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Do you usually find you make the first move?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sister thread here to my other one.

Are you usually the one making the first move?! I love women making the first move but usually give in myself first to the tension.

But how about YOU

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know anyone called "YOU" but I'm guessing he still has more joy than "ME"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sister thread here to my other one."

Massive family, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sister thread here to my other one.

Massive family, isn't it?"

They will all be in bed together before the day is out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do if I'm really interested in someone but women don't really have to, just the way this lifestyle is.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I like to build that frustration game, almost like sexual harassment chicken, and I don't like to lose, so usually the other party breaks and initiates. I'm not opposed to initiating sometimes though.

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
over a year ago

Durham

My sex life’s like a shadowless horse and always end up being Dr. Strange with powered keg legs.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

I have no shame, I jump them first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am awful at making the first move, so much so I have missed out on lots of fun.

I like it if someone else makes a big hint or makes first move, from there I am good to go and very happy to lead just need that obvious green light I guess.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Never in my life, no. Which is utterly feeble, I know, but there it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Given many woman claim to make first move it confirms the main reason why my inbox is empty...fuck, Fab is great for confidence building!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope and I really think I'm going to change this

Old fashioned values are hard to break but what's the worst that can happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope and I really think I'm going to change this

Old fashioned values are hard to break but what's the worst that can happen "

You saying no to guy getting in his car!!

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Yes. I like to make the first move.

But then chess is my favourite game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope and I really think I'm going to change this

Old fashioned values are hard to break but what's the worst that can happen

You saying no to guy getting in his car!! "

Hahaha if that certain guy had been serious then I would have jumped at it and jumped on him

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

I’m usually up front if I’m wanting to fuck someone. By the time my life allows for it to happen there’s an almost desperation. It’s often a mutual pounce but I’m not going to wait around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope and I really think I'm going to change this

Old fashioned values are hard to break but what's the worst that can happen

You saying no to guy getting in his car!!

Hahaha if that certain guy had been serious then I would have jumped at it and jumped on him "

Confident you shoulda called his bluff to see him in the buff

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Convention dictates, I do.

However, I occasionally enjoy teasing in person until I can make the woman give in to desires

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the spark is there, I have no qualms whatsoever in making the first move

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No it's equal parts, when the eye to eye contact lingers, snogging follows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, but I'm not afraid to make the first move when I like someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

It totally depends on the person. I’m sooooo so different with different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really make the first move at all because (and this isn't a plea for pity or compliments) sexually, I think I have quite low self esteem so feel as though if they were really interested, they would make the first move as it's the only sure way of knowing they would be interested. Although I realise I need to do it more as I'll probably end up missing out on more opportunities by not saying anything and giving off a vibe that I'm not interested when I really am by downplaying any flirtiness or advances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would. I have. I hate the thought of a missed connection.

I really like to be woo'ed though so a guy taking the lead is still my preference.

I like the anticipation, the excitement and thrill of being pursued.

Doing the woo'ing can be a turn on for me though, the thrill of exposure when putting myself out on a limb is exhilarating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really make the first move at all because (and this isn't a plea for pity or compliments) sexually, I think I have quite low self esteem so feel as though if they were really interested, they would make the first move as it's the only sure way of knowing they would be interested. Although I realise I need to do it more as I'll probably end up missing out on more opportunities by not saying anything and giving off a vibe that I'm not interested when I really am by downplaying any flirtiness or advances."

I subscribe to this...same reasons I don't make the first move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really make the first move at all because (and this isn't a plea for pity or compliments) sexually, I think I have quite low self esteem so feel as though if they were really interested, they would make the first move as it's the only sure way of knowing they would be interested. Although I realise I need to do it more as I'll probably end up missing out on more opportunities by not saying anything and giving off a vibe that I'm not interested when I really am by downplaying any flirtiness or advances."

This was me a year or two ago.

Then I figured, what would I hate more? The missed connection and all the possibilities and positives from that? Or the momentary awkwardness of a no?

Because I've had a no and given a no since then.

Those I've given haven't been done with any sense of 'omfg this guy!!' cringe so I'll assume any no I've received is equally just one of those things, no chemistry or different life stages. Not a personal cringeworthy ewwww.

Well that's my thinking anyhow and I'm sticking to it

So I say feck it and leap

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

We never do.

Low self esteem and inability to read signals

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By *cott73Man
over a year ago

brighton

Used to as a younger man, but all the knock backs over the years dented the confidence. Never now.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Yes usually but I like it when I'm approached, it's a rare thing

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Sometimes but not as much now!

If I get a wink then sign of interest then yes. Otherwise rarely now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope as I have learnt over the year's that no one likes my body type or fetishes so it would be a pointless escapade

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way meets normally build up for me it gets to the point where my mind is playing out many different scenarios and I give in. Although that said I have been pretty instantly pounced on a few times

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