FabSwingers.com forum: Question for the Penis havers...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be attracted to them but most guys can get hard for anyone and anything haha.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Needs to be an attraction there or nope not happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You thinking of ordering a gimp mask op?

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Can't get or stay hard unless I'm attracted to her.

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By *ierre55Man
over a year ago

Stafford

I can get hard from a horny situation with limited attraction. But there is a limit. If I'm disgusted it ain't happening.

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By *inger_the_NinjaMan
over a year ago

Frome

It's situational must of the time. If it's making my heart race, quickening my pulse, then I can get hard as rock. Sometimes it's about attraction, but sometimes that attraction is so much more than how good looking someone is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"

Physical attraction is somewhat there but I prefer the mental attraction more, can’t meet at short notice simply because I don’t know if I’m going to get the right vibe no matter how good someone looks

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

Dunno, never tried fucking anything I'm not attracted to... yet.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Why would I be with someone I'm not attracted to.

It has a mind of its own and does me proud

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You thinking of ordering a gimp mask op?"

Haha well it could be an option! Just wondering if women are right to be dubious when guys on here drool over the opportunity to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dunno, never tried fucking anything I'm not attracted to... yet. "

You can start with me if you'd like hahaha

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By *ierre55Man
over a year ago

Stafford

"Dunno, never tried fucking anything I'm not attracted to... yet. "

Anything? Like a chair? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why would I be with someone I'm not attracted to.

It has a mind of its own and does me proud

That's what I thought would be the case for most but it seems there are exceptions

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Why would I be with someone I'm not attracted to.

It has a mind of its own and does me proud

That's what I thought would be the case for most but it seems there are exceptions"

I'm exceptional

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

Has to be some attraction but not necessarily physical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most guys would get it up if there was a mouth around their dick to be honest but beforehand, no unless there was serious sexual chemistry

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I have to be attracted to them at a cerebral level.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

I have no idea because I have never had sex with someone I didn't like or was attracted to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why would I be with someone I'm not attracted to.

It has a mind of its own and does me proud

That's what I thought would be the case for most but it seems there are exceptions

I'm exceptional

I don't doubt that for a second

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have no idea because I have never had sex with someone I didn't like or was attracted to "

That is good to hear

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have to be attracted to them at a cerebral level."

I prefer that level almost. Physical attraction can only go so far

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Why would I be with someone I'm not attracted to.

It has a mind of its own and does me proud

That's what I thought would be the case for most but it seems there are exceptions

I'm exceptional

I don't doubt that for a second"

You're welcome to prove me wrong

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By *ndiiiMan
over a year ago

Paisley Scotland

Attraction comes in many levels, physical and mental.

A sight a smell a tease, all different, but when you feel that twitch you just know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once got approached and asked if I was interested in being a gigolo and part of the reason I said no is because I wondered about the answer to this. Not sure how they do it with anything that gives them money. I’m sure there’s an answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dunno, never tried fucking anything I'm not attracted to... yet. "

I volunteer as tribute

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By *unnoisseurMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Some of the best sex I’ve had are from women I don’t or didn’t think were good looking. But their sensual and sexual awareness were way above average.

When I was younger my dick would get hard for no apparent reason and before HD and 4K porn seeing new naked women was excitingly HOT!!!

In those days I could shag a “Sack of Spuds” I mean the type that believed laying back and allowing you to enter was all they needed to do to partake.

So the answer to your question is OP.

It depends

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Need to be attracted, I'm not a any hole is a goal type of guy

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Has to be attraction there,

I was never a 2 tits a hole and and a heartbeat kinda guy, and definitely not a heartbeat optional kinda guy

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By *old HoopsWoman
over a year ago

Near Chester

Great thread with interesting answers. I thought the answer would be a resounding yes considering the amount of messages I get with no picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

changed with age

need to be in to it

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Never had a problem myself because of physical appearance as few of us are perfect.

However a bad attitude, abrasive personality, selfish expectation, poor hygiene etc can blunt interest quite quickly although not met that yet with Fabsters.

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"

Need an attraction but to be honest it doesn’t take much to get me really hard! Lol

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Great thread OP.

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By *immy PMan
over a year ago

nottingham via worksop

i can generally stay hard even if there's no attraction.. there's got to be some form of foreplay or interaction to get the old boy alive though... but tbf the sight of a pair of boobies does the trick...

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"

For me if I am having sex with someone there has to be some type of connection be it flirting, physical or mental attraction

Keeping hard is not always guaranteed…multiple reasons. Could be tired from work, alcohol, if playing at a club could be something as simple as someone is to close watching.

If I was watching a group play or couple and there was no physical attraction and we hadn’t spoken then I would probably not stay hard if invited.

Sometimes if I fancy person a lot then I struggle to stay hard

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Dunno, never tried fucking anything I'm not attracted to... yet.

You can start with me if you'd like hahaha"

Damn .. beat me to it lol

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"
nope

you have to be turned on to stay hard if youre not attracted how can you do it unless you use a dare i say it gloryhole

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

There has to be an attraction, or it's not happening.

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By *illie fitMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Viagra have sorted that issue, I take one pill, 30 minutes later if my cock even rubs on my boxers “bang” hard as a rock for ages

Blame my doctor 100g will do that

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm

For me sexual attraction is not a physical thing in the conventional "types" way.

A fun,flirty, dirty, playful attitude outweighs any physical attributes. A classic pornstar body with a bad attitude or dead between the ears is a big turn off.

I only met one person who didnt excite me in that way and yes, after a stuningly good blowjob the tools were available for the task in hand but it was not a good experience.

My last encounter used the words "for fuck sake never take viagra"

So yeah, he usually rises to his work and puts in a good shift.

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

I need to be attracted to whom I’m going to fuck with both physically and mentally. Just fucking for the sake of being there is dull. I will and have got erect with woman a didn’t vibe with but the experience just isn’t the same.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

God no. It's not just about physical attraction, either. I've turned down a threesome with two women I found extremely attractive (many years ago, not on Fab) because I wasn't feeling that they both really wanted it.

I hope it works for women, too. I know the cliché is that men want a hole and women want a person, but there are definitely women who just want a cock to get off. Good for them! But that couldn't work for me. I don't necessarily have to be The One, but I want it to be special and intimate - because, for me, sex always is.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

There has to be an attraction. Can't just stand to attention for anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God no. It's not just about physical attraction, either. I've turned down a threesome with two women I found extremely attractive (many years ago, not on Fab) because I wasn't feeling that they both really wanted it.

…..

I can relate to this.

To answer the op - I could probably get an erection by having anyone simply stroke it, but it only gets really HARD when everything clicks. The attraction that’s both ways and the situation we are in, in that moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You thinking of ordering a gimp mask op?

Haha well it could be an option! Just wondering if women are right to be dubious when guys on here drool over the opportunity to meet."

Get one and put up a meet.I think 5 women with mask will suffice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A barbers floor once made me hard. Don’t judge though it had been a while

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Attraction comes in many levels, physical and mental.

A sight a smell a tease, all different, but when you feel that twitch you just know."

Absolutely this! It can be as simple as a cheeky little smile, or a glint in their eye and away you go…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to say, never been with woman I don’t fancy.

But I guess it’s easier to look at the one you can’t fuck, than fuck the one you can’t look at

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By *ent57Man
over a year ago

... where the streets have no name!

When I was younger I certainly had a 'any port in a storm' attitude.

In answer to the OP's question - I'm sure I would struggle to get and stay hard now... I'd rather be polite and not get into that situation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me an attraction certainly helps but so does being in a certain situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Helps if there's a physical attraction and mental attraction isn't always needed. For me though, it's more about feeling relaxed and confident in myself or it won't happen

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By *r_North-EastMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I could definitely do it but I don’t think I’d want to. I don’t like just having sex for the sake of it.

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

Thinking about it trying to write an answer, it's probably more complex and harder to define than a straight yes or no. Generally there has to be physical attraction, I wouldn't play with someone I wasn't attracted to, so doubt I'd get excited if I tried. I can't ever remember being turned on by someone I found unattractive.

Whether there needs to be a deeper connection depends on context. Joining in with a group session in a public playroom at a club, probably not, but for more one on one then yes, there has to be something - or at the very least, I wouldn't play if her personality were actively a turn-off regardless of looks.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I know of more than one penis owner that could easily find *something* fuckable about almost anyone.

One in particular could find someone unattractive to look at, yet if they had what he considered a nice arse, she was fuckable.

One was a horrid person, yet gave wonderful compliments and those compliments turned him on and made her fuckable.

One had an accent that made her fuckable.

One was going through a tough time, and knowing she'd "feel better" after seeing him made her fuckable.

One had a clothing style that made her fuckable.

Some blokes can pinpoint one thing, one thing that can turn that flaccid chunk of flesh into a hard on, and sometimes that one thing can simply be willingness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, never going to happen with me unless there’s attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could get hard and stay hard by thinking of people or things that turn me on, but I’d struggle to cum for them

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I know of more than one penis owner that could easily find *something* fuckable about almost anyone.

One in particular could find someone unattractive to look at, yet if they had what he considered a nice arse, she was fuckable.

One was a horrid person, yet gave wonderful compliments and those compliments turned him on and made her fuckable.

One had an accent that made her fuckable.

One was going through a tough time, and knowing she'd "feel better" after seeing him made her fuckable.

One had a clothing style that made her fuckable.

Some blokes can pinpoint one thing, one thing that can turn that flaccid chunk of flesh into a hard on, and sometimes that one thing can simply be willingness."
really hey i think some peoples self worth is low though and they simply dont feel attractive when they are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know of more than one penis owner that could easily find *something* fuckable about almost anyone.

One in particular could find someone unattractive to look at, yet if they had what he considered a nice arse, she was fuckable.

One was a horrid person, yet gave wonderful compliments and those compliments turned him on and made her fuckable.

One had an accent that made her fuckable.

One was going through a tough time, and knowing she'd "feel better" after seeing him made her fuckable.

One had a clothing style that made her fuckable.

Some blokes can pinpoint one thing, one thing that can turn that flaccid chunk of flesh into a hard on, and sometimes that one thing can simply be willingness."

Very accurate. Only turn off for me is attitude. Always find something about a woman that will raise the mast.

If she has a personality/attitude that I don't like. Ain't no level of hardness that'll make me fuck her.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I know of more than one penis owner that could easily find *something* fuckable about almost anyone.

One in particular could find someone unattractive to look at, yet if they had what he considered a nice arse, she was fuckable.

One was a horrid person, yet gave wonderful compliments and those compliments turned him on and made her fuckable.

One had an accent that made her fuckable.

One was going through a tough time, and knowing she'd "feel better" after seeing him made her fuckable.

One had a clothing style that made her fuckable.

Some blokes can pinpoint one thing, one thing that can turn that flaccid chunk of flesh into a hard on, and sometimes that one thing can simply be willingness.really hey i think some peoples self worth is low though and they simply dont feel attractive when they are?

Absolutely without question.

But that doesn't detract from the fact there are fellas who can bang away with no attraction.

Another example, this same bloke was balls deep in another geezer. He wasn't into geezers, but, he thought I may like it so whilst ploughing other penis owner he was smiling away watching for my reaction. It was the excitement that got him excited. The unknown. The possibility of a positive outcome.

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By *illybeachboyMan
over a year ago

Guernsey

There has to be a spark of attraction to keep me hard. It's def not a case of 'he's got a pulse so let's shag'

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

Used to be able to but I think age is taking its toll. Need that little bit extra now to kick start it

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By *obby!2Man
over a year ago

York

No there has to be a connection for it to work for me. Any holes a goal gives me the creeps to be honest

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The penis has a mind of its own and will get hard for no reason at anytime.

It can refuse to play sometimes no matter what the situation.

The younger the more spontaneous erections.

Like banana the older they are the softer they get.

Meds are a blessing to older guys providing youth like porn star erections with staying power of a porn star

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"

If I was not attracted to a female and did not fancy the female then I would not be with them full stop.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Ask yourself this. Glory holes.

Men folk get hard and release a jizz squiz. They don't even know the gender of the person on the other side.

The situation is the turn on.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"I know of more than one penis owner that could easily find *something* fuckable about almost anyone.

One in particular could find someone unattractive to look at, yet if they had what he considered a nice arse, she was fuckable.

One was a horrid person, yet gave wonderful compliments and those compliments turned him on and made her fuckable.

One had an accent that made her fuckable.

One was going through a tough time, and knowing she'd "feel better" after seeing him made her fuckable.

One had a clothing style that made her fuckable.

Absolutely without question.

But that doesn't detract from the fact there are fellas who can bang away with no attraction.

This

I know many play Bi guys who would never play with a man 1 to 1, but will happily sink balls deep in men, while they watch the ladies playing together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also there's the really basic answer of how horny we feel at the time.

I'm sure alot of men would if a girl was being thirsty for it and they had a raging hard on at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"

Have to fancy them for cock to get hard

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

For me, it all comes down to a mix of attraction and situation.

People can be extremely engaging and sensual without being classically attractive. If I was already in a frisky mood, someone who was cerebrally hitting my spot could easily fit the bill for me. Other times, I could be aroused by seeing someone who I thought was gorgeous and made themselves sexually available.

If you've read my other posts before, you'll know I'm Bisexual but don't "fancy" blokes. However, if I'm already having sex with a woman and her partner wants to get involved with me sexually, I'd be delighted.

So I guess I'm saying that the whole situation might attract me, not necessarily just the physical appearance of one person.

Of course, if there was something off putting like bad hygiene, that would be an immediate passion killer.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask yourself this. Glory holes.

Men folk get hard and release a jizz squiz. They don't even know the gender of the person on the other side.

The situation is the turn on."

That is a good situation

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By *lowhands7Man
over a year ago

South Leicestershire

Attraction and situation for me

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Ask yourself this. Glory holes.

Men folk get hard and release a jizz squiz. They don't even know the gender of the person on the other side.

The situation is the turn on.

That is a good situation

But how anyone can say they need to be attracted to a person to have sex with them yet have sex with an unknown person on the other side of a hole boggles my head.

It proves to me that the situation plays a FAR higher percentage of inducing a boner than anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask yourself this. Glory holes.

Men folk get hard and release a jizz squiz. They don't even know the gender of the person on the other side.

The situation is the turn on.

That is a good situation

But how anyone can say they need to be attracted to a person to have sex with them yet have sex with an unknown person on the other side of a hole boggles my head.

It proves to me that the situation plays a FAR higher percentage of inducing a boner than anything else."

I agree with you! I'm guessing these men mean conventional meets from chatting on here to meeting and having sex which is different.

But right place, right time, right level of horniness, we are all (men and women) guilty of fucking people below our usual self standards right?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to be attracted !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread.

We recently received a message for a single guy asking us to play.

We replied, saying we wouldn't agree to a play date until we had met, as much prefer there to be an attraction / connection.

To which he replied, "don't know why you need a connection, I just treat people like a sex toy"

Each to their own

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By *ungle VIP 1Man
over a year ago

colchester

Need to be aroused to get hard or attracted to person. Would imagine same for women with getting wet. People should have standards

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Definitely needs to be an attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it’s all about the situation and the amount of teasing and chasing that leads up to that point. I’m not ashamed to say that a couple of times I’ve been rock hard with the flirting and teasing leading up to the moment of sex but then lost it.

The penis is a very weird organ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was younger I could get hard and stay hard, no attraction required.

Oh how I miss those days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was a teenager, twenties (maybe thirties, it gets a bit blurry there) it would get hard at anything virtually anything.

As I've got olderr there definitely needs to be an attraction before the old boy wakes up.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Oh, I'd love to be all cool and spiritual and say that a connection is integral; I need some deep and meaningful voodoo to rouse my soul alongside my dong...

But reality is, I could be walking the the trail at 6am past that Scandinavian bakery place, and they'll be baking those cinnamon thingys they do... next thing you know I'm doing the ninja walk home via Lob-on Lane

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

"Ask yourself this. Glory holes.

Men folk get hard and release a jizz squiz. They don't even know the gender of the person on the other side.

The situation is the turn on.

That is a good situation

I enjoy Glory Hole fun

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By *etslaughtogetherMan
over a year ago

Basingstoke / Reading

The answer is yes. It’s how men are sexually assaulted.

The other answer is yes, I was once a long long time ago with someone as a group, absolutely not my cup of tea but she was really into to, I stayed hard the issue was it was really bad and no matter what I did I couldn’t cum. After she had a couple times, I ended up behind her pulling out, taking the condom off and making sure I had I a lot of spit pretending to cum, and spitting a lot of her bum and back.

She didn’t need to know anything different, and she had great time.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Obvs I'm not a penis haver,

However I've seen a male profile stating he doesn't send or ask for face pics before a meet,that makes me think looks are not important to him when meeting,cos it's not socials he's talking about.

A couple of years ago I was chatting to a bloke who told me he'd met this woman ,didn't really fancy her but still shagged her cos she was there!

So some men can get it up without attraction yes,I've no doubt on that.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"The answer is yes. It’s how men are sexually assaulted.

She didn’t need to know anything different, and she had great time. "

It's quite easy to fake an orgasm when you're wearing a condom, if you're not really 'feeling it', or can't finish....

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Ask yourself this. Glory holes.

Men folk get hard and release a jizz squiz. They don't even know the gender of the person on the other side.

The situation is the turn on."

Only once been fortunate to find a gloryhole in a club with someone on the other side, and it was definitely a woman (because her fella motioned me over to it, and I cheated by taking a quick peek), and whilst it was quite nice having my cock sucked, it didn't get me off, so I gave up and thanked her as I left. The lack of visual stimulus coupled to zero connection/attraction to the giver just didn't do it for me. Ticked a box off the list though!

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Men are generally opportunist when it comes to sex, attraction is secondary. If you look good and healthy you will get dicks thrown towards you at any given opportunity, if you look unkempt then it becomes half and half weighing the risk and award.

Attraction is complex you might be attracted to a trait or some traits does not mean you want your partner to have that. You don't need to be attracted to someone to get hard. Now that doesn't mean any hole is a goal ...just the risk or award. I can get hard doesn't mean I will follow through regardless of how pretty...maybe. lol

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By *ools1964Man
over a year ago

Swadlincote

I need to fancy them

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By *mperiumMan
over a year ago

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"

Love the research questions.

Mines always hard.

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By *eadjeyecMan
over a year ago

Bucks/London

I need to be attracted to them, but then I’ve never been pumped full of viagra so I’m sure that would work

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By *mperiumMan
over a year ago

"I need to be attracted to them, but then I’ve never been pumped full of viagra so I’m sure that would work "

Tried before, just makes it harder

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By *entleman of FortuneMan
over a year ago

Hull

Personally I only play with ladies whom I'm attracted to.

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By *mperiumMan
over a year ago

"Personally I only play with ladies whom I'm attracted to."

All the ladies??

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By *ipsforlipsMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Attraction tends to be a state of mind, as long as you connect there, be it via looks, suggestion, or touch, erection happens.

Against that there are turn-offs, such as poor hygiene or boredom, which block or detract from attraction and arousal.

With age erection make take a little longer to start, but as a general rule, I find it hard to stop an erection if a woman has the intention of causing one.

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By *ustincider888Man
over a year ago

Preston Ish

I just need to be horny, if I'm not horny at all the sexiest lady alive wouldn't get me hard.

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By *onnyJohnMan
over a year ago

Doncaster

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"

In truth, and i only speak for myself here, i can get hard quite easily... That being said the person and situation involved makes quite a difference to, shall we say, performance, many moons ago there would be truth to the any holes a goal theorem and i suspect thatd be the case for many young guys, but with maturity things change and like i said the person and situation becomes more important, so much so that now i have to fancy the person.. so to summarise, yes and no.

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By *gentlegiant66Man
over a year ago

Kettering

"Personally I only play with ladies whom I'm attracted to.

All the ladies??

Even the ones with cocks ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No and yes

No in the sense that if I am not attracted to you it isn’t going to go up

Yes if you bang my ass it will go up no matter what

The real question there is will it stay up after your done banging

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Such a myriad of responses here!! I think I have always (very naively) assumed that without attraction it was a no-go.

I will have to vet the penis havers more thoroughly in future haha.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

"Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?"

On the rare occasions that I actually use mine, I MUST be attracted to them otherwise the other person is going to be very disappointed.

So no if I'm not attracted to them or at least something about them, I won't even get hard.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Mine definitely needs sexual attraction , more than physical. I know this from a time in a club when I was ordered to ‘put some cock in here’ , she was very pretty and fit but her request turned me right off. Other times as a couple , same result if I didn’t connect with the woman, but when I do I can stay hard all night long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to need attraction. But if I'm hard and ready to go then I can play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how long you've gone without using your cock, if you're horny you will get hard and stay hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any man should get regular hard ons if he is healthy. And they should be able to touch their cock in a way that it will get hard too, and stay hard too, and so they probably can when they are having a wank, because they are concentrated when they are on their own wanking, but when they are with a woman they can get distracted easy or let down a bit, so they end up getting a flob on lol so I would say it's up to the woman to keep it hard if they want it to stay hard for them. Work it and get on it. It's like a machine, you have to give it attention

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Got to be something

They're for me

Think I like it that way too.

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By *ILF 4 MILFMan
over a year ago

Darlington

I've never had a problem getting hard,but a woman would have to do it for me, for me to get a bonk on.

Some fellas will shag anything, so I'd imagine they'll have no problem getting a boner. Where with me there has to be something deeper going on.

Hope this helps!

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By *mperiumMan
over a year ago

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By *mperiumMan
over a year ago

" lol so I would say it's up to the woman to keep it hard if they want it to stay hard for them. Work it and get on it. It's like a machine, you have to give it attention"

Lube and a bit of teasing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boring

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By *drian52Man
over a year ago

Derby

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"

Definitely has to be a connection/attraction, either physically, mentally or both is better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"

Attraction is need for me

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Any hole maybe a goal, but some are offside.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Mr) most definitely not there has to be attraction, even when I was a lot younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t get aroused with someone I’m not physically attracted to. In my head I’m saying “no”. My body follows that accordingly. The little fella stays hidden away.

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

So... if I'm having a wank does that mean I'm attracted to myself?

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Only ever got intimate with someone I am attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not many people talk about physically attractive people who there’s no spark with (for whatever reason). I’ve been in that situation and no amount of good looks can get me through it.

For me, if I like someone and they like me, then I find them physically attractive too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, my cock gets hard whenever it pleases. For any reason or no reason. It's the choices after it's hard that matters.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Male professional service providers will often have to perform with people who don't do it for them. This includes straight men who do gay porn

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By *igDave8Man
over a year ago

Tonbridge

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"

Can get hard and perform just from horny situations. Don’t need to be attracted to get hard at all. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can get hard from a horny situation with limited attraction. But there is a limit. If I'm disgusted it ain't happening."
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I’m the very same

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

"So, those amongst us with a cock.

Can you get hard and stay hard if you're not attracted to the person you are with?

Is it "any holes a goal" or do you need to fancy them?

I'm asking for research purposes!!"

I wouldn't be with someone I didn't find attractive

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Why would I be with someone I'm not attracted to.

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