FabSwingers.com forum: Mistakes people make when first joining fab

By *uitednbooted2 OP Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Being on here is a learning process. What are the mistakes you made when you first joined?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not deleting immediately.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Joining Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending dick pics and a smiley emoji to all the Admins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasting time and effort in conversations that are stale as a week old bagel.

Mrs has become ruthless on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wasting time and effort in conversations that are stale as a week old bagel.

Mrs has become ruthless on here.

The exact same story for us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sending dick pics and a smiley emoji to all the Admins.

please tell me this actually happened because LOL

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Overindulging and having eyes bigger than my vagina. Lesson learned the hard way.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

Staying up until stupid o’clock in the morning chatting to people who clearly had no intention of ever meeting up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not deleting immediately."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jumping in two feet first

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By *estivalMan
over a year ago

borehamwood

"Overindulging and having eyes bigger than my vagina. Lesson learned the hard way. "
funniest thing ive read on fab in a while

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Don't expect to hear from me for another 24 hours

Are you nipping out?

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"Overindulging and having eyes bigger than my vagina. Lesson learned the hard way. "

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Not understanding how simple life becomes and how much more enjoyable and pleasant it is when you embrace the block button.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Writing an overlong profile expecting people to read it. Maybe 1 in 10 messages I receive have looked at what I have written.

However my advice to any new member ‘is’ to write and create a decent profile. A woman can put up a few pictures and easily get messages from day one. But a guy will have to really put in some effort to be seen.

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By *arberellasswimsuitCouple
over a year ago

hengoed

Chatting with unverified profiles

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not putting my filters on straight away

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"Not putting my filters on straight away"

Good one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Uploading a facepic not set to private. Had an awkward experience many many years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe couples should just sick to going to clubs. So judgemental and dismissive. Yes there’s time wasters you get them on all sites.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Believing that everybody does actually look like their pictures.

Trusting they are the age they stated

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

By thinking it would be easier as a couple compared to having single profiles.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"By thinking it would be easier as a couple compared to having single profiles. "

To be fair, that's on them not you, the pair of you are gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just presumed it was a casual sex site to meet people. I’ve come to see it’s a lot more aimed at connecting with people from the club scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be knee deep by Clunge by 6

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

My biggest mistake was accepting the age and picture of a woman I met was accurate. Not even close, probably 10 year old picture and massaged her age by 5 years.

I'm not against the age, I just couldn't accept the lie. Meets now in clubs only.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Giving people benefit of the doubt of what they claim to be.

Also that I should not be afraid to use block button in a truly liberal way.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Trust no one, and don’t invest your time in anyone. Hence me only doing club visits now

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

Thinking it would be a lot easier to meet....Started talking to people at socials who I had been speaking to on line and better success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messaging all the local hotties with a simple 'hey you look great, check me out if you'd ever consider accepting my bone!'

I say that I got a few replies

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

"Not putting my filters on straight away"
defo

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Don't insert vegetables and household objects into vaginas

The one word reply game can become a little tedious.

If a profile has a list of demands do not reply.

If there's no male pics theres generally a reason.

Small cocks are quite cute.

That's about it for my learning of fab.

Mrs

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By *aximum_funMan
over a year ago

West Herts

"Messaging all the local hotties with a simple 'hey you look great, check me out if you'd ever consider accepting my bone!'

I say that I got a few replies

Yep, got on lots of local block lists that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messaging people and pretty much expecting an instant fuck!

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"Not deleting immediately."

I did...in a first hour or so...

was soooo overwhelmed with all them cock pics,attention...I was wooow!!!im outta here

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Overindulging and having eyes bigger than my vagina. Lesson learned the hard way. "

^ This - me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started on here as part of a couple nearly 10yrs ago - we went a bit crazy, met too many couples, single guys, attended too many parties. Got swept up in 'fab politics...' dragged into others *issues*. Am much more discerning nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Replying & saying no thanks. Believing what people say over what they actually do, lol.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I’m still making mistakes, misjudging people, misjudging my approach and being drawn in by something that is too good to be true.

Not a mistake per se, but being genuinely bothered about what people think of me. Not in a narcissistic way, I’m a nice, easy going guy but I’ve annoyed some good people and I hate that. Wish I could repair that.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I’m still making the same mistake : not realising that when women show an interest they’re genuinely interested, and I should make the most of it.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I once gave out an autograph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once gave out an autograph

I am going to make it my mission to get you to autograph my bum and then set it as a profile pic

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Not setting my filters quick enough when I first joined.

Giving unverified or new people a chance.

Being too nice. Offering to meet for a social to give them a verification and then they either don't turn up or expect sex and pester you.

Trying to reply to everyone.

Not blocking people quickly enough.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Maybe couples should just sick to going to clubs. So judgemental and dismissive. Yes there’s time wasters you get them on all sites. "

Everyone is judgemental.

If you're not you're deluding yourself. If you don't make conscious decisions based on what you see and read (judgements) then effectively you're adopting an 'any holes a goal' approach.

Maybe more singles should go to clubs? They'd soon learn to engage with others in a positive way (you cant get away with crude comments/messages F2F), portray themselves in an attractive manner (nobody does well walking around shoving their cock on people's faces at clubs yet plenty do via profiles) and perhaps then they'd realise that how others perceive them is key to getting good attention and more likely to result in the physical encounters they seek.

I've wasted more time over the years engaging with people who have no clue how to converse online with others than I ever have with a fake profile, fantasist or what most would define as a 'timewaster'.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Assuming that profiles were accurate.

That NSA also meant no drama.

That it wasn't one rule for some and different rules for others.

That adults would actually act like adults.

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

"Not setting my filters quick enough when I first joined.

Giving unverified or new people a chance.

Being too nice. Offering to meet for a social to give them a verification and then they either don't turn up or expect sex and pester you.

Trying to reply to everyone.

Not blocking people quickly enough.

The biggest thing for me was learning that being kind to give people verifications meant I was gonna get stood up a lot. Live and learn.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Maybe couples should just sick to going to clubs. So judgemental and dismissive. Yes there’s time wasters you get them on all sites. "

But you're being judgemental yourself with this statement. Couples have as much right to be on here as you or anyone else.

It's a good job hypocrisy isn't the thread topic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Assuming that profiles were accurate.

That NSA also meant no drama.

That it wasn't one rule for some and different rules for others.

That adults would actually act like adults.

laughing because I actually thought the same at first!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Being on here is a learning process. What are the mistakes you made when you first joined? "

Being too trusting.

Not having socials first before meeting.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Getting caught out by time wasters , now use socials club or parties for actual meets , just use fab for initial contact ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking too much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t know as I went straight to the clubs

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I just presumed it was a casual sex site to meet people. I’ve come to see it’s a lot more aimed at connecting with people from the club scene. "

Indulging conversations with people who thought it was just a hookup site and had no interest in swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking I should try my best to answer every single message no matter how dreadful they were.

I was totally overwhelmed and out of my depth.

This time around I’ve toughened up considerably.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

I’m glad I’m neither new nor unverified because it looks like I’d get nowhere now judging by some comments.

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By *old HoopsWoman
over a year ago

Near Chester

Thinking it was only a place for stay connected with people I met at clubs.

Having a profile picture up with no filters.

Believing the age in people's profiles.

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

Not looking at the dates on pictures, went to meet a couple that were 8 years old than their newest pics

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"I once gave out an autograph

I am going to make it my mission to get you to autograph my bum and then set it as a profile pic

Good luck

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Having shit profile text, that was my first mistake.

The second, shit pictures.

The third; reading the virus forum.

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Joined when at work !! Bad idea

Did a picture in the loos at work !! bad idea

Not checking bowl before doing picture !! Some dirty person had left a present!!!

Not checking photo before posting lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t really use this when I first joined. If anything I should have used it more and connected with people online to keep in touch, that I had met in clubs.

Biggest regret for myself would be Investing my time into people that, I was under the impression they wanted to meet.

Also falling into the friend zone category.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ticking all the interest boxes

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Meeting couples before taking to both of them first, met some very weird couples with pushy controlling men.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Being too polite and having too many pointless conversations were a mistake from the start

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Only mistake, not taking the time to explore the site properly and finding the forums...

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

"Being too polite and having too many pointless conversations were a mistake from the start"

We’re still guilty of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Answering every message

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Sending dick pics and a smiley emoji to all the Admins.

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lol

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

NG 21

Believing women are bi, getting to a meet only to discover that's the man's fantasy, not hers.

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By *reamers13Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Wasting time and effort in conversations that are stale as a week old bagel.

Mrs has become ruthless on here.

The exact same story for us!

Us too !!!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Not having a social meet for my first meet .

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By *ewiscypherMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Writing my first profile too late at night after entirely too much to drink....

.....and not actually reading it sober in the cold light of day, quite a bit later.

Oh dear!!! Lol

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By *ayleePhoenixTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Being delusional in thinking that men would actually read all of my profile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That everyone is honest and are who they say they are/turn up/respectful.

Or that we would meet fun friends straight away

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By *akingMemoriesMan
over a year ago

Toronto

Falling for unverified catfish. I’ve been suckered twice now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Falling for unverified catfish. I’ve been suckered twice now. "

By the same one?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Not using filters properly at the very start.

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By *akingMemoriesMan
over a year ago

Toronto

They were two different profiles but since their pics were fake, who knows!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ending up meeting people I know in real life on fab

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"That everyone is honest and are who they say they are/turn up/respectful.

Or that we would meet fun friends straight away

Probably this. And that all users were open minded and friendly as that's what the advert says! I guess managing expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Believing women are bi, getting to a meet only to discover that's the man's fantasy, not hers.

The reason I stopped meeting couples and don’t meet those that are only bi-curious.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

[Removed by poster at 09/01/23 15:25:18]

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I would say that it would be thinking to find my sex match, within days of joining

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

trusting people who were lying, and giving out my phone number or email etc too freely

won't do that now.

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By *netobeextraMan
over a year ago

location varies

Believing MF couples were a man and a woman

Turned up to a meet once with just the husband there and the wife was “stuck in traffic”

Long story short, it ended up with nothing happening, I left after he admitted there wasn’t a woman

My advice to any newbies is try and speak to both on the phone or a video chat. If that’s not possible at least have a 3 way chat on kik or WhatsApp. A 3 way chat isn’t fool proof but there’s a big difference between how a man and a woman write messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Giving my respect (that l would give to people in the real world every day)... giving people here the benefit of my respect.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Not using forums until I had been on here a while

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Biggest regret for myself would be Investing my time into people that, I was under the impression they wanted to meet.

Also falling into the friend zone category.

This for me too, so many I spoke to that had no intention of ever meeting me yet saying different.

And friend zoned far too many times no matter how much I tried not to

Not finding the filters until I found myself overwhelmed by my inbox.

No worries when you're in a couple you just don't get spoken to

Tinder x

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Uploading pics of me in sussies in lingerie to be appealing.

I don't enjoy wearing them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought it was a place to sell my car (which I did) but didn’t know I’ll get a blowjob out of it.

Thank you Kathrine ! Hope the car is working fine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking it was easy to meet with little effort

Typical single guy thinking, I'll admit but glad I stuck it out because although they've been hard to come by, the experiences have definitely been worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being thick skinned to seeing a new veri on someone you like

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"Not being thick skinned to seeing a new veri on someone you like "

That was a tough one in the beginning for me as well, skin like a rhino now

Tinder x

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Forget their password i mean omg

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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago

Bicester

Failing to attend Sydney University….

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Putting a face pic as a profile pic

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By *olly SwallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

Sexville

Thinking straight means straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thinking straight means straight

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

"Putting a face pic as a profile pic "

Oops!

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

"Thinking straight means straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being polite in trying to reply to all messages.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Not realising that it was a bit like 'six degrees of separation' on here....meaning that many people have met/had sex with friends of friends etc...its all a bit too 'connected'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went to our first large social in a pub not knowing anybody.

Took 20 minutes of chatting before we realised we were with the wrong group and it was a wedding party!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Went to our first large social in a pub not knowing anybody.

Took 20 minutes of chatting before we realised we were with the wrong group and it was a wedding party!"
lol

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Went to our first large social in a pub not knowing anybody.

Took 20 minutes of chatting before we realised we were with the wrong group and it was a wedding party!"
anybody on fab?

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

Having high expectations

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

People make picking the wrong status m/f/couple then end up writing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming a hot woman wanted to have sex with me, but it turned out she just wanted my money after I travelled there

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

Nodding away at many of the comments.

For us, not being able to spot fakes, chatting to them and wasting time.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Thinking people would maybe reply to a message now and again. I realised after three months that people don't even read them before deleting them, so I don't even bother wasting my time anymore.

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By *miableRogueMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I must’ve friend-requested about 20 women in the first two days of being on here… not knowing the etiquette… I was promptly blocked… oh well, we live and learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suggesting a game of leap frog before the action commences...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Giving the wrong people my attention and expecting the same in return.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

"Having high expectations

Having low expectations

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By *elleshellsCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester

"Overindulging and having eyes bigger than my vagina. Lesson learned the hard way. "

I love this! Describes me to a T

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I'm too busy making them.

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By *idsguySY1Man
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Wasting time talking to people who are too ‘scared’ of sending face photos and have no intention of meeting

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By *oundandround69Man
over a year ago

Reading

Made mistake of arranging a meet with a woman who wasn’t verified. She never turned up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being on here is a learning process. What are the mistakes you made when you first joined? "

Over exposure. You see people posting statues,pictures & cramming in as many meets as possible to achieve record number of verifications then puff they’ve burnt themselves out , thus not seen for a long time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thinking people would maybe reply to a message now and again. I realised after three months that people don't even read them before deleting them, so I don't even bother wasting my time anymore. "

People often look at profiles before reading messages. Perhaps they know you're not compatible so no point replying.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Thinking it was alot easier to find someone fun and nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not realising that it was a bit like 'six degrees of separation' on here....meaning that many people have met/had sex with friends of friends etc...its all a bit too 'connected'"

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I must’ve friend-requested about 20 women in the first two days of being on here… not knowing the etiquette… I was promptly blocked… oh well, we live and learn"

I get inundated with friends request from people who haven't even messaged me

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Messaging all the local hotties with a simple 'hey you look great, check me out if you'd ever consider accepting my bone!'

I say that I got a few replies

But any actual real meets?

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Thinking it was alot easier to find someone fun and nice "

I think this might be fairly easy. It's just that relatively few of them are also under 40, highly intelligent, with huge cocks.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Joined when at work !! Bad idea

Did a picture in the loos at work !! bad idea

Not checking bowl before doing picture !! Some dirty person had left a present!!!

Not checking photo before posting lol

Yuck

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Also not sure why people take a dig at for my sexual preferences? Not cool..

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Also not sure why people take a dig at for my sexual preferences? Not cool..

I'm genuinely sorry if I gave the impression that's what I was doing. Tone is so difficult with text. You are entitled to any preferences you want, of course, and I wish you nothing but luck!

I just meant that from your threads elsewhere, you are (perfectly rightly) looking for a lot more than just fun and nice, and that is therefore going to be harder to find.

If I wrote a thread saying 'Why are there no nice women any more?', and my profile said 'under 30 only, DD or bigger, 26" waist max" - or something like that - you might feel justified in gently pointing out that difference.

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