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Is a suit over dressed for a social?

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone?

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Depends on location and maybe time of day.

But if that's what you feel comfortable in go for it.

We would prefer a guy to make extra effort than non at all turning up in trainer's and scruffy jeans and a fleece.

Mrs make much effort even for a mid morning coffee so yeah wear that.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Not at all. I've often been told i over dress when i go out with friends.

On fab though, I've noticed some women will see it as a turn off if you're suited. Each to their own!

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone? "

Besides many women love the idea of unbuttoning a man's shirt.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

Bloody love a suit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it would be over dressed but I hate wearing suits so you may feel differently. In this weather if going for a coffee, I'd just go for a nice knitted jumper, jeans, and boots

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Depends on where the social is tbf, Costa is good for a casual suit, A cocktail bar is good for a dinner suit.

I love that about the orgainised socials, so much variety in dress, anything goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That suit?

Wear it.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Smart. If you're comfortable, then do it

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Way over the Top OP

There is making the effort (and that is very important in ny book) and there is trying to hard, a suit for a meet in more that likely a bar or cafe,, naaaaaaa,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good suit on a man isn’t a great look.

Said no one. Ever.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No it isn't over dressed. I am always drawn to people who dress nicely. It doesn't need to be a suit it can be jeans and a shirt.

Apart from today when I not well so look like four penn'orth of gawd help us I am probably always over dressed .

My aunt was famously a little bit scruffy, when she died her wardrobe was full of hardly worn lovely clothes she'd been saving for best. Every damn day is 'best'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you will look great, wear the suit.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Where's the harm in dressing nicely and how you feel comfortable. Wish I had the confidence to pull a suit off but they just don't look right on me unfortunately.

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Depends on location and maybe time of day.

But if that's what you feel comfortable in go for it.

We would prefer a guy to make extra effort than non at all turning up in trainer's and scruffy jeans and a fleece.

Mrs make much effort even for a mid morning coffee so yeah wear that. "

I'm talking more social fab events but for a one on one I would probably wear nice jeans a shirt and possibly a nice blazer or suit jacket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a social not long ago and the gentleman in question turned up looking sharp in a suit. Needless to say I was thoroughly impressed

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I love suits on certain men. They look so hot. I quite fancied this doctor the other day as I past him. For me it's a love

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Not at all. I've often been told i over dress when i go out with friends.

On fab though, I've noticed some women will see it as a turn off if you're suited. Each to their own!"

Yeah I don't see how it would be a turn off, can't see a guy finding a woman wearing a dress as a turn off

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

My last fab meet wore a suit....i actually love ties

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

A suit is fine. Perhaps not a morning suit though. Also birthday would be too informal in our view.

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone?

Besides many women love the idea of unbuttoning a man's shirt."

I also like the idea of them unbuttoning me

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Not at all. I've often been told i over dress when i go out with friends.

On fab though, I've noticed some women will see it as a turn off if you're suited. Each to their own!

Yeah I don't see how it would be a turn off, can't see a guy finding a woman wearing a dress as a turn off "

Or women's knickers. I like a man to look like a real man lol

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Bloody love a suit"

I thought you might

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I would say it would be over dressed but I hate wearing suits so you may feel differently. In this weather if going for a coffee, I'd just go for a nice knitted jumper, jeans, and boots "

See I love getting suited, it doesn't happen often

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Wear whatever you feel confident and comfortable with.

Good luck with the social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself a Barbour jacket. Dark jeans. Nice shirt. It’s the Range Rover. Goes everywhere literally, always looks on point, but not dressy.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

If you carry the suited look well, own it

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Wear what the fuck you like OP. And you know perfectly well that looking dapper will catch the attention of all the ladies at your social. You know exactly what you’re doing …

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Depends on where the social is tbf, Costa is good for a casual suit, A cocktail bar is good for a dinner suit.

I love that about the orgainised socials, so much variety in dress, anything goes "

Yes that's what I meant but forgot to mention the organised fab socials

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"That suit?

Wear it."

Yes that one

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone? "

The first time I went to a swingers club waaaaaaay back around 2009ish I wore a suit. No tie, but a nice shirt and a lightweight suit.

Fuck me did I feel overdressed when I walked in and saw people in everything from jeans and t-shirts to not much more than a thong.

But you know what? I stuck out like a sore thumb in a good way. As soon as people knew I was a newbie they realised that I'd tried to put as much effort in as I could in terms of presenting myself and nobody said anything negative at all. It also worked well in attracting the attention I sought. People were welcoming and chatty. I didn't lack conversation, attention or company all night. It was great.

Of course when I went back the following week I lost the jacket but still wore smart trousers and a shirt. People remembered me.

Go for it OP. It's seriously a good idea. Enjoy yourself and have a blast.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone? "

Don't listen. Go with your gut.

Miles turned up looking amazingly smart on our first date, walking through park looking bit overdressed but owning it with amazing confidence

If your date is classy and smart dresser herself, she will only be impressed.

Use the opportunity to cover her trembling of cold shoulders with your jacket.. play with your top button. Show off your forearms rolling up sleeves casually. So much seducing material

Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say it would be over dressed but I hate wearing suits so you may feel differently. In this weather if going for a coffee, I'd just go for a nice knitted jumper, jeans, and boots

See I love getting suited, it doesn't happen often "

That's fair enough, I saw your reply further up about it being for Fan events and in that case, just wear what makes you feel comfortable! I think a suit is fine and may even help you stand out!

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"Get yourself a Barbour jacket. Dark jeans. Nice shirt. It’s the Range Rover. Goes everywhere literally, always looks on point, but not dressy. "

Have you been sneaking a look at my private pics?

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone? "
if you look good in it I'm sure she will appreciate it

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

It's interesting seeing people saying that wearing a suit is too much. It partly depends on what 'your normal' is. I wear a three-piece suit, tie, cufflinks, pocket square, polished black shoes, and sometimes a buttonhole, for work. So anything less than that, for me, is dressing down. For someone who wears more practical clothes for work, a smart pair of chinos might be dressing up.

Surely, OP, if you feel comfortable in it, and look great, then it's right for you? It's a cliché to say it, maybe, but anyone judging you badly for making an effort to look good is not someone you want in your life anyway.

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Smart. If you're comfortable, then do it "

That's what it's all about, I'll probably stand out but that's a good thing I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get yourself a Barbour jacket. Dark jeans. Nice shirt. It’s the Range Rover. Goes everywhere literally, always looks on point, but not dressy.

Have you been sneaking a look at my private pics?"

Answered your own question there clever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate suits. They are for weddings, funerals and court dates and I find none of those things attractive.

For a Fab social wear what makes *you* happy. If you feel confident it will show.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"Answered your own question there clever "

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I love guys in suits without a tie. The best look for guys I think.

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Way over the Top OP

There is making the effort (and that is very important in ny book) and there is trying to hard, a suit for a meet in more that likely a bar or cafe,, naaaaaaa, "

Social event and it's more making an effort than trying too hard

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Yes if its a social in a coffee shop, no if its an evening arrangement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's interesting seeing people saying that wearing a suit is too much. It partly depends on what 'your normal' is. I wear a three-piece suit, tie, cufflinks, pocket square, polished black shoes, and sometimes a buttonhole, for work. So anything less than that, for me, is dressing down. For someone who wears more practical clothes for work, a smart pair of chinos might be dressing up.

Surely, OP, if you feel comfortable in it, and look great, then it's right for you? It's a cliché to say it, maybe, but anyone judging you badly for making an effort to look good is not someone you want in your life anyway.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Love a man in a nice suit! Effort is always good. If you did happen to feel a bit overdressed when you got there, you could just take off the jacket and even roll up your sleeves a bit for a more relaxed look. Good luck

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"A good suit on a man isn’t a great look.

Said no one. Ever. "

That's what I thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love a man in a nice suit! Effort is always good. If you did happen to feel a bit overdressed when you got there, you could just take off the jacket and even roll up your sleeves a bit for a more relaxed look. Good luck "

Just remember to take it off like a Matador’s cape. Shows personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be too overdressed for me, personally, I like the more casual look.

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"Way over the Top OP

There is making the effort (and that is very important in ny book) and there is trying to hard, a suit for a meet in more that likely a bar or cafe,, naaaaaaa,

Social event and it's more making an effort than trying too hard"
we will agree to disagree, good luck with the meet

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"No it isn't over dressed. I am always drawn to people who dress nicely. It doesn't need to be a suit it can be jeans and a shirt.

Apart from today when I not well so look like four penn'orth of gawd help us I am probably always over dressed .

My aunt was famously a little bit scruffy, when she died her wardrobe was full of hardly worn lovely clothes she'd been saving for best. Every damn day is 'best' "

Thank you and I don't see why anyone buys clothes and doesn't wear them, if don't wear then I think they have too many

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I think you will look great, wear the suit. "

Cheers buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone? "

Is it a white shirt? x

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Where's the harm in dressing nicely and how you feel comfortable. Wish I had the confidence to pull a suit off but they just don't look right on me unfortunately. "

It's all about getting the right size and fit for your body

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

If you can, wear a waistcoat. Little says 'smart yet sexy' like a jacket off, open button shirt, waistcoat on*. You've begun the undressing process, but it's a hint, a promise, not a public floorshow.

* I think loosened black or white tie at the end of a formal evening is even more perfect, but that probably WOULD be trying too hard.

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Had a social not long ago and the gentleman in question turned up looking sharp in a suit. Needless to say I was thoroughly impressed "

Good to know, hope it was a nice social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A good suit on a man isn’t a great look.

Said no one. Ever.

That's what I thought"

Add a pocket square (puffed, never folded) for a little playboy flair and colour. No tie. Sorted.

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By *abbit_Lover777Couple
over a year ago

Norwich

Love love love a man in a suit, would be top of my list any day.

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I love suits on certain men. They look so hot. I quite fancied this doctor the other day as I past him. For me it's a love"

I think it's nice to look sharp now and then, you might not have noticed him if in jeans and a tee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do you if it makes you feel comfy

I’m sure you’ll look dapper

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"My last fab meet wore a suit....i actually love ties"

I have ties but I prefer having a couple of buttons open on shirt as it can feel restricted wearing a tie

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"A suit is fine. Perhaps not a morning suit though. Also birthday would be too informal in our view."

If I went out in birthday suit I don't think I'd reach the social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares if your over dressed op if you feel comfortable wearing a suit then go for it,besides alot of women love guys that make an effort myself included

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Not at all. I've often been told i over dress when i go out with friends.

On fab though, I've noticed some women will see it as a turn off if you're suited. Each to their own!

Yeah I don't see how it would be a turn off, can't see a guy finding a woman wearing a dress as a turn off

Or women's knickers. I like a man to look like a real man lol"

I will never wear womens knickers, not for me

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone? "

Be clean, smell fresh, and feel comfortable wearing as smart as you like mate! Just be the best you you can be, as you would if you were going out on the town

Above all; relax! Hope it goes well for you!

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

100% upto you but Mrs4 loves a male in a nice suit or even one who makes a so called effort ?? and not dress like a teenager but rather a grown up adult male and so many times she's made a "Effort " nice dress etc etc only for the male to show up in jeans/traners ??? and of course smelling nice and good to stand out from the crowd and if MR4 dressed like some on our night out's mrs4 would get the full on "Mother" look and the "Really" look on her face xxx

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Wear whatever you feel confident and comfortable with.

Good luck with the social "

Thank you, I'm going to wear it to social event next month

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Get yourself a Barbour jacket. Dark jeans. Nice shirt. It’s the Range Rover. Goes everywhere literally, always looks on point, but not dressy. "

I have a nice blazer to wear with jeans but the jacket I've ordered will look good with jeans as well

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

I wouldn't say it was overdressed, unless you've rented a soft play for adult time maybe?

P

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Wear what the fuck you like OP. And you know perfectly well that looking dapper will catch the attention of all the ladies at your social. You know exactly what you’re doing …"

This may be my motive but don't tell anyone

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Depends on location and maybe time of day.

But if that's what you feel comfortable in go for it.

We would prefer a guy to make extra effort than non at all turning up in trainer's and scruffy jeans and a fleece.

Mrs make much effort even for a mid morning coffee so yeah wear that.

I'm talking more social fab events but for a one on one I would probably wear nice jeans a shirt and possibly a nice blazer or suit jacket "

Mr KC wears his suit for the Fab socials we've been too. He was complimented and no-one seemed off-put by it. Wear your suit

PS: if it's a social at Costa or the cinema, then a suit MIGHT be a bit much

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone?

The first time I went to a swingers club waaaaaaay back around 2009ish I wore a suit. No tie, but a nice shirt and a lightweight suit.

Fuck me did I feel overdressed when I walked in and saw people in everything from jeans and t-shirts to not much more than a thong.

But you know what? I stuck out like a sore thumb in a good way. As soon as people knew I was a newbie they realised that I'd tried to put as much effort in as I could in terms of presenting myself and nobody said anything negative at all. It also worked well in attracting the attention I sought. People were welcoming and chatty. I didn't lack conversation, attention or company all night. It was great.

Of course when I went back the following week I lost the jacket but still wore smart trousers and a shirt. People remembered me.

Go for it OP. It's seriously a good idea. Enjoy yourself and have a blast.

A"

That's what I like to hear

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone?

Don't listen. Go with your gut.

Miles turned up looking amazingly smart on our first date, walking through park looking bit overdressed but owning it with amazing confidence

If your date is classy and smart dresser herself, she will only be impressed.

Use the opportunity to cover her trembling of cold shoulders with your jacket.. play with your top button. Show off your forearms rolling up sleeves casually. So much seducing material

Enjoy

"

This is my way of thinking and I always roll my sleeves up

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone? if you look good in it I'm sure she will appreciate it "

People can always keep their distance if going to feel awkward because I'm wearing a suit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it, as others have said, if you feel comfortable in doing so. I wouldn't say it would be over dressed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone?

Don't listen. Go with your gut.

Miles turned up looking amazingly smart on our first date, walking through park looking bit overdressed but owning it with amazing confidence

If your date is classy and smart dresser herself, she will only be impressed.

Use the opportunity to cover her trembling of cold shoulders with your jacket.. play with your top button. Show off your forearms rolling up sleeves casually. So much seducing material

Enjoy

This is my way of thinking and I always roll my sleeves up "

Fab! You have great veins to show off

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"It's interesting seeing people saying that wearing a suit is too much. It partly depends on what 'your normal' is. I wear a three-piece suit, tie, cufflinks, pocket square, polished black shoes, and sometimes a buttonhole, for work. So anything less than that, for me, is dressing down. For someone who wears more practical clothes for work, a smart pair of chinos might be dressing up.

Surely, OP, if you feel comfortable in it, and look great, then it's right for you? It's a cliché to say it, maybe, but anyone judging you badly for making an effort to look good is not someone you want in your life anyway.

"

Exactly, I rarely dress up so I like doing it when I get the opportunity

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over a year ago


"Had a social not long ago and the gentleman in question turned up looking sharp in a suit. Needless to say I was thoroughly impressed

Good to know, hope it was a nice social "

It was a very lovely one, thanks! Needless to say, I was awfully underdressed though, so make sure that if it’s a one to one meet, a suit is appropriate for the venue chosen, to avoid making the other person self-conscious about their fashion choices

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Yes if its a social in a coffee shop, no if its an evening arrangement. "

Yeah I wouldn't do it for coffee but out at social event or for a evening meal yes

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Love a man in a nice suit! Effort is always good. If you did happen to feel a bit overdressed when you got there, you could just take off the jacket and even roll up your sleeves a bit for a more relaxed look. Good luck "

Exactly what I was thinking

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

Wear. The. Suit.

LA

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Where are you meeting? If it's a Costa you might look out of place, depending on the suit material and style.

If she's in a skirt, blouse and heels people might assume you work together and are grabbing a coffee.

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone?

Is it a white shirt? x "

Yes it is, I'm happy to wear it for you when we meet

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Would be too overdressed for me, personally, I like the more casual look."

That's noted for if we meet

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone? "

Dress however you feel comfortable lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a social not long ago and the gentleman in question turned up looking sharp in a suit. Needless to say I was thoroughly impressed

Good to know, hope it was a nice social

It was a very lovely one, thanks! Needless to say, I was awfully underdressed though, so make sure that if it’s a one to one meet, a suit is appropriate for the venue chosen, to avoid making the other person self-conscious about their fashion choices "

For sure, suits = happy horny me.

But it's a 5star courtesy to give the lady a cue like 'I'll be straight from work, hope you like a suited guy " or something flirty to whet the appetite.

Knowing the time and venue won't always tell her the dresscode to not feel under/over dressed.

Be that guy and she'll be halfway turned on not fretting over a fauxpas

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By *arkhorse12345Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I luv wearing suit..however lockers may not be big and clean enough in case you want to get in action later

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"If you can, wear a waistcoat. Little says 'smart yet sexy' like a jacket off, open button shirt, waistcoat on*. You've begun the undressing process, but it's a hint, a promise, not a public floorshow.

* I think loosened black or white tie at the end of a formal evening is even more perfect, but that probably WOULD be trying too hard. "

I do have a group of friends that say I should get a waistcoat for when I take jacket off

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I like to meet wearing my birthday suit

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I like to meet wearing my birthday suit "

How long does it take you to iron it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say wear whatever makes you feel comfortable. If the person you are meeting comments on how you dress, you're meeting the wrong people.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"I like to meet wearing my birthday suit

How long does it take you to iron it?"

It’s amazing what discretely placed clothes pegs can do

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By *ritIndianCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Something very sexy about a suit. If you are comfortable then go for it.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you can, wear a waistcoat. Little says 'smart yet sexy' like a jacket off, open button shirt, waistcoat on*. You've begun the undressing process, but it's a hint, a promise, not a public floorshow.

* I think loosened black or white tie at the end of a formal evening is even more perfect, but that probably WOULD be trying too hard.

I do have a group of friends that say I should get a waistcoat for when I take jacket off "

Yes I support that suggestion

Tones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm talking suit jacket and matching trousers with a nice shirt but no tie?

Mostly I've been told that it's good to make the effort and I don't see it being any different to someone wearing a nice dress.

However one friend has said I would be over dressed as nobody else does it (I've seen guys do it) what's your thoughts everyone?

Don't listen. Go with your gut.

Miles turned up looking amazingly smart on our first date, walking through park looking bit overdressed but owning it with amazing confidence

If your date is classy and smart dresser herself, she will only be impressed.

Use the opportunity to cover her trembling of cold shoulders with your jacket.. play with your top button. Show off your forearms rolling up sleeves casually. So much seducing material

Enjoy

"

Oh, I remember it well. Worked, didn't it?

No, it isn't overkill if you feel confident in it. If that is how you want to present yourself, do it. I've seen three-piece suits with tie and pocket square at an organised Fab social next to those who turned up in a polo shirt and jeans. Neither looked out of place.

Overkill would be white tie and tails, I'd say.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Think it sounds really nice and i think you will know what looks good on you

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By *aturefun63Man
over a year ago

Belper

Wear what you feel comfortable in,personally only wear a suit for weddings and funerals

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'm struggling to keep up replying to everyone now but I've done quite well I think

Only a couple of people have said it's a bit much so I'm happy with that and I would have put it on anyway because I'm a rebel

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

When I went to the Queen's funeral day social at Eureka I wore a smart black dressing gown with a black neck tie.

Plus my trade mark cock ring (should have worn a black one but didn't think of it at the time).

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Anyone who loves wearing suits and thinks we would be compatible, you are more than welcome to wink at me. If i wink back, let's get chatting

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'm struggling to keep up replying to everyone now but I've done quite well I think

Only a couple of people have said it's a bit much so I'm happy with that and I would have put it on anyway because I'm a rebel "

You didn't reply to me but all good! Thanks for sharing a thread about suits. One of my kinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I went to the Queen's funeral day social at Eureka I wore a smart black dressing gown with a black neck tie.

Plus my trade mark cock ring (should have worn a black one but didn't think of it at the time)."

I think she would have appreciated your outfit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it'd be a bit much, but that's just because I prefer a more casual look on men. I want to be the one most dressed up

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'm struggling to keep up replying to everyone now but I've done quite well I think

Only a couple of people have said it's a bit much so I'm happy with that and I would have put it on anyway because I'm a rebel

You didn't reply to me but all good! Thanks for sharing a thread about suits. One of my kinks "

I did, I replied to your comment about the doctor

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'm struggling to keep up replying to everyone now but I've done quite well I think

Only a couple of people have said it's a bit much so I'm happy with that and I would have put it on anyway because I'm a rebel

You didn't reply to me but all good! Thanks for sharing a thread about suits. One of my kinks

I did, I replied to your comment about the doctor "

Sorry it got totally lost in traffic. It's true. Men never noticed me unless i make an effort

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Especially when my hair is down, makeup on, short skirt...i get no end of attention but some days i can't be bothered and get hassled so i dress like a boy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely wear what you feel comfortable in but still look smart. I am more of a smart polo shirt, smart jeans kind of guy. Occasionally a jacket. Though after last night I think shirts are the way forward in a club...

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'm struggling to keep up replying to everyone now but I've done quite well I think

Only a couple of people have said it's a bit much so I'm happy with that and I would have put it on anyway because I'm a rebel

You didn't reply to me but all good! Thanks for sharing a thread about suits. One of my kinks

I did, I replied to your comment about the doctor

Sorry it got totally lost in traffic. It's true. Men never noticed me unless i make an effort"

It's ok and I think it's hard to stand out sometimes, I was going to get a neon sign saying "available"

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Depends where you are going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Way over the Top OP

There is making the effort (and that is very important in ny book) and there is trying to hard, a suit for a meet in more that likely a bar or cafe,, naaaaaaa, "

Have to agree with this, op.

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Especially when my hair is down, makeup on, short skirt...i get no end of attention but some days i can't be bothered and get hassled so i dress like a boy lol"

If it helps give you a break then it's all good

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

It depends on the suit.

Some people look good, and relaxed in a suit.

Others (me) look like it's been dragged out the wardrobe for a funeral or court.

A well fitting suit is wonderful.

Really must get one. Or get fit and be able to wear my current one.

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Way over the Top OP

There is making the effort (and that is very important in ny book) and there is trying to hard, a suit for a meet in more that likely a bar or cafe,, naaaaaaa,

Have to agree with this, op. "

That's probably because you haven't read my replies about it being a social event, not a coffee

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Me me me, reply to me

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Surely wear what you feel comfortable in but still look smart. I am more of a smart polo shirt, smart jeans kind of guy. Occasionally a jacket. Though after last night I think shirts are the way forward in a club..."

Clubs are always jeans and a shirt for me

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope it isn't it just shows that you've made a great effort

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"I like to meet wearing my birthday suit

How long does it take you to iron it?

It’s amazing what discretely placed clothes pegs can do "

A rare instance of that spelling being more or less contextually acceptable, even if probably not intentional!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Would say it's ott myself! If someone turned up in a suit for a social x

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Think it sounds really nice and i think you will know what looks good on you "

Yeah I wouldn't wear a bin bag or a tutu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, it sound's lovely

Pxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Way over the Top OP

There is making the effort (and that is very important in ny book) and there is trying to hard, a suit for a meet in more that likely a bar or cafe,, naaaaaaa,

Have to agree with this, op.

That's probably because you haven't read my replies about it being a social event, not a coffee "

Obvs' go for what you're comfortable in but I'd still say it's a tad overdressed

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"Think it sounds really nice and i think you will know what looks good on you

Yeah I wouldn't wear a bin bag or a tutu "

Well thank goodness for that, Wales isn't ready for you in either i don't think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it makes you feel confident then go for it!. I don’t think it’s over the top.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm struggling to keep up replying to everyone now but I've done quite well I think

Only a couple of people have said it's a bit much so I'm happy with that and I would have put it on anyway because I'm a rebel "

You don’t need to reply to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cannot be over dressed. Where what makes you feel good about yourself. Dress for yourself not others. Xx personally, I love a man in a suit xxx better than jeans any day of the week xx

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Depends on the suit and style.

A cheap ill fitting suit makes you look like your mum has bought it for your first interview.

A nice well fitting suit looks fab.

Try to match it to the season.

A linen suit in January, not so good but in summer, lovely.

Saw a guy in a bar in Liverpool this week with a beautiful t suit, open shirt and nice shoes (very important), he stood apart from the others.

His friend had heavy material pants, plain shirt with a type of knitted button up cardigan, he looked lovely too, again nice boots on.

If you make an effort, comfortable and confident, you've nailed it.

Good luck and have a fabulous night.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I like the nice stylish jackets with a shirt and jeans

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"If it makes you feel confident then go for it!. I don’t think it’s over the top. "

It helps I think

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'm struggling to keep up replying to everyone now but I've done quite well I think

Only a couple of people have said it's a bit much so I'm happy with that and I would have put it on anyway because I'm a rebel

You don’t need to reply to everyone "

I know, I'm just polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on location and maybe time of day.

But if that's what you feel comfortable in go for it.

We would prefer a guy to make extra effort than non at all turning up in trainer's and scruffy jeans and a fleece.

Mrs make much effort even for a mid morning coffee so yeah wear that. "

Same thoughts this end too

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Depends on location and maybe time of day.

But if that's what you feel comfortable in go for it.

We would prefer a guy to make extra effort than non at all turning up in trainer's and scruffy jeans and a fleece.

Mrs make much effort even for a mid morning coffee so yeah wear that. "

I wear dark denim or lightweight trousers maybe a Harris T jacket shirt waistcoat and trilby hat. I like to dress well as I wear a scruffy uniform for my job

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

I was told once it’s better to be overdressed than underdressed but go with whatever you feel comfortable wearing

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"You cannot be over dressed. Where what makes you feel good about yourself. Dress for yourself not others. Xx personally, I love a man in a suit xxx better than jeans any day of the week xx"

I agree for social events, not sure I'd wear one to go for a swim though

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Depends on the suit and style.

A cheap ill fitting suit makes you look like your mum has bought it for your first interview.

A nice well fitting suit looks fab.

Try to match it to the season.

A linen suit in January, not so good but in summer, lovely.

Saw a guy in a bar in Liverpool this week with a beautiful t suit, open shirt and nice shoes (very important), he stood apart from the others.

His friend had heavy material pants, plain shirt with a type of knitted button up cardigan, he looked lovely too, again nice boots on.

If you make an effort, comfortable and confident, you've nailed it.

Good luck and have a fabulous night. "

Yeah the fit is very important

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I like the nice stylish jackets with a shirt and jeans "

Blazers? I have one that I'm wearing in one of my photos with jeans and a shirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was told once it’s better to be overdressed than underdressed but go with whatever you feel comfortable wearing "

Me too! And so agree. Comfort is everything.

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I was told once it’s better to be overdressed than underdressed but go with whatever you feel comfortable wearing "

You can always strip to dress down anyway

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By *ociable-NottmCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I like the nice stylish jackets with a shirt and jeans "

With shoes or trainers?

Mr

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"Depends on the suit and style.

A cheap ill fitting suit makes you look like your mum has bought it for your first interview.

...

"

..or court appearance!

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"I was told once it’s better to be overdressed than underdressed but go with whatever you feel comfortable wearing

You can always strip to dress down anyway "

I like your thinking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How's about a SuitsYouSirSunday photo challenge..... for all-comers not only the gents

Just the jacket...

Belts adrift....

Tucked or shucked....

The options are endless, but very very tasty

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"How's about a SuitsYouSirSunday photo challenge..... for all-comers not only the gents …"

I like the cut of your jib, Ms Flutters. I think you should start that thread yourself one Sunday soon (maybe not tomorrow, there might be a few hangovers on the go).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How's about a SuitsYouSirSunday photo challenge..... for all-comers not only the gents …

I like the cut of your jib, Ms Flutters. I think you should start that thread yourself one Sunday soon (maybe not tomorrow, there might be a few hangovers on the go)."

I just might

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I was told once it’s better to be overdressed than underdressed but go with whatever you feel comfortable wearing

You can always strip to dress down anyway

I like your thinking x"

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"How's about a SuitsYouSirSunday photo challenge..... for all-comers not only the gents

Just the jacket...

Belts adrift....

Tucked or shucked....

The options are endless, but very very tasty "

Sounds like a good idea to me

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Organised socials Marc always normally wears smart shirt and trousers or a suit. Wear what makes you feel good as that's the important thing, I've probably overdressed in the past but I felt good and that's all that matters.

Tinder

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"I like the nice stylish jackets with a shirt and jeans

With shoes or trainers?

Mr"

Shoes. Trainers wouldn’t look right

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

OP, I'm 100+ replies in, so sure this will have been said MANY times before, but for me, this all depends where you're going and what feels natural to you?

I love a suit, but personally probably wouldn't wear one for a social unless I was going somewhere where they might be expected (e.g. a really smart restaurant, but I assume not for an initial Fab social?) or happened to be coming straight from work...

But if you feel good in it, that will shine through, so do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely depends on the choice of social?

If you’re going swimming probably a bit OTT

but if you’re going for a meal somewhere fancy then not at all…..

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By *gainagainMan
over a year ago

pontypridd

You wear whatever you want. It is a reflection of who you are.

Honesty goes a long way in getting to know people, and that is what socials are about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr will usually wear a shirt, smart jacket and jeans, shoes. Nothing wrong with smart at all!! Some people could wear a thousand pound suit and look a mess, others hot looking like they've just got out of bed! For me good clothes give you confidence x

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By *liceinwanderlust101Woman
over a year ago

Cambridge/London


"Anyone who loves wearing suits and thinks we would be compatible, you are more than welcome to wink at me. If i wink back, let's get chatting "

I have someone for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve rocked up to a social in a suit on a few occasions, mainly because I was on the way home from work. Seemed to do the trick though

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Organised socials Marc always normally wears smart shirt and trousers or a suit. Wear what makes you feel good as that's the important thing, I've probably overdressed in the past but I felt good and that's all that matters.

Tinder "

I think that's what is really important, feeling good about yourself

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Is not common but that plays to your advantage and makes you memorable

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I like the nice stylish jackets with a shirt and jeans

With shoes or trainers?

Mr

Shoes. Trainers wouldn’t look right "

Smart trainer shoes look ok with jeans as long as they're black I think

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"OP, I'm 100+ replies in, so sure this will have been said MANY times before, but for me, this all depends where you're going and what feels natural to you?

I love a suit, but personally probably wouldn't wear one for a social unless I was going somewhere where they might be expected (e.g. a really smart restaurant, but I assume not for an initial Fab social?) or happened to be coming straight from work...

But if you feel good in it, that will shine through, so do it!"

I'll just tell them I've come from an important board meeting

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Surely depends on the choice of social?

If you’re going swimming probably a bit OTT

but if you’re going for a meal somewhere fancy then not at all…..

"

I don't think I'd go swimming on a social meet, hot tub though

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"You wear whatever you want. It is a reflection of who you are.

Honesty goes a long way in getting to know people, and that is what socials are about."

Exactly that

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By *liceinwanderlust101Woman
over a year ago

Cambridge/London

Shirts are a must, proper ones

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By *akeanyoneMan
over a year ago

LH

Wear what you want and own it

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Not at all , if you are comfortable and own it do it. But If you feel self conscious or unsure then it might come through.

Be brave - you live once. Women love men in suits. Wear a nice Italian silk tie - it will come in handy later

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By *itenDaysCouple
over a year ago

Vale of Glamorgan

Wife loves a confident guy in a suit a real turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear that suit OP!

I’d love nothing more than to be going for drinks on a date and he turns up in a suit - never been so lucky

If you’re comfortable in a suit and feel confident and attractive in a suit, hell yeah, wear it!

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Mr will usually wear a shirt, smart jacket and jeans, shoes. Nothing wrong with smart at all!! Some people could wear a thousand pound suit and look a mess, others hot looking like they've just got out of bed! For me good clothes give you confidence x"

Definitely not a thousand pound suit but yes I agree that if you think you look good it helps with confidence

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Meh, fuck what everyone else is doing (within reason). It sounds like you have your heart set on it, if it makes you feel confident, wear it. Enjoy it. I think someone with the confidence to wear a well fitted suit to a social (or anything they love) with confidence will always be noticed. For the right reasons.

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I’ve rocked up to a social in a suit on a few occasions, mainly because I was on the way home from work. Seemed to do the trick though "

Good to know buddy

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Meh, fuck what everyone else is doing (within reason). It sounds like you have your heart set on it, if it makes you feel confident, wear it. Enjoy it. I think someone with the confidence to wear a well fitted suit to a social (or anything they love) with confidence will always be noticed. For the right reasons. "

What about a tie ? Is it necessary ?

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Shirts are a must, proper ones "

I have a few nice ones to choose from

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

It’s definitely not over dressed and like others have said as long as you feel good about yourself and confident then that’s all matters .

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Not at all , if you are comfortable and own it do it. But If you feel self conscious or unsure then it might come through.

Be brave - you live once. Women love men in suits. Wear a nice Italian silk tie - it will come in handy later "

I usually wear a leather belt, these are multi purpose

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Wife loves a confident guy in a suit a real turn on "

She may spot me in the future

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Not at all , if you are comfortable and own it do it. But If you feel self conscious or unsure then it might come through.

Be brave - you live once. Women love men in suits. Wear a nice Italian silk tie - it will come in handy later

I usually wear a leather belt, these are multi purpose "

Women can like octopus, take no chances

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Wear that suit OP!

I’d love nothing more than to be going for drinks on a date and he turns up in a suit - never been so lucky

If you’re comfortable in a suit and feel confident and attractive in a suit, hell yeah, wear it! "

I could change that for you

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

I love a suit. I love a well dressed man. If someone has made an effort it bodes well for their character I think.

Mrs

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Meh, fuck what everyone else is doing (within reason). It sounds like you have your heart set on it, if it makes you feel confident, wear it. Enjoy it. I think someone with the confidence to wear a well fitted suit to a social (or anything they love) with confidence will always be noticed. For the right reasons. "

Thank you Meli

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Meh, fuck what everyone else is doing (within reason). It sounds like you have your heart set on it, if it makes you feel confident, wear it. Enjoy it. I think someone with the confidence to wear a well fitted suit to a social (or anything they love) with confidence will always be noticed. For the right reasons.

What about a tie ? Is it necessary ?"

Hmm. I love a good tie but only if it's knotted properly. Wherever it ends up.

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By *iscean_dream OP   Man
over a year ago

Llanelli


"It’s definitely not over dressed and like others have said as long as you feel good about yourself and confident then that’s all matters ."

Thank you

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By *ociable-NottmCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I like the nice stylish jackets with a shirt and jeans

With shoes or trainers?

Mr

Shoes. Trainers wouldn’t look right

Smart trainer shoes look ok with jeans as long as they're black I think "

I agree wear the wrong shoes with jeans and a shirt doesn’t look great.

Mr

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