FabSwingers.com forum: Amazes me

By *ee04 OP Man
over a year ago

Essex

You pay a compliment or do what people ask and still the block you why? I can understand if you’re abusive or pushy but for no reason you get blocked what’s wrong with thanks but no thanks or another polite reply? It’s getting to the point where dabbing a pic will get you blocked. This site really is getting worse.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Uh oh. Not another one.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Some people send abuse when you say no thank you, so many people don't reply.

Try not to take it personally.

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By *pstanding CitizenMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Plenty more fish in the sea... Forget about it and move on, mate! It's the best thing to do

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Not really! It's always been like that, and I understand why if someone isn't interested. There was a time when I would reply to all messages,but it didn't last long. Got fed up of either abusive or whining replies, trying to make me change my mind.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Not really! It's always been like that, and I understand why if someone isn't interested. There was a time when I would reply to all messages,but it didn't last long. Got fed up of either abusive or whining replies, trying to make me change my mind.

XX"

Indeed

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

Mate.

Many people use the block function as an organizational tool as well. If you're not what they're looking for, the quickest/easiest thing to do is block for future reference.

If you're upset over strangers hitting a button, it's time for a break

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of being blocked as a positive in that the person isn't interested and so you don't waste your time again in the future if you come across their profile.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

They're not interested in you... What's the problem?

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

If you reply, then future message filters don't apply, also the vast majority of men take it as a route to keep messaging. Appreciate that women (and some couples) get hundreds of messages per day.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

A compliment can sound better after you've started to chat, something just brought up in between. Otherwise it's Yes I already know thanks for reminding me

Nope I don't get them

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Mate.

Many people use the block function as an organizational tool as well. If you're not what they're looking for, the quickest/easiest thing to do is block for future reference.

If you're upset over strangers hitting a button, it's time for a break

That's one of the ways I use the block button,and it works well for me.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi op

Blocking helps users filter out that don't meet their requirements it's a great way to use the site leaving possibly

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By *ittall2020Man
over a year ago

Norwich

Statistically, there's a fair chance it was a fake profile anyway. Try pof instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just had to block someone, I didn't like the tone of his messages, so kept deleting them, he kept messaging, the messages were rude, he obviously didn't understand that because I was deleting I wasn't interested, so blocked him

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We get the compliments messages which you know are leading up to when can we meet messages…I’d rather they do it all in the one message instead of having to say thanks for the compliments and then get the ‘so fancy a meet?’

Ahhh so the compliment wasn’t really meant then!

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

"We get the compliments messages which you know are leading up to when can we meet messages…I’d rather they do it all in the one message instead of having to say thanks for the compliments and then get the ‘so fancy a meet?’

Ahhh so the compliment wasn’t really meant then!

I'd compliment you both on your photography with no expectations of meeting

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"You pay a compliment or do what people ask and still the block you why? I can understand if you’re abusive or pushy but for no reason you get blocked what’s wrong with thanks but no thanks or another polite reply? It’s getting to the point where dabbing a pic will get you blocked. This site really is getting worse. "
they block because they dont fancy you, so you dont send another message asking why or just for the future, its rotten i know just cuts down on time wasted

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By *ee04 OP Man
over a year ago

Essex

Ahhh so the compliment wasn’t really meant then!

Was not looking to meet as they were not local just wanted to compliment them on their pics nothing more.

As for the other it was a conversation and then block for no reason.

Never been abisive or pestering as I’ve had the same which pisses me off, I can understand blocking then.

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By *hGlobbitsMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Never mind, eh?

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

To be fair, OP, we would have seen your lack of profile pic and not even read the message before deleting.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

The room for crying men is at the top of the stairs on your left. There might be a queue though, as it’s filled up quite recently.

The mr

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I don't know what the message / compliment you sent was, that got you blocked, but very often when the sender thinks is a compliment, and how it is received can be very different.

Eg. 'luv yr tits and yr fat ass, luv to cum in yr mouth' accompanied by a knob shot.

Please excuse the probably incorrect abbreviations. I don't speak text.

That isn't a compliment.

Then again neither is 'hiya, love your profile. You look hot. Wanna meet?'

Sent to someone who clearly states not meeting.

Or they were just not interested.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

People (ourselves included, more recently) use blocking as a filter to make the website more useful.

And folks tell me I've got thin skin! - Xeno

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Ahhh so the compliment wasn’t really meant then!

Was not looking to meet as they were not local just wanted to compliment them on their pics nothing more.

As for the other it was a conversation and then block for no reason.

Never been abisive or pestering as I’ve had the same which pisses me off, I can understand blocking then. "

Yes but a lot of time a compliment isn’t just a compliment - they think it’s a way in.

I used to reply with enthusiasm if someone sent us a message complimenting us, however after them coming back then suggesting we meet a lot of the times, we send a ‘thanks

’ now so we don’t encourage the next ‘when can we meet’ message.

Call it cynical but I’d say a good 90% see it as a way in instead of just a compliment.

OP if you have a blank profile pic, bland profile, you’ll find people block you so they don’t hear from you again as you aren’t compatible…it’s saving time for everyone so be grateful instead of bitter.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

As frustrating as that must b it's all part and parcel! Best to keep chin up and move on x

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Because some people are cunty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because you are not for them.

Its not for the faint of heart, is it, Fab.

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

Maybe you are not what they are looking for or might be various reasons.

No point moaning and complaining, just move on and forget about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhh so the compliment wasn’t really meant then!

Was not looking to meet as they were not local just wanted to compliment them on their pics nothing more.

As for the other it was a conversation and then block for no reason.

Never been abisive or pestering as I’ve had the same which pisses me off, I can understand blocking then.

Yes but a lot of time a compliment isn’t just a compliment - they think it’s a way in.

I used to reply with enthusiasm if someone sent us a message complimenting us, however after them coming back then suggesting we meet a lot of the times, we send a ‘thanks

’ now so we don’t encourage the next ‘when can we meet’ message.

Call it cynical but I’d say a good 90% see it as a way in instead of just a compliment.

Absolutely right. Usually the conversation starts of great. A compliment follows and you thank them so the next message is as if we've just given them the golden key to open Mrs gates of heaven.

Move on, don't be silly. Learn how to handle rejection. If you feel bad about being rejected through a message. Try being rejected in person.

Don't sulk about it. Nobody really cares. Nobody owes you anything.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

With compliments it's hard I find,you say thanks and then they start asking to meet.They're usually said to get chatting to that person.

I use the block button now if I've said no thanks ,saves any come back or if someone is a pest with messages .

I can't say why you're getting blocked op ,but it's a tool that's useful .

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Because it also saves your time, from messaging again 2 days, weeks, months, years later when you're not what they're looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to reply to every message including ones we wouldn't meet etc

Always resulted in what they thought was a green light to carry on messaging.

We've stopped replying to all messages now and use the block button when something clearly isn't for us.

We have messages ignored etc, we dint take it personal, nobody owes us anything and we probably are not what they're looking for

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

It’s rarely anything personal.

If it gets to you to the point of being so upset, maybe it isn’t a right site for you.

Sorry if it sounds harsh but you asked, you got answers.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"We used to reply to every message including ones we wouldn't meet etc

Always resulted in what they thought was a green light to carry on messaging.

We've stopped replying to all messages now and use the block button when something clearly isn't for us.

We have messages ignored etc, we dint take it personal, nobody owes us anything and we probably are not what they're looking for

Exactly, we get loads of messages ignored but it's not an invitation to harass them x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I said thanks but no thanks couple days ago and got called a boring cunt! So can see why some just block x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

We block for all manner of reasons.

An incoming message asking to meet now, as it's clear in our profile text what will happen when that question is asked.

Crude, cringy messages aimed specifically at one of us.

Or simply a mind numbingly dull message from a profile we're 110% never going to be interested in.

We also proactively block profiles we'll never be interested in when we're browsing to stop them showing up in future searches, if we've seen something offensive in a status update or forum post, or if someone comes across as whiny, having any sign of entitlement/expectations or something as simple as a photo that has us reaching for the eye bleach.

It's a filter, albeit a permanent one. Not an insult, not a reason to take offence nor anything but a very useful site tool.

A total stranger preventing you from contacting them or seeing their profile isn't cause for upset. It's their right to block anyone they want for whatever reason they choose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reality is, it’s quite rare for two parties to match up for a meet. Every person who looks at your profile or message, but doesn’t contact you is in a way rejecting you. It’s a long slow process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s always a reason you just don’t know it

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"Some people send abuse when you say no thank you, so many people don't reply.

Try not to take it personally."

This...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people send abuse when you say no thank you, so many people don't reply.

Try not to take it personally."

Some people block when you haven't even messaged them

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

"Some people send abuse when you say no thank you, so many people don't reply.

Try not to take it personally.

Some people block when you haven't even messaged them

Yeah exactly. Had someone has presumably viewed my profile, sent me an abusive message, then blocked me. Why? It’s not even someone that I’ve viewed in the first place.

It’s so easy to sit behind a keyboard and send abuse without any reprisal. It’s not going to affect me but suppose they do it to someone who is feeling down anyway.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Some people send abuse when you say no thank you, so many people don't reply.

Try not to take it personally.

Some people block when you haven't even messaged them

Lots of people block as a filter

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