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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thoughts on this

I would be one that sends a request with a message saying I've done so and if the profile wants to have a quick look at all my profile 1st instead of just what I want them to see before making a decision.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts on this

I would be one that sends a request with a message saying I've done so and if the profile wants to have a quick look at all my profile 1st instead of just what I want them to see before making a decision.

"

Are you saying your first message to people is along the lines of "I've sent you a friend request, have a look at my profile and see what you think"....?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thoughts on this

I would be one that sends a request with a message saying I've done so and if the profile wants to have a quick look at all my profile 1st instead of just what I want them to see before making a decision.

Are you saying your first message to people is along the lines of "I've sent you a friend request, have a look at my profile and see what you think"....?"

Yeah that idea

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Why not just send them a photo you want them to see in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat


"Why not just send them a photo you want them to see in the first place?"

This man knows the score

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts on this

I would be one that sends a request with a message saying I've done so and if the profile wants to have a quick look at all my profile 1st instead of just what I want them to see before making a decision.

Are you saying your first message to people is along the lines of "I've sent you a friend request, have a look at my profile and see what you think"....?

Yeah that idea "

Why though? You have a face pic visible, what's the need for a friend request?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I'd think "No thanks mate" and delete the message. Probably leave the friend request hanging so I don't have to delete it multiple times.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I delete without hesitation.

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

Delete and block

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why not just send them a photo you want them to see in the first place?"

I do , that's what I mean , I could send what I think is my best pictures , but after chatting a while you add as friend and photos they haven't seen puts them off .rather see the lot and then it's up to them

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Ooph. Tough crowd tonight, OP.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Friend request with a first message ? I would delete as they just want to see my other photos.

For me friends are people I want to meet or have already met, not for strangers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for us, we would delete straight away. Our friends list is for actual friends only.

Pxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't add people to my friends list who I don't know, espically not after one message.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

No point. Can see a face pic. I'm only friends with people I've met or plan on meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts on this

I would be one that sends a request with a message saying I've done so and if the profile wants to have a quick look at all my profile 1st instead of just what I want them to see before making a decision.

Are you saying your first message to people is along the lines of "I've sent you a friend request, have a look at my profile and see what you think"....?

Yeah that idea "

Speaking from my own personal point of view, I'd delete bother message and the friend request without replying. Accepting the friend request would also give you instant access to my friends-only pics/vids. They're friends-only for a reason - I only want people I'm comfortable with seeing them

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Na I'd rather get to know them and see where it leads and maybe meet up depending how the conversation is going obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's too full-on.

Like the guy in a bar who fully invades your space when trying out their pick-up line. Eh, back the truck up mate.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I leave friend requests if I don’t want to accept them then it means they can’t be resent again at a later date

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Uncool bro, friends requests straight away are only ok through threads dedicated to that or if it's says they accept them in bio

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I leave friend requests if I don’t want to accept them then it means they can’t be resent again at a later date "

You wait until they go offline and have a peek then block

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

Anyone sending me a friend request without messaging me first gets blocked

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

My dear fellow, sending a polite and hand-crafted, articulately polished message will •probably• open a few doors...

...sending a friend request will abruptly close them with a deafening sound.

Just.

Don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My dear fellow, sending a polite and hand-crafted, articulately polished message will •probably• open a few doors...

...sending a friend request will abruptly close them with a deafening sound.

Just.

Don't."

Give this man a prize!

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands


"My dear fellow, sending a polite and hand-crafted, articulately polished message will •probably• open a few doors...

...sending a friend request will abruptly close them with a deafening sound.

Just.

Don't."

No way I could have put this any better, I hate random friend requests I don't even look at them I just bulk delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Uncool bro, friends requests straight away are only ok through threads dedicated to that or if it's says they accept them in bio "

This.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

We’ve had several friend requests without the person(s) even chatting to us in at all we either leave them alone and don’t respond or just block. It’s the lack of manners thing for us.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"My dear fellow, sending a polite and hand-crafted, articulately polished message will •probably• open a few doors...

...sending a friend request will abruptly close them with a deafening sound.

Just.

Don't."

^^ this. Every goddamn time

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

We can already see profile text and public photos of people who message us.

I don't want to check out private photos until I'm interested in someone.

If they want me to see their face they can attach a pic to a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All friends requests without previous chat bulk deleted.

No-one’s perving on our friends pics without a bit of effort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just wow

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

In the words of the Cybermen.... Delete

XX

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"I'd think "No thanks mate" and delete the message. Probably leave the friend request hanging so I don't have to delete it multiple times."

This is THE lesson to learn on fab! Every woman does this! No exceptions!

I can verify that as, during Covid, I sent out 350,000 frriend requests to different women on this site who I had previously never contacted. You know the theory that if you chuck enough paint at a wall, some will stick! Well, it didn’t! Only one replied to me and only to complain that I’d accidentally sent her two friend requests both of which she took great pains to tell me she’d deleted for pure pleasure!

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Of course, I might have been successful with the 350,001st but I’m sorry, I just couldn’t be arsed anymore! Only so much rejection a guy can take, right!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My dear fellow, sending a polite and hand-crafted, articulately polished message will •probably• open a few doors...

...sending a friend request will abruptly close them with a deafening sound.

Just.

Don't."

This was always my way before but with little return. I've attached a friend request to my messages for a few months now and had more replies than before, I think curiosity plays a part as well.

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

Someone who sends me a friends request at first message is just left hanging. I think they just want to see my friends pics. They’re not there for any old randoms to see, if they were, they’d be public.

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By *r and Mrs minionCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

What gets me is the ones that don't like any photos or makes and conversation and then ask if you have any other way of talking outside of fab ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone who sends me a friends request at first message is just left hanging. I think they just want to see my friends pics. They’re not there for any old randoms to see, if they were, they’d be public. "

This is why I don't bother with keeping friend's pics. If I get to the point of sharing anything more than my public pics I'll be MUCH better acquainted and chatting with them off fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clue is in the name. Can’t understand that ya hit boundary issues.

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By *a_fun_30_coupleCouple
over a year ago

leeds

We’d delete and block straight away. No exceptions.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We have over 200 pics people can see…we still get messages asking us to be friends from people with no pics, so basically wanting to see all our others

Why yes of course Ken…have them all

We never delete as they can’t send you another one then.

Not sure why anyone would accept a friends request from a random - clue is there!

K

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

It’s a block and delete if anyone sends us a friends request without asking first x

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham


"We have over 200 pics people can see…we still get messages asking us to be friends from people with no pics, so basically wanting to see all our others

Why yes of course Ken…have them all

We never delete as they can’t send you another one then.

Not sure why anyone would accept a friends request from a random - clue is there!

K"

Most likely photo hunters.

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get sent any anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They get deleted and the user blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They get deleted and the user blocked "

*sends one*

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"I don't add people to my friends list who I don't know, espically not after one message. "

same

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd also delete

It looks more like you want to see my pics without making much of an effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They get deleted and the user blocked

*sends one*"

Good luck lol you're out with my age filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They get deleted and the user blocked

*sends one*

Good luck lol you're out with my age filter "

Can I still get blocked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They get deleted and the user blocked

*sends one*

Good luck lol you're out with my age filter

Can I still get blocked? "

You could but I won't. I'm nice that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts on this

I would be one that sends a request with a message saying I've done so and if the profile wants to have a quick look at all my profile 1st instead of just what I want them to see before making a decision.

"

Seems like a good idea to me. I swear some people are just obtuse on purpose.

It's easy enough to wait till you're offline, accept the request, check your Friend pics and delete the Friend link so you can't see theirs.

It's much better than just sending a Friend request without ever chatting first.

You will know if they are interested when they message you... or if they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They get deleted and the user blocked

*sends one*

Good luck lol you're out with my age filter

Can I still get blocked?

You could but I won't. I'm nice that way "

Awwww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts on this

I would be one that sends a request with a message saying I've done so and if the profile wants to have a quick look at all my profile 1st instead of just what I want them to see before making a decision.

"

So you just send friend requests without reading profiles or sending a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let it sit there watch till they go off line

Once they do accept and browse they friends only stuff and then remove it

They will never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts on this

I would be one that sends a request with a message saying I've done so and if the profile wants to have a quick look at all my profile 1st instead of just what I want them to see before making a decision.

Are you saying your first message to people is along the lines of "I've sent you a friend request, have a look at my profile and see what you think"....?

Yeah that idea "

I'd just delete the message and the request

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"They get deleted and the user blocked

*sends one*

Good luck lol you're out with my age filter

Can I still get blocked? "

Oh man, seriously? Kittykat’s hot! If she blocked me I’d probably cry!

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yep as many others have said, I’d just delete the request and their message and/or block.

I’m not interested in seeing someone else’s ‘friends only’ pics. If they didn’t have a few decent public pics, I wouldn’t respond to them anyways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NEVER friend request off the bat. Women will just delete you straight away.

Message them and attach pictures of your face and body (non-fully nude preferably).

They will friend request you if they're interested. Women don't play hard to get with somebody they genuinely like.

Let them make the move. Don't be pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They get deleted and the user blocked

*sends one*

Good luck lol you're out with my age filter

Can I still get blocked?

Oh man, seriously? Kittykat’s hot! If she blocked me I’d probably cry! "

Each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep as many others have said, I’d just delete the request and their message and/or block.

I’m not interested in seeing someone else’s ‘friends only’ pics. If they didn’t have a few decent public pics, I wouldn’t respond to them anyways. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you all block me please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you all block me please "

I can

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd delete and block, don't accept friends requests unless we've chatted to someone.

There's enough pics to perve on in public to know if anyone's interested.

Mrs

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Hell even I’ve blocked women who randomly send requests straight away

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By *red333Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I would assume they just wanted to look at my friends only pics and ignore

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Can you all block me please "

No

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"Thoughts on this

I would be one that sends a request with a message saying I've done so and if the profile wants to have a quick look at all my profile 1st instead of just what I want them to see before making a decision.

Erm.. No!

We won't accept any unsolicited friend requests at all.

"

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Jesus OP

I could be chatting for days even weeks sometimes before the Topic of becoming friends is discussed, Face pics are traded early and it may taje off from there,

but an instant,, heyhoooo there neighbour can i be your friend msg must be going down like a lead balloon for you on here my man,,

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