FabSwingers.com forum: Why do some women write to men in prison

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do some women become pen friends with those in prison or death row in the states ?

Surely it’s clear they’re guilty AF.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Because some love a bad boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they won't pester for a meet.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I’m not sure it’s a strange one tho that the worlds most dangerous criminals have so much fan mail and women wanting to be in a relationship with them.

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By *mperfectwomanWoman
over a year ago

Near Morley

Because the chance of being rejected is low.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same reason I would write to a woman in jail

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do the ladies think they can change them somehow?

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By *dmundwilsonMan
over a year ago

Llandudno

Body like your’s… asking for trouble.

Or attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they're somewhat in control of the 'relationship'. They *know* where they are/what they're doing. They think they're special/the 'only' one he's writing to.. Bad men are very sexy to some women

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

"Because the chance of being rejected is low. "

Interesting…

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Because some of us love serial killers

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By *ayjay211201Man
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Because they're usually kinda famous & celebrity (for whatever reason) is attractive to some

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Because they won't pester for a meet. "

This!

Though if there's any octogenarian, multimillionaire, single women on death row in the states that fancy a bit of last minute conjugal visit rumpty pumpty before they're plugged into the mains/shot/injected with bleach.....drop me a line.

As soon as the ink is dry on the marriage certificate I'll give you one last fingerbang.....

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

A close proximity to mortality sometimes means they've usually got a lot more to say than 'How's ur day bn bb?'

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

My ex girlfriends daughter in law is a pen pal with a few well know serial killers here in the UK and across the pond.

All part of her career research.

The ex was a prison officer at a jail with a couple of serial killers. One of them was scary as fuck apparently.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some women become pen friends with those in prison or death row in the states ?

Surely it’s clear they’re guilty AF. "

What has being guilty have to do with writing to someone?

Surely they still have a personality, they may never experience freedom again but they are still human. Loneliness is loneliness wherever you are, be it in a top security prison or your own home.

They might even feel regret for whatever they did, but still have to do the time.

Whose to say men don’t write to women on death row?

I find your question sexist

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do some women become pen friends with those in prison or death row in the states ?

Surely it’s clear they’re guilty AF.

What has being guilty have to do with writing to someone?

Surely they still have a personality, they may never experience freedom again but they are still human. Loneliness is loneliness wherever you are, be it in a top security prison or your own home.

They might even feel regret for whatever they did, but still have to do the time.

Whose to say men don’t write to women on death row?

I find your question sexist

Yes it’s a sexist question. Because I’m interested to hear from the female perspective. You’ve provided insight, and I thank you for contributing to this sexist thread.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Because they are caring individuals who recognise the plight of those who have fallen foul of societies laws - they believe in humane treatment and wish to contribute to rehabilitation.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Anyway O.P. you didn't give enough information

Are these men the boyfriends , fathers, sons of these women prior to incarceration or are they complete strangers?

Are the letters purely platonic or of a hobby interest or do they get racey....

Shit question you asked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because they are caring individuals who recognise the plight of those who have fallen foul of societies laws - they believe in humane treatment and wish to contribute to rehabilitation. "

Playing devils avocado, aren’t there needy people in local communities that deserve help? Perhaps lonely pensioners spending Xmas day alone. What prioritise prisoners …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's more 'bad guy' than a mass murderer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anyway O.P. you didn't give enough information

Are these men the boyfriends , fathers, sons of these women prior to incarceration or are they complete strangers?

Are the letters purely platonic or of a hobby interest or do they get racey....

Shit question you asked. "

You don’t have to be on this thread. You’ve chosen to be antagonistic for some reason. Perhaps find another thread to your liking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyway O.P. you didn't give enough information

Are these men the boyfriends , fathers, sons of these women prior to incarceration or are they complete strangers?

Are the letters purely platonic or of a hobby interest or do they get racey....

Shit question you asked.

You don’t have to be on this thread. You’ve chosen to be antagonistic for some reason. Perhaps find another thread to your liking."

You could answer these valid questions though. Were you watching the Night Stalker series, or similar, that brought about the thread? That would help with context.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Anyway O.P. you didn't give enough information

Are these men the boyfriends , fathers, sons of these women prior to incarceration or are they complete strangers?

Are the letters purely platonic or of a hobby interest or do they get racey....

Shit question you asked.

You don’t have to be on this thread. You’ve chosen to be antagonistic for some reason. Perhaps find another thread to your liking."

I wasn't being antagonistic. Maybe look inside yourself for that.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Because they are caring individuals who recognise the plight of those who have fallen foul of societies laws - they believe in humane treatment and wish to contribute to rehabilitation.

Playing devils avocado, aren’t there needy people in local communities that deserve help? Perhaps lonely pensioners spending Xmas day alone. What prioritise prisoners …"

The punishment for those inside is having their freedom taken away. That's already been done.

If someone wants to write to them why should they be denied or measured against a lonely pensioner ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Same reason I would write to a woman in jail "

Why would you write to a woman in jail ?

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Because they are caring individuals who recognise the plight of those who have fallen foul of societies laws - they believe in humane treatment and wish to contribute to rehabilitation.

Playing devils avocado, aren’t there needy people in local communities that deserve help? Perhaps lonely pensioners spending Xmas day alone. What prioritise prisoners …"

Playing Devils advocate, how do you know they don't?

Winston

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"Why do some women become pen friends with those in prison or death row in the states ?

Surely it’s clear they’re guilty AF. "

Yes, very clear.

The rate of successful appeal against a conviction is very high in the UK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably to tell them what they did wrong.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Probably to tell them what they did wrong. "

I shouldn't guffaw but I did ....... git outta here woody !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When did being guilty stop a person getting a letter.

Why are tv shows/films/books about crime so popular. People are interested.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Because they are caring individuals who recognise the plight of those who have fallen foul of societies laws - they believe in humane treatment and wish to contribute to rehabilitation.

Playing devils avocado, aren’t there needy people in local communities that deserve help? Perhaps lonely pensioners spending Xmas day alone. What prioritise prisoners …

Playing Devils advocate, how do you know they don't?

Winston "

I don’t think they do. I have known one woman write and one who wanted to write to serial killers

From my limited knowledge it’s out of fascination and fantasy not charity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably to tell them what they did wrong.

I shouldn't guffaw but I did ....... git outta here woody !"

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Why do some women become pen friends with those in prison or death row in the states ?

Surely it’s clear they’re guilty AF. "

How does it make it clear when the system itself is partly corrupted. Amount of folk whom have been on death row and after been executed were found to be innocent and later charged the correct felon

Maybe because they know won't be inundated with cock shots

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When did being guilty stop a person getting a letter.

Why are tv shows/films/books about crime so popular. People are interested. "

99% of the time it’s women who are watching these programmes, reading the books and avidly listening to the podcasts. Am I wrong

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Because they are caring individuals who recognise the plight of those who have fallen foul of societies laws - they believe in humane treatment and wish to contribute to rehabilitation.

Playing devils avocado, aren’t there needy people in local communities that deserve help? Perhaps lonely pensioners spending Xmas day alone. What prioritise prisoners …

Playing Devils advocate, how do you know they don't?

Winston

I don’t think they do. I have known one woman write and one who wanted to write to serial killers

From my limited knowledge it’s out of fascination and fantasy not charity."

In my 'limited' experience, when i've seen documentaries of women writing to men in prison i've always thought them to be a 'bit odd' ..... except the ones who do it for writing content and the ones that are part of 'befriending' type services.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do some women become pen friends with those in prison or death row in the states ?

Surely it’s clear they’re guilty AF.

How does it make it clear when the system itself is partly corrupted. Amount of folk whom have been on death row and after been executed were found to be innocent and later charged the correct felon

Maybe because they know won't be inundated with cock shots "

So either you genuinely believe it’s because they won’t be sent D pics or you just don’t know. I think the later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When did being guilty stop a person getting a letter.

Why are tv shows/films/books about crime so popular. People are interested.

99% of the time it’s women who are watching these programmes, reading the books and avidly listening to the podcasts. Am I wrong

Yes

It was my ex with the fascination and he was male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure theres something about controlled vulnerability. People with trauma in their past are drawn to replicating the cycle/trauma response due to low esteem & doing it in a structured/ restricted/ limited method is more safe than meeting new people in public. Similar to people being drawn to new abusers after leaving past abusers. I'd guess more women are into crime documentaries as a result of living with the perceived threats women receive on a frequent basis. How to understand the threat is how to prevent/ avoid being at harm. Also, like why some people who drive, enjoy dash can videos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*All my guesses/ opinion only, BTW.

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Because they are caring individuals who recognise the plight of those who have fallen foul of societies laws - they believe in humane treatment and wish to contribute to rehabilitation.

Playing devils avocado, aren’t there needy people in local communities that deserve help? Perhaps lonely pensioners spending Xmas day alone. What prioritise prisoners …

Playing Devils advocate, how do you know they don't?

Winston

I don’t think they do. I have known one woman write and one who wanted to write to serial killers

From my limited knowledge it’s out of fascination and fantasy not charity."

That's not the answer to the question I asked.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Any man interested in serial killer material is a creepy AF . I can respect that a lady might want to try and workout if her partner is a creepy AF serial killer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many people generally do it, men and women.

I guess it's for morbid curiosity. Maybe they think they're innocent. Maybe they want tips. Maybe they want to change them.

Either or.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"Any man interested in serial killer material is a creepy AF . I can respect that a lady might want to try and workout if her partner is a creepy AF serial killer"

...you turned on Netflix recently, man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any man interested in serial killer material is a creepy AF . I can respect that a lady might want to try and workout if her partner is a creepy AF serial killer"

Men can't be interested in psychology too?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I was tempted many years ago obviously a woman who was in USA in the prison and nope her name wasn't Frank

used to be a list in smash hits magazine

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

At least they won’t have to wait for him to get home whilst he has ‘one’ last pint

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Any man interested in serial killer material is a creepy AF . I can respect that a lady might want to try and workout if her partner is a creepy AF serial killer

Men can't be interested in psychology too? "

Only if they're creepy AF. Apparently.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any man interested in serial killer material is a creepy AF . I can respect that a lady might want to try and workout if her partner is a creepy AF serial killer

Men can't be interested in psychology too? "

I did psychology at A level and loved it because it was full of hotties to be fair

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By *pstanding CitizenMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Because they're weird, lonely and / or psychopathic haha

Thats was a joke by the way

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

A colleague of mine does this from time to time. She’s married with a family. Her motivation is that she thinks her ‘normality’ will be a good influence on them.

Willing to bet she doesn’t invite them to stay when they’re released though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Any man interested in serial killer material is a creepy AF . I can respect that a lady might want to try and workout if her partner is a creepy AF serial killer

Men can't be interested in psychology too?

I did psychology at A level and loved it because it was full of hotties to be fair "

I salute you Sir

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"A colleague of mine does this from time to time. She’s married with a family. Her motivation is that she thinks her ‘normality’ will be a good influence on them.

Willing to bet she doesn’t invite them to stay when they’re released though

My ex's DiL gets hair trimmings in her reply letters.

By the looks, not off their head.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Any man interested in serial killer material is a creepy AF . I can respect that a lady might want to try and workout if her partner is a creepy AF serial killer

...you turned on Netflix recently, man?

Playing devils avocado

I’m interested to know what pleasure you get from females being murdered . ?

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

As John waters once said:

"If you forget about their one bad night, it's fine"

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"A colleague of mine does this from time to time. She’s married with a family. Her motivation is that she thinks her ‘normality’ will be a good influence on them.

Willing to bet she doesn’t invite them to stay when they’re released though

My ex's DiL gets hair trimmings in her reply letters.

By the looks, not off their head.

Winston "

Oooo how thoughtful

I bet she’ll feel like she’s missed out if I ask her !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A colleague of mine does this from time to time. She’s married with a family. Her motivation is that she thinks her ‘normality’ will be a good influence on them.

Willing to bet she doesn’t invite them to stay when they’re released though

#forthegangbang

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"A colleague of mine does this from time to time. She’s married with a family. Her motivation is that she thinks her ‘normality’ will be a good influence on them.

Willing to bet she doesn’t invite them to stay when they’re released though

My ex's DiL gets hair trimmings in her reply letters.

By the looks, not off their head.

Winston

Oooo how thoughtful

I bet she’ll feel like she’s missed out if I ask her !! "

FOMO.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same reason they message men on here. Fish in a barrel.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"Any man interested in serial killer material is a creepy AF . I can respect that a lady might want to try and workout if her partner is a creepy AF serial killer

...you turned on Netflix recently, man?

Playing devils avocado

I’m interested to know what pleasure you get from females being murdered . ? "

What a delightfully subjective hidden blade of a question; you're alright you are

That's a helluva leap though, sir. I didn't even say I watched them, but their popularity (gender non-specific, for victim or accused) is undisputed.

Because people love narrative. Stories define us, as much as creation/destruction. People will always gravitate to a narrative they don't understand.

Curiosity, research, bad decision, whichever of the many reasons: we bloody love a strange narrative.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"Anyway O.P. you didn't give enough information

Are these men the boyfriends , fathers, sons of these women prior to incarceration or are they complete strangers?

Are the letters purely platonic or of a hobby interest or do they get racey....

Shit question you asked.

You don’t have to be on this thread. You’ve chosen to be antagonistic for some reason. Perhaps find another thread to your liking."

They are reasonable points though

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I used to write to two guys in prison. One I knew and one was the friend of a friend. Neither was in for anything to serious. It was just a pen pal set up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was talking to a very wise fabber recently about detachment, and how prison guards are able to detach from the fact the detainees have committed these crimes, and most see them as defined by those crimes - they are able to see them as people, like the rest of us. It doesn’t mean those crimes are insignificant to those guards. And I think for a lot of people who choose to write to/visit people who’ve committed unforgivable crimes, they see them in that same way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was talking to a very wise fabber recently about detachment, and how prison guards are able to detach from the fact the detainees have committed these crimes, and most see them as defined by those crimes - they are able to see them as people, like the rest of us. It doesn’t mean those crimes are insignificant to those guards. And I think for a lot of people who choose to write to/visit people who’ve committed unforgivable crimes, they see them in that same way."

I do understand what you are saying. As a human being what you say is fair and compassionate.

However, there are criminals, murderers , some of the most heinous crimes ever committed. I’ve watched crime shows where the serial killers are some of the most charming, charismatic people one would ever meet. And will swear blind they are innocent.

Should prison guards be empathetic to their prisoners! absolutely. They should be kept jailed and treated fairly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly advice on their specialised subject.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I used to write to two guys in prison. One I knew and one was the friend of a friend. Neither was in for anything to serious. It was just a pen pal set up"

Thank you for sharing.

Can I ask if you met the guys once they were released ? Did you continue to have a correspondence or contact with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anyway O.P. you didn't give enough information

Are these men the boyfriends , fathers, sons of these women prior to incarceration or are they complete strangers?

Are the letters purely platonic or of a hobby interest or do they get racey....

Shit question you asked.

You don’t have to be on this thread. You’ve chosen to be antagonistic for some reason. Perhaps find another thread to your liking.

They are reasonable points though "

For you Sophieslut, I must below my thoughts when I created the question:

Essentially why do British women pen-pal American prisoners on death row.

They are complete strangers

Letters exchanged sexual and platonic but not for purpose of research.

And it wasn’t a shit question. Plenty of people were able to ask a reply to my initial question.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I used to write to two guys in prison. One I knew and one was the friend of a friend. Neither was in for anything to serious. It was just a pen pal set up

Thank you for sharing.

Can I ask if you met the guys once they were released ? Did you continue to have a correspondence or contact with them. "
The one I knew o carried on seeing him on a platonic way . The other used to send me vo s to go and see him but he went back to Ireland when he came out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do understand what you are saying. As a human being what you say is fair and compassionate.

Should prison guards be empathetic to their prisoners! absolutely. They should be kept jailed and treated fairly.

Of course. But you didn’t address my point that there are people/pen friends capable of that same level of detachment, who communicate with the people you speak of. Peter Sutcliffe being one. His crimes were abhorrent, but he had many intelligent articulate pen friends. They made life while he was incarcerated better for him AND the prison at large.

Any type of human connection prevents pervasive feelings of hopelessness, stops inmates conducting various types of disruptive behaviour. And just because *you* don’t understand it (the people befriending, not the criminals themselves)…does it deserve condemnation?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do understand what you are saying. As a human being what you say is fair and compassionate.

Should prison guards be empathetic to their prisoners! absolutely. They should be kept jailed and treated fairly.

I created this thread to understand the motives of the females writing to people like Sutcliffe. You have been respectful and articulate making your points that has helped me understand your perspective.

I want to state: Sutcliffe should be treated humanly and fairly. His mental health and well being should be respected and protected.

I didn’t at anytime state his privileges of communication be withheld. If I did please tell me where?

I didn’t at anytime state females or anyone should’ve banned from writing to people like Sutcliffe. If I did please tell me where.

For those who aren’t aware of Sutcliffe’s crimes

Sutcliffe was convicted of murdering 13 women and attempting to murder seven others between 1975 and 1980. He was sentenced to 20 concurrent sentences of life imprisonment, which were converted to a whole life order in 2010

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Convicted serial killers should not be treated humanly and fairly! Their mental health is entirely irrelevant. Utterly vile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Convicted serial killers should not be treated humanly and fairly! Their mental health is entirely irrelevant. Utterly vile."

Should people be allowed to write them ?

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By *enfleetMaleMan
over a year ago

Hadleigh

Because writing a letter is still sexier than a text. What woman doesn't like reading letters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Convicted serial killers should not be treated humanly and fairly! Their mental health is entirely irrelevant. Utterly vile.

Should people be allowed to write them ? "

I wouldn't allow it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t at anytime state his privileges of communication be withheld. If I did please tell me where?

I didn’t at anytime state females or anyone should’ve banned from writing to people like Sutcliffe. If I did please tell me where."

We’re talking about why women communicate with detainees(and I’ve converted it to people, because there are many men who choose to communicate with detainees also). I suggested that some can detach and see detainees as humans, despite their crimes. There are benefits to the prison/secure facility at large, outside each individual relationship. I didn’t mention privileges being withheld or banned - that’s not a point I’ve made.

I did counter by asking if people who engage in these forms of communication should be condemned, and by this I mean condemned by people writing on threads on fabs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Convicted serial killers should not be treated humanly and fairly! Their mental health is entirely irrelevant. Utterly vile.

Should people be allowed to write them ?

I wouldn't allow it."

I don’t ever won’t to defend a heinous multiple murderer. The reason the UK Government removed the death sentence was because of the number of innocent people sentenced and once a life is taken it can’t ever be reversed.

We need to defend the basic rights of everyone. Once we begin to choose who has access to human rights and who doesn’t, we start to dissolve our humanity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I didn’t at anytime state his privileges of communication be withheld. If I did please tell me where?

I didn’t at anytime state females or anyone should’ve banned from writing to people like Sutcliffe. If I did please tell me where.

I did counter by asking if people who engage in these forms of communication should be condemned, and by this I mean condemned by people writing on threads on fabs."

Nobody has condemned anyone. Nobody had said anyone that writes to these criminals are bad people.

Where did you read on this thread any condemnation ?

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over a year ago

"Nobody has condemned anyone. Nobody had said anyone that writes to these criminals are bad people.

Where did you read on this thread any condemnation ? "

It’s a question I’m asking.

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over a year ago

There's such a thing as friends.

Some women (and men) want to make friends and maybe want to help someone in prison, bring some light into their life by having a friend there.

Not all inmates are guilty either. The UK justice system gets it wrong sometimes - the American justice system gets it wrong alot.

(And no I don't write to prisoners) I just don't see why they can't have penpals and enjoy conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps.. People who write fan mail to serial killers - that's just wrong.

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over a year ago

"Nobody has condemned anyone. Nobody had said anyone that writes to these criminals are bad people.

Where did you read on this thread any condemnation ?

It’s a question I’m asking."

I now understand. And just to make clear I don’t condemned the people writing to this heinous people. I don’t think these killers can change. And prison remains the only place for them.

My opinion I think there is something weird about the people that write to heinous prisoners for platonic / sexual reasons.

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

I don’t totally understand it myself but I’m sure part of it is that they know these men won’t be out anytime soon so it’s a safe way to toy with danger, so to speak. I’m sure if they were told they were suddenly getting out, they would be scared! Or maybe these women genuinely think they have the power to change these men.

C x

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over a year ago

"I don’t totally understand it myself but I’m sure part of it is that they know these men won’t be out anytime soon so it’s a safe way to toy with danger, so to speak. I’m sure if they were told they were suddenly getting out, they would be scared! Or maybe these women genuinely think they have the power to change these men.

C x"

There have been cases where women marry these guys . That guy Charles Brosnan married one of his fans sone years ago.

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over a year ago

Psycopaths and sociopaths are hugely gifted at eliciting sympathy and presenting a fake human face to hide their monstrosity. Ted Bundy is a famous example of someone who fooled many intelligent people (and it was particularly women;he was quite handsome) of his humanity and innocence right to the end.

I suspect people who write to serial killers have honest motives but are largely quite gullible and naive.

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over a year ago

"Psycopaths and sociopaths are hugely gifted at eliciting sympathy and presenting a fake human face to hide their monstrosity. Ted Bundy is a famous example of someone who fooled many intelligent people (and it was particularly women;he was quite handsome) of his humanity and innocence right to the end.

I suspect people who write to serial killers have honest motives but are largely quite gullible and naive."

I concur with your points and have heard similar about Bundy. Some of the females do seem to campaign for the release of these prisoners. That’s clearly understandable when they are emotionally involved with these heinous prisoners.

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over a year ago

"Nobody has condemned anyone. Nobody had said anyone that writes to these criminals are bad people.

Where did you read on this thread any condemnation ?

It’s a question I’m asking.

I now understand. And just to make clear I don’t condemned the people writing to this heinous people. I don’t think these killers can change. And prison remains the only place for them.

**My opinion I think there is something weird about the people that write to heinous prisoners for platonic / sexual reasons.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Boredom, a need for control, loneliness, a desire to have family members bumped off, I'm sure there are as many reasons as there are prisoner pen-pals.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Why do some women become pen friends with those in prison or death row in the states ?

Surely it’s clear they’re guilty AF. "
its the feel sorry for them but also they are incarcerated so a safe bet, maybe their only chance for love, or the bad boy syndrome

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By *ri382Man
over a year ago

cork

I reckon it's the idea there all cuffed n bound!

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

"Why do some women become pen friends with those in prison or death row in the states ?

Surely it’s clear they’re guilty AF. "
are they ? the reported cases of miscarriages of justice of death row inmates is worryingly high especially among bame inmates .

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over a year ago

"Why do some women become pen friends with those in prison or death row in the states ?

Surely it’s clear they’re guilty AF. are they ? the reported cases of miscarriages of justice of death row inmates is worryingly high especially among bame inmates ."

So only the innocent ones are being written to ?

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Think Google would have been the best option for rhiz question or are you planning a stay with his majesty..

Just getting the low down..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think Google would have been the best option for rhiz question or are you planning a stay with his majesty..

Just getting the low down..

Google says no

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over a year ago

I suspect people who write to serial killers have honest motives but are largely quite gullible and naive.

there must be a hell of a lot of trust on the female side if openly giving out mailing address

I expect none are as foolish to give out a mailing address

perhaps a private mailing box number.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

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Who cares

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who cares"

Why comment? If you care so little.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Who cares

Why comment? If you care so little."

I second that. People should find another thread to their liking.

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