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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Yes quite often.

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time, you're not alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope as if I have something to say to another forumite I will openly say it in public as I don’t say things in private that I wouldn’t post public anyway

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i know where your coming from,,

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

I did… once upon a time. But then went for it !

What’s the worst that can happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "

All the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I did… once upon a time. But then went for it !

What’s the worst that can happen?"
You look like an archetypical single male instead of an actual nice person...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I did… once upon a time. But then went for it !

What’s the worst that can happen? You look like an archetypical single male instead of an actual nice person... "

That is the worst that can happen....

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree


"I did… once upon a time. But then went for it !

What’s the worst that can happen? You look like an archetypical single male instead of an actual nice person... "

I’m the female half of a couple.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I only message if I've got something to say to them personally and that's very rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have nothing to say, I’ll just message myself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "

Just say hey to me anytime sweetcheeks I don't bite

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "

Sometimes but in the new year I'm just messaging them if I want to because worst that will happen is I get no reply and I've been suprised in the past by connections I've made

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do

Sometimes but in the new year I'm just messaging them if I want to because worst that will happen is I get no reply and I've been suprised in the past by connections I've made "

yeah but with your profile pic over mine, I think that you will get more replies over moi... just saying mate

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Yes and i send a nervous cheesy message

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do

Sometimes but in the new year I'm just messaging them if I want to because worst that will happen is I get no reply and I've been suprised in the past by connections I've made

yeah but with your profile pic over mine, I think that you will get more replies over moi... just saying mate "

I'm not for everyone though, we all like what we like.

Never hurts to send a message but just make sure you send it when they're online so less chance of it getting sandwiched between others

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I just compliment them if they reply great if not cost me nothing to be nice .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do

Sometimes but in the new year I'm just messaging them if I want to because worst that will happen is I get no reply and I've been suprised in the past by connections I've made

yeah but with your profile pic over mine, I think that you will get more replies over moi... just saying mate

I'm not for everyone though, we all like what we like.

Never hurts to send a message but just make sure you send it when they're online so less chance of it getting sandwiched between others "
Cheers for yon heads up matey

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do

Sometimes but in the new year I'm just messaging them if I want to because worst that will happen is I get no reply and I've been suprised in the past by connections I've made

yeah but with your profile pic over mine, I think that you will get more replies over moi... just saying mate

I'm not for everyone though, we all like what we like.

Never hurts to send a message but just make sure you send it when they're online so less chance of it getting sandwiched between others Cheers for yon heads up matey

"

No worries buddy

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

The main thing OP is to read the profile first. If it is a couples profile then please do address both parties otherwise tbh you just look like an idiot! Also if the profile says they’re not meeting, like mine does, you really have to see if you have anything to say that might be interesting. Other than that. Send what you want to. Be yourself. And don’t stress about it so much xx

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home


"The main thing OP is to read the profile first. If it is a couples profile then please do address both parties otherwise tbh you just look like an idiot! Also if the profile says they’re not meeting, like mine does, you really have to see if you have anything to say that might be interesting. Other than that. Send what you want to. Be yourself. And don’t stress about it so much xx"
don't stress that's a lot easier said than done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The main thing OP is to read the profile first. If it is a couples profile then please do address both parties otherwise tbh you just look like an idiot! Also if the profile says they’re not meeting, like mine does, you really have to see if you have anything to say that might be interesting. Other than that. Send what you want to. Be yourself. And don’t stress about it so much xx"

Do you know something LB you have made my night with that repy... I can't say how muchy it has cheered me uo ty xxx

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"The main thing OP is to read the profile first. If it is a couples profile then please do address both parties otherwise tbh you just look like an idiot! Also if the profile says they’re not meeting, like mine does, you really have to see if you have anything to say that might be interesting. Other than that. Send what you want to. Be yourself. And don’t stress about it so much xxdon't stress that's a lot easier said than done "

I know it is. But when it gets stressful just step away for a little while. Or ask for some support. Us nice people are here and will always have your back xx

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"The main thing OP is to read the profile first. If it is a couples profile then please do address both parties otherwise tbh you just look like an idiot! Also if the profile says they’re not meeting, like mine does, you really have to see if you have anything to say that might be interesting. Other than that. Send what you want to. Be yourself. And don’t stress about it so much xx

Do you know something LB you have made my night with that repy... I can't say how muchy it has cheered me uo ty xxx"

And you are most welcome xx

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "
yes so I reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "

If it sounds cheesy then I wouldn't be messaging them.

I don't arse lick, if I'm giving a compliment I mean it. No point in most compliments on here as they would just assume I want a fuck.

If I want a fuck I'll ask for a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really give it much thought, which is evident from from the messages I do send!

Just say what ever you wanna say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to be like that and then thought fuck it! Quite literally.. don’t get hung up on sending the perfect opening message, just be genuine and open! I’m sure you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the response

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

Just me yourself OP. When I send a message, I send it as if I was sending a message to someone whos on a regular dating site, just because we are on a sex dating site, doesn't been we have to be crude or voulgar! Be respectful and honest.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Sometimes. Not even approaching it from a get your fingers/cock inside me way, more a you seem cool, I want to chat crap with you. I normally find an excuse to message off of the back of a forum thread et voila. Talking crap.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Had several conversations today off the back of threads and talking sh*t

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "

All the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally no. If I want to message them, I’ll have a reason and know what I want to say.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

So much! I hardly message anyone, except sometimes off the back of one of those 'tell someone you think they're lovely' type threads. And it's not because I don't like people - quite the opposite!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I do send first messages they are never easy to write though. If it something off a thread in the forums which is rare I will usually say sorry for messaging. But then I don't send anything in a pm that I wouldn't say in public anyhow.

First messages are difficult tho and all you can do is be yourself in them.The worst that can happen is they delete it or block either way you know then they are not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "

Nope.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Yes, just checked - I've been the initiator of 4 message threads in the past month, and all were sparked by one of those encouraging threads. I can't remember the last time I messaged someone based on their profile, however much I like them.

Fear of rejection can be a crippling thing.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Yes.

All the time.

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Yes.

All the time.

"

You are stunning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see lots of profiles I would like to message but I feel they wouldn't be interested so I don't bother.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I sometimes look and think 'nah, out of my league', then I'll send an irreverent message, and 50% of the time, I get a reply.

Humour is the key and not being smutty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No , If I want to message someone I will. The worst that can happen is you get rejected. It isn’t the end of the world and at least then you’ll know.

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl


"I see lots of profiles I would like to message but I feel they wouldn't be interested so I don't bother."

Why the hell do you think they wouldn't be interested. You are sexy as hell

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door


"I see lots of profiles I would like to message but I feel they wouldn't be interested so I don't bother."

I'm the same. Or I type out a message and then delete rather than send

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I see lots of profiles I would like to message but I feel they wouldn't be interested so I don't bother.

I'm the same. Or I type out a message and then delete rather than send "

The ladies above are stunning. If they feel like that, you might be missing a connection. Just send the envelope off

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "

I’ve sent PM’s to people off here a few times and often find people will PM us instead of responding to our comment in the forum, which can be nice to receive but sometimes gets me thinking is it so the don’t offend others on here that they are flirtatious with

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl


"I see lots of profiles I would like to message but I feel they wouldn't be interested so I don't bother.

I'm the same. Or I type out a message and then delete rather than send

The ladies above are stunning. If they feel like that, you might be missing a connection. Just send the envelope off "

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"I see lots of profiles I would like to message but I feel they wouldn't be interested so I don't bother."

You wrote me a lovely, kind, thoughtful message on the back of a 'reaching out at Christmas' thread and it made my week!

Maybe that's part of it, OP - women probably get so many sexual messages on here they are wary, or jaded. But if the message is just appreciative, genuine, and kind, perhaps it will cut through the background noise?

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "

If I fancy someone, I'll probably say at some point, so not in that sense. I don't mind offering a bit of tongue-in-cheek cheese!

But there are people I think are funny/interesting that I don't message, either as I don't want them to think it's a 'come on' or because we don't really interact on the forum so I assume that means they wouldn't be up for a chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will usually be intrigued by something they have said in the forums and then find that I can't message them anyway....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "

All the damn time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, that is where a wink comes in handy for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every single time

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By *ubikslongswordMan
over a year ago

Rubiksville


"I did… once upon a time. But then went for it !

What’s the worst that can happen?"

Is that why I got a message?

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By *ust MikeMan
over a year ago

Yaxley

Haha yep all the time!

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

We need a club for shy Fabbers!

We'll never speak to each other, of course. That would be rude. But it will be a comfort to look up from the wingback occasionally and see a fellow member snoring under their newspaper.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"We need a club for shy Fabbers!

We'll never speak to each other, of course. That would be rude. But it will be a comfort to look up from the wingback occasionally and see a fellow member snoring under their newspaper. "

I would like to sign up for lifetime membership, please.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"We need a club for shy Fabbers!

We'll never speak to each other, of course. That would be rude. But it will be a comfort to look up from the wingback occasionally and see a fellow member snoring under their newspaper.

I would like to sign up for lifetime membership, please. "

In, Member 002 (001 reserved for me, I'm afraid!).

The first rule of Shy Club...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We need a club for shy Fabbers!

We'll never speak to each other, of course. That would be rude. But it will be a comfort to look up from the wingback occasionally and see a fellow member snoring under their newspaper.

I would like to sign up for lifetime membership, please.

In, Member 002 (001 reserved for me, I'm afraid!).

The first rule of Shy Club... "

Could I please join the club as well?

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"We need a club for shy Fabbers!

We'll never speak to each other, of course. That would be rude. But it will be a comfort to look up from the wingback occasionally and see a fellow member snoring under their newspaper.

I would like to sign up for lifetime membership, please.

In, Member 002 (001 reserved for me, I'm afraid!).

The first rule of Shy Club...

Could I please join the club as well? "

(Whispering.) In. And sshhh. People are asleep.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"We need a club for shy Fabbers!

We'll never speak to each other, of course. That would be rude. But it will be a comfort to look up from the wingback occasionally and see a fellow member snoring under their newspaper.

I would like to sign up for lifetime membership, please.

In, Member 002 (001 reserved for me, I'm afraid!).

The first rule of Shy Club... "

Noted (and thank you) *whispers*

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed


"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "

Yes every time I see someone worth messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time! Some you win, some you lose.

‘You don’t shoot, you don’t score’

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"All the time! Some you win, some you lose.

‘You don’t shoot, you don’t score’ "

Of course. But if you fear missing more than you love scoring, then my approach makes sense.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Sometimes it’s just a case of following your dreams and being brave. Everyone gets nervous from time to time. But if people are kind to each other that can help the nerves

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