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"When do you know it’s time to give up on someone like an ex who has been stringing you along " after 5 minutes  | |||
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"When do you know it’s time to give up on someone like an ex who has been stringing you along " You know when you have been feeling just like that it's time to say goodbye | |||
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"When do you know it’s time to give up on someone like an ex who has been stringing you along " I would think the minute they became your ex | |||
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"When you post something like this I reckon. X " I would have said the same. I'm currently being strung along myself... its no fun! | |||
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"Life is extremely short to waste it on negativity which includes bad sex" X | |||
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"Delete block and move on!" Is that what you would do | |||
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"When do you know it’s time to give up on someone like an ex who has been stringing you along You know when you have been feeling just like that it's time to say goodbye " I know but it’s hard | |||
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"How does an ex string you along, especially wanhen THEY’RE an ex?" When still something but not as a whole package | |||
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"How does an ex string you along, especially wanhen THEY’RE an ex? When still something but not as a whole package " Exactly the bread crumbs of there being something | |||
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"When do you know it’s time to give up on someone like an ex who has been stringing you along You know when you have been feeling just like that it's time to say goodbye I know but it’s hard " Do you think its going to get easier knowing that you're still being strung along? That allowing it to drag out even longer will somehow make it less painful when they finally get tired and cut you off themselves? Rip the bandaid off man. Move forward. | |||
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"When do you know it’s time to give up on someone like an ex who has been stringing you along You know when you have been feeling just like that it's time to say goodbye I know but it’s hard " Is it any easier now do you like feeling how you are now do you want to continue feeling like this or would you like to feel differently eventually everything takes time but at times it can be easier when you know that it was the right reasons | |||
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"When you post something like this I reckon. X I would have said the same. I'm currently being strung along myself... its no fun!" I've cut one off this weekend - it's a shame really just be open and honest | |||
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"How does an ex string you along, especially wanhen THEY’RE an ex? When still something but not as a whole package Exactly the bread crumbs of there being something " But there's not. You know that deep down, hence you posting to an anonymous site where you can feel heard. Reassured you're not doing a bad thing. Cut ties OP, they're an ex for a reason. Find new things that bring you joy. Focus energy on those things. If it was just a wobble, I could understand that. But you're not together. Have more love for yourself. | |||
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"When do you know it’s time to give up on someone like an ex who has been stringing you along You know when you have been feeling just like that it's time to say goodbye I know but it’s hard Do you think its going to get easier knowing that you're still being strung along? That allowing it to drag out even longer will somehow make it less painful when they finally get tired and cut you off themselves? Rip the bandaid off man. Move forward." Sound advice x | |||
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"How does an ex string you along, especially wanhen THEY’RE an ex? When still something but not as a whole package Exactly the bread crumbs of there being something But there's not. You know that deep down, hence you posting to an anonymous site where you can feel heard. Reassured you're not doing a bad thing. Cut ties OP, they're an ex for a reason. Find new things that bring you joy. Focus energy on those things. If it was just a wobble, I could understand that. But you're not together. Have more love for yourself." Thank you I am trying and being her I’m trying to make new friends | |||
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"How does an ex string you along, especially wanhen THEY’RE an ex? When still something but not as a whole package Exactly the bread crumbs of there being something " I get that, but depending on the individuals it could lead to manipulation. | |||
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"How does an ex string you along, especially wanhen THEY’RE an ex? When still something but not as a whole package Exactly the bread crumbs of there being something I get that, but depending on the individuals it could lead to manipulation. " It very much did lead to manipulation | |||
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"Doesn't matter what anyone says, you'll let go when you realise enough is enough, and only you'll know when that is. As others have said, you should let go as soon as you realise she's stringing you along. But we all know that's easier said than done." A lot easier sai than done it would be easier if I had people around me | |||
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"How does an ex string you along, especially wanhen THEY’RE an ex? When still something but not as a whole package Exactly the bread crumbs of there being something I get that, but depending on the individuals it could lead to manipulation. It very much did lead to manipulation " Then that gives you more of a reason my ex was similar I assumed she would stop but I had enough | |||
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"How does an ex string you along, especially wanhen THEY’RE an ex? When still something but not as a whole package Exactly the bread crumbs of there being something I get that, but depending on the individuals it could lead to manipulation. It very much did lead to manipulation " Sorry to hear that. | |||
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"How does an ex string you along, especially wanhen THEY’RE an ex? When still something but not as a whole package Exactly the bread crumbs of there being something I get that, but depending on the individuals it could lead to manipulation. It very much did lead to manipulation Then that gives you more of a reason my ex was similar I assumed she would stop but I had enough " It’s a cognitive disconnect that makes you believe they will change | |||
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"How does an ex string you along, especially wanhen THEY’RE an ex? When still something but not as a whole package Exactly the bread crumbs of there being something I get that, but depending on the individuals it could lead to manipulation. It very much did lead to manipulation Then that gives you more of a reason my ex was similar I assumed she would stop but I had enough It’s a cognitive disconnect that makes you believe they will change " It's believing and hoping because they know what they are doing and it's like the other person just accepts it so unless their is no action it'll carry on and it's at that time later on it sinks in for them remember some are just like that but some do change eventually | |||
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"Doesn't matter what anyone says, you'll let go when you realise enough is enough, and only you'll know when that is. As others have said, you should let go as soon as you realise she's stringing you along. But we all know that's easier said than done. A lot easier sai than done it would be easier if I had people around me " Maybe that's why people stick around it stand mire than is good for them.... because there just is no one else around. Hope you are ok OP x | |||
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"Doesn't matter what anyone says, you'll let go when you realise enough is enough, and only you'll know when that is. As others have said, you should let go as soon as you realise she's stringing you along. But we all know that's easier said than done. A lot easier sai than done it would be easier if I had people around me Maybe that's why people stick around it stand mire than is good for them.... because there just is no one else around. Hope you are ok OP x" That’s exactly it | |||
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"I'd say you know it's time now op ,do it and your life will improve some are just toxic to us." Definitely this, in the future you'll think why didn't I do it sooner life is precious dont waste it | |||
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"When do you know it’s time to give up on someone like an ex who has been stringing you along " when your ready too... and not before Even sometimes when you know that you should have done it along time ago. X | |||
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"wow thank you for the words, im actually really taken back and a bit emotinal as i didnt expect people to care" That's really nice x | |||
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"wow thank you for the words, im actually really taken back and a bit emotinal as i didnt expect people to care" It’s those that don’t expect, that deserve. | |||
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"its like i feel guilty for being here chatting to people like im cheating on someone who doesnt even give a shot about me " I know that feeling. All too well. I’ve been cheated on, lied to, manipulated, threatened and basically treated like excrement all to be told that I’m the bad guy… I certainly don’t remember it that way… It’s not always easy but remember…. it is acceptable for you to put yourself first from time to time and make your own happiness. No one else is going to do it for you. Talking, even here can lead to new friendships and support networks and we all need to talk. No matter who we are. | |||
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"its like i feel guilty for being here chatting to people like im cheating on someone who doesnt even give a shot about me I know that feeling. All too well. I’ve been cheated on, lied to, manipulated, threatened and basically treated like excrement all to be told that I’m the bad guy… I certainly don’t remember it that way… It’s not always easy but remember…. it is acceptable for you to put yourself first from time to time and make your own happiness. No one else is going to do it for you. Talking, even here can lead to new friendships and support networks and we all need to talk. No matter who we are. " Your experience sounds similar to mine I’m hoping to find myself again and hopefully new friends here not looking to hook up etc just enjoy talking to likeminded people I guess I feel a bit of shame about it for some reason | |||
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"No shame at all. It’s a free country and we’re all like minded here. Plus (don’t tell anyone but…..) there’s pictures of boobies and hoohas as well!!! Winner winner chicken dinner!!!! " Really I hadn’t noticed the pictures lol 
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"Doesn't matter what anyone says, you'll let go when you realise enough is enough, and only you'll know when that is. As others have said, you should let go as soon as you realise she's stringing you along. But we all know that's easier said than done. A lot easier sai than done it would be easier if I had people around me Maybe that's why people stick around it stand mire than is good for them.... because there just is no one else around. Hope you are ok OP x That’s exactly it" I don't have people around me. I have to go and seek people out. Support groups, Swingers clubs, Therapy groups, Football group, the pub nextdoor, work. I still am connected to my former husband after the marriage broke down 9 years ago but it's more of a sentimental connection. He has little to no impact on my life. My therapist last year though that the ex still had a hold over my life. I'd say it's more the fall out from the marriage ending that I'm still recovering from. I haven't even had enough financial stability since then to pay for the divorce. I know what change looks like and it's hard graft. It looks like a 12 Step programme. Taking an inventory of all the fucked up shit you've done and making amends and putting controls in so that you never do that fucked up shit again. It looks like the intensive therapy that I did every week twice a week for 18 months. It's actively taking steps not to fall back into old dysfunctional habits. Most people have no incentive to change. Their life is comfortable so why should they change it and That's ok unless you want to grow and change and they can't walk with you on your journey. Let her go, Man. She is not ready. She is not all in. she's half way and ambivalent. Who wants to live a life halfway without some kind of certainty on the fundamentals? It's a mind fuck. And you could probably be using your brain energy for other things that are more rewarding, more satisfying,more productive, and create personal growth. | |||
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"Doesn't matter what anyone says, you'll let go when you realise enough is enough, and only you'll know when that is. As others have said, you should let go as soon as you realise she's stringing you along. But we all know that's easier said than done. A lot easier sai than done it would be easier if I had people around me Maybe that's why people stick around it stand mire than is good for them.... because there just is no one else around. Hope you are ok OP x That’s exactly it I don't have people around me. I have to go and seek people out. Support groups, Swingers clubs, Therapy groups, Football group, the pub nextdoor, work. I still am connected to my former husband after the marriage broke down 9 years ago but it's more of a sentimental connection. He has little to no impact on my life. My therapist last year though that the ex still had a hold over my life. I'd say it's more the fall out from the marriage ending that I'm still recovering from. I haven't even had enough financial stability since then to pay for the divorce. I know what change looks like and it's hard graft. It looks like a 12 Step programme. Taking an inventory of all the fucked up shit you've done and making amends and putting controls in so that you never do that fucked up shit again. It looks like the intensive therapy that I did every week twice a week for 18 months. It's actively taking steps not to fall back into old dysfunctional habits. Most people have no incentive to change. Their life is comfortable so why should they change it and That's ok unless you want to grow and change and they can't walk with you on your journey. Let her go, Man. She is not ready. She is not all in. she's half way and ambivalent. Who wants to live a life halfway without some kind of certainty on the fundamentals? It's a mind fuck. And you could probably be using your brain energy for other things that are more rewarding, more satisfying,more productive, and create personal growth." Sometimes on here I wish there was a "like" button for posts. | |||
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"Doesn't matter what anyone says, you'll let go when you realise enough is enough, and only you'll know when that is. As others have said, you should let go as soon as you realise she's stringing you along. But we all know that's easier said than done. A lot easier sai than done it would be easier if I had people around me Maybe that's why people stick around it stand mire than is good for them.... because there just is no one else around. Hope you are ok OP x That’s exactly it I don't have people around me. I have to go and seek people out. Support groups, Swingers clubs, Therapy groups, Football group, the pub nextdoor, work. I still am connected to my former husband after the marriage broke down 9 years ago but it's more of a sentimental connection. He has little to no impact on my life. My therapist last year though that the ex still had a hold over my life. I'd say it's more the fall out from the marriage ending that I'm still recovering from. I haven't even had enough financial stability since then to pay for the divorce. I know what change looks like and it's hard graft. It looks like a 12 Step programme. Taking an inventory of all the fucked up shit you've done and making amends and putting controls in so that you never do that fucked up shit again. It looks like the intensive therapy that I did every week twice a week for 18 months. It's actively taking steps not to fall back into old dysfunctional habits. Most people have no incentive to change. Their life is comfortable so why should they change it and That's ok unless you want to grow and change and they can't walk with you on your journey. Let her go, Man. She is not ready. She is not all in. she's half way and ambivalent. Who wants to live a life halfway without some kind of certainty on the fundamentals? It's a mind fuck. And you could probably be using your brain energy for other things that are more rewarding, more satisfying,more productive, and create personal growth. Sometimes on here I wish there was a "like" button for posts. I agree ?? " | |||
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"Doesn't matter what anyone says, you'll let go when you realise enough is enough, and only you'll know when that is. As others have said, you should let go as soon as you realise she's stringing you along. But we all know that's easier said than done. A lot easier sai than done it would be easier if I had people around me Maybe that's why people stick around it stand mire than is good for them.... because there just is no one else around. Hope you are ok OP x That’s exactly it I don't have people around me. I have to go and seek people out. Support groups, Swingers clubs, Therapy groups, Football group, the pub nextdoor, work. I still am connected to my former husband after the marriage broke down 9 years ago but it's more of a sentimental connection. He has little to no impact on my life. My therapist last year though that the ex still had a hold over my life. I'd say it's more the fall out from the marriage ending that I'm still recovering from. I haven't even had enough financial stability since then to pay for the divorce. I know what change looks like and it's hard graft. It looks like a 12 Step programme. Taking an inventory of all the fucked up shit you've done and making amends and putting controls in so that you never do that fucked up shit again. It looks like the intensive therapy that I did every week twice a week for 18 months. It's actively taking steps not to fall back into old dysfunctional habits. Most people have no incentive to change. Their life is comfortable so why should they change it and That's ok unless you want to grow and change and they can't walk with you on your journey. Let her go, Man. She is not ready. She is not all in. she's half way and ambivalent. Who wants to live a life halfway without some kind of certainty on the fundamentals? It's a mind fuck. And you could probably be using your brain energy for other things that are more rewarding, more satisfying,more productive, and create personal growth. Sometimes on here I wish there was a "like" button for posts. I agree ?? " Yeah. What she said… | |||
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"its like i feel guilty for being here chatting to people like im cheating on someone who doesnt even give a shot about me I know that feeling. All too well. I’ve been cheated on, lied to, manipulated, threatened and basically treated like excrement all to be told that I’m the bad guy… I certainly don’t remember it that way… It’s not always easy but remember…. it is acceptable for you to put yourself first from time to time and make your own happiness. No one else is going to do it for you. Talking, even here can lead to new friendships and support networks and we all need to talk. No matter who we are. " ah abuse and trauma. That old chestnut. Well unless they have been on a Abuse Perpetrator Programme Course for 12 months, run far far away and never look back. May I recommend the following books by Thomas Erikson: 1,Surrounded by Idiots: The Four Types of Human Behaviour (or, How to Understand Those Who Cannot Be Understood) 2. Surrounded by Narcissists: Or, How to Stop Other People's Egos Ruining Your Life 3. Surrounded by Psychopaths: or, How to Stop Being Exploited by Others ( I own this) | |||
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"Doesn't matter what anyone says, you'll let go when you realise enough is enough, and only you'll know when that is. As others have said, you should let go as soon as you realise she's stringing you along. But we all know that's easier said than done. A lot easier sai than done it would be easier if I had people around me Maybe that's why people stick around it stand mire than is good for them.... because there just is no one else around. Hope you are ok OP x That’s exactly it I don't have people around me. I have to go and seek people out. Support groups, Swingers clubs, Therapy groups, Football group, the pub nextdoor, work. I still am connected to my former husband after the marriage broke down 9 years ago but it's more of a sentimental connection. He has little to no impact on my life. My therapist last year though that the ex still had a hold over my life. I'd say it's more the fall out from the marriage ending that I'm still recovering from. I haven't even had enough financial stability since then to pay for the divorce. I know what change looks like and it's hard graft. It looks like a 12 Step programme. Taking an inventory of all the fucked up shit you've done and making amends and putting controls in so that you never do that fucked up shit again. It looks like the intensive therapy that I did every week twice a week for 18 months. It's actively taking steps not to fall back into old dysfunctional habits. Most people have no incentive to change. Their life is comfortable so why should they change it and That's ok unless you want to grow and change and they can't walk with you on your journey. Let her go, Man. She is not ready. She is not all in. she's half way and ambivalent. Who wants to live a life halfway without some kind of certainty on the fundamentals? It's a mind fuck. And you could probably be using your brain energy for other things that are more rewarding, more satisfying,more productive, and create personal growth. Sometimes on here I wish there was a "like" button for posts. I agree ?? "  | |||
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"its like i feel guilty for being here chatting to people like im cheating on someone who doesnt even give a shot about me I know that feeling. All too well. I’ve been cheated on, lied to, manipulated, threatened and basically treated like excrement all to be told that I’m the bad guy… I certainly don’t remember it that way… It’s not always easy but remember…. it is acceptable for you to put yourself first from time to time and make your own happiness. No one else is going to do it for you. Talking, even here can lead to new friendships and support networks and we all need to talk. No matter who we are. ah abuse and trauma. That old chestnut. Well unless they have been on a Abuse Perpetrator Programme Course for 12 months, run far far away and never look back. May I recommend the following books by Thomas Erikson: 1,Surrounded by Idiots: The Four Types of Human Behaviour (or, How to Understand Those Who Cannot Be Understood) 2. Surrounded by Narcissists: Or, How to Stop Other People's Egos Ruining Your Life 3. Surrounded by Psychopaths: or, How to Stop Being Exploited by Others ( I own this) " I’m writing my own thesis actually for single guys. It’s called “Stop choosing Twatwaffles…” I’m hoping it might even sell a copy or two. | |||
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" I don't have people around me. I have to go and seek people out. Support groups, Swingers clubs, Therapy groups, Football group, the pub nextdoor, work. I still am connected to my former husband after the marriage broke down 9 years ago but it's more of a sentimental connection. He has little to no impact on my life. My therapist last year though that the ex still had a hold over my life. I'd say it's more the fall out from the marriage ending that I'm still recovering from. I haven't even had enough financial stability since then to pay for the divorce. I know what change looks like and it's hard graft. It looks like a 12 Step programme. Taking an inventory of all the fucked up shit you've done and making amends and putting controls in so that you never do that fucked up shit again. It looks like the intensive therapy that I did every week twice a week for 18 months. It's actively taking steps not to fall back into old dysfunctional habits. Most people have no incentive to change. Their life is comfortable so why should they change it and That's ok unless you want to grow and change and they can't walk with you on your journey. Let her go, Man. She is not ready. She is not all in. she's half way and ambivalent. Who wants to live a life halfway without some kind of certainty on the fundamentals? It's a mind fuck. And you could probably be using your brain energy for other things that are more rewarding, more satisfying,more productive, and create personal growth. Sometimes on here I wish there was a "like" button for posts. " Thank you for coming to my TED talk.  | |||
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" I don't have people around me. I have to go and seek people out. Support groups, Swingers clubs, Therapy groups, Football group, the pub nextdoor, work. I still am connected to my former husband after the marriage broke down 9 years ago but it's more of a sentimental connection. He has little to no impact on my life. My therapist last year though that the ex still had a hold over my life. I'd say it's more the fall out from the marriage ending that I'm still recovering from. I haven't even had enough financial stability since then to pay for the divorce. I know what change looks like and it's hard graft. It looks like a 12 Step programme. Taking an inventory of all the fucked up shit you've done and making amends and putting controls in so that you never do that fucked up shit again. It looks like the intensive therapy that I did every week twice a week for 18 months. It's actively taking steps not to fall back into old dysfunctional habits. Most people have no incentive to change. Their life is comfortable so why should they change it and That's ok unless you want to grow and change and they can't walk with you on your journey. Let her go, Man. She is not ready. She is not all in. she's half way and ambivalent. Who wants to live a life halfway without some kind of certainty on the fundamentals? It's a mind fuck. And you could probably be using your brain energy for other things that are more rewarding, more satisfying,more productive, and create personal growth. Sometimes on here I wish there was a "like" button for posts. Thank you for coming to my TED talk. "I appreciate it  | |||
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"its like i feel guilty for being here chatting to people like im cheating on someone who doesnt even give a shot about me I know that feeling. All too well. I’ve been cheated on, lied to, manipulated, threatened and basically treated like excrement all to be told that I’m the bad guy… I certainly don’t remember it that way… It’s not always easy but remember…. it is acceptable for you to put yourself first from time to time and make your own happiness. No one else is going to do it for you. Talking, even here can lead to new friendships and support networks and we all need to talk. No matter who we are. ah abuse and trauma. That old chestnut. Well unless they have been on a Abuse Perpetrator Programme Course for 12 months, run far far away and never look back. May I recommend the following books by Thomas Erikson: 1,Surrounded by Idiots: The Four Types of Human Behaviour (or, How to Understand Those Who Cannot Be Understood) 2. Surrounded by Narcissists: Or, How to Stop Other People's Egos Ruining Your Life 3. Surrounded by Psychopaths: or, How to Stop Being Exploited by Others ( I own this) I’m writing my own thesis actually for single guys. It’s called “Stop choosing Twatwaffles…” I’m hoping it might even sell a copy or two. " Put it on Amazon, tik tok, twitter, snap chat, youtube and instagram. It's a whole new career. It's not even the choosing....It's how people like that get into your subconcious and unfortunately with men...the um.... sex drive seems to remove quite a lof of um...caution control.... I remember one male friend telling me that men will do anything for pussy. Now I've met a lot of male psychologists, psychiatrists and psychotherapists who come across mostly balanced and emotionally open and rationally thinking. So I think men can control the sex drive in order to stay away from the um.. twatwaffles. Sincerely a recovering Twatwaffle. ( Not a psychopath, I actually feel guilt and empathy and hurting people makes me feel bad about myself. It isn't an exciting thrill to me.) | |||
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" I don't have people around me. I have to go and seek people out. Support groups, Swingers clubs, Therapy groups, Football group, the pub nextdoor, work. I still am connected to my former husband after the marriage broke down 9 years ago but it's more of a sentimental connection. He has little to no impact on my life. My therapist last year though that the ex still had a hold over my life. I'd say it's more the fall out from the marriage ending that I'm still recovering from. I haven't even had enough financial stability since then to pay for the divorce. I know what change looks like and it's hard graft. It looks like a 12 Step programme. Taking an inventory of all the fucked up shit you've done and making amends and putting controls in so that you never do that fucked up shit again. It looks like the intensive therapy that I did every week twice a week for 18 months. It's actively taking steps not to fall back into old dysfunctional habits. Most people have no incentive to change. Their life is comfortable so why should they change it and That's ok unless you want to grow and change and they can't walk with you on your journey. Let her go, Man. She is not ready. She is not all in. she's half way and ambivalent. Who wants to live a life halfway without some kind of certainty on the fundamentals? It's a mind fuck. And you could probably be using your brain energy for other things that are more rewarding, more satisfying,more productive, and create personal growth. Sometimes on here I wish there was a "like" button for posts. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
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"its like i feel guilty for being here chatting to people like im cheating on someone who doesnt even give a shot about me I know that feeling. All too well. I’ve been cheated on, lied to, manipulated, threatened and basically treated like excrement all to be told that I’m the bad guy… I certainly don’t remember it that way… It’s not always easy but remember…. it is acceptable for you to put yourself first from time to time and make your own happiness. No one else is going to do it for you. Talking, even here can lead to new friendships and support networks and we all need to talk. No matter who we are. ah abuse and trauma. That old chestnut. Well unless they have been on a Abuse Perpetrator Programme Course for 12 months, run far far away and never look back. May I recommend the following books by Thomas Erikson: 1,Surrounded by Idiots: The Four Types of Human Behaviour (or, How to Understand Those Who Cannot Be Understood) 2. Surrounded by Narcissists: Or, How to Stop Other People's Egos Ruining Your Life 3. Surrounded by Psychopaths: or, How to Stop Being Exploited by Others ( I own this) I’m writing my own thesis actually for single guys. It’s called “Stop choosing Twatwaffles…” I’m hoping it might even sell a copy or two. Put it on Amazon, tik tok, twitter, snap chat, youtube and instagram. It's a whole new career. It's not even the choosing....It's how people like that get into your subconcious and unfortunately with men...the um.... sex drive seems to remove quite a lof of um...caution control.... I remember one male friend telling me that men will do anything for pussy. Now I've met a lot of male psychologists, psychiatrists and psychotherapists who come across mostly balanced and emotionally open and rationally thinking. So I think men can control the sex drive in order to stay away from the um.. twatwaffles. Sincerely a recovering Twatwaffle. ( Not a psychopath, I actually feel guilt and empathy and hurting people makes me feel bad about myself. It isn't an exciting thrill to me.)" Well. I just ended up with someone who was more fucked up and chock full Of issues more than I was. Silly me, I made it my mission to do everything I could to try to fix her while I was being am destroyed in the process And now I’ve backed off and said I don’t want to put up with the Abuse I’m essentially the devils ring piece or worse… 
How dare I struggle myself and be called too weak for her and not enough to cope with her…
A failure. A let down.
A sad pathetic old man who didn’t stick up for himself for fear that I’d be dumped again and again and again.
While she threatened to go cheat with her ex (who’d already she cheated on my with twice) but it wasn’t cheating because it was only her giving him oral and then leaving straight away with no conversation following.
Even on New Year’s Eve when I was messaging her as she was supposed to be at nine she fell asleep and woke up to my texts saying I was missing her.
She was so angry with herself she went and sucked her ex’s cock. Her excuse. She’d let me down so many times before that she thought if she did this I’d want rid of her and she thought she’d lost me anyway because I was upset she never showed up.
She read my texts and felt bad for me. then he popped up and simply asked “Are you buy?”
She knew what that meant, drove to him, sucked him off and apparently stood up, wiped her mouth and went straight home. No conversation with him at all apparently.
She answers him asking to go over for some fun and ignored the messages I left telling her I loved her and missed her.
Twice that happened.
But it was a mistake she says…
Tbat morning she lied out at me and I had no idea what had happened for 6 months. Till she told me.
The ex used to come round to the house every day. He was an old work colleague of mine.
I saw him in our house every day!!!
Even when I found out I didn’t want to kick if because they had kids together.
I got pushed away and du oed and pushed Andy and du oed and threatens she was floating go do it again and the. Had a go at me for walking on eggshells because EVERYTIME she had a “downer” I was dumped.
Sorry I’m feeling effects of my medication quite severely here.
I think I should have shut up…..
Women are so great…..
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