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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan

When you dont want to carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop, carry on, or do something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The start of all the best music, the best art, the best theatre. Heart break is heart make. It distils the very best in us.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you feeling bad, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you dont want to carry on "

If you are writing this I am sure you have a little fight left in you...?

Whats up?

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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan

tired of fighting

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

What/who are you fighting?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

What's going on OP? x

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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan

the loss of person that ment the world 2 me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you dont want to carry on "

Give yourself time and space, be selfish and do the little things that you enjoy

It does get easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've all been there at some point OP...stiffen that back and step forward into the world like you're bulletproof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the loss of person that ment the world 2 me "

Ah. Tough. Do you want to tell us more? Get it out?

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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan

i been fighting to long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the majority of us have all been there OP… we’re here to talk if you need to

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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan

i am a good talker but it does not ease the pain i am goint tru

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"the loss of person that ment the world 2 me "

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

I tend to find that when I feel like I can't carry on, I ultimately do. I may have to take a break and pause, but after a while part of me is ready to remember that there is something out there "bigger" than me (whatever that may be). And I may get 6 months or a yeah down the road then I look back and go, "Oh, looks like I *did* carry on."

But for now, nothing wrong with taking a break.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

When you are here, posting, you know deep down you still have fight in you.

Loss of a loved one is the hardest thing,but you know they want you to move forward.

You can do that in your own time, and at your own speed, but move forward you will.

We are all here to talk if you need us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i am a good talker but it does not ease the pain i am goint tru"

Accepting the loss is a painful exercise. I don't know what to suggest not knowing much..

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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan

no one can say anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no one can say anything"

Then let's just sit together. Keep a safe space where its OK to give up for a moment. As long as it is just a pause before next round.

Would your special person want you to throw a white towel in a ring?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"The start of all the best music, the best art, the best theatre. Heart break is heart make. It distils the very best in us. "

So positive and so true

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It's horrible to loose someone and it can feel like you don't want to fight anymore, but it will get easier with time much easier and is worth plodding along for.

Sending hugs op

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have anyone around you in real life for support? Anyone you can meet and have a chat with? Someone who will listen?

I recently lost someone who meant the world to me. And it has taken a huge toll on my mental health. I have never in my life cried so much or felt so broken with such little hope for what comes next. It's times like these you need support. So if there's anyone around you, reach out to them. If not, contact your GP and open up about how you're feeling and see if there's any support. And it's good to chat away here too.

What you're feeling is completely normal when someone is gone from your life. And it sucks, and it will hurt and be a long journey until you feel like yourself again. But stay strong, let yourself feel how you feel and try and find just one reason to smile. If you can't do that, hold on. I know it will get better someday. You need to give yourself time and know it is OK to feel how you feel. You will heal when you are ready.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time will heal your broken heart dude.

It sounds incredibly oversimplified but that’s because it’s what you do with that time that really makes a difference.

Go to the cinema, go see a band play live, listen to the music that you enjoy, surround yourself with loved ones and remember you are never truly alone and are worthy of love and care.

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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan

i have no interest in nothing no more its 2 months now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have no interest in nothing no more its 2 months now "

One thing that I did when I lost someone I loved was go on dates with myself. When you are in a relationship it’s easy for us to lose parts of our identity and when you are removed from said relationship then it’s really important to sit with your feelings, process them in a healthy way and start reconnecting with that parts of yourself that you loss.

It’s never a good idea to fixate on how much time has passed because everyone grieves differently xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been where you are Op after losing my Dad and partner within 6months of each other and when I look back I really don't know how I got through it but I did and so will you,take each day at a time the loss never goes away but you do learn to live without them ,hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have no interest in nothing no more its 2 months now "

Have you seeked any support at all? X

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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan

yes i am on antidepression tablets but even my pyhchitrest says its broken hearted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this loss someone who has passed or a relationship that has ended? I only ask as the way forward can differ.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes i am on antidepression tablets but even my pyhchitrest says its broken hearted "

As in actual cardio condition called broken heart syndrome? Or just acknowledging the root of your depression. Antidepressants take a while to kick in. If it's been 2 months on them you should start feeling a difference about now. Sometime the SSRI type made things bit worse to start with but it can settle. I don't think medicating itself is the answer to anything. You need other coping tools and perhaps a therapy. Or grief support? Hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes i am on antidepression tablets but even my pyhchitrest says its broken hearted "

So you're speaking with someone then? At least you've taken steps. I second with Miles has said, if this isn't working let them know so they can look at alternative ways to help.

Two months is still early days too. So don't feel like you should be over it by now. I'm sorry you're feeling so crappy, but there will come a time you won't feel as bad as this.

What about meeting up with friends or finding a new hobby to meet new people and keep you busy? It might help to take your mind away from it sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you dont want to carry on "

Go to the gym, lift weights, meet friends, buy a new outfit... do anything to carry on my friend. Time is the best healer.

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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan

thank you people for trying

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

It hurts like fuck , OP,but one day the hurt does lessen and life goes on.

Just takes time. But yes its hard to believe that when its new and raw.

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By *asygoing-87Man
over a year ago

Southend

I know how you feel, I just try to keep busy which takes my mind off of things I don't want to think about

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