FabSwingers.com forum: Can’t find anyone to meet me

By *opscaff8 OP Man
over a year ago

royston

Please help me out I can’t find anyone to chat with me to even plan to meet up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please help me out I can’t find anyone to chat with me to even plan to meet up "

Work on your profile text....you want to try "new things"......ok, such as...? Tell people what you're looking for, and what you're offering......sell yourself better.

And if that fails, try posting a photo of your cock next to a can of Lynx so everyone can see how big it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the puts off are:

1. Snap chat filtered photos

2. The tongues out photos

3. Your bio is short and unimaginative

4. You like spontaneous meets. Not saying it’s wrong and it’s appealing to some but suggests fuck and go

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'd say your profile looks more like a teens than a adults, it's really not going to help

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Where have you been to chat to or meet others?

If you've remained sat on your arse using nothing but messages then you've hardly made any effort at all.

I want to see Slipknot play live. I'm going to a festival to see Slipknot play live coz the chance of them turning up to play a private gig in my living room just because that's what I want is zero.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

First pic is odd, and can't stand a tongue out photo!

Also, why does it matter that you're divorced?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where have you been to chat to or meet others?

If you've remained sat on your arse using nothing but messages then you've hardly made any effort at all.

I want to see Slipknot play live. I'm going to a festival to see Slipknot play live coz the chance of them turning up to play a private gig in my living room just because that's what I want is zero."

You mean they cancelled...bastards I gave them you address and £5000 !!!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Where have you been to chat to or meet others?

If you've remained sat on your arse using nothing but messages then you've hardly made any effort at all.

I want to see Slipknot play live. I'm going to a festival to see Slipknot play live coz the chance of them turning up to play a private gig in my living room just because that's what I want is zero.

You mean they cancelled...bastards I gave them you address and £5000 !!!"

Damn sharks!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I like your photo with soap all over your face, it shows a bit of a sense of fun.

It can be really difficult for single men. People sometimes suggest clubs but I'd find that pretty daunting as a single. How about chatting more in the forum to see if you can make some connections that way?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I just fabbed your 23-Aug pic , hope it helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lose the tongue out pics…

Tell folk what you’ve tried and want to try again…and what is on your fucket list….

My profile isn’t perfect but they’re always a work in progress … as your experiences grow…

Have you chatted in cam rooms?

Get involved in forum threads …good way to spot profiles that catch your eye…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like your photo with soap all over your face, it shows a bit of a sense of fun.

I agree with the soap pic, shows a bit of personality.

I've made most of my connections on here through the forums. And, although I haven't met most of the people I've chatted to, I've had some right good banter, both in the forum's and private messaging.

Blokes are outnumbered on this site by god knows how many to one, make yourself stand out

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I'll wind my neck in, or else I'll get us blocked by another mod for no apparent reason

- Xeno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll wind my neck in, or else I'll get us blocked by another mod for no apparent reason

- Xeno"

Why would you be blocked?

He’s asked for opinions / advice and you’ve given it….

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By *wimmingbadgerMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Where have you been to chat to or meet others?

If you've remained sat on your arse using nothing but messages then you've hardly made any effort at all.

I want to see Slipknot play live. I'm going to a festival to see Slipknot play live coz the chance of them turning up to play a private gig in my living room just because that's what I want is zero."
Have you asked them though?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"I'll wind my neck in, or else I'll get us blocked by another mod for no apparent reason

- Xeno

Why would you be blocked?

He’s asked for opinions / advice and you’ve given it…."

It wasn't my intention to come across as mean, it's hard through simple text sometimes

I've no idea, we've been blocked by one before after having absolutely no interaction. I thought that would be against the rules

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'll wind my neck in, or else I'll get us blocked by another mod for no apparent reason

- Xeno"

You'll always be given a reason and if you disagree you can query it

It is against forum rules to publicly dispute a ban though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'll wind my neck in, or else I'll get us blocked by another mod for no apparent reason

- Xeno

Why would you be blocked?

He’s asked for opinions / advice and you’ve given it….

It wasn't my intention to come across as mean, it's hard through simple text sometimes

I've no idea, we've been blocked by one before after having absolutely no interaction. I thought that would be against the rules"

Do you mean a mod blocked you or banned you?

It's not against the rules for mods to block people we use fab privately too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want to see Slipknot play live. I'm going to a festival to see Slipknot play live coz the chance of them turning up to play a private gig in my living room just because that's what I want is zero."

If, by some miracle, Slipknot come and play in your living room, could I come? I know that might mean it is no longer private, but...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like your soapy pic! Maybe chat more in the forums but I'm fairly sure that most people on the forum only flirt, not meet.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like your soapy pic! Maybe chat more in the forums but I'm fairly sure that most people on the forum only flirt, not meet.

Good luck.

They only flirt…no way… I didn’t know that..I’m out of here

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"I'll wind my neck in, or else I'll get us blocked by another mod for no apparent reason

- Xeno

Why would you be blocked?

He’s asked for opinions / advice and you’ve given it….

It wasn't my intention to come across as mean, it's hard through simple text sometimes

I've no idea, we've been blocked by one before after having absolutely no interaction. I thought that would be against the rules

Do you mean a mod blocked you or banned you?

It's not against the rules for mods to block people we use fab privately too"

Blocked. Fair enough, glad that's cleared up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try smiling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've fabbed the pics I like - the soap one is great.

I know I'm the opposite of what you're looking for so ignore if you like but the writing on your profile - I think it's basically good, shows honesty and portrays you as a real person, but needs tweaking a little, as I feel, if I was thinking about taking you up on the offer, I would be the one doing all the work. Maybe add something along the lines of 'until I come out of my shell'

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Please help me out I can’t find anyone to chat with me to even plan to meet up "

You're out of practice at what

Talking or sex

Cos your blurb isn't clear ...and worrying!

Your photos perhaps don't really show you off..

I was surprised to read your age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was surprised to read your age

yes me too

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

All of your pics have really bad lighting. The bio doesn't tell us anything useful

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

I was surprised to read your age

yes me too"
try having a shave, your current pics make me look young...sorry if that sounds harsh.

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By *idsguySY1Man
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Harsh but in my opinion true -

1, Maybe post your real age.

2, Re-write the bio, lose the desperation.

3, lose the tongue out photo.

Just a question, why has it taken 7 months to not even have a meet?

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

I'd say a bit more work on text..no problems with photos..at least you're showing your face which is more than a lot of the male profiles on here..

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By *amagustaMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Get a whore, and take some pictures while fucking/licking her and put on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please help me out I can’t find anyone to chat with me to even plan to meet up "

Chat in the forums?

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"I like your soapy pic! Maybe chat more in the forums but I'm fairly sure that most people on the forum only flirt, not meet.

Good luck.

This is good advice - I'm fairly new (a few months in) but all my actual and planned meets have been with people I've come to know via the Forum. You get a broader picture of what people are like in the moment, and, to the extent that it is possible, build up something of a relationship.

Do get phone numbers/social messaging service details, too. If your ONLY interaction is via Fab, again, you are not building up a picture of the person, making it easier for you both to be disappointed/bail out, etc.

Also, some of us Forumites flirt, meet, then - amazingly - carry on flirting afterwards, as if we actually like each other or some sick nonsense like that.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Get a whore, and take some pictures while fucking/licking her and put on your profile."

Congratulations. The worst advice I've ever read, amid stiff competition.

You win my coveted Golden Raised Eyebrow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can anybody find meeeee, somebody for my penis to loveeee

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"Congratulations. The worst advice I've ever read, amid stiff competition.

You win my coveted Golden Raised Eyebrow!"

Agreed. I wouldn't take advice from someone who hasn't even got a profile pic OP.

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

"Congratulations. The worst advice I've ever read, amid stiff competition.

You win my coveted Golden Raised Eyebrow!

Agreed. I wouldn't take advice from someone who hasn't even got a profile pic OP."

Agreed, and you look great in green ??

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Get a whore, and take some pictures while fucking/licking her and put on your profile."

What a horrible thing to say

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

"Get a whore, and take some pictures while fucking/licking her and put on your profile.

What a horrible thing to say

Wow that’s all

The forum never ceases to amaze

What goes through people’s heads

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"Agreed, and you look great in green ?? "

I got a new lingerie delivery yesterday, and it was green - there are pics on our profile. I like to think I look good in green but the question marks have me wondering now

Mrs

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

"Agreed, and you look great in green ??

I got a new lingerie delivery yesterday, and it was green - there are pics on our profile. I like to think I look good in green but the question marks have me wondering now

Mrs"

My guess it was a “non fab” emoji that caused the ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please help me out I can’t find anyone to chat with me to even plan to meet up "

Join some (non adult) social groups and get used to talking to people, I did. Look up some social anxiety videos on youtube.

Take some pics of you in town enjoying yourself. Never take pics with the camera lower than your nose and have the light in front of you, it'll makbe make you look 10 years younger. Shave that beard off and and it could be 20 years younger, dress to impress!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Get a whore, and take some pictures while fucking/licking her and put on your profile.

What a horrible thing to say

Wow that’s all

The forum never ceases to amaze

What goes through people’s heads"

Am I the only person who took that post as standard forum sarcasm?

OP, you're not selling yourself well. There's nothing positive in your profile text to draw people in and while your photos do show some personality they're all of a kind and variety is generally appreciated. Remember women on here get 100+ messages a day from men so if you don't stand out in a good way you're unlikely to have much success.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Your profile reads like you're looking to date, not sure this is the right place for you OP

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"My guess it was a “non fab” emoji that caused the ?? "

Ah, thank you for explaining. I deleted the status update so I don't cause any more confusion (that turns out not to be confusion).

Mrs

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Take a look at other guys profiles text, most of the male forum users have decent bios, that state out who they are what they want and they type of person they are looking for and so on.

Try to show who you are, on here it's very true the a picture can say a thousand words so try to be imaginative

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Get a whore, and take some pictures while fucking/licking her and put on your profile."

11.25 and this isn't my first WTAF post of the day.

To the OP, having read your biog I'm not sure a swingers site is the right vehicle for what you appear to be looking for.

There's an emotional sadness in your biog, like somethings missing.

It's not the worst profile biog I've read, nor the worst pics.

You've explained why you're single at your age, many men don't which leads to suspicions they're cheating. The sincerity and honesty is a plus.

You seem like a decent chap, join in with the forum chat, let people see your personality and I'm sure a social over a coffee will come your way.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a whore, and take some pictures while fucking/licking her and put on your profile."

Loads of single men do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try smiling in a photo

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By *heKinkExplorerMan
over a year ago

leicester

If i were you, id get to some of the swinger clubs and just say hi to people and get chatting, get some verifications just from that and itll help out tremendously

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