FabSwingers.com forum: How to you introduce your partner into swinging

By *opdubcat OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin

How can you softly introduce your partner into the idea of swinging without her knowing you have been a swinger before. ….can’t even get her to watch pron

Advice wanted …..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bring home an lady of the night and play never have I ever

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Don't hide your history...trust is paramount. Paul was open about being a swinger when I first met him so there were no surprises.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"How can you softly introduce your partner into the idea of swinging without her knowing you have been a swinger before. ….can’t even get her to watch pron

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Talk to her.

Pick your moment, but don't be sly and try to trick her. Easy really.

Gbat

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

If there's no trust in a relationship I don't think swinging is a good idea personally.

Mrs

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

maybe do a forum search of all the 100s of other times the same question has been asked and read through them.

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By *r_North-EastMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If she won’t even watch porn I doubt she’d be interested in swinging but you’ll know your partner better than me.

The best thing you can do is be 100% honest, tell her you’ve done it before and would like to again and then talk at length. Communication is probably the most important thing for swinging couples.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"How can you softly introduce your partner into the idea of swinging without her knowing you have been a swinger before. ….can’t even get her to watch pron

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You can't introduce anyone by stealth it's dishonest.

Establish the type of relationship where you can talk to each other and take it from there

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"How can you softly introduce your partner into the idea of swinging without her knowing you have been a swinger before. ….can’t even get her to watch pron

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When you say before, do you mean before you were with your partner? Or do you mean you’ve been a swinger while you were with her?

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Easy, dump her for another. Solves everything. She'll only be unhappy, not trust or fucks off with one of your 'mates'

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'll say same as I do on all other threads by men on same subject

Talk to her op,you can ask her if she'd like to swing & then she can say yes or no.

Ask her what her fantasies are and if she wants to try anything.

If she says no,you need to leave it and not try to push her into anything op.

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By *itIrishCplCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Don't hide your history...trust is paramount. Paul was open about being a swinger when I first met him so there were no surprises. "

Second this whole heartedly. When I met hubby on our second time meeting he told me about what he was into.. third date was a ffm and next a mmf.

Haven't looked back since

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

That's a difficult proposition.

I am assuming from the verifications (still trusting in basic decency) this is a new relationship?

I can understand you not not telling a new partner but by doing so falling into a trap of your own creation.

So (and this is on the assumption you've not cheated on them) you need to just be open with her. How ever much sexual conversation maybe awkward for her communication and being able to be yourself is an important part of a relationship that works. So you need to tell her about your history and direction you'd like to take the relationship forward. If she can not accept your history and/or has no desire to explore sexual non monogamy (if that too is a deal breaker) then you have your answer, she is not for you.

But don't mess about, be frank (sounds like the relationship is at point) and be completely transparent. And good luck to you.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Make a glory hole in your porch. Tell your wife that you can hear strange noises coming from it then tell her to take a peek……

Safety specs may be required!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'd ask my partner why he wanted to do it, first.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Options1:

Leave your phone on table accidently on purpose with fabs open, hope she finds it.

Easier to ask for forgiveness than permission

Option 2:

Wait until she hits menopause and she turns into a cock crazed nymphomaniac.

Worked a treat for us

( Runs and hides)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If she won’t even watch porn I doubt she’d be interested in swinging but you’ll know your partner better than me.

The best thing you can do is be 100% honest, tell her you’ve done it before and would like to again and then talk at length. Communication is probably the most important thing for swinging couples."

I am fairly certain that there are people on here who do not watch porn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was thinking about the swing scene for a while. Was just brutally honest with her and it turned out she was a a bigger freak than me and had her own thoughts about it.

Actually brought us closer together. Sex has never been better, apart from when we were 18.

Be honest, express yourself calmly and have her understand. If it's a no and not a deal breaker then let it be. Perhaps she'll think about it and approach you to discuss it later down the line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't hide your history...trust is paramount. Paul was open about being a swinger when I first met him so there were no surprises.

Second this whole heartedly. When I met hubby on our second time meeting he told me about what he was into.. third date was a ffm and next a mmf.

Haven't looked back since "

Talk about a string of fun dates!

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By *r_North-EastMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"If she won’t even watch porn I doubt she’d be interested in swinging but you’ll know your partner better than me.

The best thing you can do is be 100% honest, tell her you’ve done it before and would like to again and then talk at length. Communication is probably the most important thing for swinging couples.

I am fairly certain that there are people on here who do not watch porn

Me being one of them. Honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can you softly introduce your partner into the idea of swinging without her knowing you have been a swinger before. ….can’t even get her to watch pron

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Dump her. What use is she if you can't watch porn together or use her as fuck bait.

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