FabSwingers.com forum: Finally I have been beaten

By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

After another failure to turn up, I am finally done.

A waisted day traveling and sitting like Billy no mates in a wetherspoons, I have finally been beaten into submission

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"After another failure to turn up, I am finally done.

A waisted day traveling and sitting like Billy no mates in a wetherspoons, I have finally been beaten into submission "

I'd have thought an agent of shield would have had a back up plan for incase they fail to turn up

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Damn man, that really sucks and must be thoroughly disheartening.

Hope you can find the energy to give it a go again one day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude sorry to hear that. People are the fucking worst aren't they? Unbelievably rude behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it’s getting ridiculous now.

Sorry op. But, soldier on and remember - it’s not you if you turned up. If they are even the slightest bit unsure, they shouldn’t arrange anything. That should put it off until they now they won’t waste your time travelling/getting ready etc. That’s my thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After another failure to turn up, I am finally done.

A waisted day traveling and sitting like Billy no mates in a wetherspoons, I have finally been beaten into submission "

Says far more about them...no worth a second thought.

Don't let others motivate your actions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After another failure to turn up, I am finally done.

A waisted day traveling and sitting like Billy no mates in a wetherspoons, I have finally been beaten into submission "

Surely the “meet me in Weatherspoons” was a warning sign? Don’t let it beat you though. Hope you hadn’t travelled far.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm sorry AC, that's really crappy. Try and not give up too much hope, which is a lot easier said than done. I hope you're able to pick yourself up soon - their actions aren't a reflection on you, just people being shitty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so sorry this happened. People seriously suck, so not necessary for people to do this.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

With no valid excuse there should be serious repercussions for the no show'er.

That's a small fortune waisted along with time and that's just for starters

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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"I'm sorry AC, that's really crappy. Try and not give up too much hope, which is a lot easier said than done. I hope you're able to pick yourself up soon - their actions aren't a reflection on you, just people being shitty."
No Meli, I am done, I will hang around for the forums and the socials and that's it

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

That’s, awful. There really are some selfish arses out there. Keep your pecker up AC

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Just remember the lovely meets that you have had. There no excuse for their behaviour but don't give up!

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings

"I'm sorry AC, that's really crappy. Try and not give up too much hope, which is a lot easier said than done. I hope you're able to pick yourself up soon - their actions aren't a reflection on you, just people being shitty. No Meli, I am done, I will hang around for the forums and the socials and that's it"

And what is wrong with that. You probably have a better chance at a social anyway.

At least it was spoons so drinks where cheep. Just think you could have met some where posh payed for you both to have a meal then got blown out.

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

It's an initiation rite of passage to be stood up, ghosted etc. Welcome to the real fab, you'll receive a platinum membership card that guarantees future meets.

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By *Vbi47Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Chin up and keep going

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

the sad thing is its probably other men running fake women/couples profiles ...men making other mens life a misery simply because they get a kick out of kicking others down ..

op if you are getting alot of let downs then its worth revisiting your selection process when trying to find people i cant remember the last time i was let down on this my singles profile or our couples profile the process to meet me tends to put off the timewasters ..

its not great to be a man on this scene as you have to do so much more to succeed and to try and shine amongst the zillions of you im so glad im not a guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have said this before AC ? So maybe take time and reflect. If this has happened a lot then you do need to change something about who you choose to meet. The good ones are out there but maybe less is more ?

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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"I think you have said this before AC ? So maybe take time and reflect. If this has happened a lot then you do need to change something about who you choose to meet. The good ones are out there but maybe less is more ?"
been chatting to this one since September off site, so it's not like it was a spur of the moment thing

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By *sh1962Man
over a year ago

Stonehouse

Name & shame .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you have said this before AC ? So maybe take time and reflect. If this has happened a lot then you do need to change something about who you choose to meet. The good ones are out there but maybe less is more ? been chatting to this one since September off site, so it's not like it was a spur of the moment thing"

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I think you have said this before AC ? So maybe take time and reflect. If this has happened a lot then you do need to change something about who you choose to meet. The good ones are out there but maybe less is more ? been chatting to this one since September off site, so it's not like it was a spur of the moment thing"

Perhaps there's a clue in the content of the chat

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

Sorry to hear this AC.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After another failure to turn up, I am finally done.

A waisted day traveling and sitting like Billy no mates in a wetherspoons, I have finally been beaten into submission "

Noooo don’t give up fella , stay strong

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

It’s such a shame when people have to spoil the experience for other people. I understand people change their mind or things come up but there is no excuse for just not turning up. Hopefully you’ll feel better about things after a bit of time.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Do you know what A.C. ...This actually got to me....

Just remember that you are worth it in your own right ...... fuck them.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Sorry to hear this! Chin up x

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

That’s shit.

Again.

People can be such fuckers!

Don’t let the bastards grind you down

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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

That is me finally home, soaking wet as it pissed it down on the walk back from the station, the perfect end to a fucked up day

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"That is me finally home, soaking wet as it pissed it down on the walk back from the station, the perfect end to a fucked up day"

Sending you a big hug AC

That's crappy behaviour ,sorry you've had this again .x

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"That is me finally home, soaking wet as it pissed it down on the walk back from the station, the perfect end to a fucked up day"
awwww hey that must be so frustrating, ive had this happen many times in the past one woman didnt turn up first time she asked me to give her a chance and turned up 2.5 hours late the second time and i met her a few times after that, she was very nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That is me finally home, soaking wet as it pissed it down on the walk back from the station, the perfect end to a fucked up day"

Sorry to hear about your day OP.

I really don't think people think twice about how much effect goes into preparing for a meet, both physically and mentally.

Get your a nice hot bath and relax

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

Big hugs AC....

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

Sorry to hear this op, try not to let it get you down too much.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I think you have said this before AC ? So maybe take time and reflect. If this has happened a lot then you do need to change something about who you choose to meet. The good ones are out there but maybe less is more ? been chatting to this one since September off site, so it's not like it was a spur of the moment thing"

That is doubly disappointing. Not just for failing to turn up, but months of communication coming to naught

I'd be very disappointed too.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Sadly even being well loved, popular and/or verified on here is no guarantee the person wont end up showing their true nature when it finally comes to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not now that strength which in old days

Moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are;

One equal temper of heroic hearts,

Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will

To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.

Tennyson. ‘ Ulysses ‘

Chin up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can be amazing or beastly. Sometimes both. Hugs for a crappy day. Take time out to do you & maybe in the future revisit what works/doesn't for you here x

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By *annydodgerMan
over a year ago

Stowmarket

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By *annydodgerMan
over a year ago

Stowmarket

Please name and shame, so that we can all message this loser, with our thoughts

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"That is me finally home, soaking wet as it pissed it down on the walk back from the station, the perfect end to a fucked up day"

Sorry to hear this OP

that’s such a rubbish situation and just shows how rubbish this person was

sending cuddles!

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Never, ever, give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op sorry to hear this, just proves that there are alot of dick heads out there..but reading through this thread, tells me that yoyr loved and very much liked by many ppl, who shows you've touched their lives in some way, shape, or form...so don't make this mean anything about you, as tge truth is you kept your integrity and showed up like you said you would. She didn't so this speaks volumes about her and not you...

Peace love n hugs

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I had the same this evening my meet bottled it. They got super nervous and started doing lines and ledt me standing in the rain for half an an hir... So is it a missed opportunity, or bullet dodged?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I know it's a glib thing to say, but it really is their loss.

It's a horrid thing to happen AC but I hope that over time it stings less and you don't let it put you off meeting others.

In the meantime sending you a huge squidgy hug

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

As annoying as it may be, as blokes, we need to accept it. It’s a much bigger deal for women to mert guys than the other way round. A man not turning up for a woman is rude. A woman not turning up for a man is being cautious, and, some would say, sensible.

That she wanted to meet in the first place is a bigger feather in your cap than 99% of blokes have on here so you’re already in the top 1% of winners! Enjoy the stardom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As annoying as it may be, as blokes, we need to accept it. It’s a much bigger deal for women to mert guys than the other way round. A man not turning up for a woman is rude. A woman not turning up for a man is being cautious, and, some would say, sensible.

That she wanted to meet in the first place is a bigger feather in your cap than 99% of blokes have on here so you’re already in the top 1% of winners! Enjoy the stardom! "

Sensible cautious maybe, but what about integrity, respect and honesty, in saying sorry i have to cancel. That goes a long way ppl don't play the tape forward in the effects we can have on others, to just not turn up without communicating is selfish and a cowardly way out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That she wanted to meet in the first place is a bigger feather in your cap than 99% of blokes have on here so you’re already in the top 1% of winners! Enjoy the stardom! "

How ridiculous! It's an adult site. Women aren't precious damsels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That she wanted to meet in the first place is a bigger feather in your cap than 99% of blokes have on here so you’re already in the top 1% of winners! Enjoy the stardom!

OP has she apologised? Did she let you know what happened?

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By *osie xWoman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"That is me finally home, soaking wet as it pissed it down on the walk back from the station, the perfect end to a fucked up day"

Yes but today is a new one so forget about it, it’s over. Dust yourself off and see it as one less timewaster out of your life, leaving you a clearer path for the future.

Hope you are ok?

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