines a they slide further into the abyss. The ones who wouldn’t hurt a fly, but end up taking their own lives as they feel worthless and don’t feel like they are an active part of society.

You know, creeps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

Andrew tate isn’t hated because of his confidence he’s hated because of his blatant misogyny.

I’ll label a creep a creep if he’s a creep whatever his lifestyle/wealth/attractiveness

When you were here before

Couldn't look you in the eye

You're just like an angel

Your skin makes me cry

You float like a feather

In a beautiful world

I wish I was special

You're so fuckin' special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

I don't care if it hurts

I wanna have control

I want a perfect body

I want a perfect soul

I want you to notice

When I'm not around

You’re So fuckin' special

I wish I was special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

She's running out the door (run)

She's running out

She run, run, run, run

Run

Whatever makes you happy

Whatever you want

You're so fuckin' special

I wish I was special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

I don't belong here

Also the incel community is well known for preying on vulnerable men, there are levels of inceldom that lead them down the rabbit hole. Look up MRAs and PUAs. A great book by Laura Bates called Why Men Hate Women explains the whol Sorry situation really well

Yes, it’s the vulnerable young men whom I refer. You know the ones constantly called creeps. The ones who are exploited by the likes of Tate and other internet gurus.

The ones who’s mental illness declines a they slide further into the abyss. The ones who wouldn’t hurt a fly, but end up taking their own lives as they feel worthless and don’t feel like they are an active part of society.

You know, creeps.

"

Do they behave like creeps towards women before that happens?

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

Andrew tate isn’t hated because of his confidence he’s hated because of his blatant misogyny.

I’ll label a creep a creep if he’s a creep whatever his lifestyle/wealth/attractiveness

When you were here before

Couldn't look you in the eye

You're just like an angel

Your skin makes me cry

You float like a feather

In a beautiful world

I wish I was special

You're so fuckin' special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

I don't care if it hurts

I wanna have control

I want a perfect body

I want a perfect soul

I want you to notice

When I'm not around

You’re So fuckin' special

I wish I was special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

She's running out the door (run)

She's running out

She run, run, run, run

Run

Whatever makes you happy

Whatever you want

You're so fuckin' special

I wish I was special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

I don't belong here

Also the incel community is well known for preying on vulnerable men, there are levels of inceldom that lead them down the rabbit hole. Look up MRAs and PUAs. A great book by Laura Bates called Why Men Hate Women explains the whol Sorry situation really well

Yes, it’s the vulnerable young men whom I refer. You know the ones constantly called creeps. The ones who are exploited by the likes of Tate and other internet gurus.

The ones who’s mental illness declines a they slide further into the abyss. The ones who wouldn’t hurt a fly, but end up taking their own lives as they feel worthless and don’t feel like they are an active part of society.

You know, creeps.

Do they behave like creeps towards women before that happens? "

Who knows. They aren’t born creeps, that’s for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

Andrew tate isn’t hated because of his confidence he’s hated because of his blatant misogyny.

I’ll label a creep a creep if he’s a creep whatever his lifestyle/wealth/attractiveness

When you were here before

Couldn't look you in the eye

You're just like an angel

Your skin makes me cry

You float like a feather

In a beautiful world

I wish I was special

You're so fuckin' special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

I don't care if it hurts

I wanna have control

I want a perfect body

I want a perfect soul

I want you to notice

When I'm not around

You’re So fuckin' special

I wish I was special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

She's running out the door (run)

She's running out

She run, run, run, run

Run

Whatever makes you happy

Whatever you want

You're so fuckin' special

I wish I was special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doin' here?

I don't belong here

I don't belong here

Also the incel community is well known for preying on vulnerable men, there are levels of inceldom that lead them down the rabbit hole. Look up MRAs and PUAs. A great book by Laura Bates called Why Men Hate Women explains the whol Sorry situation really well

Yes, it’s the vulnerable young men whom I refer. You know the ones constantly called creeps. The ones who are exploited by the likes of Tate and other internet gurus.

The ones who’s mental illness declines a they slide further into the abyss. The ones who wouldn’t hurt a fly, but end up taking their own lives as they feel worthless and don’t feel like they are an active part of society.

You know, creeps.

Do they behave like creeps towards women before that happens?

Who knows. They aren’t born creeps, that’s for sure."

Exactly. The patriarchy harms us all. More needs to be done for young men and teenagers to help them avoid being sucked in to all that

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange"

Leaves thread after a sudden urge to go and watch the lost boys.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I'm going to guess once you start accessing Incel sites and forums for the purposes of joining the circle jerk you do.

Oddly enough as I've come to understand myself a bit more I've come to understand how some people on spectrum can easily get carried away with intrests in radical groups (especially when combined with other circumstances). Luckily I've also been able to re-ground myself in wider context, gut instinct and fact checking. But admittedly I understand the draw of a new rabbit hole to go down and the zeal for a new intrest/fascination that can develop in terms of spectrum traits. And I've seen it in freinds too. I understand that draw as I've experimented and challenged ideas trying to make sense of the world over the years. But I suspect radicalisation and spectrum traits is a topic for another discussion.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Am currently reading the Laura Bates book, and it's a tough read.

So many elements to the incel movement. It's not just an 'American' problem; it's world-wide. And yes, visible on fab, too.

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over a year ago


"Am currently reading the Laura Bates book, and it's a tough read.

So many elements to the incel movement. It's not just an 'American' problem; it's world-wide. And yes, visible on fab, too."

Her work is amazing, she goes into schools to do talks on incels and radicalisation.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I mean.. they must, right?? "

Just ask them if they are fans of the work of Andrew Tate… that’s normally a tale tale!!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi

I’m an incel it seems but I really like women

I’m not bitter that I’m incel just sad

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start. "

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They go out to seek like-minded people. So either they show some self awareness or are completely oblivious to what's going on in and around d their life.

True true...people in general seek others who share their views, that's life. Many of us do love an echo chamber (hence FB groups, 4chan, 8chan, reddit, etc) but I guess what I'm asking is.. (and I mean this with full judgement lol):

Do the baddies know they're baddies?

[Insert Mitchell and Webb Nazi sketch] "

I think the baddies dont see themselves as that and are more likely to think of themselves as victims. Its always someone elses fault from their point of view.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

I suppose when people feel ostracised by society they end up falling in with people in the same position. Unfortunately this makes them more likely to be exposed to (and in some cases develop) extreme views.

There are some horrific views and characters within the incel community but I do think a lot of incels are lost souls who end up digging themselves deeper into the hole and just need a bit of help to rejoin society.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I’ve read and seen in documentaries the issue seems to be the incels see themselves as excluded from sexual relationships. They rationalise this by externalising the problem into women (developing an extreme misogyny) while weirdly also harming themselves in ways intended to make them more attractive to women.

The line between incels and the toxicity of things like love island is really quite thin.

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By *irty_DeedsMan
over a year ago

Teesside

Sad thing is, if it was a group of anything other than angry young men, mostly white, people would be falling over themselves to help or defend them.

Are some of them sociopaths, out to hurt others, yes undoubtedly but thats not exclusive to the incels. Most are just lost, angry and in need of some sort of guidance or help, instead they get mockery and pushed even more towards extremist views.

Then people are shocked when they get sucked in by a grifter such as Andrew Tate who is telling them they can be more if they just put in the work. Which makes sense to them and then they dont question his other ridiculous views.

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By *entleman of FortuneMan
over a year ago

Hull

All groups love a label, it gives them the sense of belonging they crave - even if it's mad as toast, they also like to be a victim and have something easy to blame that is external to them and takes no self evaluation or self improvement. Same traits as racism, I cannot get X or Y because of those (insert minority) ergo they hate them, allows for something external to blame.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news"

Basically a bunch of assholes who are sulking coz they can't get a woman,spoiled brats who think the world owes them something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say they do, as they seek out and find the groups and forums online for their discussions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??"

This

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Sad thing is, if it was a group of anything other than angry young men, mostly white, people would be falling over themselves to help or defend them.

Are some of them sociopaths, out to hurt others, yes undoubtedly but thats not exclusive to the incels. Most are just lost, angry and in need of some sort of guidance or help, instead they get mockery and pushed even more towards extremist views.

Then people are shocked when they get sucked in by a grifter such as Andrew Tate who is telling them they can be more if they just put in the work. Which makes sense to them and then they dont question his other ridiculous views.

"

We seem to be getting ever more intolerant and less self aware of the fact we are one society.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I’d say they do, as they seek out and find the groups and forums online for their discussions."

They don't necessarily. Online algorithms mean the likes of Tate find them

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This "

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Sad thing is, if it was a group of anything other than angry young men, mostly white, people would be falling over themselves to help or defend them.

Are some of them sociopaths, out to hurt others, yes undoubtedly but thats not exclusive to the incels. Most are just lost, angry and in need of some sort of guidance or help, instead they get mockery and pushed even more towards extremist views.

Then people are shocked when they get sucked in by a grifter such as Andrew Tate who is telling them they can be more if they just put in the work. Which makes sense to them and then they dont question his other ridiculous views.

We seem to be getting ever more intolerant and less self aware of the fact we are one society. "

Very much divided and conquered it would seem.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??"

100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.? "

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.? "

And it is true. There have been mass murders committed in the name of inceldom. R8pe is condoned by incels.

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people. "

Also controlling the use of porn so kids can’t watch it. I was watching porn when my age was in single digits. I used to say it hadn’t affected me but in hindsight it did. Little kids growing up to think any woman is about to do the most extreme sex acts on you, then have no clue of how to attract a partner, never being shown what a real relationship looks like.

It’s why I don’t watch so much porn now. Not because I don’t enjoy it, but because I feel it damages societies when their young ones can view it on tap.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Sad thing is, if it was a group of anything other than angry young men, mostly white, people would be falling over themselves to help or defend them.

Are some of them sociopaths, out to hurt others, yes undoubtedly but thats not exclusive to the incels. Most are just lost, angry and in need of some sort of guidance or help, instead they get mockery and pushed even more towards extremist views.

Then people are shocked when they get sucked in by a grifter such as Andrew Tate who is telling them they can be more if they just put in the work. Which makes sense to them and then they dont question his other ridiculous views.

We seem to be getting ever more intolerant and less self aware of the fact we are one society.

Very much divided and conquered it would seem."

It's the lack of self awareness I find most troubling and the preparedness to stand on the high ground and so willingly cast aspersions at anyone else. Sure its the easy option but the knee bone is very much connected to the thigh bone. Don't get me wrong I'm not defending anyone. But observing endless finger pointing and piss taking doesn't serve us well and sometimes a little thought and kindness might have better outcomes.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people.

Also controlling the use of porn so kids can’t watch it. I was watching porn when my age was in single digits. I used to say it hadn’t affected me but in hindsight it did. Little kids growing up to think any woman is about to do the most extreme sex acts on you, then have no clue of how to attract a partner, never being shown what a real relationship looks like.

It’s why I don’t watch so much porn now. Not because I don’t enjoy it, but because I feel it damages societies when their young ones can view it on tap. "

A good point, but much of the communication is via the dark Web, therefore difficult to monitor.

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)


"

A good point, but much of the communication is via the dark Web, therefore difficult to monitor."

That’s interesting! I’m sure my kids one day will know how to use the dark web. I have no clue at all and friends who are computer programmers tell me to stay away.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people. "

All very good ideas. Realistically though. Who and how does that actually happen? Is it "somebody elses" job to do it? Trouble is everybody seems to expect somebody else to do it. But nobody actually steps up to make the changes.

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By *irty_DeedsMan
over a year ago

Teesside


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people. "

So silence anyone you don't agree with basically?

...Or how about parents do their jobs and educate their kids on the dangers of the internet. You know raise their kids to be decent human beings rather than relying on tiktok to babysit. Maybe then we wouldn't have a generation with zero social skills that can be sucked in to ridiculous groups because they got shot down a few times by girls.

If I planned a murder spree everytime I got rejected as a youngster there would be a huge dip in population around the mid 90's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people.

Also controlling the use of porn so kids can’t watch it. I was watching porn when my age was in single digits. I used to say it hadn’t affected me but in hindsight it did. Little kids growing up to think any woman is about to do the most extreme sex acts on you, then have no clue of how to attract a partner, never being shown what a real relationship looks like.

It’s why I don’t watch so much porn now. Not because I don’t enjoy it, but because I feel it damages societies when their young ones can view it on tap.

A good point, but much of the communication is via the dark Web, therefore difficult to monitor."

If you google incels on a normal search engine you’ll find the forums within 4/5 clicks. The stuff posted on them is savage I had to do a lot of research for a uni assignment and it honestly made me feel sick reading some of the stuff.

I get why people want to be sympathetic to their plight and come across as wanting to help but honestly a lot of them are way past it

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people.

All very good ideas. Realistically though. Who and how does that actually happen? Is it "somebody elses" job to do it? Trouble is everybody seems to expect somebody else to do it. But nobody actually steps up to make the changes. "

Then you have practical questions like.. Who determines what is harmful? Or radical? Where do children have their opinions and values formed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people. So silence anyone you don't agree with basically?

...Or how about parents do their jobs and educate their kids on the dangers of the internet. You know raise their kids to be decent human beings rather than relying on tiktok to babysit. Maybe then we wouldn't have a generation with zero social skills that can be sucked in to ridiculous groups because they got shot down a few times by girls.

If I planned a murder spree everytime I got rejected as a youngster there would be a huge dip in population around the mid 90's "

No don’t silence anyone I don’t agree with, that’s a silly thing to say. Parenting has a huge part to play but unfortunately there are always going to be parents who don’t care what their kids access therefore there needs to be a wider responsibility taken for making the access harder.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I mean.. they must, right?? "
hey i had to look it uo so no they don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people.

All very good ideas. Realistically though. Who and how does that actually happen? Is it "somebody elses" job to do it? Trouble is everybody seems to expect somebody else to do it. But nobody actually steps up to make the changes.

Then you have practical questions like.. Who determines what is harmful? Or radical? Where do children have their opinions and values formed? "

Good practical questions there. Childrens opinions are formed by what they’re exposed to in a nutshell. It’s partly from the displayed and discussed ethics in the home, views of their peers, what they learn at school and online. Obviously there will always be contrasting and contradictory opinions from these influences which is good because it teaches them to make their own choices and form their own opinions.

The line has to be drawn when your opinions and views lead you to cause harm to others surely?

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I mean.. they must, right?? hey i had to look it uo so no they don't "
up

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people.

Also controlling the use of porn so kids can’t watch it. I was watching porn when my age was in single digits. I used to say it hadn’t affected me but in hindsight it did. Little kids growing up to think any woman is about to do the most extreme sex acts on you, then have no clue of how to attract a partner, never being shown what a real relationship looks like.

It’s why I don’t watch so much porn now. Not because I don’t enjoy it, but because I feel it damages societies when their young ones can view it on tap. "

Agreed... And yet this discussion thread is in a site of apparently open minded adults, some of whom think it's glorious to make and watch porn, to obtectify races and attributes, to seduce 18 year olds, to flash and have sex in public (and so on)...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean.. they must, right?? "

if im going to hate 50% of the worlds population and smash my face with a hammer i'd like to think i knew why.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people.

Also controlling the use of porn so kids can’t watch it. I was watching porn when my age was in single digits. I used to say it hadn’t affected me but in hindsight it did. Little kids growing up to think any woman is about to do the most extreme sex acts on you, then have no clue of how to attract a partner, never being shown what a real relationship looks like.

It’s why I don’t watch so much porn now. Not because I don’t enjoy it, but because I feel it damages societies when their young ones can view it on tap.

A good point, but much of the communication is via the dark Web, therefore difficult to monitor.

If you google incels on a normal search engine you’ll find the forums within 4/5 clicks. The stuff posted on them is savage I had to do a lot of research for a uni assignment and it honestly made me feel sick reading some of the stuff.

I get why people want to be sympathetic to their plight and come across as wanting to help but honestly a lot of them are way past it"

So what do you do with people who are way past help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people.

Also controlling the use of porn so kids can’t watch it. I was watching porn when my age was in single digits. I used to say it hadn’t affected me but in hindsight it did. Little kids growing up to think any woman is about to do the most extreme sex acts on you, then have no clue of how to attract a partner, never being shown what a real relationship looks like.

It’s why I don’t watch so much porn now. Not because I don’t enjoy it, but because I feel it damages societies when their young ones can view it on tap.

A good point, but much of the communication is via the dark Web, therefore difficult to monitor.

If you google incels on a normal search engine you’ll find the forums within 4/5 clicks. The stuff posted on them is savage I had to do a lot of research for a uni assignment and it honestly made me feel sick reading some of the stuff.

I get why people want to be sympathetic to their plight and come across as wanting to help but honestly a lot of them are way past it

So what do you do with people who are way past help? "

Steer well clear! And ideally stop them from poisoning others

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people.

All very good ideas. Realistically though. Who and how does that actually happen? Is it "somebody elses" job to do it? Trouble is everybody seems to expect somebody else to do it. But nobody actually steps up to make the changes.

Then you have practical questions like.. Who determines what is harmful? Or radical? Where do children have their opinions and values formed?

Good practical questions there. Childrens opinions are formed by what they’re exposed to in a nutshell. It’s partly from the displayed and discussed ethics in the home, views of their peers, what they learn at school and online. Obviously there will always be contrasting and contradictory opinions from these influences which is good because it teaches them to make their own choices and form their own opinions.

The line has to be drawn when your opinions and views lead you to cause harm to others surely?"

But what pratcially does "the line has to be drawn" mean? What actions are taken when people cross the line? Does it also apply to religions.?(eg many religions and traditions have very different values to our "correct" Western thinking don't they? And yet we encourage them to live among us? And we protect their views and values?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people.

All very good ideas. Realistically though. Who and how does that actually happen? Is it "somebody elses" job to do it? Trouble is everybody seems to expect somebody else to do it. But nobody actually steps up to make the changes.

Then you have practical questions like.. Who determines what is harmful? Or radical? Where do children have their opinions and values formed?

Good practical questions there. Childrens opinions are formed by what they’re exposed to in a nutshell. It’s partly from the displayed and discussed ethics in the home, views of their peers, what they learn at school and online. Obviously there will always be contrasting and contradictory opinions from these influences which is good because it teaches them to make their own choices and form their own opinions.

The line has to be drawn when your opinions and views lead you to cause harm to others surely?

But what pratcially does "the line has to be drawn" mean? What actions are taken when people cross the line? Does it also apply to religions.?(eg many religions and traditions have very different values to our "correct" Western thinking don't they? And yet we encourage them to live among us? And we protect their views and values? "

We protect their views and values because in the main they’re not actually encouraging each other to r5pe or commit mass murder these days. And we go in on them like we do any group if and when they break the law

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By *irty_DeedsMan
over a year ago

Teesside


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

I can give you many steps. Take harmful shit off the internet. Provide more education about radicalisation in schools and other settings targeting young people. Educate young men that access to a woman’s body is not a god given right. Take away platforms that allow people such as Andrew tate to influence and manipulate vulnerable people.

All very good ideas. Realistically though. Who and how does that actually happen? Is it "somebody elses" job to do it? Trouble is everybody seems to expect somebody else to do it. But nobody actually steps up to make the changes.

Then you have practical questions like.. Who determines what is harmful? Or radical? Where do children have their opinions and values formed?

Good practical questions there. Childrens opinions are formed by what they’re exposed to in a nutshell. It’s partly from the displayed and discussed ethics in the home, views of their peers, what they learn at school and online. Obviously there will always be contrasting and contradictory opinions from these influences which is good because it teaches them to make their own choices and form their own opinions.

The line has to be drawn when your opinions and views lead you to cause harm to others surely?

But what pratcially does "the line has to be drawn" mean? What actions are taken when people cross the line? Does it also apply to religions.?(eg many religions and traditions have very different values to our "correct" Western thinking don't they? And yet we encourage them to live among us? And we protect their views and values? "

Where does this form of censorship end? It's a slippery slope to people being persecuted for thought crimes. What if you put these methods in place then the next person in power deems something you post online to be dangerous? Maybe they deem swinging to be immoral and a danger to society

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news definition of an incel

a member of an online community of young men who consider themselves unable to attract women sexually, typically associated with views that are hostile towards women and men who are sexually active"

So it's newspeak for lazy ugly fuckers who can't get a shag and want to blame everyone else for it.

They've been around for as long as I can remember. In the old days you would see them sat in the corner of the pub slagging off anyone who they thought was doing better than them.

Only difference is that now they have a label and a much wider platform than the dark corner of the tap room.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"OP, I don’t think they do know, and it’s that lack of awareness, of themselves, of others, that keeps them in that state."

I think there are many reasons for being incel. Being introverted due to outside circumstances and social anxiety being amongst them.

I would probably identify as an incel, but have never been misogynistic. However I suffer severe hearing loss from.a young age. Socially it can be restrictive and lead to many misunderstandings.

Past treatment from others men and women has made me wary of forming relationships with others.

This is not me being sorry for.myself I have got om with life and have a lot to be proud of myself. However,.there are things that don't change

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I mean.. they must, right?? "
its a label, they're just people doing it the wrong way but think they're doing it the right way

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

Basically a bunch of assholes who are sulking coz they can't get a woman,spoiled brats who think the world owes them something."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. They think they’re “nice guys”

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Some of them don't and they get mighty cross if you mention they're displaying incel characteristics. Apparently it's new feminism that's made women like it...

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

In a nutshell: men who hate women "

Sk how do you figure that then? I probably have more female friends than male.

There may be a lot of factors why a man is an incel and what about women? There are many women who also are involuntary Celbate, Do they hate men? Respectfully your comment is unfair and prejudiced

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

In a nutshell: men who hate women

Sk how do you figure that then? I probably have more female friends than male.

There may be a lot of factors why a man is an incel and what about women? There are many women who also are involuntary Celbate, Do they hate men? Respectfully your comment is unfair and prejudiced "

What is your definition of an 'incel'?

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"No. They think they’re “nice guys” "

Do they?

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

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By *ixie BeanMan
over a year ago

Wallasey

Incel sounds like a Tom Clancy novel.

"Involuntary celibate" sounds like a dominatrix restraint.

Say it for what it is. don't dress it up to be something different. They're mentally ill virgins.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news definition of an incel

a member of an online community of young men who consider themselves unable to attract women sexually, typically associated with views that are hostile towards women and men who are sexually active

So it's newspeak for lazy ugly fuckers who can't get a shag and want to blame everyone else for it.

They've been around for as long as I can remember. In the old days you would see them sat in the corner of the pub slagging off anyone who they thought was doing better than them.

Only difference is that now they have a label and a much wider platform than the dark corner of the tap room."

Nice

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

And it is true. There have been mass murders committed in the name of inceldom. R8pe is condoned by incels. "

There’s been mass murders committed by women. Doesn’t mean we need to take women off rrhe internet.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

In a nutshell: men who hate women "

Involuntary celibate.

Men who want to have sex, but can't.

Incel is for those who decide it is a conspiracy to deny them their 'right' to have sex.

Most are vastly overvaluing their own attractiveness, and wonder why a chubby chap living with his parents and spending all his free time watching porn isn't overwhelmed with supermodels offering the sex to him.

If a woman of comparative attractiveness to his own made a move on him, he'd turn her down, and say she is fat and ugly, without irony.

And this whole situation is the fault of women, for choosing attractive adult men, over whiny man-children.

I'd guess most incels believe that they are not incels, because they are special, unlike all the others.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news"

Simple answer, men that can't get laid and blame everyone else but themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

And it is true. There have been mass murders committed in the name of inceldom. R8pe is condoned by incels.

There’s been mass murders committed by women. Doesn’t mean we need to take women off rrhe internet."

Far less tho

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

I wonder how much of this is informed by knowledge and how much by ignorance. I admit its something I know very little about. I'm not sure insulting people ever achieves very much though.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I don't think they're that self aware

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"What’s an incel?

So it's newspeak for lazy ugly fuckers who can't get a shag and want to blame everyone else for it.

"

Actually, the phrase 'involuntary celibacy' was first coined by a Canadian woman, who just wanted to reach out to others like her.

As with so many other things in life, it got taken over by bad people.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

So are all incels deluded women haters with dangerous ideological beliefs?

Or can the term incel also be applied to those who have come to feel excluded from society but don't harbor dangerous beliefs?

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"So are all incels deluded women haters with dangerous ideological beliefs?

Or can the term incel also be applied to those who have come to feel excluded from society but don't harbor dangerous beliefs? "

no they are just people looking for sexual liasons but can't achieve them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So are all incels deluded women haters with dangerous ideological beliefs?

Or can the term incel also be applied to those who have come to feel excluded from society but don't harbor dangerous beliefs? "

Depends if they’re getting sex or not

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Whoah this thread makes for some grim reading.

There have always been people in society who are marginalised or are “misfits”. Human nature is to be part of a tribe/tribalism and these people feel apart from that or excluded.

The internet is a wonderful thing as it provides easy access to all manner of information and the ability to connect and make communities.

The internet is also a terrible thing as it provides easy access to all manner of information and the ability to connect and make communities.

People who were previously isolated can now connect with other likeminded souls to share their views and encourage behaviour.

So-called “losers” can find a focus for their social ills and anger at society or specific groups in society.

They can also then be preyed on, manipulated and (most importantly) exploited for financial gain by the likes of Andrew Tate and all those other “self help gurus” (for a fee/subscription to their programme).

The Covid pandemic combined with an increasingly online/social media existence has exacerbated the problems.

It is dangerous and rather than mocking we should be tackling.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Whoah this thread makes for some grim reading.

There have always been people in society who are marginalised or are “misfits”. Human nature is to be part of a tribe/tribalism and these people feel apart from that or excluded.

The internet is a wonderful thing as it provides easy access to all manner of information and the ability to connect and make communities.

The internet is also a terrible thing as it provides easy access to all manner of information and the ability to connect and make communities.

People who were previously isolated can now connect with other likeminded souls to share their views and encourage behaviour.

So-called “losers” can find a focus for their social ills and anger at society or specific groups in society.

They can also then be preyed on, manipulated and (most importantly) exploited for financial gain by the likes of Andrew Tate and all those other “self help gurus” (for a fee/subscription to their programme).

The Covid pandemic combined with an increasingly online/social media existence has exacerbated the problems.

It is dangerous and rather than mocking we should be tackling."

Very much so. The facts are that they aren’t all woman hating murderers. The are people suffering, many ending up committing suicide.

As I said before that narrative doesn’t show up in the headlines.

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

In a nutshell: men who hate women

Sk how do you figure that then? I probably have more female friends than male.

There may be a lot of factors why a man is an incel and what about women? There are many women who also are involuntary Celbate, Do they hate men? Respectfully your comment is unfair and prejudiced "

My apologies for any offence - before I posted this thread, my understanding and knowledge of incels was informed almost solely on the misogyny and aggressive self-victimizing that the more outspoken/reported online groups/celebs are known for.

While of course there are people who are indeed involuntarily celibate, I don't believe that makes them an 'incel', as the term itself now holds a very specific connotation that obviously does not apply to everyone.

Of course, with labels flying about left and right, we may just be arguing semantics here so having open discussions like this where we can learn from another and experience different viewpoints is hugely important imo.

Fab is certainly not the best forum for such debates but I believe it's better than nothing (or 8chan) as there are some nuggets of truth and wisdom among these hallowed virtual halls

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

In a nutshell: men who hate women

Sk how do you figure that then? I probably have more female friends than male.

There may be a lot of factors why a man is an incel and what about women? There are many women who also are involuntary Celbate, Do they hate men? Respectfully your comment is unfair and prejudiced

What is your definition of an 'incel'?"

Someone who through internal.or external.factors find it difficult to have relationships.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

In a nutshell: men who hate women

Sk how do you figure that then? I probably have more female friends than male.

There may be a lot of factors why a man is an incel and what about women? There are many women who also are involuntary Celbate, Do they hate men? Respectfully your comment is unfair and prejudiced

What is your definition of an 'incel'?"

Someone who through internal.or external.factors find it difficult to have relationships.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"FYI there's a Channel 4 doc called The Secret World of Incels

Thinking of watching it and losing a bit more hope in humanity "

Trouble with the C4 documentaries they only show one side of a lifestyle, personality and call it absolute.

They have done a lot of documentaries on the swinging lifestyle that is twisted to show us in the worst possible light.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"FYI there's a Channel 4 doc called The Secret World of Incels

Thinking of watching it and losing a bit more hope in humanity

Trouble with the C4 documentaries they only show one side of a lifestyle, personality and call it absolute.

They have done a lot of documentaries on the swinging lifestyle that is twisted to show us in the worst possible light.

"

Is there a way to put a positive sidev to being an incel?

The swinging documentary from Liberties was a fair portrayal of swinging?

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By *ihmMan
over a year ago

West Wales


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

Don't you like to have some awareness of current affairs?"

A lack of interest in the world around us seems to be worn as a badge of honour by an increasingly large number of people these days. I think it is a shame.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

Don't you like to have some awareness of current affairs?

A lack of interest in the world around us seems to be worn as a badge of honour by an increasingly large number of people these days. I think it is a shame. "

Some people finds it affects their mental health negatively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

Don't you like to have some awareness of current affairs?

A lack of interest in the world around us seems to be worn as a badge of honour by an increasingly large number of people these days. I think it is a shame.

Some people finds it affects their mental health negatively. "

It has a negative impact on my mental health and I can have long periods of not seeing or reading the news. It's how I look after myself.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

It does not mean that a man hates a woman...... Where have you got that definition from?

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

Don't you like to have some awareness of current affairs?

A lack of interest in the world around us seems to be worn as a badge of honour by an increasingly large number of people these days. I think it is a shame.

Some people finds it affects their mental health negatively.

It has a negative impact on my mental health and I can have long periods of not seeing or reading the news. It's how I look after myself."

Absolutely the same here ^^ Nothing wrong with keeping up on world affairs but the media figured out a long time ago that disaster and strife sells so that's the majority of what they churn out.

There's so much happening on the planet every day - we only hear about a fraction of it, and mostly negative.

Not following the mainstream media is not equal to not having an interest in the world around us. It merely means you choose to seek your education from elsewhere. And communicating that to people is absolutely fine and isn't a badge of honor - it's just simple communication

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By *heBlowins OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Cork


"It does not mean that a man hates a woman...... Where have you got that definition from? "

The online incel community (if you can call it that) is well known for extreme misogyny. It was a tongue in cheek, albeit simplified way of explaining what the term has come to mean (to many people; it is clearly not inclusive of people who are involuntarily celibate and who are not women-hating assholes)

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I hate excel

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"It does not mean that a man hates a woman...... Where have you got that definition from? "

How would you define it?

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"

So it's newspeak for lazy ugly fuckers who can't get a shag and want to blame everyone else for it.

Actually, the phrase 'involuntary celibacy' was first coined by a Canadian woman, who just wanted to reach out to others like her.

As with so many other things in life, it got taken over by bad people.

"

Good on the Canadian woman. Obviously it was a shortening of two words only, both of which say exactly what they mean, without elaboration or having motives attached.

When the question 'What’s an incel?' was first raised in this thread, I was tempted to reply "A derogatory term applied to some of the less fortunate by some of the more fortunate in order to make the latter feel even better about their more fortunate selves".

Would I have been right?

Should I think any differently after digesting the intervening posts?

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

In a nutshell: men who hate women "

I think its a bit more than that - the mysogyny is only one aspect of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So it's newspeak for lazy ugly fuckers who can't get a shag and want to blame everyone else for it.

Actually, the phrase 'involuntary celibacy' was first coined by a Canadian woman, who just wanted to reach out to others like her.

As with so many other things in life, it got taken over by bad people.

"

I think anyone who use such terms, needs to realise that they contribute to the existence of 'bad' people.

Do they realise? Maybe not the label they've inherited, but I daresay they're aware of the disaffection and the way they're treated? Environments can nurture good and bad results?

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

And it is true. There have been mass murders committed in the name of inceldom. R8pe is condoned by incels.

There’s been mass murders committed by women. Doesn’t mean we need to take women off the internet."

Overwhelmingly, murders are committed by men.

In the USA, for example, 98% of mass murders are committed by men.

Globally, nearly 90% of all homicides are committed by men.

It's overwhelmingly a male problem, and a bit of misplaced whataboutery won't help.

https://www.unodc.org/unodc/en/data-and-analysis/global-study-on-homicide.html

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

Don't you like to have some awareness of current affairs?

A lack of interest in the world around us seems to be worn as a badge of honour by an increasingly large number of people these days. I think it is a shame.

Some people finds it affects their mental health negatively.

It has a negative impact on my mental health and I can have long periods of not seeing or reading the news. It's how I look after myself.

Absolutely the same here ^^ Nothing wrong with keeping up on world affairs but the media figured out a long time ago that disaster and strife sells so that's the majority of what they churn out.

There's so much happening on the planet every day - we only hear about a fraction of it, and mostly negative.

Not following the mainstream media is not equal to not having an interest in the world around us. It merely means you choose to seek your education from elsewhere. And communicating that to people is absolutely fine and isn't a badge of honor - it's just simple communication "

Well said.

I would suggest that lapping up everything which the news media or internet opinion makers throw one's way is certainly a badge of gullibility!

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

"

if this was any other demographic group, there would be a huge effort and lots of funding available to help them, groups set up for support and lessons on how to talk to women respectfully and people to give them some confidence and self esteem. Then some of the online fucktards who pretty much radicalise them in the same way thats seen with various religions, wouldn't have the power and influence they do

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"People are strange

When you're a stranger

Faces look ugly

When you're alone

Women seem wicked

When you're unwanted

Streets are uneven

When you're down

When you're strange

Faces come out of the rain

When you're strange

No one remembers your name

When you're strange

When you're strange

When you're strange

That time of the night when nicole busts out the Morrison - might be time for last call folks

I’m a persistent thread killer!

Those lyrics are good for though don’t you think.

These young men didn’t start life as women hating incels. They travel a life journey of unsuccessful attempts to date and then slide further down a slippy slope of rejection.

Some Women, especially young women, can be very cruel when rejecting mens advances. They don’t realise they effect on young mens confidence and mental health.

Women seem to hate the likes of Tate, who oozes confidence and bravado, yet don’t think twice of referring to some young, more fragile men as creeps because they don’t fancy them.

It’s very sad, and the reality is that suicide happens much more than mass killings, but that never makes the incel headlines.

if this was any other demographic group, there would be a huge effort and lots of funding available to help them, groups set up for support and lessons on how to talk to women respectfully and people to give them some confidence and self esteem. Then some of the online fucktards who pretty much radicalise them in the same way thats seen with various religions, wouldn't have the power and influence they do "

Easier just to take the piss and ooit fingers though isn't it?

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By *ihmMan
over a year ago

West Wales


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

Don't you like to have some awareness of current affairs?

A lack of interest in the world around us seems to be worn as a badge of honour by an increasingly large number of people these days. I think it is a shame.

Some people finds it affects their mental health negatively.

It has a negative impact on my mental health and I can have long periods of not seeing or reading the news. It's how I look after myself.

Absolutely the same here ^^ Nothing wrong with keeping up on world affairs but the media figured out a long time ago that disaster and strife sells so that's the majority of what they churn out.

There's so much happening on the planet every day - we only hear about a fraction of it, and mostly negative.

Not following the mainstream media is not equal to not having an interest in the world around us. It merely means you choose to seek your education from elsewhere. And communicating that to people is absolutely fine and isn't a badge of honor - it's just simple communication "

You exactly make my point. You only hear about disaster and strife and nothing else if your interest in the world is a passive absorption of the most readily available "news" mainstream or otherwise. The world around you should be about more than the headline in your echo chamber of choice and doesn't inherently have anything to do with "the media" again, mainstream or otherwise. There is the world around you in the most literal sense, an interest in the people and things in your immediate vicinity or scale that up to include all of our fellow human beings, informing ourselves and understanding the world we live in and the people in it is the most human of endeavours. A conversation with the person sat next to you on the bus or reading a paper on the latest breakthrough in building a useful fusion reactor and everything inbetween all goes towards making us better people and the world a better place. It was a lack of interest in that pursuit of knowledge and understanding of the world around us that I was decrying.

When I first read about the internet, many many years ago now, I was convinced it would change the world in a positive way, that bigotry and hate are born of ignorance and what better tool could there be to counter that than the world and all its knowledge at your finger tips. It hasn't really worked out like that. Incel seems to be one of many identities that could have been something very positive and supportive, but has been hijacked by a radical and unpleasant fringe, whatever the intentions of the Canadian lady who apparently coined the phrase (I've learnt something new)

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By *ames250122Man
over a year ago

Worcester


"What’s an incel

I do not read watch or listen to mainstream media, I don’t watch read or listen to the news

In a nutshell: men who hate women

Sk how do you figure that then? I probably have more female friends than male.

There may be a lot of factors why a man is an incel and what about women? There are many women who also are involuntary Celbate, Do they hate men? Respectfully your comment is unfair and prejudiced

My apologies for any offence - before I posted this thread, my understanding and knowledge of incels was informed almost solely on the misogyny and aggressive self-victimizing that the more outspoken/reported online groups/celebs are known for.

While of course there are people who are indeed involuntarily celibate, I don't believe that makes them an 'incel', as the term itself now holds a very specific connotation that obviously does not apply to everyone.

Of course, with labels flying about left and right, we may just be arguing semantics here so having open discussions like this where we can learn from another and experience different viewpoints is hugely important imo.

Fab is certainly not the best forum for such debates but I believe it's better than nothing (or 8chan) as there are some nuggets of truth and wisdom among these hallowed virtual halls "

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By *ames250122Man
over a year ago

Worcester


"Whatever they may be. Much like the other thread about shamima begum.. They are part of society. Perhaps pointing the finger at folks who aren't perfect like us would be a nice place to start.

They may be part of society, but they are also a terrorist organisation that endorses m urder and that r @pe to be made legal.

Still think that society shouldn't be pointing the finger??

This

Assume for a moment that is true (it's not).. Have a think for a moment about one step that could be taken to improve the situation.?

And it is true. There have been mass murders committed in the name of inceldom. R8pe is condoned by incels.

There’s been mass murders committed by women. Doesn’t mean we need to take women off rrhe internet.

Far less tho"

Hmmm don’t think size of volume of any of these crimes, larger or smaller is the point. All the crimes mentioned, regardless of gender are despicable and wrong. None of the mentions crimes in these threads should be treat more or less important based on a numerical value. I don’t believe in censorship as no one person or pocket of people have the right or wisdom to determine what legal content should be allowed or not. However I do agree, the more extreme groups of Incel and Feminist groups, are, have been and will be very damaging to society and the generations that grow up during this as both based on control, dominance and abuse of power rather than on equality, mutual respect and empathy

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