FabSwingers.com forum: Face pic

By *ydrew OP Man
over a year ago

forest

This week alone I've been chatting to 4 different people. 2 couples 2 singles. All seem lovely people. All getting on seems like similar interests. Then the face pic question comes up. I'm happy to share when I think a meet is possible. Don't want be sitting in a pub or coffee shop waiting on someone when they could be sat beside me.

So anyway I've been asked and I've shared my most recent face pics. So out of 4. 3 have blocked and 1 has just not read. This site really messes with your head. Not your type fine say that. Blocked with no reply after exposing your self just seems off.

Yes I'm feeling sorry for myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feels a bit brutal doesnt it. I hardly ever share a face pic now, but realise that does mean I wont be meeting anyone

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By *ydrew OP Man
over a year ago

forest

"Feels a bit brutal doesnt it. I hardly ever share a face pic now, but realise that does mean I wont be meeting anyone

Sad thing is it feels like a trust thing. Even if it's a no thanks. I can accept that. We have to like someone but a block is soul destroying

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

This is why I usually just have my mug on show or share straight away if I've hidden face pics

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"This week alone I've been chatting to 4 different people. 2 couples 2 singles. All seem lovely people. All getting on seems like similar interests. Then the face pic question comes up. I'm happy to share when I think a meet is possible. Don't want be sitting in a pub or coffee shop waiting on someone when they could be sat beside me.

Yes I'm feeling sorry for myself "

Hugs sorry. Obviously, I don't have that particular problem. My public photos are PG...if they want to see my private x-rated photos they have to put in more effort. If they want to know what I'm like sexually, they can read my verifications.

I don't really invest my emotions until I have secured a meet whether social or sexual.

I understand that a lot of people get excited from the messages and the expectation of meeting and all the potential fucks that you can have.

My neurodivergent brain doesn't work like that. You are not real unless in person, I can see you, hear you, touch/feel you, smell you and taste you.

So I keep things neutral for my own sanity until we actually start kissing with the intention of fucking.

Your body is hot and that's usually enough for me. If you are doing it right, my eyes will be closed most of the time. Lol!

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

I always show my face, saves half the chit chat, why speak to someone for a bit then show them my face for them to say no thanks.... This way they can say no straight way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had women say that I’m not their type or they’re looking for a guy with a beard. That’s understandable. You gotta have that initial attraction. I’ve turned down someone cos they weren’t my type.

Wish they’d explain why instead of not responding after a face pic but they made their mind up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm feeling sorry for myself

I don't really invest my emotions until I have secured a meet whether social or sexual.

I understand that a lot of people get excited from the messages and the expectation of meeting and all the potential fucks that you can have.

My neurodivergent brain doesn't work like that. You are not real unless in person, I can see you, hear you, touch/feel you, smell you and taste you.

So I keep things neutral for my own sanity until we actually start kissing with the intention of fucking.

Your body is hot and that's usually enough for me. If you are doing it right, my eyes will be closed most of the time. Lol!

true yes with the eyes closed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feels a bit brutal doesnt it. I hardly ever share a face pic now, but realise that does mean I wont be meeting anyone

Sad thing is it feels like a trust thing. Even if it's a no thanks. I can accept that. We have to like someone but a block is soul destroying"

It's childish and pathetic to just block. It's really not difficult to say sorry you're not what they're looking for. It's an adult site!

Don't let their childish behaviour get you down. It's a lucky escape, you don't want to meet people like that.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Yes I'm feeling sorry for myself "
your entitled to feel sorry for yourself. Its manners plain and simple. If someone shares their face pic with you and they are not your type at least have the balls to tell them and not hide behind the block button.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Yes I'm feeling sorry for myself your entitled to feel sorry for yourself. Its manners plain and simple. If someone shares their face pic with you and they are not your type at least have the balls to tell them and not hide behind the block button. "

Heck I had one woman have a go at me then block me yesterday cause I payed her a compliment, wasn't even trying to meet her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feels a bit brutal doesnt it. I hardly ever share a face pic now, but realise that does mean I wont be meeting anyone

Sad thing is it feels like a trust thing. Even if it's a no thanks. I can accept that. We have to like someone but a block is soul destroying

It's childish and pathetic to just block. It's really not difficult to say sorry you're not what they're looking for. It's an adult site!

Don't let their childish behaviour get you down. It's a lucky escape, you don't want to meet people like that.

What if they respond that they aren’t into you and then you block them? Is that bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can block, people can stop messaging, people can pretty much do want they want on here.

But it's never nice to be on the recieving end. So I'm sorry for that.

People on here, unless you've met them, regardless of how long you've chatted are just a stranger online, they don't really know you, don't let their opinions bother you.

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By *inger_80Man
over a year ago

Merthyr Vale

Had it done to me as well, it’s a massive confidence knock

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Least the conversation was flowing most struggle at this point, so a bummer as it is use your energy on someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feels a bit brutal doesnt it. I hardly ever share a face pic now, but realise that does mean I wont be meeting anyone

Sad thing is it feels like a trust thing. Even if it's a no thanks. I can accept that. We have to like someone but a block is soul destroying

It's childish and pathetic to just block. It's really not difficult to say sorry you're not what they're looking for. It's an adult site!

Don't let their childish behaviour get you down. It's a lucky escape, you don't want to meet people like that.

What if they respond that they aren’t into you and then you block them? Is that bad? "

Do you mean someone told you that they're not into you so you blocked them? That's ok. It saves you from forgetting and contacting them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's horrible and hard not to take it to heart. You have to remember that people make a split decision when receiving a picture, it doesn't reflect on who you are as they don't know you really. Also, people immediately think it's for a bad reason but sometimes it's nothing to do with the other person, their own confidence could stop them taking things further.

Don't let other people's preferences dictate your self esteem

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"This is why I usually just have my mug on show or share straight away if I've hidden face pics"

Body and beard does it for me. I've already decided which bits I want to nibble on and which bits I want the beard tickling. Lol!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

I don't really invest my emotions until I have secured a meet whether social or sexual.

I understand that a lot of people get excited from the messages and the expectation of meeting and all the potential fucks that you can have.

My neurodivergent brain doesn't work like that. You are not real unless in person, I can see you, hear you, touch/feel you, smell you and taste you.

So I keep things neutral for my own sanity until we actually start kissing with the intention of fucking.

Your body is hot and that's usually enough for me. If you are doing it right, my eyes will be closed most of the time. Lol!

true yes with the eyes closed

I cannot come with my eyes open....I dunno how people do that.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

Heck I had one woman have a go at me then block me yesterday cause I payed her a compliment, wasn't even trying to meet her.

Jesus Mary and Joseph and all the saints and angels in Heaven..

Are people that strung out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit I don't share my face unless I've been talking and as such looking to meet. I live on an island and as such a small community (65k people). Everyone appears to know everyone here so privacy is really important. Unless it's someone further afield ie UK then I refuse to send a face pic with the first message and state as such on my profile.

Yes I've had rejections before after a face pic but I hate when they don't reciprocate even if it's a no and we'd agreed to. My privacy is no less important then hers as it were.

Mind you the biggest challenge here is more getting women to chat! Understand why not though

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By *inger_80Man
over a year ago

Merthyr Vale

"Heck I had one woman have a go at me then block me yesterday cause I payed her a compliment, wasn't even trying to meet her.

Jesus Mary and Joseph and all the saints and angels in Heaven..

Are people that strung out?"

I get ppl being straight talking, I am one but just be straight not straight off block and be rude, we’re all human with our insecurities, it’s just being a bit understanding to other ppl. Not you personally lol people on the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heck I had one woman have a go at me then block me yesterday cause I payed her a compliment, wasn't even trying to meet her.

Jesus Mary and Joseph and all the saints and angels in Heaven..

Are people that strung out?"

Sadly it would appear so. I love paying compliments with no expectations. Sometimes I get a reply more often then not I don't. Your very pretty btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's horrible and hard not to take it to heart. You have to remember that people make a split decision when receiving a picture, it doesn't reflect on who you are as they don't know you really. Also, people immediately think it's for a bad reason but sometimes it's nothing to do with the other person, their own confidence could stop them taking things further.

Don't let other people's preferences dictate your self esteem

Wise words but still hard not to take that hit to confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouch. Easier said than done but I think you just have to have a super thick skin on here. I'm probably attracted to about 1/100 guys I see on the street so same goes for here, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the people we don't go for, attraction is just fickle. If we're going to join in superficial sites like this, Tinder etc I guess we just need to suck it up if we don't get picked sometimes. Sorry

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

"Heck I had one woman have a go at me then block me yesterday cause I payed her a compliment, wasn't even trying to meet her.

Jesus Mary and Joseph and all the saints and angels in Heaven..

Are people that strung out?"

Apparently so unless the word gorgeous is slang for something else where she lived

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, nothing means anything on here I’ve learned. I’ve had a guy I was messaging just friendly for near enough 2 years. He offered to meet me to walk me into the Newport social a couple weeks ago. Never showed and then blocked me. Couldn’t have seen me first as I was in my car and walked in alone so that was weird.

Also had guys I met at the social flirt with me and message me after but then I replied and they leave it unread or deleted it.

Could easily let things like that bother me but my confidence is building and I’m not gunna let silly people who don’t have the balls to say what they really want to say to my face knock me down.

There’s plenty of incredible people on this site, it’s just a case of finding the right ones

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By *inger_80Man
over a year ago

Merthyr Vale

"Honestly, nothing means anything on here I’ve learned. I’ve had a guy I was messaging just friendly for near enough 2 years. He offered to meet me to walk me into the Newport social a couple weeks ago. Never showed and then blocked me. Couldn’t have seen me first as I was in my car and walked in alone so that was weird.

Also had guys I met at the social flirt with me and message me after but then I replied and they leave it unread or deleted it.

Could easily let things like that bother me but my confidence is building and I’m not gunna let silly people who don’t have the balls to say what they really want to say to my face knock me down.

There’s plenty of incredible people on this site, it’s just a case of finding the right ones

Well said, keep your head up, u could pick who u wanted

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Also had guys I met at the social flirt with me and message me after but then I replied and they leave it unread or deleted it.

Could easily let things like that bother me but my confidence is building and I’m not gunna let silly people who don’t have the balls to say what they really want to say to my face knock me down.

There’s plenty of incredible people on this site, it’s just a case of finding the right ones

I'd have said hello at the social but every time I saw you you were surrounded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a face pic on my public pictures its easier and if they dont send a pic i ask for one makes life easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also had guys I met at the social flirt with me and message me after but then I replied and they leave it unread or deleted it.

Could easily let things like that bother me but my confidence is building and I’m not gunna let silly people who don’t have the balls to say what they really want to say to my face knock me down.

There’s plenty of incredible people on this site, it’s just a case of finding the right ones

I'd have said hello at the social but every time I saw you you were surrounded.

Was I? I was on my own a lot lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply when someone sends a face pic if I've asked for it or they asked me if I'd like to see it. I feel it's the respectable thing to do.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Also had guys I met at the social flirt with me and message me after but then I replied and they leave it unread or deleted it.

Could easily let things like that bother me but my confidence is building and I’m not gunna let silly people who don’t have the balls to say what they really want to say to my face knock me down.

There’s plenty of incredible people on this site, it’s just a case of finding the right ones

I'd have said hello at the social but every time I saw you you were surrounded.

Was I? I was on my own a lot lol "

To be fair I saw you more at the club after, I was a little nervous at the social as I was a new face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also had guys I met at the social flirt with me and message me after but then I replied and they leave it unread or deleted it.

Could easily let things like that bother me but my confidence is building and I’m not gunna let silly people who don’t have the balls to say what they really want to say to my face knock me down.

There’s plenty of incredible people on this site, it’s just a case of finding the right ones

I'd have said hello at the social but every time I saw you you were surrounded.

Was I? I was on my own a lot lol "

Really? But you're gorgeous! Which man in their right mind would leave you on your own?

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Also had guys I met at the social flirt with me and message me after but then I replied and they leave it unread or deleted it.

Could easily let things like that bother me but my confidence is building and I’m not gunna let silly people who don’t have the balls to say what they really want to say to my face knock me down.

There’s plenty of incredible people on this site, it’s just a case of finding the right ones

I'd have said hello at the social but every time I saw you you were surrounded.

Was I? I was on my own a lot lol

Really? But you're gorgeous! Which man in their right mind would leave you on your own? "

Well said sir, well said!!

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By *akingMemoriesMan
over a year ago

Toronto

Sorry to hear about that- I’ve had several similar experiences and I would be lying if I said they didn’t knock my confidence. My advice would be to share a face pic as early as possible (assuming they are looking to meet). It’s a risk for sure but at least you won’t waste as much time.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

If I don't see a face (when I am looking) I will just delete and not even start a conversation, then at least I know I am attracted to anyone I talk to and no need to tell them I don't want to meet them

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

Also had guys I met at the social flirt with me and message me after but then I replied and they leave it unread or deleted it.

Could easily let things like that bother me but my confidence is building and I’m not gunna let silly people who don’t have the balls to say what they really want to say to my face knock me down.

There’s plenty of incredible people on this site, it’s just a case of finding the right ones

I don't have enough time to be messaging someone for 2 years for a meet.

Maybe it's a London thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You either like us or not. I do not block anyone. You can still be friends. Its weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s pretty harsh. I like to share face pics when chatting. Makes it a bit more personal, I would never be that rude to block someone over a face pic. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also had guys I met at the social flirt with me and message me after but then I replied and they leave it unread or deleted it.

Could easily let things like that bother me but my confidence is building and I’m not gunna let silly people who don’t have the balls to say what they really want to say to my face knock me down.

There’s plenty of incredible people on this site, it’s just a case of finding the right ones

I don't have enough time to be messaging someone for 2 years for a meet.

Maybe it's a London thing."

Aw no, it wasn’t gunna be someone I meet with one on one. He’s just very known on the clubs/social scene was helping me get to grips with everything. Made out he was a nice guy and turns out he’s not haha

But no, I wouldn’t message for that long if I was planning to meet someone lol

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"That’s pretty harsh. I like to share face pics when chatting. Makes it a bit more personal, I would never be that rude to block someone over a face pic. Xx"

Sometimes it's just easier than dealing with the consequences of telling someone that you are no longer interested, I think

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

Yes I'm feeling sorry for myself "

Would it be better if they actually said you're not their type when simply blocking is pretty much saying that anyway?

It's hurtful either way. I won't get drawn into lengthy conversations until I've seen a face pic. It's not worth investing the time if either of us are gonna find out down the line that we aren't right for each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm feeling sorry for myself "

Feel for you Bro.

Can’t help feeling it’s the DeWalt tools in your avatar picture? Those who blanked you are clearly Bosch enthusiasts or maybe Milwaukee exponents.

Refresh you tool belt and who knows?

No need for thanks!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"I must admit I don't share my face unless I've been talking and as such looking to meet. I live on an island and as such a small community (65k people). Everyone appears to know everyone here so privacy is really important. Unless it's someone further afield ie UK then I refuse to send a face pic with the first message and state as such on my profile.

Yes I've had rejections before after a face pic but I hate when they don't reciprocate even if it's a no and we'd agreed to. My privacy is no less important then hers as it were.

Mind you the biggest challenge here is more getting women to chat! Understand why not though"

I just deny it was me and move along. Lol! My privacy means very little to me and I used to live on a small island and I hated the "secrets" when everyone knew and just pretended like they didn't. the worst secrets there were ch^&d Ab()$£

It just fucked up my already fucked up mind. Beyond personal safety and security, I don't care if my job, neighbours or family know. I don't see them looking after me when I'm sick or paying my bills or cooking my food or washing my clothes so they can mind their own business and their own privacy and their own sex lives.

That's why I don't do cheaters. I'm not sneaking around. That's too much for my brain. My colleagues know I'm on Tinder so OMG they know I date and have sex! lol! Don't most people over 18...and quite a few under 18 are at it. I'll never understand it. But that's just my neurodivergent maverick brain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s pretty harsh. I like to share face pics when chatting. Makes it a bit more personal, I would never be that rude to block someone over a face pic. Xx

Sometimes it's just easier than dealing with the consequences of telling someone that you are no longer interested, I think

Yeah I guess. Just would feel a bit shady doing it personally. Normally a thanks but not my type is my response. But I get women and couples get way more than the average gent. If someone don’t fancy me there’s no dramas in that haha x

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"You either like us or not. I do not block anyone. You can still be friends. Its weird.

I block. Too many people in London and it will overwhelm my ND brain. Maybe if I lived somewhere with fewer people, I wouldn't block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not you it’s them, it’s them that don’t like your face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also had guys I met at the social flirt with me and message me after but then I replied and they leave it unread or deleted it.

Could easily let things like that bother me but my confidence is building and I’m not gunna let silly people who don’t have the balls to say what they really want to say to my face knock me down.

There’s plenty of incredible people on this site, it’s just a case of finding the right ones

I'd have said hello at the social but every time I saw you you were surrounded.

Was I? I was on my own a lot lol

Really? But you're gorgeous! Which man in their right mind would leave you on your own?

Well said sir, well said!! "

Why thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear. I do agree that this site messes with your head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've had rejections before after a face pic but I hate when they don't reciprocate even if it's a no and we'd agreed to. My privacy is no less important then hers as it were.

Mind you the biggest challenge here is more getting women to chat! Understand why not though

Totally understand and yeah there certainly seems to be a dark side to living on an island despite it looking wonderful from the outside

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Yes I'm feeling sorry for myself "
awww hey have a beer

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

It gets harder when you meet them afew times. They said they had amazing time etc then they ghost you out of the blue

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I would always say after seeing a face no thanks. Then that shows closure and being an decent human being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would always say after seeing a face no thanks. Then that shows closure and being an decent human being."

A humane way of dealing with closure?

How sweet!

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

OP, it's probably an embarrassment thing with them. They don't want to hurt you, so they block you, it saves them from having to man-up, be brave, and say "thanks but no thanks".

In my 30's I was really good looking, no honest I was!, but I'll rarely show my face now, and I HATE mirrors!

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

My face doesn’t go down well

Terrible gag reflex

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By *piritualSFCMan
over a year ago

london

Keep going mate. Can't control other people's action.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

In an ideal world people would say you're not for them before blocking you ,it doesn't do self esteem much good .

Could it be that any of them knew you op?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s always the risk you run recognising people on here. Haven’t been yet haha. X

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By *ydrew OP Man
over a year ago

forest

"In an ideal world people would say you're not for them before blocking you ,it doesn't do self esteem much good .

Could it be that any of them knew you op?."

That's what always concerns me.

Anyway I'm over it now. No more face pics first. For all I know they could be shreks look a like or maybe they thought that of me lol

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

"My face doesn’t go down well

Terrible gag reflex "

But you have a lovely light saber!!!

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By *ydrew OP Man
over a year ago

forest

"I would always say after seeing a face no thanks. Then that shows closure and being an decent human being."

Hmm

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