FabSwingers.com forum: That was 2022

By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

What is your abiding memory from the past year?

Personal or social, positive or negative, what do you think will be your memory that will define this past year for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2022 was a turd wrapped in a shit fest but a lot of lessons learnt which will ultimately make 2023 a better one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's was an amazing year, then it was a shit year, a sad year, and a happy year. Let's just call it emotional.

By defining moment? Actually letting my guard down to let someone in, even if it didn't end well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Utterly unremarkable in many ways.

Best of it was taking bad bitch out to Holland to my house for a week or so. Worst was getting made unemployed in October because one member of the team didn't like me.

Fabwise we ticked off some fantasy bucket list items and learned we had some new ones to add

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Unfortunately the abiding memory for me was finding out a close family member has cancer the fact it came completely out of the blue as well knocked us all for six. I've learnt more about cancer types and treatments and symptoms than I ever thought I would. Sadly that will be my biggest memory of this year which is sad as I had some wonderful times this year but they all seem a long distant memory at this stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By defining moment? Actually letting my guard down to let someone in, even if it didn't end well

That’s beautiful x

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Had a great year. Started a new job back in March and it really couldn't have gone better

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

This year I refound my freedom. I don't want to dwell on what came before that apart from as a reminder to never let it happen again. Most of this year was a shitshow, but it's the past few months I will remember fondly.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"It's was an amazing year, then it was a shit year, a sad year, and a happy year. Let's just call it emotional.

By defining moment? Actually letting my guard down to let someone in, even if it didn't end well

Aww Jag, that's really lovely and I remember it well. Sorry it didn't end well, hopefully we'll read it happening again in 2023. x

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Never judge a man until he is dead, nor a year until it is over.

Just very conscious of not wishing to tempt the Fates at the moment.

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By *rMonkeyMan
over a year ago

Somewhere

2022 can fuck off.

Heart attack

Lost one of my pets

Crippling social anxiety for most of it

Lost a very close friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting the phonecall and finding out my closest brother had taken his life in such a distressing way. Carrying his coffin and holding his ashes just a few days ago. Taking home his favourite belongings and being able to smell him. Knowing in seven months time I'll be older than he ever was. One month ago since he left and it's still hurting like nothing else ever has. Scrolling through my phone looking at all our messages and calls feeling empty knowing I will never hear or see him again. I hate how you're expected to just get on with life like normal when you're living through all of this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so sorry for your loss. Time passes but never heals. I hope your brother is at rest in a better place. X

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Getting the phonecall and finding out my closest brother had taken his life in such a distressing way. Carrying his coffin and holding his ashes just a few days ago. Taking home his favourite belongings and being able to smell him. Knowing in seven months time I'll be older than he ever was. One month ago since he left and it's still hurting like nothing else ever has. Scrolling through my phone looking at all our messages and calls feeling empty knowing I will never hear or see him again. I hate how you're expected to just get on with life like normal when you're living through all of this.

No words at all to help. And the knowledge that the sorrow will eventually fade is itself a deep sorrow.

I'm so deeply sorry, and I really hope you and your family have true and loving friends to hold you.

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I think it'll depend what mood I'm in. If I'm happy I'll remember the year for some fantastic sex with some amazing people. If I'm morose I'll remember the grandparents who have died and their funerals. Lost another one last week, so get to start 2023 with yet another funeral.

But on a cheerier note the kids have come out with some classic lines this year, so I'll laugh when I think of them

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

"It's was an amazing year, then it was a shit year, a sad year, and a happy year. Let's just call it emotional.

By defining moment? Actually letting my guard down to let someone in, even if it didn't end well

Same here Elf

I hold that brief moments of the good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a couple of memories of the last year that I'd rather forget as quick as possible.

Also one or two great things have happened so not all bad I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By defining moment? Actually letting my guard down to let someone in, even if it didn't end well

That’s beautiful x"

Sound a bit grim to me?

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

Shittest year ever. Let's move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listening to my misses tell all relationships should have a swinging aspect .... we had just got back from her first club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel guilty for writing this, and I’m so sorry for the people who’ve contributed comments with painful and difficult experiences. Hang in there, be patient and it will get better x

I’ve learned to be content, this year.

I’ve had tough times, as we all do, but this is the first year my moods have been pretty steady and when I can feel the black clouds coming over, I’ve got the tools now to look after myself and have it pass quickly, instead of letting it take over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2022 has had a few great moments. I became an auntie for the first time, Watched our youngest take her first steps and have her first birthday and went on a big family holiday. I’m hoping next year will be filled with more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A non-descript year, dominated by work (as was 2021). Anticipate 2023 being more fun with some relaxation ideally in a hot country (unless the politicians screw things up further).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By defining moment? Actually letting my guard down to let someone in, even if it didn't end well

That’s beautiful x

Sound a bit grim to me?"

Then you’ve missed what I understood from that post, which is the strength it took to be vulnerable again, and the realisation that the ability to have feelings are still there, the hope - despite past disappointments.

I’d say it’s important to try, and for it not to work out, then never to try at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a positive 2022 all in all!

Sorry to hear so many sad stories, sending positive thoughts to all & hoping for a great 2023 xx

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

"By defining moment? Actually letting my guard down to let someone in, even if it didn't end well

That’s beautiful x

Sound a bit grim to me?

I’d say it’s important to try, and for it not to work out, then never to try at all."

Just that Red

Some only think with the little brain sadly and don’t see beyond that x

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Trying really not to be negative but without going into too many details, 2022 was one of my worst years so far, probably only compared to 2017, when I left abusive relationship and was made homeless living off food banks.

What I’ve learned is to be everyday grateful for what you have and to live in present moment as past is nothing you can change and future is not promised.

Wishing for a good year for everyone who has contributed to this thread and for everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By defining moment? Actually letting my guard down to let someone in, even if it didn't end well

That’s beautiful x

Sound a bit grim to me?

I’d say it’s important to try, and for it not to work out, then never to try at all."

Ah, I understand..........I think

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By *r_North-EastMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

The full year has been a massive blur. It has went by so fast but being able to live my life again after covid and lockdowns has been amazing. I’ve done things I wouldn’t have done before the lockdowns and I’m so glad I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A great year, best memories are seeing a lot of live music after missing it so much during lockdown. The long hot summer was another highlight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First half of the year was amazing but I let my guard down and got hurt badly, second half was finding myself again I guess x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Losing my partner. Its had a dramatic affect on me and completely changed me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Losing my partner. Its had a dramatic affect on me and completely changed me"

Sorry to hear that. Trust you find some equilibrium

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

it's been a strange year, some ups, some downs, the over-riding feeling was probably more "meh" than "yay" to be honest, but we try to dwell on the positive, so upwards and onwards for us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2022 was a turd wrapped in a shit fest but a lot of lessons learnt which will ultimately make 2023 a better one."

I’m going with this encapsulates my year perfectly

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

As I said in a previous thread of yours OP. A force of nature swept into my life in 2020 my dead mothers sister who I thought lost to me for good. Who secured me an inheritance and more importantly secured me my mothers history all written down.

She was then cruelly taken from me this year by a horrible disease. She faced it head on and glammed up to fuck. Now trying to process the loss is a challenge.

Let’s hope 2023 is better.

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Tbh, I kinda want to forget about it. 2022 was a year full of major anxiety and health issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a decent enough year. Some challenges but ultimately it seems to have gone by in a flash! I really can't believe we're at the end of it already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s been the year of realisation for myself regarding my fab life. I’ve had some fantastic meets though and made lovely friends.

I’ve closed doors recently and opened new ones.

I’m very much looking forward to exploring 2023 with people that actually want to meet…

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Generally a good year although had some curve balls thrown in along the way which we could have done without but hopefully we are done with them all now and can look forward to a fun filled 2023 with the friends we have and those yet to meet

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

It's been a roller coaster, lots of highs and lows, especially the 1st 8mths of the year.

Thankfully I didn't have cancer, a huge low until I got the results.

Smashed the end of the year, new role within the company, found myself and actually really like her, made lots of new acquaintances and some have turned into lovely friends.

im actually loving my life!!

Going into 2023 the best version of me so far and I'm growing daily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It was a decent enough year. Some challenges but ultimately it seems to have gone by in a flash! I really can't believe we're at the end of it already"

I know it’s gone very fast the heatwave only feels like a few weeks ago!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It was a decent enough year. Some challenges but ultimately it seems to have gone by in a flash! I really can't believe we're at the end of it already

I know it’s gone very fast the heatwave only feels like a few weeks ago!"

It really does, so much felt packed in that it's probably the quickest I've ever felt a year go by

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's been a bit of a mixed bag! Some great memories are all the gigs I've been too, and actually getting away for odd nights to new places, took myself out of my comfort zone and survived!

September was a bit of a shocker, some very sad losses, but just makes me want to live my life the way I want and be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It was a decent enough year. Some challenges but ultimately it seems to have gone by in a flash! I really can't believe we're at the end of it already

I know it’s gone very fast the heatwave only feels like a few weeks ago!

It really does, so much felt packed in that it's probably the quickest I've ever felt a year go by"

Yes you have been busy, that certainly helps!

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"It's been a roller coaster, lots of highs and lows, especially the 1st 8mths of the year.

Thankfully I didn't have cancer, a huge low until I got the results.

Smashed the end of the year, new role within the company, found myself and actually really like her, made lots of new acquaintances and some have turned into lovely friends.

im actually loving my life!!

Going into 2023 the best version of me so far and I'm growing daily.

That’s great to hear, I also had that scare, not the first in my years but hopefully the last, it can be a very stressful, worrying and anxious time and certainly a rollercoaster like you say. Enjoy 2023

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"It was a decent enough year. Some challenges but ultimately it seems to have gone by in a flash! I really can't believe we're at the end of it already

I know it’s gone very fast the heatwave only feels like a few weeks ago!

It really does, so much felt packed in that it's probably the quickest I've ever felt a year go by"

All those hobby’s

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Unfortunately the abiding memory for me was finding out a close family member has cancer the fact it came completely out of the blue as well knocked us all for six. I've learnt more about cancer types and treatments and symptoms than I ever thought I would. Sadly that will be my biggest memory of this year which is sad as I had some wonderful times this year but they all seem a long distant memory at this stage. "

Cancer sucks, but Macmillan are amazing, if you see them in action, they will do what ever it takes. Just ask them.

Hope your relative gets all of the support that's available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2022 is the year we met.

Not much more to add. Other things blur in comparison.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

That our government are totally clueless and are so disconnected from the people it's a joke.

The sad loss of her majesty The Queen.

Ridiculously hot weather and the lack of protection in terms of employment law for those of us who have to work outside.

The greed by energy companies and complete lacking in compassion.

And the never ending stream of nutjobs spewing out conspiracy theories almost on an hourly basis.

Lastly the world teetering on the brink of nuclear Armageddon because of a narcissistical egomaniac and his sycophantic followers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2022 is just bad for me.

Next year, who knows where I’ll be? But I’m absolutely sure it’s going to be a better year for me.

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By *oubleDistractionCouple
over a year ago

S glos

Getting a new job in Birmingham and therefore meeting some of the loveliest swingers in the country.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Done fuck all but work n sleep.

Then my lad visited a few weeks ago for the Placebo gig which then got cancelled.

That's when he told me I'm gonna be a nan. So, that's sure to be my defining memory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Done fuck all but work n sleep.

Then my lad visited a few weeks ago for the Placebo gig which then got cancelled.

That's when he told me I'm gonna be a nan. So, that's sure to be my defining memory.

Aww that’s lovely news

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Done fuck all but work n sleep.

Then my lad visited a few weeks ago for the Placebo gig which then got cancelled.

That's when he told me I'm gonna be a nan. So, that's sure to be my defining memory.

Aww that’s lovely news

As long as they're happy and she don't take him for a cunt it's all I can hope for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Done fuck all but work n sleep.

Then my lad visited a few weeks ago for the Placebo gig which then got cancelled.

That's when he told me I'm gonna be a nan. So, that's sure to be my defining memory.

Congratulations

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Rekindling a relationship with someone who had already broken my heart, to have it broken again...you live and learn, i hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something like that you’ll never forget unfortunately, but time will ease the pain you’re feeling eventually. Certain things will bring the memories all back and quite often at unexpected times but it does get easier so hang on in there x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Done fuck all but work n sleep.

Then my lad visited a few weeks ago for the Placebo gig which then got cancelled.

That's when he told me I'm gonna be a nan. So, that's sure to be my defining memory.

Congratulations

Thank you

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Strong year lots more good than bad!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Friendship

This year has been a rollercoaster ride where I've felt like a kite dancing in a hurricane.

My friends were there to pick me up, dust me off and stand with me holding my hands, so I knew I had the strength to get through. I am and will always be, forever grateful

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Father was diagnosed with cancer.

Two weeks later wife died of a stroke.

Two weeks after wife's funeral, father died.

It's not been a good year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went by a bit bloody quick eh? Didnt do half enough stuff for my liking but plenty of 'life' happened. Mostly the shitty stuff as ever. A few sparks of amazing that leaves me ever grateful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Major family issues on my wife’s side so not great and doesn’t look very likely to be sorted out in 2023 either. A very true saying you can pick your friends but your family forced on you.

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