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"After seeing some threads that cause divided opinion. It got me thinking, as to how much do forumites use these, as a red flag or a way to gauge people... " As someone who posts threads & has no bio or interests displayed, I can say quite a few must gauge personas via the forum. | |||
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""This thread has been a good filter" is often openly stated." I use that as a filter for who's conceited enough to think the protagonist would want to chat to or meet them | |||
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""This thread has been a good filter" is often openly stated. I use that as a filter for who's conceited enough to think the protagonist would want to chat to or meet them " | |||
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"I always go by the rule of each their own. I do not have to agree with your opinion in order to like you as a person. We're all not agreeable at everything we say. Agree to disagree and learn from other people rather than pointlessly try to embed your own beliefs and opinion on someone. Some converse bluntly like we both do. Some sugar coat it and get offended by bluntness. I don't like half the shit my partner says but I still love her. " There's a lot who sugar coat and pretend to be ever so sweet on Fab but spout shite offline. I prefer people who say what they think. | |||
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"I always go by the rule of each their own. I do not have to agree with your opinion in order to like you as a person. We're all not agreeable at everything we say. Agree to disagree and learn from other people rather than pointlessly try to embed your own beliefs and opinion on someone. Some converse bluntly like we both do. Some sugar coat it and get offended by bluntness. I don't like half the shit my partner says but I still love her. There's a lot who sugar coat and pretend to be ever so sweet on Fab but spout shite offline. I prefer people who say what they think. " | |||
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""This thread has been a good filter" is often openly stated. I use that as a filter for who's conceited enough to think the protagonist would want to chat to or meet them " Same as the block from those you've had zero interaction with. | |||
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"Yep Love the private note function " What is this private note function? | |||
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"After seeing some threads that cause divided opinion. It got me thinking, as to how much do forumites use these, as a red flag or a way to gauge people... " Does it matter forumites are a small proportion of the membership and the threads that turn to insults are too regular, just because the poster doesn't think before he posts but it will make no difference lol | |||
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"Definitely a way to gauge people. I never block but I sometimes use private notes " Oh, ditto. I have various notes from the forums that have been very helpful when such people have messaged me and I'd forgotten about a glaring issue with compatibility. | |||
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"Yep Love the private note function What is this private note function? " A bonus for being a site member. When you are looking at someone else's profile, you can add a note that only you can see. Most of my private notes are 'messaged, read, deleted' which reminds me to not try again, but unlike a block, let's them message me in the future (it's happened once) Sometimes it might be a phone number or an address, so I can srr them again. | |||
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"A bonus for being a site member. When you are looking at someone else's profile, you can add a note that only you can see." Ah, okay. Yeah that sounds super useful. | |||
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"Yep Love the private note function " Me too! I have some very interesting notes | |||
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"Yep Love the private note function Me too! I have some very interesting notes " omg you have notes about me | |||
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"Yep Love the private note function Me too! I have some very interesting notes omg you have notes about me " Yours just says…. (Deleted by poster as it’s private) | |||
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"Yep Love the private note function Me too! I have some very interesting notes omg you have notes about me Yours just says…. (Deleted by poster as it’s private) " really omg | |||
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"After seeing some threads that cause divided opinion. It got me thinking, as to how much do forumites use these, as a red flag or a way to gauge people... " Yep, especially when you see repeated patterns of behaviour through their posts. | |||
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"After seeing some threads that cause divided opinion. It got me thinking, as to how much do forumites use these, as a red flag or a way to gauge people... " I certainly do. Everyones opinion is worth listening to. We don't always agree with each other, but I've noticed the way other people interact or how they disagree with some here most definitely is a red flag. The not so subtle snide remarks and put downs have definitely turned me off people. Those who give off an air of self imposed superiority and know alls. They are definitely ones I now avoid. Having said that some on the forums have caught my attention, As their kindness and patience to new comers etc has been very nice to see. | |||
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""This thread has been a good filter" is often openly stated. I use that as a filter for who's conceited enough to think the protagonist would want to chat to or meet them Same as the block from those you've had zero interaction with." | |||
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"Yep. The forums are a great way for people to out themselves. My block button gets quite a workout. " Absolutely. Keep that wally energy away | |||
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"Yep Love the private note function Me too! I have some very interesting notes " Does FOI work here? | |||
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"Yep Love the private note function What is this private note function? " It's private | |||
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"Definitely a filter. Consistency is key on here and those who act one way in private and totally different in the forums are a major red flag. I've seen people demonise and assassinate another forumites character in private and groupchats and then sympathise or act shocked on their behalf publicly. Those same people are in a terrible quandary on facepic Friday because they aren't sure which of their faces they should share. " 100% | |||
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"It's excellent for getting to know a person's personality a bit better than you can from a profile. It's also especially good for adding people to block lists based on opinions and circumstances which might not be shared on their profiles LvM" ^^^Yep, pretty much this. Sometimes people come out and say obvious, overt things that make us filter out, but sometimes it's putting together the pieces over time, and realising that a person or people have views/opinions you do not share. Either way, yes, good filtration tools | |||
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