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By *oungalpha20 OP   Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria

I've been chatting to this lady for a while, and she intrigued me with how confident she seemed. Came to the talk in the bedroom and and from what she was saying got me excited.

So it finally came to the day of meeting and when I arrived she was a complete person, not as confident as she seemed to be on message.

Has anyone else experienced this?

How did you find the experience?

I genuinely don't know If it was stage fright or anxiety or just telling me what I'd like to hear.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

When you are behind a screen you can be free and be yourself.

In company it is not so easy to let yourself go. There is always preconceptions of how you should be or act.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

People are full of shit. Hiding behind their phone. Face to face is where you see the real person.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are full of shit. Hiding behind their phone. Face to face is where you see the real person.

The mr "

Totally agree

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By *oungalpha20 OP   Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria


"People are full of shit. Hiding behind their phone. Face to face is where you see the real person.

The mr "

I've came to that conclusion

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

Could also be nerves, or perhaps even you came across as a different to her too?

Would always recommend a short social before any planned shenanigans

Sometimes someone can be a lovely person, good looking etc, but just no connection there.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

It does happen. I've noticed myself a lot on here. I don't try and be any different online than I am.in real life. Never really gone for the 'online persona' thing.

I've spoken to loads of people who seem really interested in Morphia online. When it comes to meeting, everything seems to be great, then suddenly I'm blanked.

Maybe I am a far more appealing person online.

And no, this isn't a pity party, or an attempt to gain validity. It's a factual observation.

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By *oungalpha20 OP   Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria


"Could also be nerves, or perhaps even you came across as a different to her too?

Would always recommend a short social before any planned shenanigans

Sometimes someone can be a lovely person, good looking etc, but just no connection there.

"

Definitely agree on socials now before anything is planned. Wouldn't say I was any different, couldn't be arsed to keep up with the persona I've made myself out to be.

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By *oungalpha20 OP   Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria


"It does happen. I've noticed myself a lot on here. I don't try and be any different online than I am.in real life. Never really gone for the 'online persona' thing.

I've spoken to loads of people who seem really interested in Morphia online. When it comes to meeting, everything seems to be great, then suddenly I'm blanked.

Maybe I am a far more appealing person online.

And no, this isn't a pity party, or an attempt to gain validity. It's a factual observation."

Would you rather get blanked or have false expectations?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I've had it happen a few times over the years.

I think it's just easier for people to say anything over the Internet. When it comes to face to face, they just can't seem to do it. I just try and make them comfortable as possible and get them as relaxed as they can be on a first meet.

Sometimes people get swept up in a moment and then realise shit we haven't even met yet how can I do all these things lol.

I think it puts too much pressure on a meet if you have gone into details about what will happen what won't etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are full of shit. Hiding behind their phone. Face to face is where you see the real person.

The mr "

Yep. I met up with a woman last night and we both agreed sometimes online personalities are completely different. Meet fast or you start to think the texting person is the person you will meet. Imagine how much easier it is to read someone’s text when you now know their time and mannerisms?

The shield of a screen can be very comforting for someone who lacks confidence.

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

She has a cyber alter ego. But to varying degrees so do most.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yes. They even admitted it at the social, tbf if there is chemistry I would still be happy, but that's what socials are for

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.


"

Would you rather get blanked or have false expectations? "

Neither. I'd rather someone be honest and tell me they are not interested.

What it's actually really like is if they told me why. It's it something I've said or done even inadvertently? Did they feel obligated to say yes.

Whatever it is, just say.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes it has happened to me a couple of times on here. One guy was like a completely different person to his online persona.Online he was funny and good craic but when we met he was so quiet and paranoid it was like two completely different people. It's one of the reasons I do a social meet before anything else because you never know until you actually meet if you will get on or not.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

Well at least they turned up.. most talk it..but bottle it soon as you mention meeting and start making excuses..

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By *j123499Man
over a year ago

exeter

Good post I believe I’ve got the opposite problem tbh

I’m dyslexic and definitely struggle with my profile and messaging ect which lets down me at times

yet have no problem face to face am fairly confident and articulate which is is all well and good if I ever

manage to perfect my online self well enough to get past the talking stage haha

thinking about it maybe I need a PA mmm

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm

I have been rejected at the social meeting in the past and its really not a problem.

If there is no connection and the persona is totally different to the online version then odds are its going to be an awkward experience.

Understandably there will be the nervousness of a face to face meet to consider but I always found that following your gut instincts is rarely wrong.

I persevered once and it haunts me to this day. Horrible experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been chatting to this lady for a while, and she intrigued me with how confident she seemed. Came to the talk in the bedroom and and from what she was saying got me excited.

So it finally came to the day of meeting and when I arrived she was a complete person, not as confident as she seemed to be on message.

Has anyone else experienced this?

How did you find the experience?

I genuinely don't know If it was stage fright or anxiety or just telling me what I'd like to hear.

"

Maybe she was tipsy when she messaged you.

Maybe you aren't what she expected in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a different thing texting and actually meeting, the proof of the pudding they say is in the eating of it , what is taken out of messages can be so different from the meeting .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been rejected at the social meeting in the past and its really not a problem.

If there is no connection and the persona is totally different to the online version then odds are its going to be an awkward experience.

Understandably there will be the nervousness of a face to face meet to consider but I always found that following your gut instincts is rarely wrong.

I persevered once and it haunts me to this day. Horrible experience."

I felt like I was driving to my own murder scene once. So I turned round, came home and had a wank instead

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm


"I have been rejected at the social meeting in the past and its really not a problem.

If there is no connection and the persona is totally different to the online version then odds are its going to be an awkward experience.

Understandably there will be the nervousness of a face to face meet to consider but I always found that following your gut instincts is rarely wrong.

I persevered once and it haunts me to this day. Horrible experience.

I felt like I was driving to my own murder scene once. So I turned round, came home and had a wank instead "

When your spidey senses tingle, don't do the mingle.

You know where you are with a good wank. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met people who are very chatty, funny and confident when chatting but very quiet in person. I've also been not my complete self when meeting people as it is nerve wracking. Meeting a stranger is always going to be a little awkward the first time and people are nervous whether they admit to it or not.

Combination of will you like them, will they like you, will you do the dirty, will you enjoy it. So many questions and insecurites can come to the surface when meeting new people so I try not to judge their whole persona in the first meeting. If the second one has the same energy, they probably aren't the person they claim to be.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

You are lucky. I never seem to get as far as a second meet.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Bit harsh to describe someone who was more nervous in person as "full of shit", surely?

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By *oungalpha20 OP   Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria


"Bit harsh to describe someone who was more nervous in person as "full of shit", surely? "

Who mentioned "full of shit"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are full of shit. Hiding behind their phone. Face to face is where you see the real person.

The mr "

^^ agree

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