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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wife has found my secret stash of anal/sex toys, they are gone, I can't find them anywhere. I assume she has thrown them out. She's not said anything and has carried on as normal. Nothing has been said.

Whats she thinking?

Do I use them on other girls?

Do I use them on myself?

Am I gay?

Or is she worried i might use them on her ?

Shes done this a few times now and its costing me a fortune. Shes so not into sex and very vanilla. Knickers on lights of kind of girl. I do pray one day she will be up for swinging. That was the original point of coming on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her why she’s done it.

Simple.

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By *ixie BeanMan
over a year ago

Wallasey


"Wife has found my secret stash of anal/sex toys, they are gone, I can't find them anywhere. I assume she has thrown them out. She's not said anything and has carried on as normal. Nothing has been said.

Whats she thinking?

Do I use them on other girls?

Do I use them on myself?

Am I gay?

Or is she worried i might use them on her ?

Shes done this a few times now and its costing me a fortune. Shes so not into sex and very vanilla. Knickers on lights of kind of girl. I do pray one day she will be up for swinging. That was the original point of coming on here. "

Sue her.. i seen an article on a fell who's parents binned his porn collection..he'd amassed thousands of pounds with of it and they disposed of it without his permission .it's akin to theft . He won the case and was recompensed

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Ask her, tell her there yours and she should respect your belongings

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

talk to her? Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open honest conversation have that chat about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a vegetable patch.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

You really need to talk to her.

About a lot of things.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

She's probably thinking

"What other secrets is he keeping from me?"

"Is he cheating?"

"Who even is he?'

"If I get rid of the evidence I can pretend it isn't happening"

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Wife has found my secret stash of anal/sex toys, they are gone, I can't find them anywhere. I assume she has thrown them out. She's not said anything and has carried on as normal. Nothing has been said.

Whats she thinking?

Do I use them on other girls?

Do I use them on myself?

Am I gay?

Or is she worried i might use them on her ?

Shes done this a few times now and its costing me a fortune. Shes so not into sex and very vanilla. Knickers on lights of kind of girl. I do pray one day she will be up for swinging. That was the original point of coming on here. "
exactly she thinks your bi or gay and is consulting a solicitor as we speak

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes thats what I'm thinking too. Unfortunately she's been brought up with sex being a taboo. I've tried talking about sex she clams up etc

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Yes thats what I'm thinking too. Unfortunately she's been brought up with sex being a taboo. I've tried talking about sex she clams up etc "

Couples counselling?

There's clearly communication problems if you can't have open and honest talks.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Yes thats what I'm thinking too. Unfortunately she's been brought up with sex being a taboo. I've tried talking about sex she clams up etc "
my ex was like that parents were religious..... Catholics..... Nightmare

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Wife has found my secret stash of anal/sex toys, they are gone, I can't find them anywhere. I assume she has thrown them out. She's not said anything and has carried on as normal. Nothing has been said.

Whats she thinking?

Do I use them on other girls?

Do I use them on myself?

Am I gay?

Or is she worried i might use them on her ?

Shes done this a few times now and its costing me a fortune. Shes so not into sex and very vanilla. Knickers on lights of kind of girl. I do pray one day she will be up for swinging. That was the original point of coming on here. "

There is a slight comic angle to this but also as others have said... Sounds like there's a bit of a gap between what you want and need and what your other half wants and needs and I'm sure you don't want that distance getting any bigger. As others have said. Time to try and talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why on earth aren't you asking your wife about it?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Did you not have this discussion before you got married?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her where they are and then give her your camera and ask if she will take a photo of you with one in for your new Fab profile photo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wife has found my secret stash of anal/sex toys, they are gone, I can't find them anywhere. I assume she has thrown them out. She's not said anything and has carried on as normal. Nothing has been said.

Whats she thinking?

Do I use them on other girls?

Do I use them on myself?

Am I gay?

Or is she worried i might use them on her ?

Shes done this a few times now and its costing me a fortune. Shes so not into sex and very vanilla. Knickers on lights of kind of girl. I do pray one day she will be up for swinging. That was the original point of coming on here. "

Why not just dump her? She's costing you a fortune in sex toys and won't talk to you or swing. What use is she if she won't peg your arse or fuck other people so you can use her as sex bait?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Ask her what she's thinking.

If having these things around her home make her uncomfortable then you should be finding somewhere else to keep them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you not have this discussion before you got married?"

Men only marry good girls. The filthy women are just for fucking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You said it yourself she’s not adventurous. Be honest with her about the use of them. If you use them on yourself it’s not gay. It’s masturbation and self pleasure. I got some vibrating anal beads that I use.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Jeez that's really annoying and a massive invasion of your privacy. I would not be happy at all.

You really need to talk to her about this and other issues you're having.

Can't be with someone that throws your stuff out behind your back.

It shows a lack of respect and trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why on earth aren't you asking your wife about it? "

Exactly this!!

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish


"You really need to talk to her.

About a lot of things.

"

This. If it was the first time you'd need to talk but for it to happen several times and you both to keep pretending nothing's happened is really sad. Unless you're both happy with everything else in the relationship and both prepared to ignore the butt plug in the corner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You really need to talk to her.

About a lot of things.

This. If it was the first time you'd need to talk but for it to happen several times and you both to keep pretending nothing's happened is really sad. Unless you're both happy with everything else in the relationship and both prepared to ignore the butt plug in the corner. "

Maybe guests keep hanging their coats on it so that's why she hid it.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Ask her what she's thinking.

If having these things around her home make her uncomfortable then you should be finding somewhere else to keep them."

It's his home too, and if they were packed away she should have just left them there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One, check her arse. They may not have been thrown out.

Two, chuck some of her shit out. Force her to raise the topic first. If she doesn't, then youve got rid of some junk.

Or talk to here. That is the harder option but you two are in some weird dildo dance. She's probably more thinking about why you keep buying them when you know she knows, than if you toke on a penis in your spare time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you checked on Facebook Marketplace?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One, check her arse. They may not have been thrown out.

Two, chuck some of her shit out. Force her to raise the topic first. If she doesn't, then youve got rid of some junk.

Or talk to here. That is the harder option but you two are in some weird dildo dance. She's probably more thinking about why you keep buying them when you know she knows, than if you toke on a penis in your spare time.

"

Check her arse!

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond


"One, check her arse. They may not have been thrown out.

Two, chuck some of her shit out. Force her to raise the topic first. If she doesn't, then youve got rid of some junk.

Or talk to here. That is the harder option but you two are in some weird dildo dance. She's probably more thinking about why you keep buying them when you know she knows, than if you toke on a penis in your spare time.

Check her arse! "

The dildo dance made me

Posh

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

Lanson

You need source a better hiding place!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One, check her arse. They may not have been thrown out.

Two, chuck some of her shit out. Force her to raise the topic first. If she doesn't, then youve got rid of some junk.

Or talk to here. That is the harder option but you two are in some weird dildo dance. She's probably more thinking about why you keep buying them when you know she knows, than if you toke on a penis in your spare time.

"

This is the funniest post I’ve seen today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One, check her arse. They may not have been thrown out.

Two, chuck some of her shit out. Force her to raise the topic first. If she doesn't, then youve got rid of some junk.

Or talk to here. That is the harder option but you two are in some weird dildo dance. She's probably more thinking about why you keep buying them when you know she knows, than if you toke on a penis in your spare time.

"

How big is this poor woman's asshole?!

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