FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies - Search or Respond?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Straight/Bi ladies of Fab, as I understand it, you tend to get inundated with messages from male profiles. However, what I was wondering is when wanting to make contact will someone, do you prefer to search and browse the male profiles for yourself, or do you like to go through those who've sent messages to you?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I can do either, but when I search it really takes an impressive profile to get me to message.

(And a good first message with good profile to respond when my filters allow it)

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I do both.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Respond, I've never been inundated with messages.

Find it hard to search when I can't see face pics, as that's where the attraction lies for me... I'm never going to msg anyone with a dick for their avatar.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm not actively looking to meet at the moment, but I do both when I am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh, that's interesting that you don't get inundated (especially having looked at your pics). How many messages do you get a day, on average, do you think?

And agree - if a person has a dick as a profile pic, probably an accurate indication of their personality.

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

"Respond, I've never been inundated with messages.

Find it hard to search when I can't see face pics, as that's where the attraction lies for me... I'm never going to msg anyone with a dick for their avatar."

Exactly our experience ^^

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Oh, that's interesting that you don't get inundated (especially having looked at your pics). How many messages do you get a day, on average, do you think?

And agree - if a person has a dick as a profile pic, probably an accurate indication of their personality. "

I don't really keep count, but never more than about 50. Certainly not 100s like some of the ladies on here.

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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow Scotland

I have never searched for a man on here. I would just normally respond to a message if I saw one that took my fancy. I think I have maybe sent a first message a few times if I have seen a status update or something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ahhh, see 50 seems like quite a lot to me, but I suppose it is relative.

And maybe it's not that much is the vast majority of the messages are trash.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So you've never browsed to see what is available?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Ahhh, see 50 seems like quite a lot to me, but I suppose it is relative.

And maybe it's not that much is the vast majority of the messages are trash."

95% get deleted as they haven't read the profile and aren't a match

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

As a general rule I'm not actively seeking, which means on the rare occasions I am there's already someone that's sparked my interest in my inbox, so I haven't ever searched.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"So you've never browsed to see what is available? "

I've looked, and maybe sent a wink, but never messaged

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I actually do something entirely different OP. I message people I've engaged with in the forum - having checked out their profiles and got a sense of who they are from their forum comments.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I actually do something entirely different OP. I message people I've engaged with in the forum - having checked out their profiles and got a sense of who they are from their forum comments."

That actually seems like a very sensible way to approach the situation. It works well, I'm guessing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you've never browsed to see what is available?

I've looked, and maybe sent a wink, but never messaged "

So you've been window shopping, as it were, but never enquired.

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I actually do something entirely different OP. I message people I've engaged with in the forum - having checked out their profiles and got a sense of who they are from their forum comments.

That actually seems like a very sensible way to approach the situation. It works well, I'm guessing?"

I have had some awesome outcomes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well, I'm definitely going to keep your method in mind going forward with my Fab adventures, it definitely seems like a winner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t search single male profiles at all as it’s not what we are looking for. We do search for couple and single ladies though and even message some.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Sometimes both, a lot of the times neither. These days I prefer going to a club.

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

I tend to look at who has looked at my profile (when I haven’t let my membership lapse

). If they look a lot, and I really like their profile, then I usually say hi. That’s when I want to make new connections…sometimes I just enjoy fab for the forum and the profiles without initiating anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, thus far, it's not an either or situation, no option is clearly the preferred one generally - but I'm getting the impression that you ladies do like being messaged, even you still want to look for yourselves.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"So, thus far, it's not an either or situation, no option is clearly the preferred one generally - but I'm getting the impression that you ladies do like being messaged, even you still want to look for yourselves. "

Mostly I'd rather people didn't message if there's no chance of a connection. But I'm glad the rare interesting ones do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mostly I'd rather people didn't message if there's no chance of a connection. But I'm glad the rare interesting ones do."

Yeah, I get the impression that a lot of men who message are just doing so blindly, throwing things against and seeing if anything sticks.

Probably not the best way to go about it.

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

Mostly I'd rather people didn't message if there's no chance of a connection. But I'm glad the rare interesting ones do.

Yeah, I get the impression that a lot of men who message are just doing so blindly, throwing things against and seeing if anything sticks.

Probably not the best way to go about it. "

Not just men do this ^^

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mostly I'd rather people didn't message if there's no chance of a connection. But I'm glad the rare interesting ones do.

Yeah, I get the impression that a lot of men who message are just doing so blindly, throwing things against and seeing if anything sticks.

Probably not the best way to go about it.

Not just men do this ^^ "

You get women doing it as well?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I do both OP. When I’m ready to

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't get many messages thanks to tight filters. When I meeting anyone new it's a mix between searching for profiles and making first contact or replying to messages if I like the profile. Both have worked for me in the past.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the response I've gotten to this post. I'm new here, and I wanting to find the best way to play before going any further.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I've tried searching OP, but finding profiles with a face pic is like trying to find a needle in a haystack.

So I hope folk will read my profile & include a face pic.

Also, pretty tight filters mean I'm not inundated with messages, so it's pretty easy to manage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither, I meet people in clubs

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I browse ... then may message if there's someone I want, but mainly I just perv in peace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I browse ... then may message if there's someone I want, but mainly I just perv in peace

PIP. Amen

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Respond, I've never been inundated with messages.

Find it hard to search when I can't see face pics, as that's where the attraction lies for me... I'm never going to msg anyone with a dick for their avatar."

I for one would welcome a feature of being able to filter by at least one admin verified face pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I browse ... then may message if there's someone I want, but mainly I just perv in peace

I now feel utterly unwanted

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I browse ... then may message if there's someone I want, but mainly I just perv in peace

Perving in peace really is a lot of fun

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"I browse ... then may message if there's someone I want, but mainly I just perv in peace

I now feel utterly unwanted

Don't forget the

perving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I browse ... then may message if there's someone I want, but mainly I just perv in peace

I now feel utterly unwanted

Don't forget the

perving

Pokeball??

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"I browse ... then may message if there's someone I want, but mainly I just perv in peace

I now feel utterly unwanted

Don't forget the

perving

Pokeball??

Used for catching a target, yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I browse ... then may message if there's someone I want, but mainly I just perv in peace

I now feel utterly unwanted

Don't forget the

perving

Pokeball??

Used for catching a target, yes

A cake carrying target

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respond and it's usually to say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I respond and it's usually to say no thanks

haha, well at least you have the decency to at least say that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to perv. I'm extremely nosey and i love to send a message out to people who's criteria i meet that I've been stalking for ages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value

Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value

Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there! "

As a blind person it's hard to tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value

Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!

As a blind person it's hard to tell

Ahhh man ! That must be REALLY hard for you

Commiserations..can i lend a hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value

Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!

As a blind person it's hard to tell

Ahhh man ! That must be REALLY hard for you

Commiserations..can i lend a hand

I have to get my cat to type for me, so any help is appreciated...when I find a profile he thinks I might like he goes "mee, ow" on a typically unperving kind of way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value

Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!

As a blind person it's hard to tell

Ahhh man ! That must be REALLY hard for you

Commiserations..can i lend a hand

I have to get my cat to type for me, so any help is appreciated...when I find a profile he thinks I might like he goes "mee, ow" on a typically unperving kind of way

Interesting! As i also have cat references in my profile.

Does he wear a smoking jacket and have a dish of roe on the side ,? Least you can do. Though obviously apologies if he's a she or a they!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value

Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!

As a blind person it's hard to tell

Ahhh man ! That must be REALLY hard for you

Commiserations..can i lend a hand

I have to get my cat to type for me, so any help is appreciated...when I find a profile he thinks I might like he goes "mee, ow" on a typically unperving kind of way

Interesting! As i also have cat references in my profile.

Does he wear a smoking jacket and have a dish of roe on the side ,? Least you can do. Though obviously apologies if he's a she or a they!!!"

"He" has a diamond encrusted bow tie collar and prefers salmon cutlets...a boy of particular taste...when awake!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value

Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!

As a blind person it's hard to tell

Ahhh man ! That must be REALLY hard for you

Commiserations..can i lend a hand

I have to get my cat to type for me, so any help is appreciated...when I find a profile he thinks I might like he goes "mee, ow" on a typically unperving kind of way

Interesting! As i also have cat references in my profile.

Does he wear a smoking jacket and have a dish of roe on the side ,? Least you can do. Though obviously apologies if he's a she or a they!!!

"He" has a diamond encrusted bow tie collar and prefers salmon cutlets...a boy of particular taste...when awake!

Then i bow the knee to his superior taste in cutlets and collar ( good couples name there

)

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I have searched ,but so many have no pics or just cock/action shots and that immediately puts me off

Then not that many fill in about themselves so there's nothing to go on.

I do have lots of filters on in the hope that it will encourage more of the people I want to vhat to.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’ve tried both.

But as I’m not actively looking to meet anyone at the moment, I will respond to the messages if there’s interest from my side, assuming there’s already interest from them as they sent a message first.

Hope it makes sense.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value

Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!

As a blind person it's hard to tell

Ahhh man ! That must be REALLY hard for you

Commiserations..can i lend a hand

I have to get my cat to type for me, so any help is appreciated...when I find a profile he thinks I might like he goes "mee, ow" on a typically unperving kind of way

Don’t you mean purrving?

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By *hegirlwiththepeachtattooWoman
over a year ago

Respond, never search. The most I’ll ever do is wink at a profile I stumble upon, other than that i never initiate contact on here. I never initiate anything in clubs either, i don’t have the confidence. If a guy is waiting for me to approach him he’ll be waiting a loooong time.

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